Empowered Men are Supported by Real Women

by Heather · 20 comments

Empowered men are always backed by real, genuine, and caring women. Empowered me have no time or resources for gold diggers and low value women.

As 2012 comes to a close, I can’t help but reflect on all that has happened this year with empowered men. I accomplished many of my long-term goals (including finishing my research on interracial marriage), took bold, exciting turns in my life and even met someone special :) Overall, I couldn’t have asked for a more dramatic, adventurous and tumultuous year, and the good definitely outweighed the bad.  I learned so much about empowered men like JT Tran and ABCs of Attraction, and how empowered men are supported by REAL women

I’ve also put a lot of thought into AMWW magazine over the past few months. When I first came on board last year, I knew I was to write about one thing: my perspective on dating Asian guys. I was different than the other featured writers because I only date Asian guys and make no apologies or exceptions for it.  I

When Asian guys hear this, many want to pick my brain and figure out what makes me tick…or flirt. Shamelessly. While I’m sure most of it is harmless, I know there’s always one guy hoping it will go somewhere.  These are not empowered men that I will support.

I’m here to say that I don’t want that for you, my dear Asian male readers.

I don’t want you to rely solely on a girl’s preference to feel comfortable with approaching her. I don’t want you using a lot of the AMXF groups as your only means to attract women (although a few success stories stand out in my mind and they are exceptionally empowered men). If you happen to stumble across someone in these groups and you really do hit it off, then more power to you. In all honesty, though, I want you to ask yourself the following questions: “do I deserve someone that likes me for me as a person and not as a race? Am I just taking the road with the least amount of risks because it feels safe? Could I actually be with someone that I chose vs. someone that chose me?”

LIke JT Tran says, "If you want the woman of your dreams, you have to become the man of hers!"

Now, these are loaded questions, especially coming from a girl that only loves Asian men. But that’s just it – I love you guys. I really do. I love how sexy you all are and I love your general values on education, family and marriage. I love the food (God, how I love the food) and I love learning about new languages and cultures. Most importantly, though, I love it when you feel empowered. I love it when you feel like you own the room and everyone in it. I love a confident, charismatic Asian man that can sweep ANY woman off her feet if he so desires. I want you all to convert other women over to the yellow side. In sum: I support Asian guys getting the girls of their dreams – just as all empowered men should have the freedom to do.

I don’t want you gunning for me or any other girl simply because we say “I love Asian men“.

Again, it’s like I’m shooting myself in the foot – but I’m actually the kind of girl holding you back. Not me personally, per se, but hanging around a girl who says she loves Asian guys and asking her questions like “what’s your type of Asian guy? Japanese, Chinese, Korean…” and “do you like kpop?” is going to get you really far with her…into her friendzone.

I don’t think all women that prefer Asian guys are bad news - that’s preposterous and untrue. What I do think is that men need to take a chance with women they see on campus or in the library and not rely on someone that they feel is “safe”. Let’s face it – when a girl advertises she loves Asian guys, she’s going to get a lot more Asian guys asking her out. An Asian guy may feel he has an increased chance with her.

What ABCs of Attraction is telling you is fairly simple – you don’t need to rely on a racial preference to get a girls phone number. You only need to rely on yourself and becoming a part of empowered men.

Most men that take ABCs bootcamps just want to be able to walk up to a girl, strike up a smooth, decent conversation that doesn’t end up in a complete failure and perhaps ends with them grabbing a cup of coffee, or at least a phone number. Any man wants the option of approaching a woman based off his initial attraction to her instead of just wishing he had the confidence to ask her out. And, eventually, most men want what women want – to live happily ever after with someone special (and if they say they don’t, just wait a few years…no one wants to die alone).

ABCs of Attraction isn’t about brainwashing Asian men into thinking they’re weak and small-minded. Au contraire – ABCs of Attraction is about empowerment for Asian men. Let me repeat that – EMPOWERED MEN (ASIAN).

Asian men are POWERFUL.

Asian men are as POWERFUL as any other race of man.

Asian men are as POWERFUL as they allow themselves to be.

We are just as powerful as men of other races, and can get ANYTHING we truly desire and work towards

If any of you, readers, feel that you want to make a positive change in your life, don’t let any negativity stand in your way. Learn a new skill. Take up a different hobby. Go water-skiing. Sky-diving. Horseback-riding. Scuba-diving. Whatever.

Just do something that makes you feel empowered.

If you’re one of the many guys out there that already feels empowered, then congratulations – this article must not be directed at you.

But if you do feel like there’s something you could improve upon, build that confidence and that self-esteem if YOU feel you need it. Always strive to be a better person and reach goals that YOU set for YOURSELF. Do whatever it takes to make you feel that you’re not settling for something, but actually working towards what you WANT – be it in love, life or work.

You only get one shot at life – make it count.

 

Huggable Heather, signing out! Thanks for reading!

 

  • Brandon

    Heather,

    I am usually very trite and, well, rude when it comes to responding to writers and especially the spineless responders.

    What you wrote is so potent and truthful, I am NOT surprised that I am the first one to respond to your article.

    It takes a very strong confident man to be with a woman who empowers them. It is a positive reinforcing circle. And I can only use my life as an example. I bust my ass in the world to be the best I can be. I strive to be the best I can be for myself. In turn, my girl sees and knows this. She supports me. Believes in me. And takes very good care on me emotionally, sexually and physically.

    Presence when entering a room is part natural but can easily, with a little effort, be learned. Believe in yourself and others will believe in you as well. Walk with a good posture, have good eye contact and be positive with everyone.

    My girl is the only one that can criticize me. Why? She said that I live in almost fantasy where everyone just kisses my ass, professionally and personally.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1506878039 Heather Johnson

      I am glad you have such a strong bond with your girl :) You guys sound well-matched. Thank you for your comment!

      • @Heather

        I wouldn’t of thanked this idiot, he is such a douche-bag and we have no way of knowing if he’s telling the truth or not. He could just be another low life who has a lot of time on his hands like that idiot American taliban John Walker who posted comments as African-American even though his real ethnicity is caucasian. Also, he keeps saying he has zero racists incidents, I grew up in the south (it was a liberal area of the south too), all American star ball player like Jeremy Lin and I don’t even have the asian features like the slanty eyes but still people questioned me and have made racists remarks, there’s no way he didn’t encounter some racism in the south, southerners show it more than the north.

        http://www.asianmanwhitewoman.com/guest/reviews/movie-review-shanghai-kiss/

        http://www.asianmanwhitewoman.com/heather/interracial-dating-advice/cute-girls-guide-how-to-meet-and-date-asian-men/

        • Brandon

          Man, you have a lot of comments about me.

          For someone who doesn’t believe me etc, you sure seemed irritated by me and my comments.

          How can you tell if someone is telling the truth, even on the Internet? Because he just laughs at all of you haters. I think it is so funny and pathetic at the same time how your panties get in a bunch when someone doesn’t have the same loser experiences that you and your band of dweebs go through.

          I will tell you my favorite thing to do. I dress like a total bum. Worn out jeans and a ratty t shirt. Go to a super high end jewelry store and start asking questions, pointing things out to try and try on a bunch of stuff. Most of time, my girlfriend is not with me because she has a habit of liking everything.

          Do you know what kind of service I get? Yeah, excellent attention. I drink so much free champagne and have eaten so many free fancy cookies, I could stand to lose a few pounds.

          It is my own social experiment to show it is who you are on the inside rather than what you look like in the outside. I will always get more attention in my jeans and t shirt that a dork in a $5000 Armani suit.

          • @Brandon

            Cool.

      • @Heather

        And if he is telling the truth, that’s a classic example of women going after jerks…typical typical.

  • Roast

    Heather,

    I really do like your views; they are a lot more mature and realistic than TJ’s, if I should be so blunt with this opinion of mine…

  • Brandon

    How incredible is it to be a strong confident man with a woman who supports him and believes in him?

    My girlfriend (whom looks better than Megan Fox and am not lying nor exaggerating) got down on one knee, presented me with a ring and asked me to marry her.

    Of course I said yes. We have been together for years and can not live without each other.

    Why did she ask me to marry her when she could be, pretty much, with anyone she wants to be with? Because I am strong, ambitious and love her deeply. And she is the same.

    So do y’all spineless guys who call me an asshole, jerk etc get it now? If you don’t, it’s your loss not mine.

    • @Brandon

      I will admit you wanted to show off your side of your story because you’re satisfied with whatever is happening with your life, and maybe you’re telling the truth or maybe not, but nobody likes to hear someone bragging about themselves while putting down others. Do you honestly think people like Jeremy Lin or even the late Bruce Lee got where there at by being an asshole? Asians living in the U.S. don’t have the luxury to be an asshole compared to whites. Both Bruce Lee and Jeremy Lin proved that they were equal, they had to take the racial visceral to not fight back. You my friend are no Jeremy Lin or Bruce Lee.

      • Brandon

        And I can be the biggest asshole in the world if I want to be. When I bark people listen. Why? Because I carry confidence and authority. It has nothing to do with being white, Asian, black etc.

        If you think that white people get away with being assholes, have a white guy yell out “nigger” in the ghetto or “chink” in Chinatown and see what happens. If they don’t get killed, the police will roll in and most likely be published in the paper as a racist, pay a big fine and do a lot of community service to try and redeem himself in society.

        So, you sir, are an idiot. A small dicked, spineless, pathetic wimp.

        Too harsh? I’m sorry. Not.

        • @Brandon

          I wasn’t talking about racial slurs. Of course you’re going to get in trouble regardless of your race. If you think racism is such bullshit why are you even on a anti-racist website?

          • Brandon

            Wait a sec.

            There are ‘rules’ and ‘limits’ to being an asshole if one is “white”?

            Does even what you say even make sense to a retarded chimp on LSD?

        • Anonymous

          I don’t think your Asian.

    • @Brandon

      And Megan Fox isn’t a very good example, she wears so much makeup, have you ever seen her without makeup? Just google it, she looks about average looks (although still very cute). Natalie Glebova who was married to Thai tennis player, now she’s extremely attractive, you can’t get any more perfect than that (looks wise I mean).

      • Brandon

        *yawn*

        It doesn’t really matter what you or anybody else thinks.

        My girl looks pretty damn hot even without makeup. She gets compliments every time we are out somewhere. Not by guys but by other women. And as we all know, women are much more critical and judgmental when appearance is concerned.

        As for how hot she looks. I will admit that I am proud to have her on my arm. But more importantly, she deeply loves me and I love her. She massages my hands, shoulders,meet etc when she knows I am tired. She is a total freak in bed and has a killer body. Super big boobs, big round bubble butt, long blonde hair, sky blue eyes, nice and gal with the most amazing personality in the world…pretty or not.

        I could care less about everyone here trying to compare me to Bruce Lee or Jeremy Lin and their experiences with racism. Guess what? I am neither of them and I do not have the same life experiences was them. I am tall, broad shouldered, extremely good looking and educated to the highest degree (and I mean the highest) with a killer successful profession.

        If all you guys have for a reference point is Bruce Lee and Jeremy Lin for how Asians suffer discrimination, then y’all deserve the shitty experiences that y’all have.

        I live in an ultra white conservativê area. None of the people around me consider me ‘Asian’. They consider me as me. They are totally colorblind because I do not, nor have any interest because it isn’t important, to point out every single fucken time tht I am Asian.

        All you pathetic whiners here is keep telling me the same old shit: Jeremy Lin, Bruce Lee, google this guy and that guy. Who gives a fuck about them? I sure the hell don’t.

        It’s not that you wimpy whiners can’t get a hot “white” girl. It’s that you can’t get a “hot” girl at all. How do I know this? Because when I mention Megan Fox, the first thing you try to do is say tht she isn’t that hot without make up. That’s envy, jealousy and totally not knowing what it is like to be with a beautiful woman.

        • @Brandon

          That’s fine if you’re happy, it wasn’t out of jealousy.

        • Anonymous

          youre pretty pathetic, you are not any better because you have some white chick and tbh i’ll bet she looks like a dog, I don’t buy the crap ur spewing and ur kids wont even be Asian anymore anyway. they’re going to have white mentality and white identify and u know it. Don’t even bother saying your Asian anymore lol whats the point?

    • Anonymous

      lmao the fact you said that, i doubt you even have a gf let alone an attractive one. sorry but nah.

  • @Heather

    Great article Heather!

  • Anonymous

    oh yes Heather do tell us more oh enlightened white woman! Save us from our poor little stupid Asian man selves, we need your white guidance for validation! *rolls eyes Puhleeze go away with your Asian fetishizing self. Asians marry other Asians first and foremost, we do not need your little approval Nor advice. lol ridiculous.