“Once You Go Asian, You Can’t Go Caucasian!” (or why White Girls think Asian Boys are Better!)

by Heather · 349 comments

Heather: "Asian Boys are Better!"

Heather: "Asian Boys are Better!"

Hello world, it’s me again, the huggable Heather!

I’m the white girl that dates only Asian guys with absolutely no apology… and, depending on who you are, I know what you’re thinking when I say that. Non-Asian guys usually take a step back, take a good look at me, and, with the little wheels in their heads slowly chugging away, they find the only feasible sentence worth saying is, simply:

“Oh…so you like small dick?”

To which I cheerfully reply, “Nope. I find that rumor to be largely unfounded. I just hate ugly faces.”

Watching them walk away with those faces contorted with puzzlement is so amusing, but that’s only if they leave at that moment. Sadly, there are those that press on.

“Well…what do Asian guys have that make them so special? Why don’t you date White guys? Have you considered Black guys? How can you know what you like if you’ve never dated different races? You’re too young to say what you do and don’t like…” etc.

They’re either completely confused and/or jealous as to why an attractive white woman like myself (if I might be conceited enough to say) likes only Asian men.

It’s frustrating to feel constantly challenged on something that shouldn’t matter to anyone but me. People aren’t going to ask me why I date men, so why should they ask me why I date Asian Men? The answer is the same to both questions: because that’s what I’m attracted to.

It’s just that easy.

On the other hand, when Asian men hear about my preference, one of two things happens. The first reaction is complete disgust. I get reprimanded for some purely sexual fetish and how I’m a White Female so I’m supposed to like White guys too, and how can I dislike my White counterpart? According to these Asian Males, I should just get over my daddy issues and stop being self-racist.

This one just gets me angry.

For one, I’m something of a daddy’s girl, even though I don’t rely on him like a typical daddy’s girl would. I mean, he’s not wrapped around my finger and I don’t have my every whim catered to by him, but I know he would do whatever he could for me. We’ve had our differences, like any parent and child will, but I love him and he loves me. Cross daddy issues off the list.

Self-racist?

That’s someone that hates their own race and might possibly swap out for another one, right? Actually, I’ve had no problems being White…quite the contrary, admittedly. I understand my White privilege very well and, even though I see how unfair it is, I can’t say I don’t enjoy it. Coincidentally, I know a lot of Asian guys also like non-Asian girls – specifically, White girls. It’s a total win-win situation for me.

What’s not to like?

There’s no arguing with this type, though. They’ve received a false impression of me that won’t be altered, so it’s best just to move on.

So…the second, and most common, reaction is False Hope.

Once this type of Asian guy hears that this white girl only dates Asian men, he’s all over me. He figures that, since he’s Asian, he’s in. I call it false hope because, unfortunately for him, that’s not all it takes. Believe it or not, I have standards other than merely being Asian.

Looking back on the things I’ve liked about guys I’ve dated, I’ve come to a few conclusions about my type.

  • I want to be physically attracted to him (EX: good fashion sense, nice hair, and physically fit)
  • Have a career (can’t be a scrub!)
  • Beat me to the punch-line and be able to make me laugh (good at bantering and having fun)
  • Hold a conversation with me that he’s able to carry out without too much prodding on my end

I also like him to NOT try be more Asian or American than he actually is.

If he’s born and bred Texas, I don’t need him to pretend to be less American. While it’s a turn-on when a guy can speak the language of his ancestry, it’s a turn-off when a guy can’t speak it but pretends he can to impress me.

On the other hand, if he’s raised in Taiwan, I don’t want him to deny that heritage either. If he can incorporate that into the conversation without trying too hard, it intrigues me and I want to learn more about him.

Bottom line?

The guy should be himself – his charming, witty, confident, Asian/Asian-American self.

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  • Puffysheep

    Wow, good to know your preferences and I like how you eloquently put your thoughts. Your writing style is really good too but this makes me wonder if you truly meant every word you have said or you are just superficially saying these to attract viewers to your site. I like to believe you are being honest and if so, kudos to you for bravely expressing your feelings. Since I am an Asian American, Korean American to be exact, it’s always nice knowing there are some attractive white girls like yourself who finds Asian guys to be hot. ;) Keep up the good work and I will certainly be coming back for more interesting thoughts from you!

  • Appalled.

    “better.” interesting choice of words.

    The title of this post is disgusting and excluding. And I am neither male, nor white. As a female who is attracted to Asian men, you have completely fetishized them and even have the gall to praise Asian who have fetishized white women with their preference! This site is laughable at it’s VERY best!

  • Aniiko

    I am so tired of this “fetish” bs… can i state that again.. SO TIRED. Here is the irony for my self, If I see some features that are on Asian men mostly on a non Asian man, i find it attractive too… There is something about the general facial features of Asian men that cause me to want to gobble them up like candy. Why does it have to be a fetish for any ethnicity to want to date any other ethnicity?? There are things in every ethnicity I like, and being mixed I have the lucky opportunity to cross a lot of boundaries. However, I have had that lame ass “dick” comment come up so many times. I though i would share it with you …My response
    “you go ahead and worry about “size” I will focus on compatibility and maturity” I later shrug and state “besides, if that is the only way you know how to please your partner… you are not man enough for me.. there are other things that should be used!” I am not saying that oral is what i am talking about, but i find a great kiss the be the hottest thing EVER!!!…..

    False hope is soo true! OMg… there is this stereo type of … once again a “fetish” that some Asian men seem to think we will jump in the sack with them… so lets rephrase this Heather.. lets say we are attracted to “good Asian men”. LOL!! You know the ones that respect women in general, have respect for their heritage/environment and do not try to behave like someone they are not or from an environment they are not from. I say this because i have seen many O Asian Thugs, and thats fine, if you are a thug you are a thug… but I don’t like thugs, so don’t have a false hope that because i look one thing (complexion only) that i must be attracted to that. You have now racially profiled me… which means you are the one with a “fetish”.

    Last point i want to make, is.. Heather, We are not Gold Diggas but we don’t mess with Broke… Ninjas!! Look seriously, We are women with aspirations, goals and will carry our own weight. Maybe one day have a family? I have had enough time to know where i want to go in life (knew it since the age of 10) but to date a guy with no goals, motivation, or job oriented… If you work at Starbucks, then please aspire to own your own…. If you have a goal and its not a get rich quick sceem, that is the sexiest thing ever!!

  • A definition for you.

    Racism – the belief that the genetic factors which constitute race are a primary determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race.

    You thinking Asian men have superior aesthetics, or thinking that Asian men have better features than men of other races is RACIST by the dictionary definition to a T.

  • Heather

    If it’s not for you, then it’s not for you. I apologize if you have misconstrued my article for something more than what it really is – a preference. I know plenty of men who prefer hot blondes and plenty of women that prefer tall, muscular men. Just because my preference is a race it becomes bad?

    I find that this is a misunderstanding. I do not see Asian guy and think “that guy is hot.” I see a hot guy and think “oh, that guy is Asian.” It is incredibly rare for me to think of a White man as attractive, and if I do, I realize he looks too much like one of my cousins and then become disgusted.

    Again, though, if it’s not for you, it’s not for you. Your opinions are just as valid as mine. I’m not denying that it can be seen as racist. I just don’t see it as negative. For every girl like me there’s a multitude that won’t date Asians. At the end of the day, does my preference really matter to you? It shouldn’t – just as yours doesn’t matter to me. As long as the both of us are happy with who we are, that’s all that truly matters.

    You have a nice day, and thank you for your comments.

  • Heather

    And…please correct me if I’m wrong…actually, please show me where I said this…where did I praise Asian men for having ” fetishized white women with their preference?” That is actually quite the opposite of my intentions…I have been on the pedestal, so to speak, where I was somewhat worshiped for being White and…it’s very uncomfortable. I do not date Asian men that refuse to be with non-White women for this reason – I am not a trophy, and I am not to be worshiped.

    I would like to see where I said this and dispel any misunderstandings on this matter, because that is the exact opposite of how I truly feel.

    • Grossed Out

      I think responders are getting it from this:

      “I understand my White privilege very well and, even though I see how
      unfair it is, I can’t say I don’t enjoy it. Coincidentally, I know a lot
      of Asian guys also like non-Asian girls – specifically, White girls.
      It’s a total win-win situation for me.”

  • http://www.youtube.com/user/icysparks2007?feature=mhsn Icysparks2007

    I like how you make it clear that asian guys are your preference rather than beating around the bush about it. You combat stereotypes in a way that defend both you and the asian guys that you are interested in, which I really admire. What impacts me most after reading this article is that you are not looking for just ANY asian guy – they have to win over your heart like any other man would. It is a subtle invitation that says, “If you want me, you are going to need to earn my love just like everyone else.” I can tell that you mean what you say and have thought things through. Keep doing what you do. I support you 100% :D

  • Ncphotoman

    How things have changed in my lifetime. I am 50 now and when I was growing up in the Deep South, it was not cool to be Asian. I recently went to my 30th high school reunion and wondered if I would have been married to one of the WF that I never got to date because of my race. I did end up marrying a white woman and my children do favor me and yet they do no face the racial barriers that I did. My son is an atheletic stud baseball and football player over 6ft tall and dispells the old theories that Asians cannot be athletes. I am glad that things have changed mainly for his sake. Keep up the good work Heather and marry the right guy that will make you happy!

    • White blossom

      Ncphotoman, I am a white female who is 46 years old. I met a young fellow who I was bessotted with. I was too shy to even talk to him . His Asian good looms left me speechless. I wanted to marry him and have his children… I think we were born at the wrong time..:( I am fiercely attracted to Asian men, but have settled with a white man (2 kids, lovely man, but the attraction just isn’t there!), because it is still too difficult to meet and get to know Asian guys even though they are in abundance in Sydney Australia. Good for you for following your heart and desire.:)

  • http://www.scandalouswomen.com Stephanie Vega

    I think this subject gets a little too heated. As someone who dates and has dated men from many different races, I’m not afraid to admit at first there is a sexual curiosity that motivates. It certainly isn’t the only factor so my answer when someone asks me “why are you going out with that (white, black, asian) guy my reply is “because I find him very interesting and I like having new experiences.” I mean, isn’t that why we date anyone regardless of their nationality?

  • Anonymous

    These are the same lines of “reasoning” we get down south from white guys when we choose to date black guys. But if you really want to hear some hateful talk, listen to some African-American women talk about their men dating white girls. It can get down right mean.

  • aka: DJ

    23 years old Asian guy was here :)
    - Guys know me that I am funny and knowledgeable. Girls don’t know me that I am funny and knowledgeable because they don’t even give it a chance to get to know me. What can I say!!!

    • Heather

      Thanks for reading!

  • Puffysheep

    How come you haven’t written any new articles? I am bored and I need something interesting to read. =P

    • Heather

      I have written a few, just waiting for them to be processed ^__^

  • Mastermind90

    Hi Heather,

    Dropping a line to say hi. Many thanks for support of Asian men. It’s rare to find an attractive Caucasian women who is only into Asian men. Pls continue posting more of such articles. Cheers.

    An avid Asian male reader,
    Peter

    • Heather

      Articles will continue, thanks or reading!

  • Simo

    Why are you only showing One Eye in your profile pic?

    • Heather

      Blame the hair ;)

  • Perry

    Hello Heather,

    Just wanting to say thank you for your support of Asian men. To spread the word about it is something I’m more appreciative of.

    Thank you!

    • Heather

      Just doing what comes naturally. No need to thank :) Thank you for reading!

  • Mikkoli2003

    Heather,
    Keep up the great work. I’m a Korean American and dated mostly white women. I’m glad to see more and more white women who haven’t been brainwashed by white male dominated media in this country who like to portray Asian men in a negative light.
    I’ve noticed white women who are married to East Asian guys tend to be highly educated so it doesn’t suprise me that you are in college.
    Ill look forward to your next article.

    • Heather

      I have an Asian-American friend that has been in the acting business for many years. Throughout the ’80s and ’90s, work was more or less impossible for him to find because the demand for Asian men was simply not there, according to Hollywood.

      I do, to a great extent, blame the media. But, as a Psychology major, I have to say I’m a firm believer in multiple causes. But that’s an article for another day.

      Thanks for your post :)

  • ttk

    I’m so glad that there are women out there that give Asian men a chance. With all the stereotypes/rumors going around in the world, most the time, it is very hard to approach/date “white” woman. This could also be very different depending where you live…

    I am Canadian Vietnamese and I am very grateful I had the opportunity to date a French Canadian for a year. I have learned to be confident about myself and just BE myself around people.

    Anyways……

    Thanks for the great post Heather :)

    • Heather

      Thank you for reading and thanks for the comment! Have a great day! :)

  • Ray

    Hey Heather,

    Good article. Very fair. I was born in Hong Kong, studied in New Zealand and now trying to find work there with a degree in Psychology. I have never had a girlfriend but I find your article inspiriational and encouraging.

    Thanks a lot. Really appreciate you guys’ efforts. You have increased my confidence. However temporary that might be.

    And you’re right. You are pretty attractive.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Jt-Tran/100000148877947 J.t. Tran

      Hey Ray, thanks for writing in. We just responded to your letter.

      • Ray

        Thanks for the prompt reply. Yeah I cant make it to the bootcamp Im a bit tight at the moment. Good on you for helping us out though. Appreciate it. I fully understand the how all the stereotypes are preventing a lot of us from reaching our potentials. I am sure not only asians but a lot of people of different ethnicities would benefit from your teaching.

        I’ll certainly tell others about you guys and your services.

        • Anonymous

          Thanks, Ray! Love hearing feedback!

  • Gourmetprince

    Heather, there is absolutely nothing wrong with preferring Asian men over any other race.

    However.
    Read the following two statements.

    I am extremely attracted to black women because of their sexy features.

    vs.

    Black women are better than white women.

    Guess which statement makes me sound like a sexually confused douchebag?

    Heather, you are a douchebag.

    Fetish : an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression.

    Think on that for a moment. Realize that your tastes are not the issue, your ATTITUDE is.

    • Heather

      A female douchebag…not many of us out there, in my humble opinion. I thank you for yours :) Have a nice day!

  • Coopersmile at gmail.com

    Hey Heather,

    I respect your preference because it is your life, and it is you who will deal with the guy of your choice, not other people.

    I am an open source Asian dude and I understand that different girl has different preference. My type of girl is more core than what she wear, such as, being positive, open to views, no naggings, maintain a healthy BMI, be direct on your needs…(don’t make me guess what you want), and allow me time to change to fit your style of liking.

    I like the idea of you wearing that T-shirt. It makes you more approachable by Asian guys who are open to date White Girl like you. You should encourage other White girls who like Asian guys to wear Asian styled word shirt.

    I would definitely approach a girl and ask her why is she wearing that to start a conversation. I wonder will there be any girls wearing that in California. Let’s make a contest for that…lol..

    Cheers

    • Heather

      I won’t lie, I know some Asian men are pretty uncomfortable when I say that’s all I’m attracted to. I can sympathize with that – it does sound pretty weird. And you mention your type of girl with more intangible descriptives, such as open-minded and direct. I’m not saying I don’t like things like that either…who doesn’t love communication in a relationship? I figured a few things went without saying.

      …change to fit your style of liking? You shouldn’t be changing for a girl – she may not last and then you’re back to figuring out who you are again. Be comfortable with yourself!

      That’s exactly what I’m trying to get at – a White girl like ME. All girls…I repeat: ALL GIRLS are different. Even the girls that date Asian guys. And all guys are different – some find the shirt encouraging and others find it downright repulsive. At the end of the day, all that matters is how comfortable I am with my preference first and if my significant other is okay with it second.

      It’s a great ice breaker, I have to admit ;) Let us know if you see any shirts like it…I made this one myself.

  • Sam

    Heather,

    As a recently single Asian man, it’s truely refreshing to see that there are attractive women like yourself who are not blinded by the crappy stereotypes that are portrayed in the media.

    I have always dated white women and are attracted to them, but it seemed so difficult to find them or meet them. I recently gave up online dating because it seemed that women open to dating an Asian man on Match.com and eharmony were close to non existent. At times I just felt like giving up on the dating scene, but your posts and this website give me encouragement to not give up!

    I wish there were more websites like match.com that catered to women interested in dating Asian men or interacial dating in general. If you know any please let me know!

    Keep the great articles coming!

    Sam

    • Heather

      I found this article interesting – a study that was done on another dating site, OKCupid:

      http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-race-affects-whether-people-write-you-back/

      When reading this article, you find that this site holds a population of White women that prefer to date within their race – moreso than any other race of women. Now you can rant and rave all you want about how this is limited to this dating site and hence attracts a certain type of person, but, as a Psychology major myself with research experience, I must point out that basically ALL psychological and social studies are this way. Many studies we have in these respective fields are all done on college students – and that in and of itself is a very narrow population.

      Online dating, for the most part, seems to be stacked against Asian men. There are, however, sites made exclusively for Asian men. Womenforasianmen.com and projectrevelasian.com are ones with which I have personal experience.

      I intend to continue writing, thanks for reading and commenting!

  • Holly

    Hi Heather, you’re just like me. I am a Caucasian girl, attracted to Asian guys (it’s been a little fetish for 2 years now, mainly a fixation, because I am autistic impaired.) Honestly, I love every feature of an Asian man. And I love them very much. Caucasian guys rarely look at me, or even talk to me, and plus a lot of asian guys are more nicer than white guys.
    (I’m not being self- racist either.)
    But, if I said, “I only date asian guys.” People would think of me as a freak. It’s terrible that they already think I am, since I listen to asian music and hang out with a lot of asians as it is.

    But, I am not afraid of being myself and you shouldn’t too.

    -Holly~

    • Anonymous

      Hey Holly,

      I’m just like you ^__^ I find Asian features more attractive and I do listen to some Asian music (although I have a fairly good mix of just about anything).

      Do you actually only date Asian guys? If not, I probably wouldn’t say it ;) I understand your hesitancy for saying it, though, because I do get plenty of attention – positive and negative – for my blatancy. However, it’s also very gratifying. I’m simply being honest with myself…I only am attracted to Asian guys, so why bother wasting my time on what I’m not attracted to? If it offends some, then that’s their problem. Like I always say, offense is taken, never given ;)

      I’m glad you’re not afraid to be yourself. After all, it’s all you can be!

      • Holly

        I’m actually, more diverse with my music and I really love foreign things (I am a proud Xenophile).

        I really haven’t dated anyone…for a long time…if at all… (I’m still in high school, a junior…)
        I had been attracted to this boy, in China…(long distance wasn’t logical, because his culture and mine are different…plus, he spoke no English. NONE…and we conversed via QQ)

        Just lately, I have been attracted to a few white boys, but one was taken(found out today) and the other, he doesn’t date. Personally, I will always be attracted to asian men.
        And I want to teach English in China, when I get done with high school, and go to college.
        (billions of Chinese, who knows, I love Chinese culture, and there might be a man for me there? haha.)

        And I am not afraid to be myself, people are more ignorant of things now days, that’s what I don’t like the most.

        • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_HQFU3DGEV2G2BUCPTGI6AMKT6I Paul

          Nice plan :) Ive known few WW that speaks foreign language fluently and every time it just gives me a JAWdroppng look. hehe.

      • Sdiegopua

        I find it interesting that a white girl would only date an asian guy.  I like white girls, wish there were more white girls like you. 

  • Megan

    I love Asian guys in the way they look but I’m chubby and have no idea how to approach them. :
    I’m thinking I may have to slim down to even be considered by many Asian guys.

    • Anonymous

      I would recommend working out simply for the health reasons…but one of my amazingly good friends isn’t perfectly fit and she can get any Asian guy she wants…she’s up to her eyeballs with them. She’s confident, comfortable with herself, and works other features. In the end, she just comes off as a super cute and a total guy magnet. Do what works for you – but slimming down might make you feel better about yourself and just improve your health overall.

      • Megan

        I do want to work out some. I’m just kind of socially awkward and nerdy but I get adorable and cute. I guess I’ll just keep on being out there and improving myself. Thanks.

  • Mayzeszalay

    This is cool…I’m only 18 and I already know that I am most attracted to a) Asians and b) dark skin. A dark skinned asian (such as cambodian or laotian) is my dream. However, this doesn’t make me limit myself, just a fact that those are what attract me.

    The problem is, the wider the range of skin color, the more people double-take and disapprove. It’s like a double dose of accusations of White self-hatred. It’s because of where I’ve grown up and who my closest friends are, but I don’t feel like explaining this to everyone – it’s quite personal. Either way I can’t help that I just don’t like pale skin and light eyes.

    I’m young and already gone through some identity issues and never admitted to any but my closest friends that I love Asians. I hate the word “fettish” and the “small dicks” assumption. However, I’ve been coming into my own more, and I proudly say to whites and blacks and hispanics that, yes, I like Asian men and I am proud; I am also proud to be White. Saying it to Asians is a little embarrassing though…especially since I have sooo many asian guy friends (most of whom i see as Brothers). I worry they will regard me differently…

  • Mayzeszalay

    OH, and also

    I don’t understand the difference / big deal in cross-culture dating. If I were to date Only White Guys, there would be nothing wrong with that (but isn’t that still excluding other races?). If an Asian guy dates Only Asian Girls that is not wrong.
    In general people should learn to lighten up and expand their minds/hearts. The world needs more mixed babies :D

    • Lor2

      What worries me if i get into a cross cultural relationship even though im american born is things like family. Im not saying i would let them dictate my prefernce or that they are xenophobic. They are very open minded, but recently my cousin brough back a dutch boy at our family reunion and other than beer he found everything else in the country to be too exotic. The reason i find this a problem is, I love my family and food is the best way, even might be the only way for foreigners to bond with them.

      • Mayzeszalay

        I’m guessing you’re an asian male?
        What country do you live in? I would recommend American/Canadian/Austrlian girls/partners; Europe is not very exposed to Asia, except for maybe India.
        I have been to asian family reunions and events like khmer new year. It can be awkward, cuz asian families are very tight-knit and you have to meet the aunts and uncles and cousins and some don’t rly speak english (from my experience). White families, unless they’re stuck up judge you type, just kinda ignore newcomers (in my experience).
        Food and family is a great culturally bonding experience. My first time i went to an asian party, they refused to shake my hand and taught me the bow. In almost all circumstances it is the caucasian who accommodates the most for the other culture, whatever it may be.

        The way i look at it..i want an asian who is proud of his culture and is comfortable introducing it to me. I don’t want a whitewashed asian. I agree with what you’re saying but for some whites it may take a while to adjust.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=557729096 Steve Shim

    Stumbled across this site and just wanted to say that I enjoyed reading some of your articles. Sometimes we need the reassurance that there are some non-Asian women out there that appreciate an attractive AM, if I may be conceited enough to say ; )

    Your article about yellow fever was interesting, although most guys I know, Asian or not, won’t turn away attention from a female no matter what the reason is for it. I can appreciate the sentiment though, look forward to reading more from you!

  • Posest

    shes certainly a rare breed. I have yet to meet anyone like her.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_ZZR747UYNVWDVYPPJEPFYM6GFU Cat

    I never thought about this before but I recently realized that I preferred Asian men as well. I was married to Vietnamese man for four years and we had two children together. After I got divorced I dated a Korean man for a short time. I have noticed that some Asian men like me because I am an attractive 28 year old, 5’3 110 pound female. I found that it is hard to even find Asian men who will date a white woman. It is nice to see that there are other women who feel the way I do :-)

  • Jason

    Hi Heather,

    Thank you for giving Asian men a chance! I think it’s awesome!

  • JJ

    Asian men need date coach etc.I heard Asian men specialized dating school.This means they need extra help.I have never heard dating school specialized to black men who wants to date other date.

    If they are popular they don’t need that kind of school.I mean specialized Asian guy seduction program is the fact they need extra effort.

    • Hyun

      this is where ur wrong. living in the states for a little over 10 years.. i noticed that at least in california, asians were the “cool kids”. In high school and college, asian guys were usually the popular kids. And in no way asian men needs dating coaching. But if youre talking about the geeky nerdy asians then its a different story. However, theres nerds and geeks in all ethnic backgrounds. If anything, i was the one that gave my friends dating tips

      • vat2nike

        Well there is a little bit of truth to what JJ said about us needing that “extra help.” Media can be a powerful tool to make use of the stereotypes to bring down us Asian males to the level of nerds, engrish speakers, and kung-fu artists. That sort of tool lowers our value to westerners (unconsciously). Therefore they automatically assume we aren’t, in a sense, confident or sexualized. That in turn also brings our perception of ourselves down a notch especially if we’re the very small minority of a state. Obviously, cali has more Asians than any other state in the America except for new york.

        Also do you see any Asian males in porn? Not often. Actually, there is this one pornstar called Keni Styles and he’s getting very popular. I read a lot of his blogs and he does address the issue that Asian men aren’t sexualized enough in media.

        • Larry

          If Asian guys need help, it’s because of Hollywood. Over and over again, us Asian guys are made to look bad.  If there’s an Asian character, he’s portrayed as a nerd, bad guy or martial artist.  That’s how westerners see us.

  • Future Mrs. Le

    I’m white and I only date Asian men. I feel the same way as you do, I just find them all around more attractive. I’m marrying my Vietnamese fiance this August. He was born in Vietnam and moved to the US at 15 (now 29) and he speaks his language and mine. I love it! I love his accent and we love making Vietnamese food. I have never had an Asian guy tell me that there’s anything wrong with just liking them though. They just always said “Great! I love blonds!”

  • calicat10

    So where can I meet an Asian guy as a white girl? I work and go to school. Most guys I know are white and are married or jerks!

    • Patrickyuhei

      asiancaucasianturf.com

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Melanie-Mumea/1514203659 Melanie Mumea

    @calicat – I met mine on plentyoffish. I signed up and set my preferences to Asian. I looked around and chose the one I felt i had the most in common with. We’ve been together a while now and getting married soon. It’s not as hard to strike up a convo online.

  • Hyun

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VVCcMpLe3_U

    lol i had to share. check out this asian guy picking up white girls with weird pickup lines haha

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_ZZR747UYNVWDVYPPJEPFYM6GFU Cat

      Lol wow too funny!

    • thaidude

      hilarious man, thanks for the link

  • TR

    Normally I don’t like getting involved with online forums/blogs but a buddie of mine just recently told me to Google Asian Caucasian and I gotta say, I don’t know what to make of it all. It’s like a whole subculture I’ve never heard of. I’m Asian American and as flattering as it is to hear the voice of females who favor/admire Asian Americans, it’s also insulting to hear guys like JT Tran ^ basically insinuate that largely, Asian guys are shy, soft, and meek. I can appreciate the fact that aside from capital gains, his “advice” and DVD is geared towards the aid of individuals in need of a life coach. Although, he makes point in which his audience is the “Asian” man, as if as a whole and not marginally, we collectively have some genetic deficiency from socially interacting and being able to find dates. If he were to refer his material towards immigrants, that I could better understand because as a first generation Asian American, I can relate to both the American and Eastern view of romance and affection. I’m not trying to bash JT, that’s just my opinion but it greatly irks me that alot of people seem to agree and share the same opinion of his. Yeah, I have taken notice of the way television portrays the Asian American, but the fact that other Asians agree…

    • Holly~

      THIS.

      As much as I commend this website for its efforts in encouraging White Women and Asian Males to basically have the confidence to go out and get whatever or whoever they want, I can’t help but feel it’s a little odd.
      To make White women out as the confident, all-round desirable status symbol that all Asian guys secretly want (not necessarily true).
      Or pinpointing Asian men as the most aesthetically perfect race, indirectly fetishizing them, saying that all of them have low self esteem, are meek and mild (again, not true).

      I’ve met plenty of very shy white women and many overly confident, bordering on douchey arrogant Asian men.

      I mean, Asians and Whites have been inter-marrying for decades, probably even centuries. Where do you think all these celebrities like Leah Dizon, Erika Sawajiri etc came from?
      It’s no big deal.
      Rare, yes, but I don’t think race should even come into it.
      We should not be focusing on ‘how to approach a white woman/asian guy’ but rather be aiming to fix that little voice in our head, the one that’s saying ‘It’s not going to happen’…and is terrified of rejection. The one that’s telling us that we have to change our selves and how we act in a certain way in order to attract the respective person.

      At the end of the day, if you’re a strong willed, bolshy woman you shouldn’t act all coy just to get an Asian guy.
      And if you’re a shy Asian guy, you don’t have to feel the need to turn into some Alpha-male pimp just to get some pink p*ssy. It won’t work because people can tell you’re faking it. And sooner or later that person is gonna have to live with the REAL you.
      Please, just be yourself :) )

      Peace and Love,
      Holly Xxxx

  • Hung Chow

    Date who you want. Who really gives a shit…. By the way. White or otherwise. You are not
    really an attractive white woman.. You look ok.But not what I would call attractive.

  • Bnickl269

    First off, I don’t always get the whole ‘penis’ thing. Why does it matter if a guy’s dick is small or big, and why do they have such issues over it? That just makes me think that the guys who bring subjects about dick sizes have huge insecurities over themselves.

    Seriously, guys with dick problems. I guarantee that many girls don’t like you blabbing on about your small ego issue. Usually some will laugh it off in front of you, but behind your back, some will rip your reputation to shreds.

    I think many people should ditch their stupid ignorant ‘myths’ on other races and just see people as themselves. I’m glad that you brought up a subject like this, Heather.

  • Coutrney Levine

    Well for me, the his race is no big deal. As long as we get along good together. As long as we love each other. That’s just simple.

    • thaidude

      right on!

  • http://twitter.com/BunnyMage Bunny Mage

    This article sounds less like a declaration of what you are attracted to and more of an angry spite letter towards white men. Which probably indicates that you just have a chip on your shoulder.

    You also don’t sound like you’ve actually ever been in a relationship with an Asian man, instead going off of fantasies that you’ve concocted through the influences of anime and Asian pop idol culture. Real Asian men do not have feminine beauty, dress well, or have impeccable hairstyles. They’re just as goofy, unattractive and flawed as anyone else. The only difference is that you’ll probably be dating a guy who plays a bit more Street Fighter than average and drives a Honda Civic.

    Take your head out of the clouds and stop being so spiteful.

  • Mongol

    Mongolians are coooolll :) . there are not much a lot and im sure u never met but we are all nice and friendly.

    Oh and when white people see us, dont just say like “you chinese” or etc when you don’t even know or ask where the asian guy from. Not all asians are from chinese, I know most asians are, but still you know. So what I would suggest is that you people should 1 ask where they, Asians, are from and then later whatever you know.

    • lolwtf

      Might I ask where Chinese is located? I know the country of China, but I’ve never heard of anyone FROM Chinese. Also- implying everyone in one country can be nice. I lawled.

      • Mayzeszalay

        Lol aww let him be, language barriers……

  • white girl

    Could you be more shallow?

  • derp

    This is by far the most abhorrently stupid thing I have read all day, and I was just browsing an image board.

    Whether you are Asian, Caucasian, Hispanic, or Black, you and people like yourself should be kept from polluting the gene pool. It’s just a pathetic case of yellow fever, white on rice, whatever you like. Such a self-serving one track mentality…

    Bitches & Whores. 3DPD.

    Clearly 2D is superior.

  • Temp

    Another reason why women are Bitches and Whores.
    3DPD-0
    2D Girls-431

  • Anon1425

    “I just hate ugly faces.”

    “I want to be physically attracted to him (EX: good fashion sense, nice hair, and physically fit)”

    “Have a career (can’t be a scrub!)”

    “They’re either completely confused and/or jealous as to why an attractive white woman like myself (if I might be conceited enough to say) likes only Asian men.”

    Do you read the things you write? clearly you must realize you have a serious case of narcissism.( or perhaps a borderline personality disorder.) it’s not your love of Asians that people find appalling, but your attitude, you’re treating men as a commodity. you write like someone whose entitled to everything in life; in short, a child. looks like you should probably go see a therapist to straighten out our view of the world.

    “Watching them walk away with those faces contorted with puzzlement is so amusing, ”

    People who you meet for the briefest of moments don’t spend more than that moment thinking of you, you’re less than an after thought to anyone (significant others excluded).

    conceded much?

    • ok

      Yeah this is a late reply, but what’s wrong with being attracted to someone you like?  So what if Heather likes good looking guys, she is very attractive.  

      I know some people that married and they weren’t really attracted to that person and eventually ended up getting a divorce…everyone has a preference.    

  • tvexpert

    Maybe you cant meet Asian males in real life because you are a just a shallow person?.
    Am not white btw, but i would feel disgusted if somebody would just date me primarily for my race.
    I expect somebody like me as a person because thats what i look in somebody else.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1006414359 Jessica Ruthless Fatale

      its not just about race, its about personality too. looks get you in the door, but what your personality is like will keep you there. It goes for anyone and everyone in any shape or color.

  • http://profiles.google.com/starryeyes33 intense remorse

    Well, considering that you are white and admit that the privelage of being white is being highly sought after by Asian men in particular, it sort of shows that you have more of a fetish for them because of the attention you receive rather than the way they look/act/their cultural background. Women who are sincerely are interested in Asian men usually take the time to learn the culture, or maybe the language. Anime and ramen isn’t all there is, and each “Asian” has a different cultural background. With that said, your preference isn’t wrong, but isn’t necessarily for the reasons you claim. You like be an object of desire and are perpetuating a form of white supremacy, and female domination in a manipulative, yet subconscious level.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_JKNS4VWRBDI3H27CVHISHK77YA Lil Jay Chou

    I should really make a video that biologically and genetically explains why Asian men do not have smaller penises since I’m a biology major.
    Seriously nonAsian men, not all Asian men are J-porn actors who pay to have sex.

    • Mayzeszalay

      That would be beneficial to your race, I believe. For the morale of young men.
      It’s a stereotype that has been perpetrated to bring Asian men down by picking on something so irrelevant as their penis size – which is or is not true.
      I mean, the two Asians I’ve ever been with in bed were around 6-8″, and when i say i date an Asian people double-take and mention the “size”, I get highly offended for my boyfriend and us as a couple. Who are they to judge him & his race and my choice in men? It is also an incredibly private/intimate matter…..
      I would love to see Asian guys overcome this form of social oppression

      • Jenjen

        yeah but thickness the size of a pencil

        • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_ZZR747UYNVWDVYPPJEPFYM6GFU Cat

          You don’t know what you are talking about.

        • Mayzeszalay

          Haha, did you see my boyfriend’s dick? 
          Please, i would love to know if you have. In fact maybe i should be concerned?I don’t know who you are or care who reads this but i can proudly say,  he f*cks me good and I’m not complaining. So neither should you. :P

      • Jenjen

        yeah but thickness the size of a pencil

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1006414359 Jessica Ruthless Fatale

      yeah i haven’t met an asian guy with a small wiener.
      it would be a really awesome documentary.

  • Herp

    We don’t give a shit, you are a worthless race traitor, nothing of value was lost.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1006414359 Jessica Ruthless Fatale

      Dude you’re a worthless individual. Stop being jealous you can’t be with her, and move the fuck on. You need a life and you need to learn to be accepting, if you liked anyone outside your race, it would be okay for you to date them, but a woman who dates outside her own race, is wrong? wow. I bet you’re a domestic abuser too, its written all in your own words. You need some serious help. I hate white men like you. You a walking double standard, and most likely are a brewski or a hillbilly. And most likely a racist asshole.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Dave-Schmave/100001100107862 Dave Schmave

    and nothing of value was lost

  • Average Joe

    and nothing of value was lost

  • Fuu

    Yeah if I had to chose between an asian guy and a white guy HANDS DOWN I’d pick the white I mean come on White guys are so much manlier and generally more sexually appealing xP You’re crazy!

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1006414359 Jessica Ruthless Fatale

      hahaha that is such a joke, i have met macho asian men. I dated one.

    • Interstitialfibrosis

      Looks like you have only seen 5% of the asians then.Tell that to yourself when your white husband leaves you at age 50.Asian men ARE MAN enough to stay with their wives because it is a lifelong vow.Who’s manlier now? 

  • Ken

    these guys are being really jealous.. or even furious..that white girls like asian guys. lol
    it’s about the time that they realize asian guys are as attractive as any other races. She points out that the stereotypes about asian guys. good work

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_ZZR747UYNVWDVYPPJEPFYM6GFU Cat

    Wow all this anger over something that is purely a personal preference!

  • http://www.facebook.com/hakim.eaddy Hakim Eaddy

    Despite what some may say, this women is not wrong for being attracted to whom she wants.
    The issue stems from the fact that her preference is usually a fetish of sorts, especially prevalent in some communities that place asian men and women on a pedestal. This issue is not restrained solely to asians, it affects all ethnicities that are a minority figure within the community they are in.
    The foreign born hispanic man with the exotic accent circa 1940-60s, africans since the founding of America, and now asians, each is fetishized as the “other”, something “exotic” and “different”. To be blunt, it sucks, especially when it happens to you (yes, I speak from experience), and it makes you cautious as hell. That this woman has the gall to place ethnicity before all other attractive traits within a prospective mate is quickly going to lead to the (perhaps accurate, if denied) conclusion that there is a level of fetishism at play, especially when other men bearing the same traits and even similar physical features come to mind, but lack the specific heritage.
    My running point is that while her case in particular may be different, but most cases of such preferences based on race or heritage are not, and there comes a point whee getting defensive because people take the most common route is foolish, especially when you put your private life out for others to see. I may perhaps fetishize some groups, but I do not announce it to others, make a website about it and resent the expectant judgment that comes.
    That is all.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1006414359 Jessica Ruthless Fatale

      I only date asian men, and that is what i am attracted the most. Doesn’t make it a fetish. There is nothing to turn me on sexually from a guy just being asian. I don’t have some fetish, where it has to be an asian guy to get me sexually aroused. I have dated white guys and one black guy. So i can say, liking only one race and being physically attracted to them is not a fetish.

  • Ellychick2005

    This is the best argument I’ve ever read for preferring Asian men as a white girl. I totally do. Now if only there were more Korean’s around here. -cry-

    • Ljp_fighter715

      where you from? where i’m @ there’s too many koreans lol 

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1006414359 Jessica Ruthless Fatale

      Be careful you don’t get an asshole korean, my ex is an asshole.

  • Itssagurllie

    Wow… People need to chill. Heather, I’m happy that you know what it is you like in a man and hope you find your happiness.

    • thaidude

      this is the kind of attitude we all need to have in life!

  • Rpineda1985

    I like white girls..

    Sincerely

    -Filipino Guy

    • http://twitter.com/Eeluon ahva

      Filipinos are sell outs.

      • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1006414359 Jessica Ruthless Fatale

        stop hating, embrace other races.

      • Interstitialfibrosis

        Maybe you should see me in person then.You might be surprised.

  • projectrevelasian
    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Jt-Tran/100000148877947 J.t. Tran

      I don’t mind the linking, but try to at LEAST make a relevant comment. 

  • Davidsnail

     your baby will be white though if you have one with an asian guy. white genes are more dominant than asian.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1006414359 Jessica Ruthless Fatale

      I have a daughter who is half korean and mixed with everything that i am. She looks more like me, but you can tell she is asian. Especially on the days when she looks more korean on anything, it varies from day to day. Children’s looks change all the time.

  • Pinkwildpoke

     Wow this had me cracking up! One because a lot of american women are in fact becoming more attracted to Asian Men.  I don’t know why but it is true!  Asian men are just hot!  I blame GDragon for my own turn on to these men! hahahah!

  • Red

    nice article… :) i’m asian myself.. a pure asian breed. borned, raised and live in Asia my whole life..  not the korean looks asian. just a plain dark skin asian.why does some ppl commented if a WF like an AM, she’s shallow or on crack?.. WM is a perfect species? or everything just abt penises? ” u can’t be with a white guy cos asians have short dicks?” daaa… whether to like whites or blacks or asians is a personal preferences. whites can drive a honda but asian can’t drive a chevy?…

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1006414359 Jessica Ruthless Fatale

    im white and she put it perfectly about only dating asian men, because i hate ugly faces too. i’m really big on how noses are especially the bridge. And i don’t like anything bulbous, that majority of white men have, etc. i don’t self loathe, i just don’t want someone who looks too much like me. I tend to see couples who resemble each other including looks- thats not my thing, and after dating white guys and a black guy, its made me realize how much i am attracted to asian men. Plus Asian guys age better in my opinion.
    And i think the asian guys who think its wrong to date outside your own race, should just be more open to the fact about dating outside their own race. Help create the world to be a more beautiful place. Don’t say to other asian guys that they are sell outs, because they aren’t. I hear it alot from white guys. Its really disrespectful, and just shows the jealousy that those types have. Say great job, i couldn’t ever do that because i am too scared too. Or maybe actually try to date a white girl. But don’t hate and call them a sell out because your envious of them dating/liking someone other than their race.

    • Joseph

      Yes,agree.I am 28 and people think I’m 18.Teenagers actually approach me until they tell them I’m old haha.Unfortunately,white girls my age aren’t as open-minded.

    • Jb_rathi

      hi jessica,

      im bharath bobby, yes you are correct the world is a beautifull place. im in search of a white girl too for dating. im an indian

  • Nohomo

    LOL No HO mo

    • Anonymous

      Sure.

  • Nohomo

    This article is STUPID! Everyone is different and has a right to their opinion.

    • Anonymous

      Your first sentence is rendered invalid by your second statement. Have a nice day!

    • Interstitialfibrosis

      Just reflects how stupid you are too.lol

  • user1

    If you are interested in AMWF, this link is 
    the grand collection on this topic:
    http://fafast.com/play?white+girls+asian+guys

  • Namlet

    After somehow stumbling onto this website and reading you post, this is similar to to my own preference in Caucasian women. Although some are similar, my preference for white girls are due to the strange yet amusing reasons:

    1). I already have an older sister and mother, so why should I bring someone who looks remotely similar in skin colour. This also includes marriage and all because it’d just be having another ‘sister’ in my life if I dated an Asian and I don’t think I can stand the incessant nagging.
     
    2). This follows from the first reason with being able to have a more in-depth understanding of other cultures especially a Caucasian and their ancestral/cultural roots. This applies to dating and having a relationship with a white girl.

    3. I enjoy the fact that I get mistaken for being Chinese or Korean or even Thai. The next interesting and funny part is that I get mistaken for being an international student until they hear me talking to them in English. It’s funny because I always like having a joke and it’s a great way to start a conversation with girls and people in general. I always use this very lame but effective joke of ‘Hi, I’m Nam. If you spell my name backwards, it’s Man.’ Been using it since 1995, back in primary (elementary as you Americans call it) school.

    4. This isn’t really a reason but I agree with the four points about types. I couldn’t date anyone that doesn’t use their intelligence in a working, humorous and conversational way (unless she’s just a dead set, moronic cow). I value language a lot, in this case, the English Language (somehow I can be picky with American English because they tend to be lazy with certain spelling. That’s just me of course).

    5. The best part is that nobody in my family really cares who I date and they know I have an attractive for white girls (I fear for my dignity and self-preservation because my mum has a lot of stories to embarrass me in front of the girl I bring home to meet her. This may include blackmailing my mind).

    That’s all I can think of for now because it’s bloody 4:33am and I should be off to have a shower.

    Oh, I forgot to mention that I’m not an Asian-American. I’m an Asian-Australian.

    - Namlet

    • Ruin

      Hi, Namlet (a play on ‘Hamlet’? Love it!),
      I’ve got to agree with you. While I have a preference for Asian guys (Japanese in particular) (and yes, I’m the WW), I couldn’t date someone I couldn’t connect with in an intellectual way. I’d always date someone who I could talk to and have a good conversation with, but wouldn’t mind me being silent every once in a while. I love to have a laugh, but I’d like to be serious too. I can be super-cynical to the point of mild-solipsism, so I want someone who can both understand that and help me be positive at the worst of times. It’s sounds like a lot to ask, but it’s not really, when you think about it.

      Yes, I’d love it if this person is a Japanese male who is fairly attractive, but I’m not going to rule out other people just yet. As for Heather’s comments on Asian guys being aware of their heritage, I think that’s important but it must work both ways – although I love Japanese culture to the point where I’m learning the language, I’m still quite aware of my own heritage, especially my Scottish roots (and yes, I do belong to a clan somewhat, and know which one it is).  

      As for the ‘not dating anyone that looks remotely like your mother and sister’, I totally understand that. I used to hang out with a white/blond punk goth guy a few years back, and while I did have a bit of a crush on his at the time, it did put me off for a girl to ask if we were related. That does sound petty, but I have two bros and a cousin who have a similar hair colour and eye colour to myself and I really don’t want to be asked if I come from Norfolk/Ecclesfield/Barnsley and be accused of incest. That would be awful.

      Hopefully this makes sense as a comment. And a side note, I’m not American, but from the UK.

      having just stumbled onto this site, I hope to stay on here!

      Ruin xxx

      • Namlet

        Hi Ruin (It sure is a play on Hamlet. Shakespeare being one of my favourite playwrights of all time),

        It’s how I feel about dating, which I still haven’t done because I guess having intelligence is almost becoming a pre-requisite for me. I’m usually quiet but I do like having a good yarn with anyone about anything. Most of the time it’s usually my cynicism which somehow is a positive for me in terms of humour and conversation. It doesn’t sound like a lot to ask at all, who knows, maybe it might suit me? ;)

        The poor attempt at bad humour/flirting, I know. I’m not Japanese myself but for some reason I get mistaken for either Thai, Chinese or Korean when I’m actually not. It is important to know your own heritage and still respect it, even though you might not like it in the first place. I’m curious to ask, do you know any Scottish Gaelic?

        Well, of course you wouldn’t want to be asked if you come from Norfolk/Ecclesfield and especially Barnsley! I’d say I was exposed to having an interest in caucasians from a very early age. My first ‘crush’ or liking towards a girl was actually a Scottish, blonde-haired, blue-eyed girl when I was at the age of five. It’s also interesting because my best friend is English with some Swedish ancestry and he’s from Reading, England. We’re opposite because he loves asian girls and I like caucasians.

        Your reply made sense and maybe hope to hear from you again.

        As for dark blonde/brunette hair and green-gray eyes (I saw the other post you replied to on another comment), that’s very appealing to me.

        Namlet xxx

  • L-T

    Hey heather check your okcpd mailbox 

  • Joker

    Ok, so for starters i dont want you to do 2 things. 1. Let this comment ruin your life, but im very sure it won’t. 2. Understand what I am saying is not anger or spite, but simply truth.

    I would never even try to pick you up or want to be with you. You look like a junkie. 

  • Sarah

    I think with white guys, being that I’m a white girl, they have automatic confidence that they can score with me. They assume a lot of things – like I’ll have a drink with them, that they CAN get my number, and apparently of course I’m attracted to them. This isn’t true all the time, mostly in bars and clubs. Their confidence just comes off as cocky, this kind of Jersey Shores “I’m gonna get three chicks tonight” confidence. Just like I have a specific type with asians (but I’m a little more lenient), with white guys I also have a very narrow type (and I’m NOT lenient at all). But hey, that kind of confidence is a huge NO for anyone!

    If you’re an asian guy but you come up to me like “You like me so I’m not even gonna try hard” you are totally gonna get burned. Cockiness, overconfidence, I’m not a fan of either of those traits so it really doesn’t matter if you look like Rain. I’m not gonna f**k you.

    • Nobunaga

      Sarah you really got to know that “RAIN” asian as you said maybe don’t want you too.
      So stop this kind of useless bratz comment we (handsome asian guys) don’t need you and don’t give a shit about you.
      To all the asian guy here (i’m asian too); just grab your balls and get the chicks you deserve you don’t need all this bullshit and it’s not hard as you think.
      there is some rules in pick-up:
      1 if the girl is attracted to you because you don’t look like an horse then give it a try and you’ll maybe make it.
      2 if you look like shit even with all the help of all the featured writers of amww you’ll never get a women.
      That’s all i got to say and it can apply on every race (asian,white or black)

      • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_6S5ISVYHKT5KPTV5O2LSTEN2PI J

        I don’t know if you’re handsome or not, but your personality is crap. You’ll get the woman you deserve.

  • Rawr53

    Thanks for writing this post! I am a white – to be more exact Ukrainian-American girl. I’m only a teenager but I know that I’m definitely attracted to Asian guys. I’ve never had a boyfriend yet but I know that I’m looking for a cute Asian guy. I don’t know how I found this but I totally agree – I just don’t like white guys! I am so in love with Harry Shum Jr(: But after reading the comments, I’m happy to see that some Asian guys actully like white girls. I thought I would never have a chance!! Go Asians!(:

    • Joseph

      Most asian guys I know dont really have the preference. We are human beings who are attracted to beautiful women with good personalities. Unfortunately, most American women simply has this “reject” button in their mind even before we speak. 

  • L-T

    damn not even a word
    you must be the “sirento himesama” from utah
    however keep making cool video and greetings from france

  • Joseph

    I am a confident, funny, stylish asian doctor. Props to you for not being “racist”. I have seen people who explicitly says they like me because of my confidence and hilarious personality but when I ask them out, they flake as they simply dont date “asians”. Unfortunately, I have to work twice as hard than most white guys(which objectively speaking,I think I’m twice the man they are but they still get the girls)because of the stereotypes asians get. So I am motivated that people like you still exist.Thank you for your post.

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_OBVTUO4WUABRKCNFUTXVSNMVGA Cat

      I agree, man. One of the reasons I like Asians is because they’re so hard-working. Lots can just be born with a natural talent for learning things, just like anyone else, but it all boils down to an affinity for hard-work and dedication to whatever it is they do. Well, okay, many are actually pretty good-looking, but that’s a pretty superficial reason for liking someone. Reading some of these articles makes me kinda worried because I really only want to date Asian men because its just my preference, and I want someone whom I am attracted to. So hopefully it’s not “Yellow Fever,” because it’s not…

      I hope you get lucky. You’ll find your dream girl soon, I’m very sure. :)  

  • Amanda

    I hear you girl! I LOVE asian men and happen to be married to one too=)

  • Proud White man

    Does the Asian Privilege Asians have in Asia piss you off as much?

    Oh that’s right, White privilege is only because White countries are for everybody.

    But hey, I’m glad to see you’ve adjusted to the new world order of democracy and multiculturalism where there will be no white majorities anywhere. I just hope the soft genocide White are undergoing doesn’t get hard when the economy collapses. Then you might have to suffer, as you so rightly deserve you traitrous cunt.

    • White Girl Loves Cultures

      Hey douche. You’re one of the reasons why I DON’T like White guys. I am a White girl myself, but calling Heather a traitorous cunt just because she prefers one type of race over others? I honestly prefer Asian guys because most White guys don’t respect me.
      I’m going to keep my profanity to myself, but I’d like to say, “Shut your mouth.”

      Goodbye.

      • bharath bobby

        hi chicakdee,

        im bharath bobby from india, i like the way you said about asian guys.

        bharath bobby

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_6S5ISVYHKT5KPTV5O2LSTEN2PI J

      Guys like you are the problem why many white women reject white men. You are cocky, arrogant, and angry. Women like confident men. You seem insecure and try to cover it up by pretending that you are better.

    • CFE90M3

      white country? Really? you dumb-ass inbred redneck? Native Americans of north, central, and south America are from Asia. They crossed over from Asia over 10,000+ years ago. Check the DNA results of Mayans, Incans, Aztecs, etc… Go read a book before you reckon your sisters are a ripe for a pickin’. By the by, the only traitorous cunt is the one looking back in your mirror, bubba. Because the last time I checked, unless you’re native American “yous” an immigrant. A foreigner, non-native, invader, murderer, rapist, thief, etc… In other words, GOD-less. Go don a pillowcase and burn a cross you devil worshipper. Karma (Justice) is a bitch! Looking back on the sins of man you’re gonna see a lot of white faces in hell. white outside but black to the core. True dat! white ain’t right, fool! Right is right! Amen!

  • http://twitter.com/Weabro Katy

    ew

    • chicakdee

      Ew to you trick.

  • Fugly

    Trust me you do NOT look good, you are not even fit..

  • @@@@

    I think the #1 advantage Asian men have is the fact that they don’t smell!

    Study shows that women care about men’s smell much more than their looks!
    Asians in general do not produce much body odor, that is in fact much more attractive than even the best cologne.

    that’s a major advantage, the sad thing is that most people don’t know about it!

    • @@@@

      Correction:
      what women care the most about men is their NATURAL scent!
      Having cologne helps, but not nearly as much as having good natural smell!

  • bharath bobby

    hi to all white girls,

    i thank you all for supporting asian guys and being an indian i love to have a white girl in my life

  • Sammybaby85

    I’m a 26 white woman. I love asian men. And I’ve dated several. But no matter how good the relationship is or how hard I try it never works out because their mothers do not approve. Because I am white. And if that didn’t do it. I also have a white daughter from a previous relationship. And they are REALLY against that. Their sons dating someone with a child. They always tell me I’m the best girlfriend they’ve ever had. That they love my daughter too. That were smart fun girls. And we don’t have any drama.. like from my daughter’s father or anything. We get along fine and he’s been married now to a girl I think is wonderful. My only down fall is their mother’s do not approve and they are not willing to go against their moms. I don’t know.. should I just give up on dating asian men all together?

    • John

      I am a Korean. Most Korean parents are literally ‘allergic’ to allowing their kids to get married with  a person with a child. It is even regarded as a ‘family shame’. I don’t know for sure about white parent’s recognition on that kind of issue. I think the fact that you are white is a factor Asian paents wants to consider when they accept you as their daughter in law.
      I think the fact that you are a white gilrl isn’t an big issue.  Plus, the older Asian parents , the more closed to interracial marrrige. But I think it will change in the end, because  the world is getting smaller and smaller..

      • Sammybaby85

        Maybe I need to just stop dating Korean guys specifically then. The last 2 guys were Korean..  so maybe that’s the trick.  Thanks for the tip!

        • John

          I am a Korean. But as an old Korean saying goes, “There are no parents who can win over their kids.”  If there is a Korean guy you never want to give up, give it a try.
          Another tip: Korean parents are getting weaker when they are faced with the fact that a girl is pregnant with their grand child, and hopefully they might admit a girl they didn’t like as their daughter in law . Although  it’s not applicable to all Korean parents it is true reality and very possible. But I hope your life will be easy… Good luck!

    • Lee

      I’m a 31 year old asian male, and I have a son who is Chinese/Vietnamese on my end, and Italian on his moms side. My parents were originally boat people from Vietnam, and when I was younger they insisted that I dated someone Vietnamese, it was solely because they spoke limited english. These days they have been fairly westernized, and they have come to respect the fact that I don’t discriminate women based on race (I’ve dated mostly white women all my life simply because I grew up in white suburbia). They are 100% okay with my dating of white women. I am a single father now, and I get along great with the mother of my child.

      So I think labeling all asian parents in the same light is unfair, as I can generally say the same thing about many of my asian friends. Most of them have dated white women at some point, and their families have never given them any problems. Don’t let the whole thing discourage you.

      • Sammybaby85

        Hmm.. I”m trying not to! But there seems to be a theme Lol  I started seeing a new guy about 2 months ago. He’s Korean. Things were going really well. But then he talked to his mom about “hypothetically dating a girl with a kid” and she.. no need to go into details. But she was very against it. And he has been very distant since. So.. I feel like I’m setting myself up for failure. .. are you single? Lol just joking! .. kind’ve

        • Lee

          Coincidentally, I am. I’ve been single for 2 months now. Getting ready to move for pharmacy school at the moment. I’m in central Cali.

          • Sammybaby85

            <– STL, MO  : (    dang it..   I think I need to move.

          • Rain

            No way, MO…really.

      • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1241862506 Samantha Weisal

        Aw don’t give up! I’m sorry to hear that=[ I understand you situation though, I'm dating an american born chinese man and both his parents want nothing to with me because I'm white. You need to understand something though, if those guys truly and deeply loved you they would have fought for you with their parents. And I'm sorry if it sounds like I'm bashing your old relationships, I'm not, I'm just saying that a lot of asian parents are old fashioned just like white parents don't want their kids dating black people. But in the end your asian boyfriend and his parents are family and they love and care for each other. You just need to show his family what a respectful girlfriend you are and give it time. If you and your asian man get married they will have no choice but to accept it if they want to have some kind of relationship with their son and grandchildren. I've just been really good around my boyfriends family and even though they don't like me and we are not on speaking terms, they have stopped harassing my boyfriend about dumping me and have accepted that I'm the one he wants to be with. I hope this helps.=]

        • SammyBaby85

          Thanks for the support!!  The Korean guy I’ve been seeing.. I sat him down and talked to him about it. And he said that he values his mother’s opinion and what she thinks but in the end he makes his own decisions.. so I guess we’ll see. I don’t want to put a rift in their relationship, but I do really like him. Wish me luck!

    • Bbildsoe

      wow! i dated a vietnamese guy and his mother loved me even though i didnt speak the language. i thought asian mothers would love to see their sons go marry a white girl.

      • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_6S5ISVYHKT5KPTV5O2LSTEN2PI J

        It depends on the girl’s personality. In her case it probably has alot to do with her already having a child. Most traditional Asians will disapprove of that unless the other parent died. 

  • Seancching

    WTF!.?! Stereotypes either way, ying of the yang!

  • Hapa82

    Good for you!  I’m an half Asian guy who has pretty much only dated white girls (I dated a Korean girl for a week in 6th grade) and it’s girls like you that allow me to keep up dating the girls I find attractive.  So don’t apologize for anything.  You are right though.  My ex’s always would get hit on and guys would be like “Seriously, an Asian guy?”.  :P

  • thaidude

    I think we need to respect Heather’s opinion whether we agree or not.
    I for one like to be open minded about dating, trying not to get sucked into the stereotype thing.
    Attraction is a very personal thing and if its there on a two way basis thats great. 
    There are alot of people who judge a book by its cover but its their loss. Their losing out on the chance to find a great story inside!

  • Justecurieuz

    So the same way some guys only date blonds, you only date asians, yeah? Easy enough to understand…just a looks preference.

  • Anon

    Lots asian guys secretly like white females.  They are just too scared ask white females out for a date because the American media protrayed that white females prefer white>black/hispanic>asian males.   If white females are brave enough ignored the American media stereotypes and give Asian men a chance,  they will discover a huge pool of husband materials.

  • http://twitter.com/terrytorres Terry Torres

    I would be interested in an article written by a white man defending his exclusive dating of Asian women.

    • thaidude

      sounds interesting.  Would also be interesting in to read about an in-depth analysis of the experiences of an AM exclusively dating a WF.

  • Bunny19852

    I am so glad to see someone else who shares my views completely!!! I grew up in hawaii and Japan so moving to Florida sucks cause there are almost no Asians men here… I hate the belittling that I get and the teasing I get for it such as ”liking small Asian penises” and “little boys”… Sorry for liking a guy that will look better for longer naturally and who is naturally able to stay fit and looks hot in anything he wears… Or nothing :) Also I have never been with an Asian who is small down there ever so stereotyping has come to be a huge pet peeve of mine now!!

  • Lee

    I recently just started dating a wonderful and beautiful Venezuelan woman after years of mainly dating only Asian woman. I must say that it is a very refreshing feeling. She is warm hearted, loving and very open to her feelings to me. I do not mean to generalize (but obviously I am here) but this is so different than most of my experiences when I dated Asian woman. Whether it works out or not, it has opened up my eyes to a whole new dating world. I hope this openess to dating those not of our own cultures increases because it truly is a wonderful experience learning from another culture. Cheers!

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  • Princess_bratz1818

    well i got to say that i have the same point of view as you,I’m dominican and i love asian guys to death even though i havent date anyone because i have bad luck, sense where i lived they’re no asians. To bad but sense i was a little girl i was always attract to asian and i did everything possible to actually meet one. I hope one day i’ll met one and have a asian boyfriend that would be a dream come  true. That’s why im moving to LA when i graduate just cuz the asians.

    • KoolGuy530

      you should move to redding california instead. over here majority of the Asian guys go for nothing but different races. In my opinion the Asian’s here are not shy at all and i would say a lot more handsome then any other city, if you don’t believe come visit. you always here about asian guys being shy but thats in the bay area and LA but up here its the opposite.

    • Patrickyuhei

      asiancaucasianturf.com

    • White blossom

      I am EXACTLY the same as you.. I wish we could swap emails to support each other with this one! It is so tricky and frustrating and lonely too.. That is great that you will move to LA. You must do it. You must follow your heart..:)

  • FuB

    hey where do i meet girls like you? :)

    also, is there a specific positive quality that you see in Asian guys that is generally absent in white guys?

  • http://www.kawaiihaven.com Macchan

    It’s very hard for me to find a non-Asian guy I’m physically attracted to. :s I tried to figure out what I like and don’t like, so I think it’s something like: I’m not attracted to guys with large jaws/chin, big nose, beard/excessive body hair. I think those are the three main points physically, at least. Especially the beard/body hair… omg. Guys where I live all seem to be obsessed with having these beards. Freaking hipsters. =.=”

    Personality-wise… I don’t know, they seem pretty much just like any other guys. So I guess it’s just physical? XD

  • Bobby

    well, okay.. I think I admit it now.

    I think I do like you, Heather.
    I’m an Asian-guy.. but I think I’m somehow still outside of your standard..for now..
    so, I think the only way to be inside the standard to improve my appearance, but..well..umm..
    I think I’ll just do that for myself. I don’t think or just not sure that I’m the one for you.
    so.. I guess I can only say “good luck” to you for it~
    it’s really nice to know you, after all.

  • Markrazon

    As an asian man who only dates white woman I’m going to have to say I like the article hun (no need to apologize for your good looks).

    Here’s a little insight as to what goes through most asian men’s minds when they see a good looking woman like yourself:
    - daymn that chick is hot, but she’ll never go for a guy like me
    - I wish I could date her
    - I’d love to take her out
    - I wanna sleep with her, but she’d never bang a guy like me

    You know what the problem is? Its all negative.

    Correct me if I’m wrong, the average asian man does not exude “masculine” characters that a white or black man would. Typically asian men are short, skinny, and soft spoken and shy. Hardly, masculine characters I’d say. For the asian men, MAN up if you want to be more appealing to women in general. I’ve spent countless hours on my health, my goals, and my aspirations to sit by idly and listen to people hate on others for their physical preferences. Heather, yes you a beautiful white woman and more men need to be like you. Feel free to follow me on twitter @ Beachbodproject.

    • Bobby

      Well,”Judging the book from its cover” is the best of what most people can do, isn’t it?

      I’m just sure and understand that Heather won’t be willing to stay around with my present appearance, no matter how intelligent I am. Appearance is still no.1 in this case.and I’m sure she’s only seeking for “the best”.. which is not me. :)

  • YGURU

    Get balls, people. I’m also an asian guy who only hooks white chicks, and one advice for you guys is “be suave and masculine with balls”. Make muscles & groom everyday & get good scents. Don’t overlook these factors, and act and talk like a white guy without denying you’re an asian descendent. Peace.

  • YGURU

    And remember Heather- dont listen to any bullshit, and there are always hot asian guys like me and you just need to understand their way and expressions of love. You know they are effing keepers and romantists, glad to know your Mr.Right is an Asian.

  • Azrael

    @YGURU:twitter: Now someone just sounds dedicating himself for “sex”.
    Romantist my ass.. You’re just showing off your own ass by the way you brag.
    You’re the one who’s spitting out Bullshit for your own sake.
    I’ve met, seen and know so many asshole like you.
    You’re just trying to make the others looked like crap, and that’s all you got.
    You’re abusive attitude and words would never be approved.
    I know your point and I don’t need to take any shit from you.
    so Good Luck with your SHITTY Attitude wherever you’re gonna place it.
    and Fuck you too. I’m still richer than you are.

  • http://www.facebook.com/victoria.bartscherer Victoria Elizabeth Patricia Ma

    Thank God someone finely had the guts to post this I have been saying the same thing for years. 

  • http://twitter.com/axel_chan rebecca

    i totaly agree with her, i too find asian guys attrctive. i have dated different types of guys. from blue eyed blond to hispanic black, but at the end of the day i see a well dress asian guy and in my head am like ” damn i want that.”
    i too have been told all type of harsh comments for saying this. its so annoying. i do not care if your closed minded am going to still find asian guys attractive and still date them.

  • Katrina

    Thank you so much for sharing your taste in men especially with the risk of it being construed as racist and doing so in such a way that makes sense. I myself love nordic looking guys – tall, blonde, blue eyed. This makes me sound like one of those pro Aryan race lovers, so I rarely tell people this. I myself am average height, dark haired with brown eyes – a slavic/anglo mix (I’m sometimes asked if I’m half asian or latino). I think I’m looking for someone the opposite of me – or the opposite of my Dad – short and dark.

    • Willhelm Willhelmsson

      try south east asians then!

  • Jasonasioson78

    I am a white woman who is only attracted to Asian men myself. I feel exactly they way you do & it was so good to hear someone who shares my views.

  • Grossed Out

    I’m a white girl who is dating an Asian American guy, and this post
    disgusts me.  He does not only date white women.  I do not only date Asian men. 
    Wtf is with these racial obsessions?  I don’t think fetishizing
    people–or letting yourself be fetishized, for that matter–is a good
    basis for any relationship.  Ugh.  If anybody seemed to me like they were interested because I was white, I’d have nothing to do with them.  Why?  It suggests that what they’re objectifying and fetishizing me based on class and racial divisions, and that entails a vision of themselves as lower down, needing to catch a white woman as some kind of prize and status symbol–I can’t respect someone who sees himself that way, and I don’t want to be a prize or anything else that prevents me from being ME to people.  It’s also just plain creepy to get off on being seen as more attractive for being white.  And I would hate myself if I fetishized anybody else.  I would be no better than all the skeezy white assholes who think Asian women are hot b/c they’re more feminized and exotic.  You’re in some serious denial about
    yourself.

    • Anonymous

      I think you’re seriously misunderstanding the author’s main points. 

      It’s one thing to find an Asian male’s physical features attractive. It’s no different from say, a Latino dude finding a woman’s bosom or butt attractive. But when you start seeing the way the pornography industry casts Asian women as submissive prostitutes who’re eager to physically please their men and nothing more, that’s where it becomes a fetish.

      • Grossed Out

        No.  I think the definition of a fetish is to be turned on more by one kind of thing (just as long as it’s treated as a ‘thing’ or objectified, because sexual acts are more properly called kinky if deviant) than others which other people find equally hot.  Fetishes can be relatively harmless, or pretty disturbed.  I think having a racial fetish necessarily involves some f-ed up ideas about that race or its relation to your own, because if race really weren’t an issue, it wouldn’t be expressed in your sexual desires.  I don’t think it has to come from pornography, and I don’t think an Asian fetish is limited to an idea of “Asian women as submissive prostitutes.” 

        I would say, actually, that pornography is simply reflecting not only preexisting stereotypes but almost unconscious attitudes and ways of seeing, including the fact that it is easier (for someone in the majority) to objectify someone who is a racial minority and make them a ‘China doll’ or whatever.  I mean by that not that they’re consciously buying into the idea that Asian women are submissive, etc., although they might do that too, but simply that if you overly objectify and feminize someone, you see and find attractive those characteristics that most fit that for you–what you’re attracted to becomes a doll-like caricature.  And that’s true whether you’re talking about Asian women, or women in general, or even white women in China…but what it looks like will differ, and how predicated it is on underlying power relations will differ, and thus whether and how it’s wrong will differ. 

        Anyway, we use the word ‘objectification’ a lot for women, but a racial fetish is necessarily a form of objectification, whether directed at men or women.  Objectification can be a perfectly healthy part of sexual desire, in which we, for a moment or in part, forget the humanness of the object of our desire.  I’m just saying that doing that based on race is wrong. 

        Bosoms and butts aren’t fetishes because they are normal objects of attraction.  And it tends not to be a fetish when you’re attracted to people of your own race (although you might be a bit racist in your exclusion of others). 

        • Overdrive

          @Grossed Out, do you have a big pussy??

        • Ya

          A fetish is being attracted to anything that is not part of the sexual reproductive system. So yes, breast and butts are considered fetishes.

          The real question is does it matter? Put whatever label you want on something, if a guy/girl likes breasts or butts, or a certain eye/hair color that is not objectifying someone, it is their human nature. Everyone has what they are attracted to or not attracted to.

          So don’t make something out of nothing please, instead try to stop the real issues in sexism/racism if you are worked up about it… like you know people using disgusting words like the F word, N word or C word.

          Just saying.

    • Kristen

      I can relate to Grossed Out’s post because I am a white girl dating an Asian guy, but I do not only date Asians.  We were set up and just hit it off.  I think my boyfriend would have ran for the hills if I told him I was attracted to his race or exotic whatever.  For some people, this can feel like a fetish and it will turn them off.  I also would have been reluctant to date my boyfriend if he was exclusively seeking to date a Caucasian girl.

  • TOPkey

    Not sure how I ended up on your post, but I must say it’s interesting to see there’s more people with this type of preference out there. I happen to find Asian guys more attractive too (although I don’t exclude any race in my preference). I think it’s partly because I’m European (living in America now though), so I prefer a guy with a good sense of style, but I also hate the typical Euro-trash personality that seems to come along with it. From my experience, Asians are just a great mix of everything-style, looks, personality and common sense (how many nationalities can you think of where there’s still such a thing as common courtesy and bowing? yeah…) Unfortunately, it seems that (at least in the area I’m in), Asians are very exclusively Asian, especially the guys (more so, the Korean ones). I know there’s a strong cultural aspect to it, but it’s quite difficult to approach an attractive guy when he has an “Asian only” vibe to him (even if unintentional) and everyone around you is thinking “what the eff is she doing?” So major props to you Heather, that took some nerve. 

    • White Blossom

      Yes TOPkey, you describe the difficulties really well. Sometimes getting a feel for how exclusive an Asian guy is can be really difficult.  I only am interested in Asian men, so being able to read where they are at is really important to me. Often I simply can’t tell! It gets frustrating sometimes. I totally agree too with your comment about Asian guys being a great mix of everything.So, so true! So completely true! :)

  • Thumbs up

    This is an interesting article. As an Asian male I have mainly only dated Caucasian women. One thing I have to comment on is that growing up in NYC I have experienced a transformation of people’s attitudes towards Asian males shift over the years. What started out as self imposed fears because of so much racism of the 90′s to Asian females breaking into the mainstream media scene, there has never been a time (IMHO) of such a violent change in the view of The Asian male in American society. I have certainly witness my own transformation between rejection of my own race and culture (as a reaction to the racism of the 90′s) and feeling attracted to white women (the prize factor) To a more settled and less reactive psyche. I now realize my formative years taught me lessons on self perception and preference setting. Now a days, I am simply attracted to women with great charm and good looks, and it has so much to do with personality beyond appearance. I do find blond and blue/green eyes to be my main preference, and I’d like to think it’s simply what I’m attracted to also. If I may pass along my thoughts on how to meet more Asians guys specifically, just be yourself and approach them with an open mind. Don’t bring any pre- conceived notions into the mix.. Other than whether you like their appearance.

    I think this is the point Heather is making here in a well constructed way. The worlds full of generalities and poorly represented factoids (small penuses, extra smart, too nice, chauvinist).. There are all kinds of types out there. Lucky for you ladies, the Asian population in America is on the uptick, and you can break the geophaphical barriers with Facebook, online dating sites, etc. (be safe of course )

    Good hunting
    - American dude born in HK, raised in the us

    • Ruin

      ‘Good hunting’… Nice way of putting it, Thumbs Up! ^^

      You give some sage advice. Reading about your preferences, I just want to ask: What’s your opinion on dark blonde/brunette hair and green-gray eyes???

      Yes, that was my very poor attempt at flirting. Still, you’re right: I’d rather be going out with someone with a good personality and wit than an utter SituAsian with no conversational skills (excusing the term).

      Thanks for saying what many people don’t have the courage to say on behalf of Asian males.

      Good hunting,

      Ruin
      -a WF Brit with Scots heritage, currently in England. ^///^

    • Yh0016

      This asian-going-mainstream scenario has a lot to do with China taking over the world economy. The U.S and other western countries are racing to establish better partnership with China. The easiest way to go about is though the media. In the western worlds, the notion money walks bull shiiiit talks is very true.

  • Blondie

    Im also a blonde white girl and I think we are sooo alike!!! LOL>  Do you know anywhere to meet cute Korean guys in NYC?

    • K-Dude

      Korean dude.
      I’m in Maryland.  I can drive to NYC.

    • Johnny

      Umm right here : )

  • Aussy chic

    Love the article – can fully relate  :D 

  • Reigny2002

    I am an Asian guy and prefer Caucasian woman. Anyone from the NYC area?

    • Deuzchland

      What is your problem with white men that want to date asian women then?

      • Hxly2

        I don’t have any problems with white men who want to date asian women.  What I don’t like are white men who date asian women but get upset with asian men dating white women.  I also don’t like white men who want asian women, but hate asian men.  Once I was walking down the street and an wmaf couple was walking toward me.  I was just minding my own business but as we passed, the wm leaned toward me so that our faces were practically touching and started yelling and making shrill animal-like screeching sounds.  I just ignored him and continued walking, but kept wondering if he thought that acting like a fool would impress the woman he was with.  Then it occurred to me that maybe she didn’t care if he was a weirdo as long as he was white and breathed.  LOL

        • Yh0016

          That is the american way. White guys love to bully other races to show their supremacy and to impress girls. There are simply too many idiots out there. I agree with you – “… that maybe she didn’t care if he was a weirdo as long as he was white and breathed” 

          • Kristen

            They both sound like weirdos.

    • Ruin

      No, sigh, not from NYC, but still, any East Asians from Great Britain here? There are plenty of Asian men in my hometown, but they tend to be attached to girls of the same ethnicity. Sigh… We have plenty of tips for Asian men to help them approach white women, but are there any for white girls wanting to a approach Asian men? Any tips would be great! XXX

  • H7zAngel

    My African American/Caucasian/Cherokee daughter (who is under 17) is the same way…Her preference is  Korean Guys (she likes them between the ages of 17 and 19).

  • Silentartist

    I’ve given up on dating all together so this article is quite an interesting read. And by given up I don’t mean I’m a rapist or something. There’s just too much confusion/drama involved with relationships for me. There too much drama for any interaction to be honest. And all this controversy over race preference only furthers my aspiration to wander off into the trees and stay there. It will be a happy ending for me though because even if I could have found the perfect girl, I would have ended up standing over her grave decades later or her over mine. I hope you live a happy life with whichever Asian of your dreams you grow old with.

  • Deuzchland

    If you date asian men who hate white men than you do hate your own race. Just saying.

  • Deuzchland

    STD ridden slut. These men do exactly what they accuse “asiaphiles” of.

    • Hxly2

      If Heather dates only Asian guys her chances of catching STD are MUCH lower that if she dates other races.  The following link from the CDC shows the rates of HIV for 2006-2009 and Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, and Syphillis 2006-2010.  Asian men had by far the lowest rate of STD every year.  It just proves your ignorance.

      http://www.cdc.gov/std/stats10/minorities.htm

  • Milena

    You didn’t explain very well why you’re attracted to Asian guys. Traits that an Asian guy has to have for you to be attracted to him, can be found in any man, not only Asians.  As for me, I really find Asian culture interesting, because i’ve gotten a glimpse into especially Korean culture while watching a lot of historical and daily dramas. There is for instance this formal and informal speech they use and the importance their family has to them. There must be a lot more to it but you can’t really know from dramas alone.
    In conclusion i don’t realy have a preference for Asian guys who look Asain and don’t know or aren’t interested in their culture and language.
    Honestly i’d really like to have an Asian frined who has his culture in his heart but they are probablly in their country of birth :lol, that’s why i’m actually learning languages to go there myself someday in the future.

  • Deuzchland

    you have some fucking daddy issues.

  • Mjay

    I’m half white half mexican and my husband is half korean half guamanian. He is so hot!! lol. I love Asian men too, and I too prefer Asian men to any other race. One thing that I am really attracted to are their eyes!!!! I love those chinky -.- eyes!!!! (When I am talking about Asian men,  I am talking about those who are chinky :) and I am not racist :)

    • Yh0016

       yea you fcuking racist. you one eye cunt white bitch

  • Johnsmith

    I’m asian and I used to date a white chick. After we call it quits, she started dating a white guy which she ended settling down with. I have no hard feelings about it and never wonder why she’s not with another asian guy? Anyways, I started to try to date asian women and man was she furious. Just seeing an asian chick in the picture made her weird. She was just so irrational about things. I thought we could still be friends but she started making harmless racial comments and started to mess around with my personal life. She started stealing from me. Before that, she was never ever like that towards me. 

  • Dirk

    I too feel the article doesn’t explain why you like asian dudes except for cute faces but just about everyone would agree cute is cute.  most white women have a notion just about every asian dude is effeminate and knows only thing they know from tv and movies that all east asian men are bottemless nerds or one dimensional martial arts experts or the weak business man or the stereotypical foreign exchange student.  because of this, white/Latin women in general are racist to minorities especially asian guys.  there are quite a few youtube videos of white/latin women and even asian women making fun of asian guys like England and Australia believe it or not.

    • Leebeedoe

      I disagree. I’m Vietnamese and I’m dating a Venezualan woman and we are quite happy. Her best friend, who is half Mexican, half Brazillian, is together with a Vietnamese man. Another of her close friends, a Brazillian dancer, is also with an Asian Male. I see more & more Asian men with non-Asian women everyday. Particularly Latin Women…

  • hislop123

    I think a lot of white women feel threatened by asian women: asian women tend to be better groomed and more intelligent, and that scares white females because they’ve been told all their lives that they’re the acme of feminine beauty and excellence in the world (this explains why so many of them are pathologically narcissistic). As a white male, white women dating asian men does not bother me in the least. I feel this way simply because I know that asian men will eventually learn, the hard way, what white men have been forced to learn over time: white women are a bad investment – as a spouse, partner, or as a mother. there is a reason why, save for getting a green card or landed immigrant status, you do not see men from other cultures aggressively pursuing white north american females for marriage or long-term relationships: word gets out eventually, and white women in our society just don’t offer enough of the things – strong personal grooming, strong values, maturity – that men want. With their own numbers in relative eclipse and with all those beautiful women in the world from all over the world, men have options nowadays and men are finally taking advantage of those options.

    I wish my asian brothers all the best – but they will learn as we did.

    • Anonymous

      Well sir, Classifying all white women as awful its just…ignorant.
      Its true that everyone stereotypes to an extent. Our brains,as human beings,naturally tend to sort and classify info BUT to believe and practice in such blatant discrimination is just sad.

      If a women is awful,she is awful.The color of her skin would not determine her skill set in a relationship nor will it determine who she is as an individual.
      I am a white women and I HAVE strong personal grooming,my values are high and so are my morals which sometimes are a lot for a lot men to deal with seeing as I wont sleep with them within a week.I am young and I am more mature then many others.I’m still in high school,I take college courses,hold a steady job, and volunteer on weekends.My bills get paid,I get fed and My school gets taken care of.

      So sir,I am don’t believe your statement holds any argument. Stating that White women are lacking (probably based on a few bad relationships on your part) is too broad a classification for such a small thing.
      All white women “bad investments” just like all women of other races are not necessarily “good investments” either.

      But thank you for you input,however useless it may be. :)

  • Yh0016

    Koreans are not the only Asians. So if you like and only want to date Koreans, do say you like “Koreans”. FYI, there are chinese, japanese, indonesians and many other asian ethnicity.

    • Willhelm Willhelmsson

      i’m agreed with u! Asians r not koreans solely…..but more than that!!!! please check South East Asians out!!! We r thankful if the white people explore us!

      • Ruin

        Will, if South east Asian are anything like you, then exploring will definitely be a pleasure!!!

        Sorry, bad flirting alert, I know. But still, Asian, intelligent AND long hair? You’ve got my number!

  • Yh0016

    You like asian (Korean) guys because they will spend money and time on you and then they are easier to dump. We all know you write for AWMM and you like your job.

  • mtd

    I never thought of dating an Asian man until I met my boyfriend. I always dated white Italian type guys. Where I live it’s definitely a more white to Asian ratio, and I’m the only one in this type of relationship where I live. Now I couldn’t imagine being with anyone else. My boyfriend is Korean and I love everything about him. It definitely depends on the personality and such. But thanks for the article it was a good read.

  • Guest

    I believe that you have the right to date who ever you like to date, however, what you are saying here is equally racist to saying I don’t date asian men. To make such blanket statements your are generalizing a group of men for set characteristics based on their race. Truth be told, in either case you are excluding races as dating choices. What is wrong with just liking men in general? When you do put a label on this be conscious of what that is stating and the inherent racism behind that label. This is a major problem seen more popularly with Asian women and how they are fetishized by white men, who sometimes only like them for being Asian rather than being a unique individual. 

    My point is that to exclusively date a race is just as bad as to exclusively not date a race. 

    • Kristen

      I agree with this.

  • Allissa

    I dated an Asian guy. Worst mistake of my life. 

    • Ruin

      Funnily enough, but I really doubt that all Asian guys are the same as your horrible (I’m guessing) ex. I bet that if you tried dating Asian guys again, you’ll have a better experience. That may be an assumption in one way or another on my part, but still, I think it makes sense.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100003307697956 Kieran Tsao

      Strange, I don’t know of any case of a girl dating ONE white guy and saying “fuck, I’m never dating one again”. If anything it’s worse with stereotyping asians because there are over a billion of them, under half a billion for whites.

      So where do people get off stereotyping them all because of 1, 2 or even 100???

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_OBVTUO4WUABRKCNFUTXVSNMVGA Cat

    I think that even if the first stereotype were true (when pigs fly), it’d work out perfectly since I don’t think that my stick of a body could handle a big one. Everything inside me is small, too. XP

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100003307697956 Kieran Tsao

      Well that’s just it. “Even if”… you, white women, white men and it seems asian women have no idea. And if you did, you’d only have an idea with one particular guy. Say if you slept with a black guy and he had a small dick, would you stereotype them all to have small dicks? Indeed, if you slept with an asian guy with a big dick, would you stereotype them all to have big dicks?

  • Jennyffer

    You go girl, I’m the same way.

  • Nunyabusiness

    Um… yeah, honey. I’m going to have to go ahead and say that people who question your choices aren’t doing it because they’re jealous. Mmmkay?

    More power to you though. Asian men are at the bottom of the dating food chain but everybody needs love. I’m think it is very generous that you’re willing to take one for the team.

    • Markjj355

      “I’m think it is very generous…”. Wow. Your English is as horrible as your attitude.

  • http://twitter.com/mynameisgoose Goose

    I’m so in.

  • Adarlin24

    I have to agree, asian men are hot physically and mentally. Although I have only had one asian boyfriend before, I have been looking for another one. I don’t really know what it is, I just see the man and I swoon. 

    • Adarlin24

      I also would like to post that I am open to all ethnicity, but Asians in particular make me melt. I love all men, all shapes, all sizes, as long as they can make me feel loved and I can love them in return. :) I’d also like to add I love all Asian types, Korean, Japanese, Chinese, I’m not sure if I listed them all, but let me know if I didn’t. 

  • Face000000

    You have clear scorn in your writing. Look, maybe the guys who asked you why you liked Asian guys over white guys went about it the wrong way, but there’s a fine line between being politically correct and facts. There have been numerous studies that have shown Asian men, on average, have smaller penises than Caucasian. Caucasians have smaller penises, on average, than African-Americans. Just because you want everything and everyone to be the same and fair doesn’t mean it is.

    • Hxly2

      Asian men are more intelligent than white guys, and white guys are more intelligent than African-Americans.

      • Ruin

        I see what you’re saying, and I say that maybe, just maybe, this tends to be true because of the ethnic stereotyping that everyone puts in place. I mean, if you tell a student that he/she is a failure, and treat them like a failure, they’ll become the failure you made them out to be! It’s the same with calling a student a success.

        Sorry, but no matter how much you’re revelling in your right to free speech, that still sounds incredibly ignorant.

    • guest

      On average, Asian men are better educated than Caucasian men, who on average are better educated than African-American and Hispanic men.  Asian men have lower unemployment rates than Caucasian men, who have lower unemployment rates than African-Americans and Hispanics.  Asian men have lower crime rates and have a much lower rate of incarceration than white men who have lower crime rates than African-Americans and Hispanics.

  • Dwaeji Tokki

         Wow, I like asians too and I’m not white, in fact I even said to myself I would date an asian guy and marry, one I really feel attached and attracted too. But I haven’t met an asian guy or dated any…I don’t live in the U.S.A and there’s not that much asian people living here as there are in North America. So, even though I have long-term plans of going off to Japan, Korea or Taiwan, I can’t garantee I would find the right couple(asian) there.

          I’ve accepted now that if the person I choose to be with(and if that person also chooses me…) is a caring, respectful, joyful, funny, a bit unusual(kind of like me)… ;3, creative!, attached to his principles, vegetarian/vegan(hehe:)?)…well…enough…Then I wouldn’t care if he is asian, caucasian,hindu, hispanic, african or a combination of any two or three ‘races’. Its not about the ‘race’(don’t like to use that word, for I don’t believe tere should exist such label or term to describe any living being’s physical characteristics…), its about the person with whom you’re with wich you care for and how that person cares for you equally, I’m not saying evething’ll be perfect…lol…ofcourse not ¬¬, still at least you’ll have somenone as such to be there for you and help you when whatever happens in your life. But…everyone has their own personal taste concerning any life matter, including a mate, so if that’s your choice then…woot for you. Just try to meet the right guy.That’s it then…quite a long comment indeed… -_-’ I’m tired of typed, I’m off to bed…phew

    • Dwaeji Tokki

      We should all accept each other as humans, not as an individual having
      these or those physical traits. These type of issues, ancient I shall
      add, I believe, are not important at all! Everybody has the right to date/marry who ever they want and so what if you feel attracted to an asian or a caucasian or an  african or a latin  >.<! If you feel happy with them then cross racism issues off the list too!!

  • Dwaeji Tokki

    We should all accept each other as humans, not as an individual having
    these or those physical traits. These type of issues, ancient I shall
    add,
    I believe, are not important at all! Everybody has the right to
    date/marry who ever they want and so what if you feel attracted to an
    asian or a caucasian or an  african or a latin  >.<! If you enjoy your life with that person then that's the only thing that matters. So, you can cross racism issues off the lis too!!

  • v.

    You should know, i am an Asian man and have a strong preference for American and English women, I don’t know if it is due to their beautiful pearl colored skin, the variety  of colour their hair or the the differences between our cultures, but I find Caucasian women in general to have a greater mystique to me personally. This attraction may be cause of human engineering which science has shown that men and women are attracted to other’s depending on the differences in their genetic makeup, or it could be the fact I tire of the accepted conventions of society these days where men and women of one race or colour should restrict and constrain reproduction to their own, which is quite stupid for it leads to inbreeding causing future generations to have more harmful mutations that cause disease and deformity. Also the rumor about the penis size of Asians that it is supposed to be small is quite whimsical, i don’t know it is fact or fiction but it does not apply to me i may be above or below average but you decide what is your average? What is 7-7.5 in your books? small average large? And I don’t know why some asian men are repulsed by Caucasian
     Women, I know some were because they were never accepted by them and some others due to pure intolerance. I have had many Caucasian
     Female friends that were interested in me due to my character not just the skin I wore, but i was never completley intrested in them, but there was a Caucasian girl named Tricia  I knew that I was head over heels for, more than just her stunning looks her strong female character she radiated just drew me in, I felt like I could spend all eternity with her and in her eyes I saw it too, we were always obnoxious around each other but when we were together it was like there was odd energy between us, wanting each other so desperately.  Sadly due to the fact there was no mixed racial couples in our school at the time, I never really had the courage to tell her how I felt about her and I regretted it, for she left the second year of our primary school (I know it’s a young time to think of such things, but i did-we did) I thought I would never see her face again, luckily fate gave me a chance, at the end of the first year of secondary school during the summer, I was enrolling into biology early on in summer school. It was there I saw her, at the bus stop in the summer heat, she had changed, she had become a more mature woman, and to my surprise a more beautiful one. I recognized her instantly from her crimson auburn hair color and at first I thought she had not recognized me, till she walked by me who had his foot against the glass and she looked me in the eye and unknowingly I let my leg fall as she passed and sat beside me, there was silence in the air between us, there was also that feeling from those years past. The silence was deafening to me, my heart felt like it was beating like the drums of the Congo, ever since she moved I felt like I had a thousand words to say to her, but when the time came the only
    Thing that I could say was…silence. I soon found out that she was currently In a relationship, sadly this made me feel petty, due to the anger I felt, if not the reason someone had found a brave enough heart to do what I could not, or that the other boys who I went to school with who never once glanced or mentioned her during the early years gawked at her lime vultures due to her new beauty that was not exclusive as it was in the past. Knowing her current relationship I knew I couldn’t approach her even though I wanted to with every whim, she had chosen this other 
    man and I could not force her to love me for it would not be true if I did. By the end of the summer what I felt had changed, there was the odd feeling from the past but with it was a strong antagonism for what I did and what I didn’t do. To this day Still regret those days, I have change from the past as I am sure she has, if fate should bring  us together one last time I would do what I could to be hers and make her mine.

    What I really wanted to say is that if anyone who feels the way  I do or the way I did, they shouldn’t let it go, dot care about what others think for it could ruin something great, 
    “if only I thought of something charming to say” I wouldn’t be alone…

    Ps. Some may think I am a coward in that I could not summon the courage to initially ask her, they wouldn’t know the difficulty, it was more than just simple infatuation.

    And i may be a coward to never have taken that chance but I don’t fear women in general and I definitely do not fear men, Especially the mindless brutes of modern day, on my rugby team
    I was one of the lightweights only at 140lbs but I hit fast and hard putting Down men from 100-280lbs There Is no need to fear men, were quite predictable and simple where women I fear I will never understand.

    • Adarlin24

      I enjoyed reading your post and was sad to hear about young love lost. If I had been Tricia I would have most likely said something regardless of school or not. But I only recently opened up as a social butterfly. I think its not about race, but your willingness to open up to each other. That being said, I am still attracted to Asian men as well as other races. :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/cuzzy.jp Katz Azuma

    Hello from Japan. 
    Why are you and your acquaintances creating so many dramas on something that isn’t very much a big deal if you think about it from a distance? 
    You like Asian men. Full stop. If one can’t take it as it is, that’s his/her problem. Just tell those people “if you don’t/aren’t willing to understand or can’t take it as it is, just STFU.” I like any woman and of course Caucasian women as well. To be honest if I had to choose either from Japanese or Caucasian, I would go for the latter. Some dickhe.. *cough*, nice people kindly try to give me an “advice”, but they are not responsible about my life. Hope this slightly lightens your stress. Katsuya (Katz) from Japan

  • Willhelm Willhelmsson

    hi…i’m willy from malaysia,asian of course but I do like white women(westerners)…they seem so attractive,mature,supportive…..no prob dating white girls,asian girls as well…everyone just really draws my attention!!!! how about a skinny-long-haired guy like me?-willhelm willhelmsson

    • Pinacle

      you are a cutie! you can for sure get white girls! :)

      • Willhelm Willhelmsson

        thx pinacle! I wonder what makes whites call Asians cute? does it have to do with our feature? I find white guys/gals r also cute!!!! we r all the same,it’s just our complexion that distinguishes everyone of us as well as culture…nothing more that that!!! in that case, i’ve found many white guys/gals can get along with shy asians without hassle!!! anyone here, please explain to me how can we asian guys approach white girls….i’m a bit confused with the art of approaching……any suggestion would really be appreciated…sorry 4 my bad english

        • Seminolekitten

          Hey! Well i’m white…and a girl…who likes Asians…soooooo i thought i could try to help. For me i think the facial features are different and appealing. A big thing for me is that they have to be really funny and fun but also smart. Approaching white girls is the same as approaching any girl. Just be yourself, and if they don’t like how you are, well then it’s time to move on to the next girl :)

          • willhelm willhelmsson

            thx seminolekitten….but i’ve found that it is not that easy to approach girls..i mean white girls using our style of approaching. Asians tend 2 be so shy n it’s different with white girls ( sorry boys ), we find that white people are not as friendly as asians. They seem  …mmm…somewhat serious!!!! this makes Asians scared to get along with white people but it depends…..In your case, i think u r  the most okay since u love Asians. good sharing…thx :)

          • http://twitter.com/theasianplayboy JT Tran

            Having taught hundreds of students, I can safely say that Asian men have a distinct advantage when it comes to approaching white women. Willhelm, have you subscribed to the newsletter to get the ebook and 60 minute audio that describes how Asian men can succeed at dating?

          • willhelm willhelsson

            thx anyway JTT, I haven’t subscribed the stuff u’ve just said…before I frgt,what do u mean by “distinct advntg”? does it only valid in white people countries? how about in Asian countries? If I don’t bother you, I really need a precise answer for that.:)…..

          • http://twitter.com/theasianplayboy JT Tran

            Well, it’s explained more indepth in the audio you get as a subscriber, but basically as an Asian man you will always be more successful with a direct style of approaching, see 
            http://www.abcsofattraction.com/blog/how-to-do-an-indirect-or-direct-approach/

          • willhelm willhelmsson

            thx a lot JTT n co….I appreciate your help….God bless everybody

          • willhelm willhelmsson

            thx a lot JTT n co….I appreciate your help….God bless everybody

  • Guest

    hey, i’m a white male. i’ll tell you what. you distract the asian males, then i can go after what i truly love, asian females. then everyone is happy lol

    • Ruin

      Can’t argue with that logic, nosiree.

    • guest

      I read your “i’ll tell you what” line in Hank Hill’s voice.

      Yuup..

  • Lui504

    Yea I don’t like ugly faces either so it’s a good thing there are Asians out there that like us huh

    • Willhelm Willhelmsson

      sure…we like anyone who we feel n see good….peace!

  • Thegroup88

    I doubt any adult white male with half an education would care what type of men you like to date, much less stick around to make insulting comments about it. However, given what you’ve said about “white guys”, I suspect that you DO have some kind of issue going on. Either that or you’re just desperate for attention.

  • Bennettwalker1

    Small dicks need lovin too. I appaude your charity work.

    Here is the racial sexual order:

    Women want black dick for good sex, white dick for money and security, Latin dick for romance, and Asian dick for………. They don’t want Asian dick. lol

    • Guest

      and how many asian dicks have you sucked to know they are small???

    • Judanfang

       OMG, this is all stereotyping. Do you think the latino gangsters in LA are romantic? geesh!

      • Judanfang

         And Asian dick could also provide money BTW

    • Ruin

      Wonderful, like I haven’t seen this kind of ignorance before… is that a Bennettwalker1 original? Believe it or not, loving Asian men is not ‘charity work’ in the same way loving plus-sized women is not charity. If you honestly love someone for who they are, then size shouldn’t matter. As for you, I don’t need to know your ethnicity to know that, for your ignorance, crude manner and racism, you don’t get many women fall at your feet, huh? AAt least, not many qualities girls.

      Well done, it’s because of people like you that racial hatred still exists. I hope that you succeed in earning the white hood you’ve been working so hard for. (Harsh, yes, but if this is the impression you’re giving people, what else are we to think?)

  • Jermainesoto

    does anyone remember the name video and this latina chick with a small tattoo of a heart on the back of her shoulder she was fucking Keni Styles it was a long time ago like 2007 or 2008????

  • chillindudeword

    Lucky for us white guys…you’re the exception!

  • chinitoboytv

    I like white girls too, it is not how they look like but how can be more look mature.. than Asians who always look like a kid. Asian here looking for white girl., I am so attractive to them!

    • Ruin

      Mature white girls your thing? I was mistaken for a teacher by a fellow student once! The jokes aside, I do like Asian guys myself, even though I know that as a 5’8″ approx white woman with curly hair and curves I’m nothing like the Asian girls I often see Asian guys arm-in-arm with (that’s the case where I’m from at least).

      As for you, mister Chinitoboytv, if there aren’t girls queueing up for you, they probably need to go to Specsavers! Yes, sir, if that picture is actually yours, then you ARE quite attractive (would put my own pic up, but the image toggle thing doesn’t like me…)  

      If a white girl is what you’re after, you shouldn’t have a problem! XXX

  • Sotheara85

    Hey Huggable heather! Screw the world. I think you’re hot. I’m Cambodian American 5’7″ and I love my asian women, but white girls do it better for me. So let me know what’s up :D

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Nina-Cchi/100000520074903 Nina Cchi

    i also loooove asian guys,they’re the hottest.

  • IamMe

    So why do white girls think Asian men are better?…lol
    I was reading to see if I can find that out (which is the title), but it ended before it was revealed. LOL
    Comon’, it’s important to me LOL

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Nina-Cchi/100000520074903 Nina Cchi

      i think this  issue is strongly related to each girls’s prefferences.
      so why do white girls like asian guys?
      we’re all humans,aren’t we.? things like attraction comes naturally .
      idk if they’re better,but all the asian guys i know have the best personalities.
      so,i think girls tend to go after those cute cat-like eyes and character.

      just my opinion though ^^

    • Ruin

      As a white female attractted to Asian males, I have to say that, personally, it’s just a preference, you know? Yes, I am majorly interested in Japanese culture, but have been since I was 6 or 7 years old. It’s like how any Asian man on here may say ‘I just like white girls’. You don’t have to read too much into it to understand it. Before I get accused of having Yellow fever, please understand that, yes I would take a second glance at an AM because of his physical appearance, but I would do the same if he was white or black. In reality, most people will take aesthetics into account first before anything else – it doesn’t mean I’m not willing to get to know him! I wouldn’t stick around with a complete jerk just because he was a member of my racial preference, the same as I would expect that a guy may base their first impression of me on appearance but get you know the real me in time (I recommend it, totally).

      If you want to know why white girls prefer Asian men, just ask the individual girl! No one girl is the same as the next, so don’t assume one girl’s reason applies to all of us. You’ve got my personal reason, make of it what you will, but it won’t be the same as the next girl’s. Now, isn’t this better advice than a blanket reason? We’ve only got our own experiences to base things on, so don’t be afraid to ask!!!

      Hope this helps! XXX

  • Laurence Hooper

    I hate to break it to you Asian guys, but “Heather” isn’t a “heather” at all. Heather is a man pretending to be a woman. Most likely, “Heather” is an Asian guy sitting behind a computer, very angry.

    • http://twitter.com/theasianplayboy JT Tran
    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1506878039 Heather Johnson

      Oh no! Someone on the internet took way too much time and over-analyzed my picture to make me feel bad! :(

      Alright, you got me. I’m not all that fit. Or at least, I wasn’t back when we made these photos/videos in 2010. Now that my braces are off (which, actually, gave the effect of me sucking in my cheeks) and I’ve slimmed down a bit, I’m no longer all that self-conscious about myself.

      The girl you think I am is, in fact, a type. You sir, are correct. JT covered it in the article about the evil women that target Asian men. I believe it was the “bargain shopper”. 

      You don’t know me so it’s forgivable, but I abhor the use of White privilege. I wouldn’t use my race as something to dangle in front of an Asian guy because that would mean I think Whites are better than Asians. This, of course, is very much untrue. 

      I don’t feel rejected by White males, either. Honestly, I wish they would stop asking me out because I feel bad when I have to turn them down.

      So…again, another point rendered invalid. In the end, I suppose you can’t make assumptions. First you call me an angry Asian man and when that was proved to be incorrect, you make jabs at my weight and other irrelevant matters. You have taken it upon yourself to put me down, which is fine, because I’ve made myself vulnerable by being on the internet.

      So, faceless man, congratulations. You called me fat and a bargain shopper. While you sit there with your smug sense of self-satisfaction, I’m going to resume my life and remember that there are people out there that have this strong desire to feel good about themselves and think the only way to accomplish that is to pick on others. *golf clap*

      • Angel

        Hi Heather,
        All my life i tought i wasn’t attracted ti Asian men. Well life prooved me wrong!!! Haha i spent 3 weeks in Vietnam lately and  OMG! Yes they are attractive… I almost felt in love with a yunger man… well 11 years yunger….
        I’m very happy to read your post and i think i was foolish enough to thinnk i was only attracted to `white mens`. I don”’t know for all asian mens but Vietnamese are soooooo romantic! My god !!  was totaly charmed, and the young man i met made me laugh soo much and i felt like young woman again . Please do not misundertand my saying: I did not have sex at all… so there is no fetishism or what so ever. Than Guy was very charming, romantic and mede me laugh so much. On top of that he was absolutely hansdsome (in my eyes).

        But unfortunately my vacations got to and end… I will go back next year this is for shure . And we never know… mayby get married and bring back thant hansdome funny men i met on the other side of the world ;)

      • Jamie

        I love Asian guys! White girl here… They are so much more romantic and generous than white men! More fit and health concious as well; something I find sexy. The penis rumor is not really true (I’m an escort) the only time it might be is with the uncircumcised which goes for any race. Hmmmm…There’s a lot of hateration going on here? Wonder if it’s some jealous white guys??? You white boys have been purchasing Asian girls for years!!! Time us white girls Get us an asian… You Asian girls can have our white guys, pleeeease take them! Oh and I have to admit white female/ Asian male is way cooler and more genuine than af/wm… Even historically… Look at Bruce lee

  • Jvquarck

    That’s profound talking

  • Marinapepperina

    YOUR SOO VAIN! lol I think in all my days as much as I like a cute face I would rather be with someone I can be myself with and we could be compatible.I like asian guys and irish guys but looks are not everything.stop wasting your life looking in the mirror when you could be like me and feel good about yourself because guys dont like girls that are too up themselves,just be a happy girl…if you can

  • http://twitter.com/KatlynActis Katlyn Actis

    Honestly I can say I am the same..ish :)  
    I don’t exactly KNOW why I’m attracted to Asian guys.
    and I kind of have noticed Korean guys in particular…
    but maybe thats because I’m majoring in Korean language and culture haha :3
    BUT what I do know is there isn’t anything wrong with just dating what you like!
    I have dated a few guys of other races ( Im only 18 so i’m not an expert or anything) but I admit my preference IS Asian men.
    I have also started to notice that A LOT of Asian guys believe white girls are automatically slutty because they are white.
    Which to be honest may be true in some cases.
    I guess the most attractive thing I have found about Asian guys are that they are pretty damn funny and a lot that I have met have been family orientated.
    I also seem to meet a lot of shy Asian guys as well,Which can be frustrating at times but I find kind of cute :)
    but what I do have to say is that your preference is your preference.Do what makes you happy and shy Asian dudes,Its okay if you don’t think your gods gift to all women but have a little confidence. Everyone has something great about them so find what it is and get confidence from that. :p

  • Filthyfumanchu

    White guys don’t like sharing, Asians guys however, dont mind sharing. Thanks for taking one for the team, or ahum 20 or 30, or 40×3. haha
    I dont mind what you like, just keep your freak show out of Asia there are plenty of imports in the western world. We arent too keen on the feminist creep toward the east.
    True sportsmen (Great White Hunters) hunt their quarry in their own habitat. Asian men do know how hot their women are. You will figure it out sweetheart. I do encourage you to procreate we all like mestizo who knows maybe in 20 years i will be single again. :)

    • Deltajava

      I’m guessing black and latino men cramp your style…

    • Filthyfumanchu

      No they dont cramp my style :) they dont much like black guys here so that is totally non issue. haha.. most of these asian guys are married wanting a better passport.. the white girls here take many to satisfy.. imagine that..its okay as long as you dont take them back to your country and inadvertently become a part of immigration fraud..If you control the gold you control the girl.. better you dont marry though so you can toss to the side.. they simply dont think as western culture nor do their laws really favour the feminist.. they dont want that, and why the hell would they? Better to get a vasectomy and use as a semen dumpster

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100003291351948 KatlynAsianlover Roberts

      umm…

  • Lindsay

    All these racist white boys are making me laugh.

    Haha anyway, I’m not sure why I prefer Asian guys. Probably a combination of looks, culture and personality or simply I just like what I like. My boyfriend is Laotian and he actually prefers white girls over Asians. Why? He thinks most Asian girls are immature, lack certain body features (T and A), look too young, have strict parents and simply just doesn’t find them all that pretty. Anyway, I know not all of these things are true but this is just how he feels I guess. My friends think I’m weird for dating Asian guys even though he is the first full blooded Asian I’ve dated (my last was 1/4 Korean). The all ask if I like small dicks and the usual stereotypes but I just smile and tell them that my Asian boyfriend is the best person I’ve ever slept with and though he may be smaller than some guys I’ve been with well at least he knows what the fuck he’s doing. What attracted me the most about him was he wasn’t scared to let me know he liked me and in the end I dumped a boyfriend of 3 years for him.

    One thing I did wish I could change about him would be his ability to speak Laotian. He can understand it but doesn’t speak it enough to still be fluent as he might have been as a kid. I wish he could because I’d like to learn it and then I would be able to communicate with his mother (and other elders) better because she doesn’t know much if any English.

    • Deltajava

      The small dick stereotypes were always unusual… unless they were suggesting they had personal experience with asian cock (and plenty of it) to get a good sample enough to share their results?

      • Ruin

        Yes, the stereotypes are always odd, but do bear in mind that every myth was based on a grain of truth. Yes, that sounds bad, but look at my reply to Kaitlyn Gulick to why I think it isn’t…

        And you’re right, any guy who has that to say about Asian cock must either be very stupid or VERY well informed!

  • Jojo lee

    Hi
    I’m also attracted 2 Asian guys… I’m not white but I’m Asian but the other part of Asian not Japan or Korea etc etc…. I seriously don’t know why I’m so attracted to Asian guys 2? And I’m not racist but Im seriously attracted to them!…
    Alot of ppl told me why ur not attracted to ur own race .. I just told them my eyes follow Asian guys I can’t take my eyes off them I’m attracted to them!..and yes I hate ppl being racist of this issue !..boys r boys but some of them are different and some times your eyes can not let them go….

    • Ruin

      I get what you mean. Would we complain if a guy said he preferred blondes? No! That’s just their preference. It’s not a question of race, but just preference. You’re right, my eyes seem to follow Asian guys too so I know what you mean. Once again, I’m glad I live in a multicultural place where I can not only find a cute Asian guy easily, but there’s more chance of him having a great personality!

      All the best out there, Jojo lee!

  • Condor

    Hi Heather, I thought your commentary was very cool. I’m an Asian guy (your type lol) and I say more power to you! :)

  • http://twitter.com/animefangirl92 Kaitlyn Gulick

    I would have to say I agree with basically everything you’ve said in this article (my preferences a bit different of course). I’ve also had people ask me “Why do you like them?” or the question I get most often “But are they… y’know… small?” I swear it’s always that wording! And I’ve even had Asian females ask me this one which surprised me. I never quite know how to answer the first question though. I’ve never really thought about it, I just am. (No one ever accepts that answer, however.) I’ve dated every race but in the past so people can’t even call me racist or anything for it. I may have even recognized my preference earlier if it wasn’t for the fact that there were like 3 Asians in my high school, 2 of which were girls and the other of which was my friend’s brother…  The questions get annoying so I wholely agree with your sentiment about why should it be anyone else’s business why I like Asian men.

    • Ruin

      Funny thing, Kaitlyn Gulick, but I heard an interesting story from a white girl on yahoo answers concerning the penis-size issue. According to her, (and I may be paraphrasing a bit here), but although it has been her experience that Asian males are slightly smaller, the fact is that more or less the same amount of blood goes into the Asian penis on arousal as in the white penis.

      But now, heres the rub (and that wasn’t an intended pun), but if you have the same amount of blood going each penis, one of them slighter smaller than the other, what do you think the result is? If you guessed that that the Asian penis is much harder because of it, then you were right!

      Yes, a post with some gruesome biology, but I’m just passing on the message here. A pretty good message too. Sorry if it wasn’t exactly on the same topic as your message, but if any white guy question you about whatever penis issue they think there is in relation to race, there is always that piece of knowledge to pass on. Either that or just asking them if they’ve got personal experience of that.

  • Salvableruin

    You call yourself attractive. I can’t deny that. But like you, I am not interested in white girls. Asian only, and Korean or Japanese especially. Much more attractive. 

    • nahh

      then why are you here?

      • Salvableruin

        I’m not sure how to make sense of your question. It’s the internet. I got here my googling stuff. I read the article with interest. I posted a response. I’ve as much business being here are you. 

        Are you here because you are attracted to the author? That’s not why I read her article. 

        • Dragonballevosucked

          Actually the author is really hot.

      • http://twitter.com/bregalad_first Yodakin Bregalad

        Are you asking why people are on the internet?

  • Lozgcrocks

    TROLL. 

    • Salvableruin

      Thanks for that comment. I wasn’t intending to troll, but I can understand your perspective. Of course, the article itself could then be accused of trolling. Anyway, I hope my comment doesn’t upset anyone. It’s just my personal feeling. 

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  • Ruin

    Any Asian (particularly Japanese) guys in England, particularly the North? Yes, a plea from a single white girl, but an honest one. Thank you! XXX

    • Whitewolf

      If by ‘North’ you mean Cumbria, Durham & Northumberland then you’re probably out of luck. I live in Cumbria and I’ve never seen an Asian in my life.

      You’d have to go all the way South to Manchester or Birmingham – plenty of Pakis there. Japanese? I dunno. Go to London maybe?

      • Ruin

        By North, I mean South Yorkshire, and there are plenty of Asians here – I’m just asking if there was anyone who’d be interested in little old me.

        Oh, do us all a favour and ustop using offensive laguage like ‘Paki’ to refer to South-East Asians – they aren’t all from Pakistan (other countries of origin include India, Iran, Iraq, Bangladesh and so on and so forth, espcially since you find many South-east Asians were born in Britain and are as British as British-born White people are.

        So there. Any East Asians in South Yorkshire, UK interested? Chinese, Korean, Taiwanese, Thai… I’m not that fussy over heritage. Thank you XXX 

        • Petpalacewally

            please come to Canada and hit me up, Iwill be glade to help you out and I don’t even need to see what you look like.

          • Ruin

            Would actually consider it if I had the money for Canada~ So far away though ):

            There’s so much advice on hand to help Asians get a white woman, but not enough for the vice versa. Any advice for me??? Thankyuuu XXX

          • Indianbro

            Thailand is in South-East Asia. The other countries you mentioned are in South and West Asia.

  • http://twitter.com/bregalad_first Yodakin Bregalad

    Sounds like some kind of fetish.
    Or maybe you’re a big strong girl who likes puny guys?
    Anyway I can relate (somewhat). I’m a scandinavian boy, and from what i hear “our” women are the best looking in the world, but I still like hispanic girls for some reason.
    The finest girls i’ve met are from south america.

    • Maskdazorro

      some of the ugliest pencil dik morons I know are scandinavian

  • Whitewolf

    This sounds like attention seeking. You’re just one girl Heather. Countless millions of others would disagree with you.

    In fact you’re the exception that proves the rule.

    Whatever turns you on though.

  • Doodguy1982

    Heather, dude, thanks for bringing Asian guys some justice. There needs to be more white people like you. It’s so sad for many of us Asian dudes, and nobody including many Asian chicks don’t even look in our direction, which I acknowledge as understandable. Filipino guys and some Vietnamese dudes are different, however, because I observe that a good number of them have no problems getting girls. It must be because they’re like super gay, and girls like that for some reason. JK.
    For the rest of you inquiring about sexual mystique, I also acknowledge that many of the rumors about Asian guys are true, hahaha, go to the gym and see for yourself. It’s out now, are you all finally happy, you pervs? My dad, however, is the exception. No seriously man, I recently saw him on accident walking around, and I was like, “Doooood!”
    Anyways, many of us might not be well-endowed with physical attractiveness and heft below the waste, but at least we’re good at making money. The lightened load also allows us to be nimble, flexible, and maintain the life-saving ability to run away from bullies. If you’ve never seen an Asian haul ass, then go over to a school bus stop around 3:00PM and wait. And, that, is what I consider to be a fair trade. We might not be virile, but at least we live in great comfort and live a life that’s well lived. 

    • BARNEY

       Speak for yourself Doodguy1982, not all ASIANS got their ass bullied around like you.

      • yeah

        There are a lot of negative stereotypes for asian men…

    • Petpalacewally

      that’s some funny shit!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100003291351948 KatlynAsianlover Roberts

    I love Asian men :)

  • Thanh Chau

    That’s what my girlfriend says about me :) but I’m not full Asian so Im kinda cheating ;)

  • Paradiseapplebody

    With high unemployment and low savings among the white American population, Asian men who have good savings habits and higher incomes often make up for a smaller junior which may be less endowed. Economic security is paramount and Asian men often are better able to provide that. You see that most BMWs are owned by Asians and his smaller pecker can be overlooked when he can materially provide.

  • Paradiseapplebody

    I see white women dating Asian men as nothing more than a gold digger.

  • Maskdazorro

    Heather I appreciate your moxy.  I’m an asian american guy from California.  I’m currently dating a blonde (hot!).  My buddies are both white and asian.  Some of my white buddies only date asian women. That’s fine…to each their own. I don’t see the big deal. They want to rendezvous with asian…heck….great…we’ll take your own too!
    I see asian guys with caucasian women here all the time. I love it.  Who gives a F*** what others think.  People are going to hate no matter what you do…especially if you’re successful.  Kudos to you Heather.  

  • Ferret

    seriously, get over yourself. You come off as super arrogant and I agree with others that you have something personal against white guys. I am also a white woman who prefers Asian men, but of course that doesn’t mean every other race is totally off limits. You seem to have more of a childish fetish that you want to advertise to the world because it is a less than common one than an actual preference. LOOK AT ME IM A WHITE WOMAN WHO LIKES ASIAN MEN.  
    And, amazingly, somehow you give the impression that Asian guys are not as good as white guys, even though you are saying that you Asian men are your type. You have bought into the stereotype and you make it sounds like Asian guys are lucky to have you or something. Which is why I reiterate: get over yourself. 

  • Daniel Kwok

    hello, i have bad experience of trying dating white girl.

    i have tried few times but never once succeded.

    any advice?

    sorry this is maybe out of the topis, but i just need some advice and help.

    i love white girl.

    Daniel Kwok

    • http://twitter.com/theasianplayboy JT Tran

      Hey Daniel, have you subscribed to our newsletter where you’ll be given a video on exactly how I approached an attractive blonde?

    • cool

      Hey Daniel…don’t try.  Women can smell desperation, BE NORMAL and be nice to her (but not overly nice like giving gifts).  Think of Han Solo and Princess leia in Star Wars, you have to be sarcastic and have a don’t care attitude.  Also, if you have any talents, you could impress her but don’t force it, think of Bill Murray’s character from Groundhog Day movie, he impressed the woman he liked when he was playing his keyboard at a party. 

    • cool

      Also, figure out what she likes and see if you have anything in common with her.  Just about all women assume guys only want them because women have a puss and most women are very cautious…unless of course if you’re a super attractive and famous guy like Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt or if you have the skills to attract women.  Even an ugly looking guy can attract women if he knows the skills. 

  • RavensRose

    Hey, I’ll be the to admit, my attraction to Asian me probably stemmed from  my love of the culture and this may make it  seem like i have “yellow fever”. I must say while i do prefer Asian me it is mainly because the Asian I have met so far hold the most of qualities of what i look for in a man. once again this may seem racist but it is purely preference. I have never actually let race define who i am with, nor will i let it.
    XD sorry for my little rant 

  • that guy

    I’m a white guy who just tends to find Asian women more attractive in general.  They are a little more conservative and usually have a good upbringing. They also make god mothers for the most part.  I find white women to be a little too self-absorbed.  They are usally more likely to sleep around before marriage.  I find that to be a turn off.  Besides, Asian females have sweet voices when they speak English.  At least most of them do.  That, along with their more feminine demeanor is what gets me.  I’m just one guy though, but I think others may feel the same way I do.  I like less drama, I think Asian females, especially well brought up ones, can give you a peacful marriage. 

    • yeah

      I agree, white women are very self-absorbed and sleep around a lot before marriage.

    • Petpalacewally

      You are absolutely right in every single word you said. I’m a vietnamese/Canadian so I know. I love white woman myself and love them for the one thing that asian girls lack. white woman are more exciting, they have more spunk to them, they aren’t afraid to get dirty with the boys, there is more action with them in life and especially in bed, they aren’t afraid to speak up and defend themselves when I am wrong. Keep in mind that when I say white woman, I men everything but Asian: Dutch,French,Russain, Norweigen, Canadian,American ECT. This topic sounds so racist but I’m far from it. I have friends of every minority. I love my heritage and who I am. I just find white women more atractive. That just shows you that it’s not all about looks. Every comment I read, it sounds like looks is the last on there list.

  • Christinea Thacker

     I too suffer from “yellow fever”. I caught it while I was in High School and dated a Japanese guy. On my fathers side of the family we have Koreans and Japanese. I have dated every other race (Black, White, Spanish, Arab, German, etc…) But I always end things quickly with them, because even if we have a lot in common, I am just not attracted to them. I am really attracted to Asian men. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and he is Thai. We live in the south and I get dirty looks all the time when we go out together. My father absolutely hates him, and the only reason for his hate is because my boyfriend is Asian. I have finally decided that from now on I will only date Asian men. I love their skin color, the shape of their eyes, how they are not very hairy, their lips, etc…(I can name  a hundred different things). Also i find it hilarious that every time you tell a man you date Asian men, they ask, “You like small cock?” I have never met a woman who asked me that. Maybe those guys just feel insignificant. I personally have no experience as I have only slept with Asian men, but i don’t think the size of the guys cock is really important when you like them and you both get along really well.

  • Graham Kelly416

    I love Asian men. They are truly amazing!

  • Amy Ali

    You know China is a large country.  There are a lot of minority areas in China. I think you guys are talking about the typical Chinese(the main race).  If you have interesting, you can look deep into this point.

  • Petpalacewally

     It’s all about preferance and has nothing to do with racist. I am an asian male( vietnamese-Canadian). I was born in Vietnam and came here when I was 4 years old. I speak both language fluently. It’s not because I hate my race, ashame or anything like that.I love my heritage but I just find white women more atractive. I know almost every white male would love to date an asian woman but it doesn;t mean they are ashame of there white partners.It’s an attraction you can’t control like being gay. You would be cheating yourself out of happiness if you listen to others. Love and the feeling of being love is an amazing thing, no matter if it’s with  a white,brown ,black ,blue, green person. I would do anything to find a white girl who will love me un conditionally and stand by my side for life. Off course I would provide her with every man should for there woman! I hope everyone finds that kind of love whatever your race is!

  • Danceharmony

    where did you get that shirt?? I need that!

  • Onetrueknucklehead

    I say its all about how you present yourself and being true to your self. You can be turned off or be disappointed when a white chick tells you to beat it or its not going to work and not her type but hey who cares right the world is full of women, its not just white Caucasian, there are Europeans too. But hey point is know how to present yourself and be your self just don’t over do it.

  • Nx2

    As an Asian American male (yes, there is a difference between Asian American and Asian seeing as how we live on opposite ends of the planet), I’ve dated mainly Caucasian women; never really thought about why. I have noticed, however, that people tend to lump them all into one, when there’s a VERY HUGE difference between the two (it’s easier to believe the worst, eh?). I’m 6’2, 190 lbs. Atypical? Only a little bit. The Asian American guys that I know (yes, the ones who’ve lived here all their lives, adopt the same diets/manners, not the FOBs living in ethnic bubbled communities), average about 5’10/5’11.

  • Nx2

    Just to ad to my previous post, I understand Heather’s point of view very well, except on the other side of the mirror. The first and most immediate stare-down I get are from any Asian women who catch wind that I’ve almost exclusively dated Caucasian women (I’m actually very cool with a lot of Caucasian males, strangely; the most biased attitude I get is actually from Asian women). I’ve been accused of everything from “race-traitor” to “redneck” (seriously??). But, like her, you can’t help but like whoever you like. And it’s true, it doesn’t give anyone a free pass, but definitely does get a foot in the door.

    • matt

      Those asian women are jealous and that’s interesting your white male friends are cool with it, maybe your white girlfriend is unattractive to them.  I’ve seen some hot white women with asian guys, but I’ve noticed these white women only care about money and some of them have mental problems lol.

      • Nx2

        Who knows, hm? My only advice is to never be bitter regardless of the outcome. Because you either come off sounding like you’re pandering for false hope, or looking for special attention as “reparations”. This coming from a guy who should, by all rights, be the most bitter of all, considering I actually had a sister who publicly made it her mission to show how “unAsian” she is by making fun of the men in her own family!

      • Nx2

        “maybe your white girlfriend is unattractive to them.  I’ve seen some hot white women with asian guys, but I’ve noticed these white women only care about money and some of them have mental problems lol.”
        I don’t think that was the case. She was actually very good looking (one of them was actually an ex of a friend of mine), I was not very rich (still in college) and she was a very stable and mature person; had a great relationship with her parents (her mother actually suggested that I get married to her)