[DISCLAIMER: I know some people will be offended by this article because it hits so close to home. However, there are a lot of good women with Asian men so I don't mean you girls specifically. But I'm sure you know of someone, maybe you're even friends with her, that fits the bill. You probably even know some poor Asian guy who's dating one of these women. Show him this article so he knows he can do better and share this article with her so she knows how selfish she's being. Anyways, take this article with the humorous and educational intent that it was meant and enjoy!]
An unavoidable question I’m constantly being asked by readers is “How can I tell if a girl is attracted to Asian guys?“ Another unavoidable question I get is “What KINDS of women like Asian men?”
I find it unavoidable because, well, I am the world’s preeminent Asian Dating Coach after all and I’m supposed to know that right? I’m supposed to be encouraging Asian men to specifically search out women who specifically look for only Asian men! RIGHT???
Unfortunately, I don’t think it’s a good mentality to have, first of all. Instead of CREATING attraction by being confident, you’re hoping that she’s giving you indications of interest so you’ll then BE confident. Which is the exact reverse of how you actually go about getting a girlfriend. You have to be confident first before she’ll be interested in you.
Anyways, I digress. I don’t like answering either question because, yes, there are plenty of women out there that genuinely like Asian men, but for every one of her there’s ten (10) other types that have ulterior motives for their preference. That’s right – there are women out there that wish to take advantage of you, my Asian male readers.
This is where our reputation for being a “Model Minority” comes back to bite us in the ass. Many of the things these women are looking to exploit and use are in fact the Asian man’s most positive attributes like:
- Being hard working
- Family Oriented
But how can this be a problem? These are good things to look for in a man, right? Yes and no. Let me explain, the problem with women who have an Asian male fetish (Yellow Fever or otherwise), is that they’re looking for someone to fulfill their own needs.
While everyone has needs in a relationship (and I don’t just mean the ones you find under the covers), these kinds of girls are only in it for themselves and find that the positive attributes of Asian men can fill that hole in them, whether it’s good or bad for the Asian male is entirely a moot point to her. This isn’t to say that these women are malevolent predators, they may not even be aware that they’re treating their partner as a stepping stool, but the lop-sided nature of the relationship is obvious to everyone to else.
These exploitative, “evil” women use Asian men for their own purposes that don’t always benefit us Asian men. This is why I personally think it’s more beneficial to meet women in real life who don’t have a particular preference either way. I want her to like ME for ME and who I truly am as person, not what she expects me to be or have her pre-judge me, even if it is in a positive stereotype.
Thus, I present to you the 13 types of women that exploit Asian men for their personal gain and pleasure. Due to the length of the list, there will be a Part 2 to the list and it is placed in reverse descending order of least physically attractive to the hottest and most exploitative. Lest you accuse me of being unobjective, being a male and all, I also enlisted the help of Huggable Heather to see who goes where.
13 Evil Women Who Exploit Asian Men (Part 1)
And so, without further ado…
#13: Anime Angels or a Weeaboo:
You know those cartoons we used to watch when we were little? Those bright and happy cartoons with giant robots, spacemen, fuzzy animals or some other wacky misadventures dubbed from Japan?
That’s called anime, and there is a rather large community of people, young and old, that still partake in it. There’s all types, too – the occasional reader for nostalgia purposes to the overly obsessed otaku and everything in between, these people have an altered misconception about Asians due to this form of media.
The girls I have come into contact with that absolutely love anime firmly believe that Asian men can do no wrong – to them, they are charming, witty, breathtakingly handsome young men that want to see past a girl’s exterior and look to her delicate heart for inspiration and love. While a Weeaboo is someone who is obsessed with Japanese culture, language, and fashion, but will have nothing to do with actual Asian people (unless they’re J-Pop stars).
Unfortunately, the real world does not work that way, so they just ultimately come off as crazed, forward, sometimes socially inept women.
HOW TO AVOID HER: This one is actually pretty easy – ask how much anime she watches.
If you watch absolutely none, you’re not going to be able to handle a girl that watches it every day for several hours. If you watch an episode of your favorite anime every night before you go to bed, the girl that catches up on a similar anime a few times a week suddenly isn’t as unappealing.This is really one that each individual Asian guy has to handle for himself.
Personally, I don’t watch anime except for the ones I saw as a kid (ROBOTECH, ya’ll!) so this kind of girl is really off-putting to me, but to each his own!
#12: Bargain Shoppers:
She doesn’t have the best fashion sense. She doesn’t have a bangin’ bod. She isn’t the prettiest girl at the club and she can’t carry a conversation in a bucket with a lid on it. In other words, she refuses to wear makeup, shave her legs, and generally take care of herself mentally, emotionally or physically.
As such, she hasn’t been pursued by her race’s male counterparts and doesn’t think they find her attractive due to all her shortcomings. Instead of working out and learning how to apply makeup, however, she gets more for her money – she’ll date a guy out of her league, but she lets her Whiteness bring her up a few notches and thus be “on par” with the Asian guy.
These couples exist everywhere – the overweight, homely White girl hanging out with an Asian guy who can clearly do better. She used her coupon and brought home a great deal – something she wouldn’t be able to do within her race.
So caveat emptor, my Asian brother, means “Buyer Beware!”
HOW TO AVOID HER: This is interesting, to say the least. You’re never going to have a perfectly matched couple – sometimes, the guy will be better looking that then girl and vice versa. But when you are clearly out of the girl’s league, it’s time to re-evaluate:
- Why are you with her?
- Do you really have that little self-worth?
- You can do better, my Asian brutha.
Weigh in the pros and cons and see if she needs to take her offer elsewhere – you’re priceless
#11: Gold Diggers:
Never seen without her Gucci handbag and Burberry scarf, this woman is all about the money.
She exists for designer brands and will do whatever it takes to get them. This kind of woman isn’t looking for a man to date…she’s looking for his paycheck – the yellow pay dirt, saffron gold!
Asian men fit into this because they generally do make a comfortable living and then some. Let’s face it – that higher education our parents and culture made us get wasn’t for nothing – we may have slaved away in finance and engineering, but that certainly paid off ten times over.
In light of all the publicity Asian men have been receiving lately, these women are taking notice as they review their shopping wishlists.
NOTE: A lot of Asian women will fall into this category. They’ll spend the prime of their lives and years hooking up with and sleeping with non-Asian men, but when they start approaching their expiration date and time to settle down, they’ll be looking for the Asian man with the biggest money clip, luxury car, house, and high status job to put a ring on their finger. These are the kind of hot Asian girls that would have never looked at you before you had a high paying career and now throwing themselves all over you as the biological clock of doom counts down.
HOW TO AVOID HER: Go on free or cheap dates. Even better, take her on creative, non-expensive, activity dates sure to blow her mind! Take her for a picnic in the park, a stroll on the beach, make dinner for her at home. Don’t indulge her – she’s used to men handing her whatever she wants.
If you’re walking along the pier and she’s leading you into the more expensive boutiques with puppy dog eyes and outstretched hands, it’s time to let this gold digger mine somewhere else.
Past their prime with a newfound libido, these women are enjoying the sexual life they denied themselves in their early years, living vicariously through reruns of “Sex in the City.”
That’s right, they’re the Carrie Bradshaws and Samanthas of the world. You’ll find them at the bar with their newly divorced BFF, commiserating about how they have men all figured out.
They spot you from across the room and begin to prowl. They use their many years of experience to find that unwitting Asian boy who may not know the ways of the world for their own sexual pleasures.
After she’s done with him, she’ll move onto the next one – poised and perfectly content with never thinking about him again.
HOW TO AVOID HER: Keep this finicky feline hanging.
If you swap numbers, kiss, and ultimately come to the point where she tries to take you home or get into your car, tell her you have work the next morning.
Eject yourself from the interaction altogether. If she still wants you, she’ll let you know, but it’s up to you to decide if you want to take it further.
Remember, don’t let this leading lady take charge – she assumes that her age gives her that advantage over you, but YOU are the man so YOU take control.
#9: Yellow Fever:
While this is definitely more pronounced in men, women are often guilty of sexual stereotyping.
Even though Asian men aren’t commonly considered sexually desirable, there are plenty of women that want them for the skin they’re in…and that’s it. She’s the bag em and tag em type and she’s after YOUR yellow pelt. While this may sound awesome to a guy who isn’t getting any, it gets very old, very quickly especially since there’s no long term potential with her and she doesn’t want any.
She’s the Samantha from “Sex in the City” and Buddha forbid any form of foreplay, cuddling, or public displays of affection.
A girl with an Asian fetish will go through Asian men like tissues and think nothing of it when her current one isn’t performing to her standards – she’ll just toss him aside and get another.
HOW TO AVOID HER: Feed a cold; starve a fever…or yellow fever, in her case. Don’t give into her lustful desires. She may be attracted to your physical characteristics – and that’s great, but let her see the other sides to you as well before jumping into bed with her.
Introduce her to your friends, take her to the museum, show her your marble collection, or whatever. Let her see who you are and that you’re more than just yellow man meat.
#8: Social Rejects:
These are the girls completely outcast from their own society.
For whatever reason, they simply do not fit in. Maybe they were a fat kid in high school and lost the weight in college but still retained that social ineptitude. Maybe they grew up in a rigid, religious society and couldn’t adjust to the extreme demands placed upon them.
They’ll be in the artsy crowd: emo, hipster, goth, scene, and whathaveyou.
Either way, they are not accepted by their “own kind” and thus racially profile against themselves. They turn to another culture and have an idealistic view – one where all Asian men love them and they can do no wrong.
They are fixated upon finding an Asian man to accept them so they can show the White men who rejected them that one of their women switch sides and became a race traitor…an “in your face” scenario.
HOW TO AVOID HER: Sometimes social rejects find each other.
That’s cool, it’s up to each consenting adult. However, if she’s in the mindset of using YOU to get back at Chad Smith for not asking her to senior prom or shoving a “yellow man” in all the “white man’s faces,” she’s really not a keeper. Ask her how she feels about her own race.
If she gives you a long winded speech about why she hates White people, cheerfully remind her about the White babies she’ll genetically produce and move on.
TO BE CONTINUED…
Remember, in Part 2 of the “13 Evil Women Who Exploit Asian Men” I’ll detail the rest of these wily women including the most beautiful and most dangerous of them all!
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