13 Evil Women Who Exploit Asian Men (Part 2)

by JT Tran · 84 comments

So we got a huge amount of reaction from Part 1 of our 13 Evil Women Who Exploit Asian Men article. A lot of people found it entertaining as well as truthful, maybe seeing some of the aspects in their friends or observed it in some relationships.

While on the other spectrum of comments was, “Why are you bashing women who like Asian men?” “Why would you do that?” kind of deal. The thinking being that I’m supposed to unite all women (white or otherwise) with their Asian male counterpart, right??? Yes and no.

I obviously want to open up the dating field and create an equal playing field for Asian men, but NOT at the cost of having lower quality women in our lives. Just having more women interested in Asian men is NOT enough. These girls should be quality women: beautiful, attractive, intelligent, fun, articulate, adventurous and educated. And whom will treat you as well as you treat her, as the Asian gentleman that you are.

Basically, desireable people get exploited for their looks, fame, power, and money. If you were not desired then people would not search you out in order to exploit you. But because Asian men ARE desirable, there will be women who will be going out of their way to search for and specifically exploit you. Thus, while this list is tongue-in-cheek, it also gives fair warning to my Asian brethren out there. If you’re a good-no, great- Asian man, then there will be women out to take advantage of you if you don’t watch out.

So just because a woman just happens to like Asian men, that does not mean you need or should settle for her. She needs to have better qualities and credentials than the fact that she has a yellow fever for Asian men. That’s simply not a good enough reason to date her. High quality men have higher standards and so should you. Aim higher and get the woman you deserve.

Generally speaking, the second part of the list contains the more attractive and physically beautiful of the women, although exceptions always exist. These are also the most wily, crafty, and manipulative as these girls are the most socially experienced and emotionally intelligent of women.

So without further ado…

#7: Attention Whores

When Attention Whorism meets Plastic Surgery, welcome Heidi Montag!

When Attention Whorism smashes into Plastic Surgery, you get a Heidi Montag!

We all have this kind of girl on our Facebook or Twitter. She’s the type that updates everyone on her life at every given moment.

  • A trip to Wal-Mart? Status update.
  • A bubble bath? Pictures.
  • New freckle near the left eye? Tweet.
  • Dropping a deuce? SMS that shit!

This kind of girl cannot fathom that there may be someone in the world that just does not care about her. If she doesn’t have enough attention, she will do what it takes to get it. The kind of guy she chooses simply has to keep up – she won’t stand for competition for the center of the universe.

A seemingly favorable choice for her has been Asian guys, since the stereotypes of “quiet and submissive” in Asian culture pique her interests. She enjoys the idea of all the stares she’ll get when she walks down the street arm in arm with her Asian boyfriend, feeding upon that attention. She’ll acquire him with her bubbly, quirky, almost ADHD personality and keep him there to be her own personal cheerleader.

HOW TO AVOID HER: Unless you’re prepared for a lot of bathroom, duckface cell phone pictures, you won’t be able to stand this for very long. An easy way to gauge this (other than by taking a peek at her Facebook) is by just talking. That’s it. Just talk. About yourself, your grandma, that bagel you ate last Tuesday. Anything. If she interrupts, changes the topic, or simply does not listen, she’s not going to change. A futile effort, it’s best to just get out of this one before your own self-worth decreases (and she breaks out the pom poms).

#6) Rebels (Without a Cause):

She's a Rebel Without a Cause and Something to Prove

She's a Rebel Without a Cause and Something to Prove

Tattoos. Piercings. Vibrantly colored hair. Eccentric makeup. This girl has a statement to make, and she makes it loudly: I AM DIFFERENT!

Everything she does is a reflection about who she is and what she’s about. She won’t wear American Eagle because it’s too cliché, she won’t buy an iPhone because everyone else is doing it, and she doesn’t want to date a typical White guy because everyone expects her to. All her crazy gear, accouterments and clothing are a form of peacocking, but in a “I’m a rebellious woman, hear me roar!” kind of way.

By dating an Asian man, she doesn’t fit the typical White girl bill – she becomes totally different, something society wouldn’t perceive her to be. As such, the Asian guy on her biker-spiked arm becomes an extension of her master plan to “stick it to the man”.

HOW TO AVOID HER: A fellow rebellious Asian man may be able to tame her, but keep in mind that these girls eventually grow up and move onto something more familiar, like a White guy. This is most likely just a phase, something she’s trying to prove in her earlier years. Don’t try to keep up with this girl – ask her flat out why she likes you. If it just sounds like she’s trying to get back at daddy, it’s best to let this rebel continue without a cause.

#5) Mommy Cuckoo:

Elizabeth Hurley is a prime example of a Mommy Cuckoo who snagged herself an Indian business tycoon

Elizabeth Hurley is a prime example of a Mommy Cuckoo who snagged herself an Indian business tycoon

No, I don’t mean these girls are crazy for cuckoo puffs. They’re actually named after the common cuckoo that will lay an egg in a Reed Warbler’s nest and push one of the original eggs out in order to force the other birds to raise the children as his own. That’s right. These women are some of the most beautiful, but complicated women of all to get involved with because they don’t come alone: They carry baby baggage!

Again, our positive stereotypes come back to haunt us like our:

  • Loyalty
  • Fidelity
  • Family bond
  • Familial caring

Are all things that she’s looking for now that the original baby-daddy, the alpha badboy male that knocked her up, is out of the picture. These are the bad girls gone done good now that they’re saddled with the responsibility of taking care of a baby. Thus they come seeking Asian men with the intent of finding a said replacement baby-daddy.

They’re the beautiful former prom queens and cheerleaders, knocked up by the high school quarterback, turned single mom that desperately need a man’s help to raise the child now that the alpha male is out of the picture. They’re looking for a few good high value beta Asian men, but for all the wrong reasons. It’s one thing to happen to have a kid and fall in love with someone, but another matter entirely to be sought out specifically as a potential good father/sucker to raise a child that isn’t yours while she lives a life she doesn’t deserve.

HOW TO AVOID HER: The easy thing would be to tell you to avoid women with kids, but that leaves a lot of good women hanging. There are some single moms that have their shit together and are able to provide for them while looking for a significant other. Then there are the other women that literally want to dump the baby off on you. The way to differentiate the two is as such – don’t become a doormat. If she needs help here and there that’s one thing, but if she’s asking for hundreds of dollars at a time for undisclosed reasons while dropping the kid off at your place while she does God knows what, it’s time to let this single mom continue to mingle elsewhere.

# 4) Cuckoldress:

When a Cuckholdress cuckholds, a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do

When a Cuckholdress cuckholds, a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do

A cuckold, as you know, is a man that has an unfaithful spouse. He’s diligently making money and providing for the family as she runs off to be pleasured by another man. The woman in this scenario is called a cuckoldress, and she loves her some Asian men and she uses her sex- either in the promise of giving it or the punishment of withholding it- to keep her high value, but beta Asian male in place.

She sees them as submissive to her dominant personality, and likes to use them for stability and comfort while she plays around with other men. While you may think she’s different and really is a loyal person, old habits die hard for this sexy bird and she’s not about to change her ways. She’s looking for beta male to keep the home fires burning and waiting patiently at home while she’s stroking the hearth with someone else.

HOW TO AVOID HER: Don’t be submissive – you’re the man, and real women understand your ability and need to take charge in a relationship. Don’t let her get away with this kind of behavior. If she insists upon leaving you at home on long weekends while she’s off with her “friends” then invite a few of your own and reap in some “benefits”. This will either make her come to terms with what’s fair or she’ll walk out the door.

#3) Queen Bee:

Queen bees will rule your world if you're not careful!

Queen bees will rule your world if you're not careful!

This royal pain in the ass is clever, indeed! She has many followers that try to find favor with her wherever she goes. She handpicks her right-hand men and faithful posse to help her create a sense of value over everyone else. Girls either love her or hate her, as there is no in-between, and guys are constantly falling over her feet.

She chooses Asian men not because she likes to date them but because she knows that they can be desperate for female attention. If an Asian man has won her over, then he’s in, and as long as he doesn’t get too comfortable, he won’t fall very hard. Although she’s the queen, she’s not looking for her knight in shining armor – she will reign for as long as she possibly can, letting no man take over her rule.

HOW TO AVOID HER: The queen bee is crafty, so the signs may be hard to spot at first but come easily after some practice. She is aloof yet witty, and most often reserved. She prefers people to come to her and seek her attention rather than taking it. If you find that you’re doing most of the following and you’re changing to be more like her, then you’re under this majesty’s rule. This woman will only yield her throne for the right man after a LOT of work – she’s probably not worth it. Let her keep the crown so you can keep your pride.

# 2) Russian Princess:

Maria Sharapova is one icy hot Russian Princess!

Maria Sharapova is one icy hot Russian Princess!

Like Sirens, the Ruskie isn’t a true race fetishist, but between the meager Russian economy, vodka -soaked men, and an uncertain future (not to mention crime), a Russian princess’s best bet is to make a hookup run across the Chinese border where there will be 24 million more men than women.

It helps that our positive Asian stereotypes are educated, financially stable, caring, loyal, family oriented, and safe – all things Russia is not. While not all Russian women are into Asian men for this reason, it can certainly play a part on many occasions.

HOW TO AVOID HER: This one is fairly simple – check her citizenship status. If she’s a citizen of your country, there’s no reason for her to be hooking up with you for political purposes so you’re in the clear. If she has a green card or is an illegal immigrant, however, keep in mind that this Russian matryoshka doll may be looking for something a little extra that just anyone can give her – a citizen’s last name. See how interested she is in you. If she’s showing genuine interest by bringing you home to the family for some of mamulya’s borscht then she’s probably for real. If she’s forcing papers under your face for her immigration and talking about white picket fences and a yard with a dog after a month or two of dating then it may just be time to tell her dasveedanja.

# 1) Sirens:

Elin Nordegren (and twin) is a prime example of a Siren, having snagged herself a billionaire half-Asian man while roaming the golfing circuit

Elin Nordegren (and twin) is a prime example of a Siren, having snagged herself a half-Asian billionaire boy-man while roaming the golfing circuit

Just like the fabled mythological women of yore that drew sailors in with their captivating song for their sadistic pleasure of watching them crash onto the rocks, sirens seek out men of what they deem to be high value, either with work, education, or money, and they use them to boost their own value and notoriety. These nymphs are probably the most beautiful and attractive of all the exploitive types of women, commonly being models and other professions that put them in daily contact with the rich and powerful.

If you’re Ivy League educated, a Wall Street gentleman, or Hollywood famous, then watch out! And you, my successful Asian brother, are a piece of prime Grade A meat for her libido barbecue because as a gorgeous model (or PR rep, event coordinator, and whathaveyou) she has access to high profile, wealthy, and powerful Asian men and that’s exactly what she’s hunting for. They intentionally ingratiate themselves into power circles whether it’s getting a membership at the Harvard Club, attending charity events, yachting, polo watching, Fashion Week parties and other high profile events.

Some of the richest and most successful of my clientele, from millionaires to doctors and lawyers and hedge fund managers to the odd actor, CEO, and politician thrown-in, have all reported first-hand to me of having a bittersweet romantic encounter with this most beautiful of exploitative women. And this is one lady that I’ve had both the fortune and misfortune of having a tryst with.

She may be nothing if she is on her own, but with valued exes under her belt, she becomes worth more herself, even a legend – hence, the myth of the infamous siren. At the right place, at the right time, with the right connections and right look, she uses it to snag her a power player.

NOTE: Sirens are different from the Gold Digger class in that Sirens are almost always physically beautiful, well connected, socially savvy and aren’t necessarily race fetishists. They’ve just unconsciously associated Asian men with wealth and power because, well, a lot of Asian men are wealthy and powerful. Gold diggers aren’t necessarily beautiful and do have a fetish.. .

HOW TO AVOID HER: Don’t crash on her shore – figure out why she’s singing her siren song to you in the first place. Evaluate what you have that she wants before jumping ship. Nice car? She probably wants to go places where she’ll be seen in it to increase her status. Fat paycheck? She probably likes being able to go into department stores, knowing her Asian boyfriend can buy and sell anything in them. Find out by asking her to drive a couple times or buy her own designer purses and see how long she sticks around.

  • Susan B-K

    #12 is fascinating! When I spend the summer in China back in 1995, there was a nighttime soap called “Russian Girls in Harbin”. I was addicted and watched it every night. The women came to Harbin in search of jobs and love. They found both, but never seemed very happy.

    • Anonymous

      I am Canadian-Russian and let me tell you, that Russian women, like any women from poor countries, are always exploited by men… either through pornography, sex slavery, sex tourism, cheap modeling and acting in countries like Japan/China, and of course…prostitution. Russian women are always treated like objects, and as a result, many end up dependent on their husbands. With lack of jobs, and SEXISM in Russia ( you can’t get a decent job unless you sell your body to your boss), there is NO OTHER WAY than go to another country to look for financial support. It is AWFUL.

      • Xavier

        So, KamillaF, let me address your ideas:
        1. You make out that men have all the advantages and  employment. Most of the layoffs in this time of  economic recession, have been men.
        2. Without a wage gap, women would not have men to  marry up to … when was the last time you saw, in  numbers, women married to a man shorter and poorer than  them?
        3. If you have disregarded men based on how much they  earn or how tall they are, you are no different from  players that you criticise as being superficial.
        4. More of the idea that when a woman has a problem,  the world has to stop … but when a man has a problem,  he has to deal with it himself. Protip: The majority of  people who die in wars … happen to be men.
        If women want a man who treats them as an equal …  they better be able to accept and DESIRE the man who IS  their equal. Not the idea of a superstar marrying the  farmer’s daughter. A farmer’s son marrying a farmer’s  daughter.
        Excellent list JT. A princess for a prince. Because  THAT’S equality!

        • Anonymous

          It sounds like you have no idea what it’s like to be a girl / woman. Besides, I was referring to women living in poverty in Russia, where there are problems with gender equality. Your ideas won’t apply there. Plus, it’s not only the wage gap, it’s…carrying kids for 9 months, and then taking care of them….occasionally at the cost of a woman’s career. And actually, nowadays, a woman has to work full time and be a mom, even when she is married to someone who makes decent salary. Everyone in Vancouver in this economy is dual-income.

          As for men in war, most men signed up for it, and that doesn’t make them heros, it makes them dumb for encouraging war in the first place. Why would you want to occupy Iraq for so long? American Imperialism! Obviously, they had no other financial options nor brain!

          A man does not have such a problem, being raped and gang-banged, until they are bled to death, in places like Turkey or Thailand? I don’t think so…especially not privileged white men!

          I have personally witnessed what I have described…Russian women unable to develop their careers because of lack of connections, sexism, and discrimination! I am often asked by my cousins who married young to rich fat men…or are marrying for the sake of marrying…as to why I am not financially supported by a man or why I am not married to a rich guy… well that is BECAUSE I am able to work in Canada without any issues!

          …and don’t bother replying.

          • Xavier

            It sounds like you have no idea what it’s like to be a boy/man. Besides, I was referring to men living in poverty in the West, where most of the homeless happen to be men. Your ideas don’t apply there.

            Most men are CONSCRIPTED into war. The fact that you don’t know anything about the circumstances of those who fight and DIE for your freedom, means you don’t think men’s lives are worth much.
            Why don’t you ask a mother of a soldier whether she wants her son in danger … and whether he had any choice?

            “A man does not have such a problem, being raped and gang-banged, until they are bled to death”
            Evidently you don’t know what happens in prisons.

            You can say you personally witness what you described, nobody can verify the truth of your assertions.
            “Russian women unable to develop their careers because of lack of connections, sexism, and discrimination!”. You don’t think most men have that problem? Most men are NOT running the world. They are living a basic workaday existence … if they are even that lucky!

            “I am often asked by my cousins who married young to rich fat men…or
            are marrying for the sake of marrying…as to why I am not financially
            supported by a man or why I am not married to a rich guy… well that is
            BECAUSE I am able to work in Canada without any issues! ”

            You never bothered to reply to that question about whether you judged a man by his height or wallet,
            so I’m going to assume you do.

            I’m more convinced than ever that JT is really on the money with this list. Because you’re proving to me that when it comes to the ideas and opinions of Asian men in the West, they get hammered if they try to point out that discrimination works against them too, first by Westerners who say “you are so educated, model-minority BS” … and then by women who say “only men get ahead”.

          • Anonymous

            So naive!

            The homeless are homeless for a reason. Drug abuse, no skills or laziness.
            Visit downtown east side, and you will see homeless men…Western men…who would rather be homeless than work as a Janitor.

            Men in Russia have a choice…you either go to college or army for a year or two.
            I have cousins who went through that, and are fine. For the men in US, if you didnt want to fight and be ready to die, why sign up for the army?

            I even have a relative in prison….and lets face it…if you are in prison you deserve it.

            I judge a book by its cover. Everyone does. You judge women by their looks.

            Ridiculous. You are comparing men in prisons to women who had been tricked, kidnapped, and sold into slavery.

          • kennotrussia

             I’ve often been fascinated by Russian women and their culture. I certainly would like to know more. Having travelled to the poor asian countries, I do agree that women are treated as second class citizens. With good jobs already so rare to men, they become even rarer to women. Each gender has their own strength, be it beauty or wealth. Is it wrong for a man of “wealth”, minus the good looks, to desire a women of beauty? He loves her, and he in return takes care of the people she loves, parents & siblings. With the rest of their life together, he hopes that she can learn to truly like him, or even love. It may be naive or foolish, but that’s what I wish for.

            However, the article mention the “Russian Princess”, which I often know about in real life. They are extremely cunning. With their experience from being exploited in Russia, they have to be! Someone I knew, as soon as she gain her citizenship, she called the police on her husband claiming he attacked her, he didn’t. So when she immediately filed for a divorce, she would use the police incident as a leverage for her settlement, and take most of everything he owns! There are others that just have exactly 1 child then immediately divorce. She often visits her home country, basically living there, with money flowing in until the child is 18. This is just one of many things to be cautious of in searching that “Russian Princess.”

  • Bicca

    Problem:

    1) these don’t apply only to Asian men, but men in general
    2) seems every entry is “take charge, be a man!”- while I don’t think anyone should be a doormat, it’s a tad sexist.
    3) “avoid the ones after something other than a bonafide relationship” is sound advice, but a lot of these are “don’t let her take advantage” while “take advantage of her a few times and if she doesn’t like it, split”…
    4) and seriously, again, it’s a bit sexist what with all the “don’t let her drag you around by the collar”, “take charge, man up”, “if she’s takes work, not worth it”.

    • Anonymous

      I agree! The article is definitely sexist, nothing groundbreaking, something that can be found in douchey male websites like AskMen.

      • If it makes you feel better, our next follow up will be the “13 Asian Guys That White Girls Should Avoid at All Cost” or something similar! 🙂

        • Ya

          still waiting for this!

        • Wynn Horton

          1) If they whistle for you like a dog while on a date, RUN QUICKLY…in the opposite direction — away from him.
          2) If he constantly asks you, with a worried look on his face, if you think his penis size will satisfy you – tell him you JUST got back with your Ex-bf.
          3) If he insists you two watch re-run after re-run about how white man invaded his country or bombed it – time to move on to a better, less resentful man.
          I’ve had these things happen. Dating is full of surprises.

      • Silver Apparition

        THANK YOU GUYS! I was worried I’d be the only one to realize this. It’s clearly because of insecurities and self esteem issues hahaha.

    • what

      If it seems sexist, it’s because it’s calling on Asian-American men to overcome “shortcomings” that are common among them. Far too many Asian men who want to get with white girls (or girls in general) experience limited success because of a lack of general assertiveness. Advice should be tailored to the target audience. This is just like telling the kid who gets picked on at recess not to take it lying down.

    • Ya

      100% agree

  • MM

    So… which types of girls are good?

  • There are good women from Russia just as there are bad ones. I’m originally from Russia but I’m a US citizen. (No, I hadn’t married anyone but I became a citizen because I lived in America for awhile.) There are other women as well not just Russians who will use Asian men for their last names. (What of women from Eastern Europe or other poor nations besides Russia?) I had hoped to joke or whatnot, but didn’t happen as sad as it sounds… I’m not sure about China, but from some friends from South Korea, I heard that a number of Russian women are sex workers. Thanks to these women, I will have to worry about what my to-be husband’s might think of my origins, and that’s not pleasant. 

  • MM

    How come the numbering is wrong from the first part? if i am not wrong, it ends up with 12 types only

  • nomad

    JT, this article has been very informative and very entertaining.  I have noticed all of these girls you have mentioned.  I’ve told Asian men about these women and that they need to be more aware of why some women are dating but for some reason I feel Asian men just don’t get it.  I’m no ladies man, but I’ve always been aware of what people’s motive are. I’ve never seen or been your boot camp but thanks for helping us become better men!

  • LaConeja

    I’m offended that the rebel type is in a list of “evil women”. :/ It’s not a fucking phase… My first ever crush was a Japanese boy in the 4th grade. I’m actually a really giving and caring person and I don’t think it’s right to chastise someone for being a free spirit. maybe you’re just intimidated by us because we rock it for real. Being yourself is something to be proud of, not ashamed of…. So excuse me while I go find a hot Japanese biker guy.

    • Shanna Thibodeaux

      Yea I get that stereotype thrown my way quite often and I don’t particularly understand where it is founded from. (Besides outright sexism or a deeply based fear of women who do not submit to archaic gender roles) I have been ‘alternative’ since I left my parents home and became a young adult. I am happily married, successful, educated and generally a nice person but yes, because I am about 50 percent tattooed and have colorful hair I am somehow backed into this corner of being an unstable and untrustworthy type which couldn’t be farther from the truth. Definitely NOT evil. I find it rather distasteful and sexist to accuse women who look like I do as being proud or peacockish or somehow not good people when men who basically do the same thing do not have an eye batted at them for doing the same. A successful DR. or peace officer can have full sleeve tattoos and that is not supposed to be indicative of their character or intentions as a person in dating or other aspects…but if women do that they are attention seeking and generally frowned upon unlike males who do the same things.

  • whenthekittytattoos

    Thats a real bummer, I have tons of tattoo’s and I am very intelligent and very adventurous. I also have dated nothing but Asian men because that is what I find to be attractive. It kinda hurts that this site is informing people to “stay away” from women like me. I think you shouldn’t judge a book by it’s cover. I speak Mandarin and have been studying the Chinese Culture because my current boyfriend is from Hong Kong. I genuinely respect him and his family and find it also fascinating. 

    • I know right? I have tattoos and a child. I fully agree you can NEVER judge by looking at someone. You don’t know their story. You have to get to know that part. I married my AM already though so I don’t have to worry about this but I feel bad for the ones who do.

    • Damn, too bad you’re taken…

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  • Anonymous

    Ha,ha,ha The girl I like is # 6.Now she regret tattoo etc.she passed rebel phase but she still like Asian guys though but she also loves German guys too.But she does not like English and American guys.

  • I don’t agree with the part about dating a woman with a child. I have a 3 year old and that shouldn’t have stopped my husband from dating me! I take major offense!!!

    • Wynn Horton

      yeah, and that Indian man with Hurley was WELL above average in looks. He wasn’t exactly a balding, greying, fat scruffy dork !

  • Arthur N

    This guy is a joke. I have more success with more women [all ethnicity] than this “coach” lol
    Just another gimmick to help earn a few buck from rich asian dudes that don’t know what they’re doing in the dating arena. PUA is dumb. I would open my own coaching seminar otherwise if I didn’t think it was stupid. Keep it real and be yourself. Drop the BS act, girls aren’t dumb.

    • Guest

      You may have more success but you don’t have coaching skills. That makes you useless for anything more than bragging on the Internet.

    • Ya

      I couldn’t agree more with your statement of “be yourself”. Unless you are just trying for a one night stand it is a pointless act that gets hard to wear and is easy to see through. Not to mention a waste of time. And one night stands are easy enough to get without it, just go to the bar and lower your average.

  • Vincent_ck_kwan

    drop a “deuce” ?!

  • Jvictor_o

    this issue is a pure bullshit

  • Anonymous

    all american white girls love money and they are ready to fuck all men, no matter what their color look alike

    • Ya

      Ouch, please don’t generalize. I’m an American white girl, but I don’t want to have sex for money. Kidda demeaning to sum us up like that.

    • Wynn Horton

      That’s like one of us saying that Asian men only want to date white women as a status symbol and that they really harbor a great resentment towards us and disrespect, as well…and that they could never love us or be loyal to us. There are cases like that, but a few cases like that only make me cautious – it can’t completely deter me. ‘Love’ relationships always involve risk and disappointment – whether you’re a purple person, a midget, gay, or a hermaphrodite.

  • Liz Bell

    So in the first part of this article it makes it sound like any girl who is overweight is just dating an Asian guy because no white guy will have her… Sorry, but that is totally sexist bullshit. Just because a woman doesn’t completely meet with a Western standard of beauty doesn’t mean she will necessarily have trouble finding a boyfriend. Also, being overweight doesn’t usually mean a woman is ugly or socially awkward. Although it’s hard to see when reading articles like this, there really are a lot of men out there looking for pretty, kind, and intelligent women who share their interests and values, not just super model skinny women. It’s actually really demeaning to Asian men to insinuate that if an overweight but desirable white woman is into an Asian guy it’s just because she can’t get a white guy. Are Asian guys somehow lower in rank? Is dating an Asian man settling somehow? This article is just pretty much racist and sexist and not really worth the time it took to read it. 

    • Atheist Indian

       False dichotomy. The choice is not between supermodel skinny women and a fat woman. The choice is between normal slim women and fat women.

  • anonymous

    I’m bothered by websites like these, these are scams nothing more, nothing less.

  • balisong5

    Hey Kamillaf,

    If you think Russian women have it hard in China and Japan the Asian community in Russia has it even much harder.  Just read the annual U.S department of state human rights record for Russia during the past nearly twenty years and you’ll realize just how much injustice is inflicted upon Asian immigrants to Russia!

    • Anonymous

      Who in the right mind would want to immigrate to Russia?
      Half of my family is from middle-eastern descent, and look dark, there is nothing worse than being dark in a pro-white country.
      Russian women get abused in every country…just like any other third world immigrant women…African women, Asian women, Eastern European women too. I never said ONLY Russian.

  • Cat

    Um, this kinda comes across as stereotypes for, well, every woman in existence… Why not an article about the types of women to date or something?

  • Kikikimchibell

    i think this is too funny, i ALWAYS found it funny that Asian men went for girls like white women. but to go out for girls that will just use you to?  i might have to rethink my likes for Asian men i need someone that will stand up for themselves.

  • OK so I fit three on the list, yet I am nothing what is said in this…

    I met my Japanese man while traveling, 
    I am a very good catch that I am now engaged.
    This list, well thought out, is very picky as not everyone will fit
    into that stereotypes and causing more picky men.

    I have tattoo’s and I am not a rebel,
    I never dressed to impress or the best looking but means
    I dont waste money on everything I see.
    I am hard working, talented and love to take care of the man
    with food and love.

    My advice for the men is, become friends with her first
    and not friends with how she looks with or without clothes.
    get to understand her before getting into a relationship. 
    Because if you doin’t you will regret it later on down the line. 
    I did not have the best looking body, and with a lot of traveling,
    I lost weight and looking better, and thankful for the man I have
    who see’s the good in me and is patient with my weightless.
    ALSO DO NOT get into a relationship with girls online.
    There is no base to it and most those girls are talking to 30 more.

    • Wynn Horton

      Japanese men are sweet hearts – usually. They are my favorite. You two are cute together.

  • Alice C Mckinley

    Hahahha funny as.. To all the asian guys out there, i swore to all my friends and family i wouldnt get a korean bf when i left nz .. But to my suprise.. And honestly i wAs suprised.. I fell hard for the most beautiful, kind and intelligent man ive ever met and he just happens to be korean. Now, all i see is him and i dont care about stupid things like money and status. Its our mind and heart connection that i cherish the most. So i fully agree with the coach.. I think confidence is the key because if he didnt flirt with me first.. I wouldnt have been interested. Remember white people are generally slower at relationships too.. So if youve fallen for a white girl, show your interest but be understanding of the fact she might be used to being friends first..

    • playyourpart

      I think its clear that you had a prejudice against Asian people to begin with. What kind of person “swears” to their family that they won’t date a race of people? That’s such an unevolved thing to do. Great that you got over it, but I think alot women start from that mindset and never grow out of it.

      • Toshibagirl

        “Korean” is not a race. It is a nationality and ethnicity.

  • Jr

    I prefer to meet girls at work.  Women who I can actually get to know, talk to and laugh about stuff.  Real decent girls.
    Although the fantasy of meeting a euro chick backpacking….like this morning at an airport, just constantly stairing at me…….she was hot too, petite.  Although (I may be stereotyping) god knows how man men they’ve slept with. 

    • Toshibagirl

      Why the heck would you wonder how many men some women have slept with? Everyone has a past. And European women love sex. 😉

    • Wynn Horton

      Jr., your worrying about how many others a woman has slept with is one of the reasons Asian women often date white or black men…because they aren’t as judgemental (except for my brother, maybe).

  • Cutegal

    There is some truth to all those categories, but you should look at individuals and individuals. I met my Asian man online, I then immigrated to his country with his help and I had a severe yellow fever when I met him etc. So:

    1. People meet online all the time.
    2. My immigration was just for practicality. My home country is not poor so I was not desperate to immigrate. It was just practical for me to have a permanent status in his country. Meh.
    3. Yellow fever so I find dark hair and almond shaped eyes sexy. So sue me!

    + I cook, do our laundry and don’t expect him to pay in restaurant. I am ALWAYS prepared to pay for my share.

  • ron

    for ALICE C MKINLEY -repeating what I have said about ALL non asian women attracted to asian men but, particularly to white women attracted to Asian men ! to put it bluntly, You are a NEAR-BISEXUAL Woman ! that’s why U were attracted to your ‘BEAUTIFUL’ Korean BF ! see, Near Bi. females are attracted to the UNIQUE femininty in Asian men and of course their small you know whats ! 80 % of white women and probably about 10 % of all other non asian women are Near Bi ! Becuae you cannot handle Real masculnity and penises of other races of men, ALL Near-Bi. women have/ are/ will run to the only race of feminine featured males with small …….!
    A man is NOT beautiful, although I have some Korena men are more beautiful than the women ! See, unlike your kind of Near-Bi females, REAL women only go for Real men !

    • Guniateng

       what is the matter with you racist SON OF A BITCH? if that white woman is attracted to her korean BF,…are u jelaous ?? go to bed and fuck your white racist mom,…..you should not have been born like this

      MOTHER FUCKER !!

      • Sunan Ngentot

         @guest I do agree

    • BIGRON

      look im RON and im BIGGGGGG, im just mad because the girl that im really into happens to like this 6 feet tall asian guy with a small 7.5 inch penis! you see i’m 6’5 and my dick is in the 10 inch zone.. 10 inch ffs!! it’s truly a monster but she said noooo it hurts so i was burned real bad and now im on here hating on those SMALL FEMININE asians. A BEAR LIKE ME NEEDS LOVING TOO

      • Wynn Horton

        I hear black women LOVE large dicks. Go stretch THEM out and make them feel like they are given birth. I personally am into pure pleasure. Black women like white men…promise.

    • momo

      ….I’m bi-sexual but I like my men to be “masculine” looking (strong jawline, broad shoulders, etc) and my women to be very feminine (“lipstick lesbian”). So… um… what’s your explanation there………..

      As for small penis…. I have dated all ethnicities, and to be absolutely blunt, the smallest I’ve seen have *always* been white (same for those I see in my line of work). Again.. your explanation there?

      • john victor

        whore??

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  • whocareswhatmynameis?

    If you are dumb enough to take this article serious, then perhaps you deserve to be alone forever. I’m all for seeking quality, but quality is dependent on the person not a list. You can meet a great girl online or even on top of a mountain, and meet the worse person in the holiest of places. I hate to say this, but if you’re an Asian guy, some of the worst advice you can get about dating is from another Asian guy. You will reenforce each other negative feelings towards a subject, and next thing you know, you’ll both be sitting a home doing nothing.

    Women go after what they want, men talk about what they want, in the end women get you to do what they want, and you’re left to wonder wtf just happened? Morale of the story…if you don’t  have a plan for what your future holds, then someone else will, and guess what they have plan for you? Not much!

    • Sunan Ngentot

       true

  • guest

    this article is only for idiots who believe this 

  • Deweerik

    this website just fucks up !!

    • Louise

      Doesn’t it??? I was thinking the exact same thing!! Oh dear…..

  • Aoldi056

    Wow I dont know whether I am offended by the blatant mysogyny or the blatant (and possibly self-inflicted) racism. A friend posted a link to this site as a joke, and I accidentally read this article. I feel so confused and angry now. Dear god people, just go to POF or OKCupid for less mysogyny/racism. I am going to close this tab now… 

  • Azalea

    Some of this is interesting food for thought, but I balked whenever the phrase “because you are the man” comes up. Not all women are submissive, and the ones that are not are not defective in some way. Having a penis doesn’t mean you need to take charge. You should certainly not allow yourself to be used or taken for granted, but deferring to someone who respects you and cares about you isn’t wrong. As a white woman, I can tell you most of us will pick up on that and reject you for it. We are accustomed to the respect and equality our mothers and grandmothers earned, so reconsider your prehistoric sexist stance, and you will do better with women of all races.

  • MXFX

    Interesting article but I didn’t like how it came across heavy on the stereotype that all men should be dominant to women. I like strong submissive confident men of any culture and refuse to be romantically involved with men who try to be dominant to me because not every woman is submissive (not even secretly, thank you very much). So no thanks, total TURN OFF.

  • john victor

    the author of this website is a dickhead

  • anonymous

    Actually, I agree with alot of what is said in this article. Its not about being dominant, its about giving equally. As a successful asian male, I LOVE to spoil my woman… the problem lies in that many woman do NOT spoil back. Now, I’m not saying ALL woman are like that, just the gold digging, selfish ones. That is all JT is trying to warn us all of. That we deserve to be treated as well as we treat others. Which often times is pretty damn good. I know, cuz I recently got out of a relationship where I was VERY giving, but got litte back in return. I learned from this; to give, but to ALSO receive. It doesn’t take much. A love letter here, a love letter there. Little things to make your man feel like he’s your special guy, and that nobody else can take you away from him. ITs a lost art, particularly in the woman that JT describes above. Again, I don’t take it as if he’s saying ALL women are in this category, but that we should just be wary of these type of people.

  • Jessica

    you basically listed all women who are attracted to Asian men. Thanks for nothing!

  • Lily

    Useful info! THANK you!!!! I think I now understand why things didn’t go so well with my Japanese boyfriend. I think I’m guilty of being #3 “Queen Bee” and trying to turn him against his social network (his friends) to pay more attention to me. And stereotypically (from what a stripper friend told me) Asian men usually like submissive women, so I don’t think he appreciated me trying to have power over him and his decisions.

    Now that I now what I did wrong, I’m now with a Korean man who’s CRAZY about me. 😉 [No, I don’t have yellow fever, I just attract a lot of Asian guys and Asian men dominate the population where I live. :P]

  • www

    People say I am the Queen Bee Hhhh…If I can get a man who worships me though, why should I settle for anything less? Once I get my plastic surgery and graduate, I hope to become a siren though ^^

  • Jimmy Smith

    wtf? If Indians are Asian, then so are Russians, Arabs, and Central Asians from the Caucuses, I think you guys are talking about East and Southeast Asians, because Indians, especially, the ones from the Northwest look similar to Middle Eastern era and have similar bloodlines, go look it up.

  • relmneiko

    This article is just fucked up. I don’t know anyone like this. All levels of sexist. And that thing about Russian women is racist, too. How would you like an article going “LOLOL beware SE Asian women who are just into you for your money and a visa!!!”

  • LR

    Russians are like Asians anyway even though some are Asian. And yes, you’d probably think half-Asian women are the worst because they’re more likely to be cuckoldresses because they have the best of both or many worlds. I mean, this article is teaching men to control women so that way women don’t screw them over and treat them like crap. Guess what? Real men deal with women who treat them like crap!

  • Elizabeth Duran

    Hmmm, I found this article very informative. I’m a married American woman, 36 years old, with children. I can say that personally, I do find Asian men attractive, for MANY reasons. This is not to say that I’m looking for one, oh-no!!, I’m just expressing the qualities I find quite beautiful in Asian men. For instance, they are bred from some of the MOST ANCIENT societies/cultures, ones that have endured much hardship and have produced strictures, loyalties, and honor in their many generations. Most Asian men are considered quite beautiful; silly as it seems, as a child I always thought they were the reason for our tales featuring elves…laugh, its okay! Every person, no matter what race is unique, beautiful in their own way. From most of this young man’s diatribes on “How to Avoid Her,” I read a rulebook for just…BASIC DATING 101. These things should and can apply to all races, truly, its a beautiful! #1 You SHOULD be attracted to one another for HEALTHY reasons. #2 You should RESPECT one another: care for each other and all aspects of your present lives. #3 ENCOURAGE one another in positive directions. #4 HONOR AND HONESTY UP FRONT…sorry, personal pet peeve of mine 😛 #5 Both parties…go to therapy before trying to get back in the dating field and unload your baggage! Its seriously sad to see so many lives and possibly positive couples screwed up because someone has daddy/babydaddy/religious/antisocial hangups. Plus, its healthier for everyone to try to lead a positive/anxiety/as-much-as-possible-negativity-free life. Try it, you’d be surprised how much goodness there is and how much more attractive you are(to everyone and everything: happy brings happy, negative…just gets ya blahhhh!) Okay, and everybody #6 if you base anything in your life off of money/societal standards/liquid assets/education/etc., you’re selling a relationship short. You could be two completely different people, both happy, self-assured, strong and honorable; and the true attractive factor is how much you love one another. What is it you love about one another(something this author touched on repeatedly)? When you have love, honor, and trust…AND A HAPPY LIGHT…most important, so not kidding…the world is so much better. No matter what obstacles you may face, these things are the perfect ingredients for a happy couple, because they are strengths, like the both of you lifting and pulling one another up and over scaling walls in an obstacle course. Gonna stop here, just wanted to thank this author and put in my thoughts on the subject.

  • Cathy

    There certainly are plenty of people out there taking advantage of others. People with more perceived power are always going to take advantage over people who are perceived (or who perceive themselves) to have less power. It happens, and it’s shitty when it happens.

    However, the one-sided nature of this (aren’t there Asian men who date White women for unsavory reasons also?) and the sheer proliferation of “types of women” certainly gives one the impression that not only do you not particularly like women very much, you absolutely hate white girls.

    Really can feel the hate, the dissatisfaction, and the anger coming off this in waves. It’s really sad, and sobering, and it makes one think that perhaps you aren’t a very good person, either.

    Instead of explaining “types of women to avoid”, perhaps a more constructive angle would have been simply to encourage self confidence and courage to avoid toxic situations, and the ability to recognize when you yourself are bringing the toxic element.

  • RL

    You forgot about the white women who want to get back at white men because they date Asian women all the time.

  • pat

    If someone has a green card they are already set – 5 years residency to citizenship. What an evil site steering people away from people that might like them and towards pretending to be something they are not to appease the simple minded. But of course this is your business, convincing people that they need you to tell them who to be. So you cultivate insecurities, telling them that people that like them as they are are some kind of villains.