“Once You Go Asian, You Can’t Go Caucasian!” (or why White Girls think Asian Boys are Better!)

by Heather · 679 comments

Heather: "Asian Boys are Better!"

Heather: "Asian Boys are Better!"

Hello world, it’s me again, the huggable Heather!

I’m the white girl that dates only Asian guys with absolutely no apology… and, depending on who you are, I know what you’re thinking when I say that. Non-Asian guys usually take a step back, take a good look at me, and, with the little wheels in their heads slowly chugging away, they find the only feasible sentence worth saying is, simply:

“Oh…so you like small dick?”

To which I cheerfully reply, “Nope. I find that rumor to be largely unfounded. I just hate ugly faces.”

Watching them walk away with those faces contorted with puzzlement is so amusing, but that’s only if they leave at that moment. Sadly, there are those that press on.

“Well…what do Asian guys have that make them so special? Why don’t you date White guys? Have you considered Black guys? How can you know what you like if you’ve never dated different races? You’re too young to say what you do and don’t like…” etc.

They’re either completely confused and/or jealous as to why an attractive white woman like myself (if I might be conceited enough to say) likes only Asian men.

It’s frustrating to feel constantly challenged on something that shouldn’t matter to anyone but me. People aren’t going to ask me why I date men, so why should they ask me why I date Asian Men? The answer is the same to both questions: because that’s what I’m attracted to.

It’s just that easy.

On the other hand, when Asian men hear about my preference, one of two things happens. The first reaction is complete disgust. I get reprimanded for some purely sexual fetish and how I’m a White Female so I’m supposed to like White guys too, and how can I dislike my White counterpart? According to these Asian Males, I should just get over my daddy issues and stop being self-racist.

This one just gets me angry.

For one, I’m something of a daddy’s girl, even though I don’t rely on him like a typical daddy’s girl would. I mean, he’s not wrapped around my finger and I don’t have my every whim catered to by him, but I know he would do whatever he could for me. We’ve had our differences, like any parent and child will, but I love him and he loves me. Cross daddy issues off the list.


That’s someone that hates their own race and might possibly swap out for another one, right? Actually, I’ve had no problems being White…quite the contrary, admittedly. I understand my White privilege very well and, even though I see how unfair it is, I can’t say I don’t enjoy it. Coincidentally, I know a lot of Asian guys also like non-Asian girls – specifically, White girls. It’s a total win-win situation for me.

What’s not to like?

There’s no arguing with this type, though. They’ve received a false impression of me that won’t be altered, so it’s best just to move on.

So…the second, and most common, reaction is False Hope.

Once this type of Asian guy hears that this white girl only dates Asian men, he’s all over me. He figures that, since he’s Asian, he’s in. I call it false hope because, unfortunately for him, that’s not all it takes. Believe it or not, I have standards other than merely being Asian.

Looking back on the things I’ve liked about guys I’ve dated, I’ve come to a few conclusions about my type.

  • I want to be physically attracted to him (EX: good fashion sense, nice hair, and physically fit)
  • Have a career (can’t be a scrub!)
  • Beat me to the punch-line and be able to make me laugh (good at bantering and having fun)
  • Hold a conversation with me that he’s able to carry out without too much prodding on my end

I also like him to NOT try be more Asian or American than he actually is.

If he’s born and bred Texas, I don’t need him to pretend to be less American. While it’s a turn-on when a guy can speak the language of his ancestry, it’s a turn-off when a guy can’t speak it but pretends he can to impress me.

On the other hand, if he’s raised in Taiwan, I don’t want him to deny that heritage either. If he can incorporate that into the conversation without trying too hard, it intrigues me and I want to learn more about him.

Bottom line?

The guy should be himself – his charming, witty, confident, Asian/Asian-American self.

{ 672 comments… read them below or add one }

Puffysheep December 25, 2010 at 1:58 pm

Wow, good to know your preferences and I like how you eloquently put your thoughts. Your writing style is really good too but this makes me wonder if you truly meant every word you have said or you are just superficially saying these to attract viewers to your site. I like to believe you are being honest and if so, kudos to you for bravely expressing your feelings. Since I am an Asian American, Korean American to be exact, it’s always nice knowing there are some attractive white girls like yourself who finds Asian guys to be hot. 😉 Keep up the good work and I will certainly be coming back for more interesting thoughts from you!


Appalled. December 26, 2010 at 2:42 pm

“better.” interesting choice of words.

The title of this post is disgusting and excluding. And I am neither male, nor white. As a female who is attracted to Asian men, you have completely fetishized them and even have the gall to praise Asian who have fetishized white women with their preference! This site is laughable at it’s VERY best!


Aniiko December 26, 2010 at 9:49 pm

I am so tired of this “fetish” bs… can i state that again.. SO TIRED. Here is the irony for my self, If I see some features that are on Asian men mostly on a non Asian man, i find it attractive too… There is something about the general facial features of Asian men that cause me to want to gobble them up like candy. Why does it have to be a fetish for any ethnicity to want to date any other ethnicity?? There are things in every ethnicity I like, and being mixed I have the lucky opportunity to cross a lot of boundaries. However, I have had that lame ass “dick” comment come up so many times. I though i would share it with you …My response
“you go ahead and worry about “size” I will focus on compatibility and maturity” I later shrug and state “besides, if that is the only way you know how to please your partner… you are not man enough for me.. there are other things that should be used!” I am not saying that oral is what i am talking about, but i find a great kiss the be the hottest thing EVER!!!…..

False hope is soo true! OMg… there is this stereo type of … once again a “fetish” that some Asian men seem to think we will jump in the sack with them… so lets rephrase this Heather.. lets say we are attracted to “good Asian men”. LOL!! You know the ones that respect women in general, have respect for their heritage/environment and do not try to behave like someone they are not or from an environment they are not from. I say this because i have seen many O Asian Thugs, and thats fine, if you are a thug you are a thug… but I don’t like thugs, so don’t have a false hope that because i look one thing (complexion only) that i must be attracted to that. You have now racially profiled me… which means you are the one with a “fetish”.

Last point i want to make, is.. Heather, We are not Gold Diggas but we don’t mess with Broke… Ninjas!! Look seriously, We are women with aspirations, goals and will carry our own weight. Maybe one day have a family? I have had enough time to know where i want to go in life (knew it since the age of 10) but to date a guy with no goals, motivation, or job oriented… If you work at Starbucks, then please aspire to own your own…. If you have a goal and its not a get rich quick sceem, that is the sexiest thing ever!!


A definition for you. December 27, 2010 at 1:20 am

Racism – the belief that the genetic factors which constitute race are a primary determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race.

You thinking Asian men have superior aesthetics, or thinking that Asian men have better features than men of other races is RACIST by the dictionary definition to a T.


Heather December 27, 2010 at 2:35 am

If it’s not for you, then it’s not for you. I apologize if you have misconstrued my article for something more than what it really is – a preference. I know plenty of men who prefer hot blondes and plenty of women that prefer tall, muscular men. Just because my preference is a race it becomes bad?

I find that this is a misunderstanding. I do not see Asian guy and think “that guy is hot.” I see a hot guy and think “oh, that guy is Asian.” It is incredibly rare for me to think of a White man as attractive, and if I do, I realize he looks too much like one of my cousins and then become disgusted.

Again, though, if it’s not for you, it’s not for you. Your opinions are just as valid as mine. I’m not denying that it can be seen as racist. I just don’t see it as negative. For every girl like me there’s a multitude that won’t date Asians. At the end of the day, does my preference really matter to you? It shouldn’t – just as yours doesn’t matter to me. As long as the both of us are happy with who we are, that’s all that truly matters.

You have a nice day, and thank you for your comments.


Heather December 27, 2010 at 2:42 am

And…please correct me if I’m wrong…actually, please show me where I said this…where did I praise Asian men for having ” fetishized white women with their preference?” That is actually quite the opposite of my intentions…I have been on the pedestal, so to speak, where I was somewhat worshiped for being White and…it’s very uncomfortable. I do not date Asian men that refuse to be with non-White women for this reason – I am not a trophy, and I am not to be worshiped.

I would like to see where I said this and dispel any misunderstandings on this matter, because that is the exact opposite of how I truly feel.


Grossed Out October 1, 2011 at 11:10 pm

I think responders are getting it from this:

“I understand my White privilege very well and, even though I see how
unfair it is, I can’t say I don’t enjoy it. Coincidentally, I know a lot
of Asian guys also like non-Asian girls – specifically, White girls.
It’s a total win-win situation for me.”


Icysparks2007 December 28, 2010 at 1:36 am

I like how you make it clear that asian guys are your preference rather than beating around the bush about it. You combat stereotypes in a way that defend both you and the asian guys that you are interested in, which I really admire. What impacts me most after reading this article is that you are not looking for just ANY asian guy – they have to win over your heart like any other man would. It is a subtle invitation that says, “If you want me, you are going to need to earn my love just like everyone else.” I can tell that you mean what you say and have thought things through. Keep doing what you do. I support you 100% 😀


Ncphotoman January 2, 2011 at 5:50 am

How things have changed in my lifetime. I am 50 now and when I was growing up in the Deep South, it was not cool to be Asian. I recently went to my 30th high school reunion and wondered if I would have been married to one of the WF that I never got to date because of my race. I did end up marrying a white woman and my children do favor me and yet they do no face the racial barriers that I did. My son is an atheletic stud baseball and football player over 6ft tall and dispells the old theories that Asians cannot be athletes. I am glad that things have changed mainly for his sake. Keep up the good work Heather and marry the right guy that will make you happy!


White blossom October 3, 2011 at 7:07 pm

Ncphotoman, I am a white female who is 46 years old. I met a young fellow who I was bessotted with. I was too shy to even talk to him . His Asian good looms left me speechless. I wanted to marry him and have his children… I think we were born at the wrong time..:( I am fiercely attracted to Asian men, but have settled with a white man (2 kids, lovely man, but the attraction just isn’t there!), because it is still too difficult to meet and get to know Asian guys even though they are in abundance in Sydney Australia. Good for you for following your heart and desire.:)


Stephanie Vega January 3, 2011 at 6:04 pm

I think this subject gets a little too heated. As someone who dates and has dated men from many different races, I’m not afraid to admit at first there is a sexual curiosity that motivates. It certainly isn’t the only factor so my answer when someone asks me “why are you going out with that (white, black, asian) guy my reply is “because I find him very interesting and I like having new experiences.” I mean, isn’t that why we date anyone regardless of their nationality?


Anonymous January 4, 2011 at 1:22 pm

These are the same lines of “reasoning” we get down south from white guys when we choose to date black guys. But if you really want to hear some hateful talk, listen to some African-American women talk about their men dating white girls. It can get down right mean.


aka: DJ January 7, 2011 at 8:49 am

23 years old Asian guy was here 🙂
– Guys know me that I am funny and knowledgeable. Girls don’t know me that I am funny and knowledgeable because they don’t even give it a chance to get to know me. What can I say!!!


Heather February 3, 2011 at 6:50 am

Thanks for reading!


Puffysheep January 11, 2011 at 9:07 am

How come you haven’t written any new articles? I am bored and I need something interesting to read. =P


Heather January 15, 2011 at 12:16 am

I have written a few, just waiting for them to be processed ^__^


Mastermind90 January 18, 2011 at 7:53 pm

Hi Heather,

Dropping a line to say hi. Many thanks for support of Asian men. It’s rare to find an attractive Caucasian women who is only into Asian men. Pls continue posting more of such articles. Cheers.

An avid Asian male reader,


Heather February 3, 2011 at 6:49 am

Articles will continue, thanks or reading!


Simo January 20, 2011 at 2:46 am

Why are you only showing One Eye in your profile pic?


Heather February 3, 2011 at 6:48 am

Blame the hair 😉


Perry January 22, 2011 at 12:18 pm

Hello Heather,

Just wanting to say thank you for your support of Asian men. To spread the word about it is something I’m more appreciative of.

Thank you!


Heather February 3, 2011 at 6:48 am

Just doing what comes naturally. No need to thank 🙂 Thank you for reading!


Mikkoli2003 January 28, 2011 at 8:48 am

Keep up the great work. I’m a Korean American and dated mostly white women. I’m glad to see more and more white women who haven’t been brainwashed by white male dominated media in this country who like to portray Asian men in a negative light.
I’ve noticed white women who are married to East Asian guys tend to be highly educated so it doesn’t suprise me that you are in college.
Ill look forward to your next article.


Heather February 3, 2011 at 6:48 am

I have an Asian-American friend that has been in the acting business for many years. Throughout the ’80s and ’90s, work was more or less impossible for him to find because the demand for Asian men was simply not there, according to Hollywood.

I do, to a great extent, blame the media. But, as a Psychology major, I have to say I’m a firm believer in multiple causes. But that’s an article for another day.

Thanks for your post 🙂


ttk January 30, 2011 at 3:51 pm

I’m so glad that there are women out there that give Asian men a chance. With all the stereotypes/rumors going around in the world, most the time, it is very hard to approach/date “white” woman. This could also be very different depending where you live…

I am Canadian Vietnamese and I am very grateful I had the opportunity to date a French Canadian for a year. I have learned to be confident about myself and just BE myself around people.


Thanks for the great post Heather 🙂


Heather February 3, 2011 at 6:45 am

Thank you for reading and thanks for the comment! Have a great day! 🙂


Ray February 1, 2011 at 2:23 am

Hey Heather,

Good article. Very fair. I was born in Hong Kong, studied in New Zealand and now trying to find work there with a degree in Psychology. I have never had a girlfriend but I find your article inspiriational and encouraging.

Thanks a lot. Really appreciate you guys’ efforts. You have increased my confidence. However temporary that might be.

And you’re right. You are pretty attractive.


J.t. Tran February 1, 2011 at 2:29 am

Hey Ray, thanks for writing in. We just responded to your letter.


Ray February 2, 2011 at 9:42 am

Thanks for the prompt reply. Yeah I cant make it to the bootcamp Im a bit tight at the moment. Good on you for helping us out though. Appreciate it. I fully understand the how all the stereotypes are preventing a lot of us from reaching our potentials. I am sure not only asians but a lot of people of different ethnicities would benefit from your teaching.

I’ll certainly tell others about you guys and your services.


Anonymous February 10, 2011 at 9:33 pm

Thanks, Ray! Love hearing feedback!


Gourmetprince February 1, 2011 at 9:50 pm

Heather, there is absolutely nothing wrong with preferring Asian men over any other race.

Read the following two statements.

I am extremely attracted to black women because of their sexy features.


Black women are better than white women.

Guess which statement makes me sound like a sexually confused douchebag?

Heather, you are a douchebag.

Fetish : an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression.

Think on that for a moment. Realize that your tastes are not the issue, your ATTITUDE is.


Heather February 3, 2011 at 6:40 am

A female douchebag…not many of us out there, in my humble opinion. I thank you for yours 🙂 Have a nice day!


Alex Li December 1, 2012 at 8:28 pm

Gourmetprince, your “reasoning” above makes me wonder, just where did you get Heather’s attitude from this article?


Coopersmile at gmail.com February 5, 2011 at 12:38 am

Hey Heather,

I respect your preference because it is your life, and it is you who will deal with the guy of your choice, not other people.

I am an open source Asian dude and I understand that different girl has different preference. My type of girl is more core than what she wear, such as, being positive, open to views, no naggings, maintain a healthy BMI, be direct on your needs…(don’t make me guess what you want), and allow me time to change to fit your style of liking.

I like the idea of you wearing that T-shirt. It makes you more approachable by Asian guys who are open to date White Girl like you. You should encourage other White girls who like Asian guys to wear Asian styled word shirt.

I would definitely approach a girl and ask her why is she wearing that to start a conversation. I wonder will there be any girls wearing that in California. Let’s make a contest for that…lol..



Heather February 7, 2011 at 8:23 am

I won’t lie, I know some Asian men are pretty uncomfortable when I say that’s all I’m attracted to. I can sympathize with that – it does sound pretty weird. And you mention your type of girl with more intangible descriptives, such as open-minded and direct. I’m not saying I don’t like things like that either…who doesn’t love communication in a relationship? I figured a few things went without saying.

…change to fit your style of liking? You shouldn’t be changing for a girl – she may not last and then you’re back to figuring out who you are again. Be comfortable with yourself!

That’s exactly what I’m trying to get at – a White girl like ME. All girls…I repeat: ALL GIRLS are different. Even the girls that date Asian guys. And all guys are different – some find the shirt encouraging and others find it downright repulsive. At the end of the day, all that matters is how comfortable I am with my preference first and if my significant other is okay with it second.

It’s a great ice breaker, I have to admit 😉 Let us know if you see any shirts like it…I made this one myself.


Sam February 6, 2011 at 4:36 am


As a recently single Asian man, it’s truely refreshing to see that there are attractive women like yourself who are not blinded by the crappy stereotypes that are portrayed in the media.

I have always dated white women and are attracted to them, but it seemed so difficult to find them or meet them. I recently gave up online dating because it seemed that women open to dating an Asian man on Match.com and eharmony were close to non existent. At times I just felt like giving up on the dating scene, but your posts and this website give me encouragement to not give up!

I wish there were more websites like match.com that catered to women interested in dating Asian men or interacial dating in general. If you know any please let me know!

Keep the great articles coming!



Heather February 7, 2011 at 8:32 am

I found this article interesting – a study that was done on another dating site, OKCupid:


When reading this article, you find that this site holds a population of White women that prefer to date within their race – moreso than any other race of women. Now you can rant and rave all you want about how this is limited to this dating site and hence attracts a certain type of person, but, as a Psychology major myself with research experience, I must point out that basically ALL psychological and social studies are this way. Many studies we have in these respective fields are all done on college students – and that in and of itself is a very narrow population.

Online dating, for the most part, seems to be stacked against Asian men. There are, however, sites made exclusively for Asian men. Womenforasianmen.com and projectrevelasian.com are ones with which I have personal experience.

I intend to continue writing, thanks for reading and commenting!


Holly February 10, 2011 at 1:04 am

Hi Heather, you’re just like me. I am a Caucasian girl, attracted to Asian guys (it’s been a little fetish for 2 years now, mainly a fixation, because I am autistic impaired.) Honestly, I love every feature of an Asian man. And I love them very much. Caucasian guys rarely look at me, or even talk to me, and plus a lot of asian guys are more nicer than white guys.
(I’m not being self- racist either.)
But, if I said, “I only date asian guys.” People would think of me as a freak. It’s terrible that they already think I am, since I listen to asian music and hang out with a lot of asians as it is.

But, I am not afraid of being myself and you shouldn’t too.



Anonymous February 10, 2011 at 9:42 pm

Hey Holly,

I’m just like you ^__^ I find Asian features more attractive and I do listen to some Asian music (although I have a fairly good mix of just about anything).

Do you actually only date Asian guys? If not, I probably wouldn’t say it 😉 I understand your hesitancy for saying it, though, because I do get plenty of attention – positive and negative – for my blatancy. However, it’s also very gratifying. I’m simply being honest with myself…I only am attracted to Asian guys, so why bother wasting my time on what I’m not attracted to? If it offends some, then that’s their problem. Like I always say, offense is taken, never given 😉

I’m glad you’re not afraid to be yourself. After all, it’s all you can be!


Holly February 11, 2011 at 12:16 am

I’m actually, more diverse with my music and I really love foreign things (I am a proud Xenophile).

I really haven’t dated anyone…for a long time…if at all… (I’m still in high school, a junior…)
I had been attracted to this boy, in China…(long distance wasn’t logical, because his culture and mine are different…plus, he spoke no English. NONE…and we conversed via QQ)

Just lately, I have been attracted to a few white boys, but one was taken(found out today) and the other, he doesn’t date. Personally, I will always be attracted to asian men.
And I want to teach English in China, when I get done with high school, and go to college.
(billions of Chinese, who knows, I love Chinese culture, and there might be a man for me there? haha.)

And I am not afraid to be myself, people are more ignorant of things now days, that’s what I don’t like the most.


Paul March 18, 2011 at 3:46 am

Nice plan 🙂 Ive known few WW that speaks foreign language fluently and every time it just gives me a JAWdroppng look. hehe.


Sdiegopua September 6, 2011 at 8:51 am

I find it interesting that a white girl would only date an asian guy.  I like white girls, wish there were more white girls like you. 


Megan February 13, 2011 at 10:50 am

I love Asian guys in the way they look but I’m chubby and have no idea how to approach them. :
I’m thinking I may have to slim down to even be considered by many Asian guys.


Anonymous February 14, 2011 at 1:35 am

I would recommend working out simply for the health reasons…but one of my amazingly good friends isn’t perfectly fit and she can get any Asian guy she wants…she’s up to her eyeballs with them. She’s confident, comfortable with herself, and works other features. In the end, she just comes off as a super cute and a total guy magnet. Do what works for you – but slimming down might make you feel better about yourself and just improve your health overall.


Megan February 14, 2011 at 1:37 am

I do want to work out some. I’m just kind of socially awkward and nerdy but I get adorable and cute. I guess I’ll just keep on being out there and improving myself. Thanks.


Mayzeszalay February 19, 2011 at 9:10 pm

This is cool…I’m only 18 and I already know that I am most attracted to a) Asians and b) dark skin. A dark skinned asian (such as cambodian or laotian) is my dream. However, this doesn’t make me limit myself, just a fact that those are what attract me.

The problem is, the wider the range of skin color, the more people double-take and disapprove. It’s like a double dose of accusations of White self-hatred. It’s because of where I’ve grown up and who my closest friends are, but I don’t feel like explaining this to everyone – it’s quite personal. Either way I can’t help that I just don’t like pale skin and light eyes.

I’m young and already gone through some identity issues and never admitted to any but my closest friends that I love Asians. I hate the word “fettish” and the “small dicks” assumption. However, I’ve been coming into my own more, and I proudly say to whites and blacks and hispanics that, yes, I like Asian men and I am proud; I am also proud to be White. Saying it to Asians is a little embarrassing though…especially since I have sooo many asian guy friends (most of whom i see as Brothers). I worry they will regard me differently…


Mayzeszalay February 19, 2011 at 9:40 pm

OH, and also

I don’t understand the difference / big deal in cross-culture dating. If I were to date Only White Guys, there would be nothing wrong with that (but isn’t that still excluding other races?). If an Asian guy dates Only Asian Girls that is not wrong.
In general people should learn to lighten up and expand their minds/hearts. The world needs more mixed babies 😀


Lor2 March 1, 2011 at 5:46 pm

What worries me if i get into a cross cultural relationship even though im american born is things like family. Im not saying i would let them dictate my prefernce or that they are xenophobic. They are very open minded, but recently my cousin brough back a dutch boy at our family reunion and other than beer he found everything else in the country to be too exotic. The reason i find this a problem is, I love my family and food is the best way, even might be the only way for foreigners to bond with them.


Mayzeszalay March 8, 2011 at 10:26 pm

I’m guessing you’re an asian male?
What country do you live in? I would recommend American/Canadian/Austrlian girls/partners; Europe is not very exposed to Asia, except for maybe India.
I have been to asian family reunions and events like khmer new year. It can be awkward, cuz asian families are very tight-knit and you have to meet the aunts and uncles and cousins and some don’t rly speak english (from my experience). White families, unless they’re stuck up judge you type, just kinda ignore newcomers (in my experience).
Food and family is a great culturally bonding experience. My first time i went to an asian party, they refused to shake my hand and taught me the bow. In almost all circumstances it is the caucasian who accommodates the most for the other culture, whatever it may be.

The way i look at it..i want an asian who is proud of his culture and is comfortable introducing it to me. I don’t want a whitewashed asian. I agree with what you’re saying but for some whites it may take a while to adjust.


Steve Shim February 21, 2011 at 4:03 am

Stumbled across this site and just wanted to say that I enjoyed reading some of your articles. Sometimes we need the reassurance that there are some non-Asian women out there that appreciate an attractive AM, if I may be conceited enough to say ; )

Your article about yellow fever was interesting, although most guys I know, Asian or not, won’t turn away attention from a female no matter what the reason is for it. I can appreciate the sentiment though, look forward to reading more from you!


Posest March 5, 2011 at 6:10 am

shes certainly a rare breed. I have yet to meet anyone like her.


Cat March 5, 2011 at 3:20 pm

I never thought about this before but I recently realized that I preferred Asian men as well. I was married to Vietnamese man for four years and we had two children together. After I got divorced I dated a Korean man for a short time. I have noticed that some Asian men like me because I am an attractive 28 year old, 5’3 110 pound female. I found that it is hard to even find Asian men who will date a white woman. It is nice to see that there are other women who feel the way I do 🙂


Jason March 5, 2011 at 8:34 pm

Hi Heather,

Thank you for giving Asian men a chance! I think it’s awesome!


JJ March 8, 2011 at 11:37 pm

Asian men need date coach etc.I heard Asian men specialized dating school.This means they need extra help.I have never heard dating school specialized to black men who wants to date other date.

If they are popular they don’t need that kind of school.I mean specialized Asian guy seduction program is the fact they need extra effort.


Hyun March 18, 2011 at 8:23 pm

this is where ur wrong. living in the states for a little over 10 years.. i noticed that at least in california, asians were the “cool kids”. In high school and college, asian guys were usually the popular kids. And in no way asian men needs dating coaching. But if youre talking about the geeky nerdy asians then its a different story. However, theres nerds and geeks in all ethnic backgrounds. If anything, i was the one that gave my friends dating tips


vat2nike April 28, 2011 at 1:21 am

Well there is a little bit of truth to what JJ said about us needing that “extra help.” Media can be a powerful tool to make use of the stereotypes to bring down us Asian males to the level of nerds, engrish speakers, and kung-fu artists. That sort of tool lowers our value to westerners (unconsciously). Therefore they automatically assume we aren’t, in a sense, confident or sexualized. That in turn also brings our perception of ourselves down a notch especially if we’re the very small minority of a state. Obviously, cali has more Asians than any other state in the America except for new york.

Also do you see any Asian males in porn? Not often. Actually, there is this one pornstar called Keni Styles and he’s getting very popular. I read a lot of his blogs and he does address the issue that Asian men aren’t sexualized enough in media.


Larry July 14, 2011 at 11:44 pm

If Asian guys need help, it’s because of Hollywood. Over and over again, us Asian guys are made to look bad.  If there’s an Asian character, he’s portrayed as a nerd, bad guy or martial artist.  That’s how westerners see us.


Future Mrs. Le March 12, 2011 at 7:22 am

I’m white and I only date Asian men. I feel the same way as you do, I just find them all around more attractive. I’m marrying my Vietnamese fiance this August. He was born in Vietnam and moved to the US at 15 (now 29) and he speaks his language and mine. I love it! I love his accent and we love making Vietnamese food. I have never had an Asian guy tell me that there’s anything wrong with just liking them though. They just always said “Great! I love blonds!”


Mike April 18, 2013 at 6:41 pm

You’ve been brainwashed. Listen to Barbara Lerner Spectre,Dr.Pierce and Kevin MacDonald.


calicat10 March 19, 2011 at 12:17 am

So where can I meet an Asian guy as a white girl? I work and go to school. Most guys I know are white and are married or jerks!


Patrickyuhei October 3, 2011 at 5:48 pm



Melanie Mumea March 19, 2011 at 7:44 am

@calicat – I met mine on plentyoffish. I signed up and set my preferences to Asian. I looked around and chose the one I felt i had the most in common with. We’ve been together a while now and getting married soon. It’s not as hard to strike up a convo online.


Hyun March 19, 2011 at 10:40 pm


lol i had to share. check out this asian guy picking up white girls with weird pickup lines haha


Cat May 6, 2011 at 1:35 am

Lol wow too funny!


thaidude July 5, 2011 at 4:36 am

hilarious man, thanks for the link


TR March 21, 2011 at 2:04 am

Normally I don’t like getting involved with online forums/blogs but a buddie of mine just recently told me to Google Asian Caucasian and I gotta say, I don’t know what to make of it all. It’s like a whole subculture I’ve never heard of. I’m Asian American and as flattering as it is to hear the voice of females who favor/admire Asian Americans, it’s also insulting to hear guys like JT Tran ^ basically insinuate that largely, Asian guys are shy, soft, and meek. I can appreciate the fact that aside from capital gains, his “advice” and DVD is geared towards the aid of individuals in need of a life coach. Although, he makes point in which his audience is the “Asian” man, as if as a whole and not marginally, we collectively have some genetic deficiency from socially interacting and being able to find dates. If he were to refer his material towards immigrants, that I could better understand because as a first generation Asian American, I can relate to both the American and Eastern view of romance and affection. I’m not trying to bash JT, that’s just my opinion but it greatly irks me that alot of people seem to agree and share the same opinion of his. Yeah, I have taken notice of the way television portrays the Asian American, but the fact that other Asians agree…


Holly~ April 1, 2011 at 11:10 pm


As much as I commend this website for its efforts in encouraging White Women and Asian Males to basically have the confidence to go out and get whatever or whoever they want, I can’t help but feel it’s a little odd.
To make White women out as the confident, all-round desirable status symbol that all Asian guys secretly want (not necessarily true).
Or pinpointing Asian men as the most aesthetically perfect race, indirectly fetishizing them, saying that all of them have low self esteem, are meek and mild (again, not true).

I’ve met plenty of very shy white women and many overly confident, bordering on douchey arrogant Asian men.

I mean, Asians and Whites have been inter-marrying for decades, probably even centuries. Where do you think all these celebrities like Leah Dizon, Erika Sawajiri etc came from?
It’s no big deal.
Rare, yes, but I don’t think race should even come into it.
We should not be focusing on ‘how to approach a white woman/asian guy’ but rather be aiming to fix that little voice in our head, the one that’s saying ‘It’s not going to happen’…and is terrified of rejection. The one that’s telling us that we have to change our selves and how we act in a certain way in order to attract the respective person.

At the end of the day, if you’re a strong willed, bolshy woman you shouldn’t act all coy just to get an Asian guy.
And if you’re a shy Asian guy, you don’t have to feel the need to turn into some Alpha-male pimp just to get some pink p*ssy. It won’t work because people can tell you’re faking it. And sooner or later that person is gonna have to live with the REAL you.
Please, just be yourself :))

Peace and Love,
Holly Xxxx


Hung Chow April 14, 2011 at 5:44 pm

Date who you want. Who really gives a shit…. By the way. White or otherwise. You are not
really an attractive white woman.. You look ok.But not what I would call attractive.


Bnickl269 April 16, 2011 at 7:50 am

First off, I don’t always get the whole ‘penis’ thing. Why does it matter if a guy’s dick is small or big, and why do they have such issues over it? That just makes me think that the guys who bring subjects about dick sizes have huge insecurities over themselves.

Seriously, guys with dick problems. I guarantee that many girls don’t like you blabbing on about your small ego issue. Usually some will laugh it off in front of you, but behind your back, some will rip your reputation to shreds.

I think many people should ditch their stupid ignorant ‘myths’ on other races and just see people as themselves. I’m glad that you brought up a subject like this, Heather.


Coutrney Levine April 29, 2011 at 6:27 am

Well for me, the his race is no big deal. As long as we get along good together. As long as we love each other. That’s just simple.


thaidude July 5, 2011 at 4:31 am

right on!


Bunny Mage April 29, 2011 at 3:15 pm

This article sounds less like a declaration of what you are attracted to and more of an angry spite letter towards white men. Which probably indicates that you just have a chip on your shoulder.

You also don’t sound like you’ve actually ever been in a relationship with an Asian man, instead going off of fantasies that you’ve concocted through the influences of anime and Asian pop idol culture. Real Asian men do not have feminine beauty, dress well, or have impeccable hairstyles. They’re just as goofy, unattractive and flawed as anyone else. The only difference is that you’ll probably be dating a guy who plays a bit more Street Fighter than average and drives a Honda Civic.

Take your head out of the clouds and stop being so spiteful.


Mongol April 30, 2011 at 9:02 am

Mongolians are coooolll :). there are not much a lot and im sure u never met but we are all nice and friendly.

Oh and when white people see us, dont just say like “you chinese” or etc when you don’t even know or ask where the asian guy from. Not all asians are from chinese, I know most asians are, but still you know. So what I would suggest is that you people should 1 ask where they, Asians, are from and then later whatever you know.


lolwtf May 4, 2011 at 4:12 pm

Might I ask where Chinese is located? I know the country of China, but I’ve never heard of anyone FROM Chinese. Also- implying everyone in one country can be nice. I lawled.


Mayzeszalay May 4, 2011 at 5:35 pm

Lol aww let him be, language barriers……


white girl April 30, 2011 at 8:09 pm

Could you be more shallow?


derp April 30, 2011 at 8:11 pm

This is by far the most abhorrently stupid thing I have read all day, and I was just browsing an image board.

Whether you are Asian, Caucasian, Hispanic, or Black, you and people like yourself should be kept from polluting the gene pool. It’s just a pathetic case of yellow fever, white on rice, whatever you like. Such a self-serving one track mentality…

Bitches & Whores. 3DPD.

Clearly 2D is superior.


Anonymous November 2, 2012 at 12:25 am

Whoa sweetie, what’s with the hate, I admit I only date Asian men yes, but I don’t date a guy Just because his Asian. understand this topic may seem like fetish but you must realise, most things people are attracted to can be called a fetish, in you’re view this must mean all people who only date, or are only attracted to blonde should be kept from finding a partner, at the end of the day, we all have that one thing, to say you don’t is to lie. we are just honest with ourselves and the world, I find it sad that you look down on people like me, who know what they are attacted too, I hope you find happiness, but please stop the hate 🙂


Temp April 30, 2011 at 8:29 pm

Another reason why women are Bitches and Whores.
2D Girls-431


Anon1425 April 30, 2011 at 8:52 pm

“I just hate ugly faces.”

“I want to be physically attracted to him (EX: good fashion sense, nice hair, and physically fit)”

“Have a career (can’t be a scrub!)”

“They’re either completely confused and/or jealous as to why an attractive white woman like myself (if I might be conceited enough to say) likes only Asian men.”

Do you read the things you write? clearly you must realize you have a serious case of narcissism.( or perhaps a borderline personality disorder.) it’s not your love of Asians that people find appalling, but your attitude, you’re treating men as a commodity. you write like someone whose entitled to everything in life; in short, a child. looks like you should probably go see a therapist to straighten out our view of the world.

“Watching them walk away with those faces contorted with puzzlement is so amusing, ”

People who you meet for the briefest of moments don’t spend more than that moment thinking of you, you’re less than an after thought to anyone (significant others excluded).

conceded much?


ok April 5, 2012 at 7:55 pm

Yeah this is a late reply, but what’s wrong with being attracted to someone you like?  So what if Heather likes good looking guys, she is very attractive.  

I know some people that married and they weren’t really attracted to that person and eventually ended up getting a divorce…everyone has a preference.    


narfed November 1, 2012 at 1:38 am

Some people don’t seem to understand that she’s writing her reply to the person that gave her the racist statement. She use’s quotations and clearly states she replies to them. Kudo’s to her for putting them in their place. She shouldn’t feel constantly challenged on her dating an Asian man whether it’s her preference to do so or just the kismet or her relationship. Her remarks seem like they are racist only because she is attempting to balance the negative anti-Asian men stereotyping that everyone is inundated with.

Seems to me the people that don’t like her opinion are the ones that would be the ones that identify with the person(s) she is replying to.


Anonymous April 22, 2013 at 10:16 pm

Nailed it.


Anonymous April 22, 2013 at 10:23 pm

My ex girlfriend did the same thing, thought she was waaaay hotter than she really was. A form of narcissism I’m sure
Tell me you’re a psych major.


tvexpert April 30, 2011 at 9:26 pm

Maybe you cant meet Asian males in real life because you are a just a shallow person?.
Am not white btw, but i would feel disgusted if somebody would just date me primarily for my race.
I expect somebody like me as a person because thats what i look in somebody else.


Jessica Ruthless Fatale May 24, 2011 at 7:13 am

its not just about race, its about personality too. looks get you in the door, but what your personality is like will keep you there. It goes for anyone and everyone in any shape or color.


intense remorse May 1, 2011 at 7:57 pm

Well, considering that you are white and admit that the privelage of being white is being highly sought after by Asian men in particular, it sort of shows that you have more of a fetish for them because of the attention you receive rather than the way they look/act/their cultural background. Women who are sincerely are interested in Asian men usually take the time to learn the culture, or maybe the language. Anime and ramen isn’t all there is, and each “Asian” has a different cultural background. With that said, your preference isn’t wrong, but isn’t necessarily for the reasons you claim. You like be an object of desire and are perpetuating a form of white supremacy, and female domination in a manipulative, yet subconscious level.


Lil Jay Chou May 2, 2011 at 1:30 am

I should really make a video that biologically and genetically explains why Asian men do not have smaller penises since I’m a biology major.
Seriously nonAsian men, not all Asian men are J-porn actors who pay to have sex.


Mayzeszalay May 3, 2011 at 10:04 pm

That would be beneficial to your race, I believe. For the morale of young men.
It’s a stereotype that has been perpetrated to bring Asian men down by picking on something so irrelevant as their penis size – which is or is not true.
I mean, the two Asians I’ve ever been with in bed were around 6-8″, and when i say i date an Asian people double-take and mention the “size”, I get highly offended for my boyfriend and us as a couple. Who are they to judge him & his race and my choice in men? It is also an incredibly private/intimate matter…..
I would love to see Asian guys overcome this form of social oppression


Jenjen May 25, 2011 at 2:30 pm

yeah but thickness the size of a pencil


Cat May 25, 2011 at 6:13 pm

You don’t know what you are talking about.


Mayzeszalay May 30, 2011 at 3:33 pm

Haha, did you see my boyfriend’s dick? 
Please, i would love to know if you have. In fact maybe i should be concerned?I don’t know who you are or care who reads this but i can proudly say,  he f*cks me good and I’m not complaining. So neither should you. 😛


Jenjen May 25, 2011 at 2:30 pm

yeah but thickness the size of a pencil


Jessica Ruthless Fatale May 24, 2011 at 7:10 am

yeah i haven’t met an asian guy with a small wiener.
it would be a really awesome documentary.


Herp May 4, 2011 at 4:21 pm

We don’t give a shit, you are a worthless race traitor, nothing of value was lost.


Jessica Ruthless Fatale May 24, 2011 at 7:06 am

Dude you’re a worthless individual. Stop being jealous you can’t be with her, and move the fuck on. You need a life and you need to learn to be accepting, if you liked anyone outside your race, it would be okay for you to date them, but a woman who dates outside her own race, is wrong? wow. I bet you’re a domestic abuser too, its written all in your own words. You need some serious help. I hate white men like you. You a walking double standard, and most likely are a brewski or a hillbilly. And most likely a racist asshole.


Dave Schmave May 4, 2011 at 4:22 pm

and nothing of value was lost


Average Joe May 4, 2011 at 6:00 pm

and nothing of value was lost


Fuu May 4, 2011 at 7:07 pm

Yeah if I had to chose between an asian guy and a white guy HANDS DOWN I’d pick the white I mean come on White guys are so much manlier and generally more sexually appealing xP You’re crazy!


Jessica Ruthless Fatale May 24, 2011 at 7:01 am

hahaha that is such a joke, i have met macho asian men. I dated one.


Interstitialfibrosis June 4, 2011 at 3:13 am

Looks like you have only seen 5% of the asians then.Tell that to yourself when your white husband leaves you at age 50.Asian men ARE MAN enough to stay with their wives because it is a lifelong vow.Who’s manlier now? 


Pacman September 19, 2012 at 12:14 am

Ever heard of Manny Pacquiao? He’s asian and he’s the strongest boxer for the last decade, #1 pound for pound and brought down many guys bigger than him. Everyoe loves him and he’s quite manly, in fact even his name Manny sounds manly lmao


Ken May 5, 2011 at 4:53 am

these guys are being really jealous.. or even furious..that white girls like asian guys. lol
it’s about the time that they realize asian guys are as attractive as any other races. She points out that the stereotypes about asian guys. good work


Carl12 April 1, 2013 at 12:39 pm

But they’re not.


Schwarzen April 12, 2013 at 2:46 am

Pretty cool of you to respond to a message made 2 years ago expressing your opinion as fact. Not.


Cat May 6, 2011 at 1:24 am

Wow all this anger over something that is purely a personal preference!


Hakim Eaddy May 6, 2011 at 4:04 am

Despite what some may say, this women is not wrong for being attracted to whom she wants.
The issue stems from the fact that her preference is usually a fetish of sorts, especially prevalent in some communities that place asian men and women on a pedestal. This issue is not restrained solely to asians, it affects all ethnicities that are a minority figure within the community they are in.
The foreign born hispanic man with the exotic accent circa 1940-60s, africans since the founding of America, and now asians, each is fetishized as the “other”, something “exotic” and “different”. To be blunt, it sucks, especially when it happens to you (yes, I speak from experience), and it makes you cautious as hell. That this woman has the gall to place ethnicity before all other attractive traits within a prospective mate is quickly going to lead to the (perhaps accurate, if denied) conclusion that there is a level of fetishism at play, especially when other men bearing the same traits and even similar physical features come to mind, but lack the specific heritage.
My running point is that while her case in particular may be different, but most cases of such preferences based on race or heritage are not, and there comes a point whee getting defensive because people take the most common route is foolish, especially when you put your private life out for others to see. I may perhaps fetishize some groups, but I do not announce it to others, make a website about it and resent the expectant judgment that comes.
That is all.


Jessica Ruthless Fatale May 24, 2011 at 6:57 am

I only date asian men, and that is what i am attracted the most. Doesn’t make it a fetish. There is nothing to turn me on sexually from a guy just being asian. I don’t have some fetish, where it has to be an asian guy to get me sexually aroused. I have dated white guys and one black guy. So i can say, liking only one race and being physically attracted to them is not a fetish.


Ellychick2005 May 7, 2011 at 1:49 am

This is the best argument I’ve ever read for preferring Asian men as a white girl. I totally do. Now if only there were more Korean’s around here. -cry-


Ljp_fighter715 May 19, 2011 at 1:23 am

where you from? where i’m @ there’s too many koreans lol 


Jessica Ruthless Fatale May 24, 2011 at 6:43 am

Be careful you don’t get an asshole korean, my ex is an asshole.


Itssagurllie May 8, 2011 at 3:39 am

Wow… People need to chill. Heather, I’m happy that you know what it is you like in a man and hope you find your happiness.


thaidude July 5, 2011 at 4:25 am

this is the kind of attitude we all need to have in life!


Rpineda1985 May 8, 2011 at 6:15 am

I like white girls..


-Filipino Guy


ahva May 13, 2011 at 1:35 am

Filipinos are sell outs.


Jessica Ruthless Fatale May 24, 2011 at 6:42 am

stop hating, embrace other races.


Interstitialfibrosis June 4, 2011 at 3:10 am

Maybe you should see me in person then.You might be surprised.


projectrevelasian May 17, 2011 at 6:46 am
J.t. Tran May 17, 2011 at 9:40 pm

I don’t mind the linking, but try to at LEAST make a relevant comment. 


Davidsnail May 20, 2011 at 8:16 pm

 your baby will be white though if you have one with an asian guy. white genes are more dominant than asian.


Jessica Ruthless Fatale May 24, 2011 at 6:41 am

I have a daughter who is half korean and mixed with everything that i am. She looks more like me, but you can tell she is asian. Especially on the days when she looks more korean on anything, it varies from day to day. Children’s looks change all the time.


Pinkwildpoke May 21, 2011 at 3:09 am

 Wow this had me cracking up! One because a lot of american women are in fact becoming more attracted to Asian Men.  I don’t know why but it is true!  Asian men are just hot!  I blame GDragon for my own turn on to these men! hahahah!


Red May 22, 2011 at 1:40 am

nice article… 🙂 i’m asian myself.. a pure asian breed. borned, raised and live in Asia my whole life..  not the korean looks asian. just a plain dark skin asian.why does some ppl commented if a WF like an AM, she’s shallow or on crack?.. WM is a perfect species? or everything just abt penises? ” u can’t be with a white guy cos asians have short dicks?” daaa… whether to like whites or blacks or asians is a personal preferences. whites can drive a honda but asian can’t drive a chevy?…


Jessica Ruthless Fatale May 24, 2011 at 6:35 am

im white and she put it perfectly about only dating asian men, because i hate ugly faces too. i’m really big on how noses are especially the bridge. And i don’t like anything bulbous, that majority of white men have, etc. i don’t self loathe, i just don’t want someone who looks too much like me. I tend to see couples who resemble each other including looks- thats not my thing, and after dating white guys and a black guy, its made me realize how much i am attracted to asian men. Plus Asian guys age better in my opinion.
And i think the asian guys who think its wrong to date outside your own race, should just be more open to the fact about dating outside their own race. Help create the world to be a more beautiful place. Don’t say to other asian guys that they are sell outs, because they aren’t. I hear it alot from white guys. Its really disrespectful, and just shows the jealousy that those types have. Say great job, i couldn’t ever do that because i am too scared too. Or maybe actually try to date a white girl. But don’t hate and call them a sell out because your envious of them dating/liking someone other than their race.


Joseph June 4, 2011 at 3:08 am

Yes,agree.I am 28 and people think I’m 18.Teenagers actually approach me until they tell them I’m old haha.Unfortunately,white girls my age aren’t as open-minded.


Jb_rathi June 14, 2011 at 1:15 pm

hi jessica,

im bharath bobby, yes you are correct the world is a beautifull place. im in search of a white girl too for dating. im an indian


Nohomo May 24, 2011 at 11:40 pm

LOL No HO mo


Anonymous May 27, 2011 at 9:26 pm



Nohomo May 24, 2011 at 11:42 pm

This article is STUPID! Everyone is different and has a right to their opinion.


Anonymous May 27, 2011 at 9:26 pm

Your first sentence is rendered invalid by your second statement. Have a nice day!


Interstitialfibrosis June 4, 2011 at 3:18 am

Just reflects how stupid you are too.lol


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Namlet May 28, 2011 at 6:35 pm

After somehow stumbling onto this website and reading you post, this is similar to to my own preference in Caucasian women. Although some are similar, my preference for white girls are due to the strange yet amusing reasons:

1). I already have an older sister and mother, so why should I bring someone who looks remotely similar in skin colour. This also includes marriage and all because it’d just be having another ‘sister’ in my life if I dated an Asian and I don’t think I can stand the incessant nagging.
2). This follows from the first reason with being able to have a more in-depth understanding of other cultures especially a Caucasian and their ancestral/cultural roots. This applies to dating and having a relationship with a white girl.

3. I enjoy the fact that I get mistaken for being Chinese or Korean or even Thai. The next interesting and funny part is that I get mistaken for being an international student until they hear me talking to them in English. It’s funny because I always like having a joke and it’s a great way to start a conversation with girls and people in general. I always use this very lame but effective joke of ‘Hi, I’m Nam. If you spell my name backwards, it’s Man.’ Been using it since 1995, back in primary (elementary as you Americans call it) school.

4. This isn’t really a reason but I agree with the four points about types. I couldn’t date anyone that doesn’t use their intelligence in a working, humorous and conversational way (unless she’s just a dead set, moronic cow). I value language a lot, in this case, the English Language (somehow I can be picky with American English because they tend to be lazy with certain spelling. That’s just me of course).

5. The best part is that nobody in my family really cares who I date and they know I have an attractive for white girls (I fear for my dignity and self-preservation because my mum has a lot of stories to embarrass me in front of the girl I bring home to meet her. This may include blackmailing my mind).

That’s all I can think of for now because it’s bloody 4:33am and I should be off to have a shower.

Oh, I forgot to mention that I’m not an Asian-American. I’m an Asian-Australian.

– Namlet


Ruin October 2, 2011 at 5:30 pm

Hi, Namlet (a play on ‘Hamlet’? Love it!),
I’ve got to agree with you. While I have a preference for Asian guys (Japanese in particular) (and yes, I’m the WW), I couldn’t date someone I couldn’t connect with in an intellectual way. I’d always date someone who I could talk to and have a good conversation with, but wouldn’t mind me being silent every once in a while. I love to have a laugh, but I’d like to be serious too. I can be super-cynical to the point of mild-solipsism, so I want someone who can both understand that and help me be positive at the worst of times. It’s sounds like a lot to ask, but it’s not really, when you think about it.

Yes, I’d love it if this person is a Japanese male who is fairly attractive, but I’m not going to rule out other people just yet. As for Heather’s comments on Asian guys being aware of their heritage, I think that’s important but it must work both ways – although I love Japanese culture to the point where I’m learning the language, I’m still quite aware of my own heritage, especially my Scottish roots (and yes, I do belong to a clan somewhat, and know which one it is).  

As for the ‘not dating anyone that looks remotely like your mother and sister’, I totally understand that. I used to hang out with a white/blond punk goth guy a few years back, and while I did have a bit of a crush on his at the time, it did put me off for a girl to ask if we were related. That does sound petty, but I have two bros and a cousin who have a similar hair colour and eye colour to myself and I really don’t want to be asked if I come from Norfolk/Ecclesfield/Barnsley and be accused of incest. That would be awful.

Hopefully this makes sense as a comment. And a side note, I’m not American, but from the UK.

having just stumbled onto this site, I hope to stay on here!

Ruin xxx


Namlet October 11, 2011 at 5:39 am

Hi Ruin (It sure is a play on Hamlet. Shakespeare being one of my favourite playwrights of all time),

It’s how I feel about dating, which I still haven’t done because I guess having intelligence is almost becoming a pre-requisite for me. I’m usually quiet but I do like having a good yarn with anyone about anything. Most of the time it’s usually my cynicism which somehow is a positive for me in terms of humour and conversation. It doesn’t sound like a lot to ask at all, who knows, maybe it might suit me? 😉

The poor attempt at bad humour/flirting, I know. I’m not Japanese myself but for some reason I get mistaken for either Thai, Chinese or Korean when I’m actually not. It is important to know your own heritage and still respect it, even though you might not like it in the first place. I’m curious to ask, do you know any Scottish Gaelic?

Well, of course you wouldn’t want to be asked if you come from Norfolk/Ecclesfield and especially Barnsley! I’d say I was exposed to having an interest in caucasians from a very early age. My first ‘crush’ or liking towards a girl was actually a Scottish, blonde-haired, blue-eyed girl when I was at the age of five. It’s also interesting because my best friend is English with some Swedish ancestry and he’s from Reading, England. We’re opposite because he loves asian girls and I like caucasians.

Your reply made sense and maybe hope to hear from you again.

As for dark blonde/brunette hair and green-gray eyes (I saw the other post you replied to on another comment), that’s very appealing to me.

Namlet xxx


L-T May 29, 2011 at 11:35 am

Hey heather check your okcpd mailbox 


Joker May 30, 2011 at 1:00 pm

Ok, so for starters i dont want you to do 2 things. 1. Let this comment ruin your life, but im very sure it won’t. 2. Understand what I am saying is not anger or spite, but simply truth.

I would never even try to pick you up or want to be with you. You look like a junkie. 


Sarah June 1, 2011 at 8:27 am

I think with white guys, being that I’m a white girl, they have automatic confidence that they can score with me. They assume a lot of things – like I’ll have a drink with them, that they CAN get my number, and apparently of course I’m attracted to them. This isn’t true all the time, mostly in bars and clubs. Their confidence just comes off as cocky, this kind of Jersey Shores “I’m gonna get three chicks tonight” confidence. Just like I have a specific type with asians (but I’m a little more lenient), with white guys I also have a very narrow type (and I’m NOT lenient at all). But hey, that kind of confidence is a huge NO for anyone!

If you’re an asian guy but you come up to me like “You like me so I’m not even gonna try hard” you are totally gonna get burned. Cockiness, overconfidence, I’m not a fan of either of those traits so it really doesn’t matter if you look like Rain. I’m not gonna f**k you.


Nobunaga June 1, 2011 at 5:19 pm

Sarah you really got to know that “RAIN” asian as you said maybe don’t want you too.
So stop this kind of useless bratz comment we (handsome asian guys) don’t need you and don’t give a shit about you.
To all the asian guy here (i’m asian too); just grab your balls and get the chicks you deserve you don’t need all this bullshit and it’s not hard as you think.
there is some rules in pick-up:
1 if the girl is attracted to you because you don’t look like an horse then give it a try and you’ll maybe make it.
2 if you look like shit even with all the help of all the featured writers of amww you’ll never get a women.
That’s all i got to say and it can apply on every race (asian,white or black)


J July 30, 2011 at 8:07 pm

I don’t know if you’re handsome or not, but your personality is crap. You’ll get the woman you deserve.


Rawr53 June 1, 2011 at 11:49 pm

Thanks for writing this post! I am a white – to be more exact Ukrainian-American girl. I’m only a teenager but I know that I’m definitely attracted to Asian guys. I’ve never had a boyfriend yet but I know that I’m looking for a cute Asian guy. I don’t know how I found this but I totally agree – I just don’t like white guys! I am so in love with Harry Shum Jr(: But after reading the comments, I’m happy to see that some Asian guys actully like white girls. I thought I would never have a chance!! Go Asians!(:


Joseph June 4, 2011 at 3:03 am

Most asian guys I know dont really have the preference. We are human beings who are attracted to beautiful women with good personalities. Unfortunately, most American women simply has this “reject” button in their mind even before we speak. 


L-T June 2, 2011 at 1:20 pm

damn not even a word
you must be the “sirento himesama” from utah
however keep making cool video and greetings from france


Joseph June 4, 2011 at 3:01 am

I am a confident, funny, stylish asian doctor. Props to you for not being “racist”. I have seen people who explicitly says they like me because of my confidence and hilarious personality but when I ask them out, they flake as they simply dont date “asians”. Unfortunately, I have to work twice as hard than most white guys(which objectively speaking,I think I’m twice the man they are but they still get the girls)because of the stereotypes asians get. So I am motivated that people like you still exist.Thank you for your post.


Cat July 23, 2011 at 7:29 am

I agree, man. One of the reasons I like Asians is because they’re so hard-working. Lots can just be born with a natural talent for learning things, just like anyone else, but it all boils down to an affinity for hard-work and dedication to whatever it is they do. Well, okay, many are actually pretty good-looking, but that’s a pretty superficial reason for liking someone. Reading some of these articles makes me kinda worried because I really only want to date Asian men because its just my preference, and I want someone whom I am attracted to. So hopefully it’s not “Yellow Fever,” because it’s not…

I hope you get lucky. You’ll find your dream girl soon, I’m very sure. 🙂 


Amanda June 5, 2011 at 4:58 pm

I hear you girl! I LOVE asian men and happen to be married to one too=)


Proud White man June 10, 2011 at 6:04 am

Does the Asian Privilege Asians have in Asia piss you off as much?

Oh that’s right, White privilege is only because White countries are for everybody.

But hey, I’m glad to see you’ve adjusted to the new world order of democracy and multiculturalism where there will be no white majorities anywhere. I just hope the soft genocide White are undergoing doesn’t get hard when the economy collapses. Then you might have to suffer, as you so rightly deserve you traitrous cunt.


White Girl Loves Cultures June 10, 2011 at 8:04 pm

Hey douche. You’re one of the reasons why I DON’T like White guys. I am a White girl myself, but calling Heather a traitorous cunt just because she prefers one type of race over others? I honestly prefer Asian guys because most White guys don’t respect me.
I’m going to keep my profanity to myself, but I’d like to say, “Shut your mouth.”



bharath bobby June 14, 2011 at 1:12 pm

hi chicakdee,

im bharath bobby from india, i like the way you said about asian guys.

bharath bobby


J July 30, 2011 at 8:00 pm

Guys like you are the problem why many white women reject white men. You are cocky, arrogant, and angry. Women like confident men. You seem insecure and try to cover it up by pretending that you are better.


CFE90M3 November 15, 2011 at 2:26 pm

white country? Really? you dumb-ass inbred redneck? Native Americans of north, central, and south America are from Asia. They crossed over from Asia over 10,000+ years ago. Check the DNA results of Mayans, Incans, Aztecs, etc… Go read a book before you reckon your sisters are a ripe for a pickin’. By the by, the only traitorous cunt is the one looking back in your mirror, bubba. Because the last time I checked, unless you’re native American “yous” an immigrant. A foreigner, non-native, invader, murderer, rapist, thief, etc… In other words, GOD-less. Go don a pillowcase and burn a cross you devil worshipper. Karma (Justice) is a bitch! Looking back on the sins of man you’re gonna see a lot of white faces in hell. white outside but black to the core. True dat! white ain’t right, fool! Right is right! Amen!


Katy June 10, 2011 at 8:33 am



chicakdee June 10, 2011 at 8:05 pm

Ew to you trick.


Fugly June 10, 2011 at 3:48 pm

Trust me you do NOT look good, you are not even fit..


@@@@ June 13, 2011 at 4:55 am

I think the #1 advantage Asian men have is the fact that they don’t smell!

Study shows that women care about men’s smell much more than their looks!
Asians in general do not produce much body odor, that is in fact much more attractive than even the best cologne.

that’s a major advantage, the sad thing is that most people don’t know about it!


@@@@ June 13, 2011 at 5:02 am

what women care the most about men is their NATURAL scent!
Having cologne helps, but not nearly as much as having good natural smell!


bharath bobby June 14, 2011 at 1:22 pm

hi to all white girls,

i thank you all for supporting asian guys and being an indian i love to have a white girl in my life


Sammybaby85 June 21, 2011 at 5:22 pm

I’m a 26 white woman. I love asian men. And I’ve dated several. But no matter how good the relationship is or how hard I try it never works out because their mothers do not approve. Because I am white. And if that didn’t do it. I also have a white daughter from a previous relationship. And they are REALLY against that. Their sons dating someone with a child. They always tell me I’m the best girlfriend they’ve ever had. That they love my daughter too. That were smart fun girls. And we don’t have any drama.. like from my daughter’s father or anything. We get along fine and he’s been married now to a girl I think is wonderful. My only down fall is their mother’s do not approve and they are not willing to go against their moms. I don’t know.. should I just give up on dating asian men all together?


John June 22, 2011 at 3:09 pm

I am a Korean. Most Korean parents are literally ‘allergic’ to allowing their kids to get married with  a person with a child. It is even regarded as a ‘family shame’. I don’t know for sure about white parent’s recognition on that kind of issue. I think the fact that you are white is a factor Asian paents wants to consider when they accept you as their daughter in law.
I think the fact that you are a white gilrl isn’t an big issue.  Plus, the older Asian parents , the more closed to interracial marrrige. But I think it will change in the end, because  the world is getting smaller and smaller..


Sammybaby85 July 1, 2011 at 8:49 pm

Maybe I need to just stop dating Korean guys specifically then. The last 2 guys were Korean..  so maybe that’s the trick.  Thanks for the tip!


John July 7, 2011 at 5:20 am

I am a Korean. But as an old Korean saying goes, “There are no parents who can win over their kids.”  If there is a Korean guy you never want to give up, give it a try.
Another tip: Korean parents are getting weaker when they are faced with the fact that a girl is pregnant with their grand child, and hopefully they might admit a girl they didn’t like as their daughter in law . Although  it’s not applicable to all Korean parents it is true reality and very possible. But I hope your life will be easy… Good luck!


Lee June 29, 2011 at 12:39 am

I’m a 31 year old asian male, and I have a son who is Chinese/Vietnamese on my end, and Italian on his moms side. My parents were originally boat people from Vietnam, and when I was younger they insisted that I dated someone Vietnamese, it was solely because they spoke limited english. These days they have been fairly westernized, and they have come to respect the fact that I don’t discriminate women based on race (I’ve dated mostly white women all my life simply because I grew up in white suburbia). They are 100% okay with my dating of white women. I am a single father now, and I get along great with the mother of my child.

So I think labeling all asian parents in the same light is unfair, as I can generally say the same thing about many of my asian friends. Most of them have dated white women at some point, and their families have never given them any problems. Don’t let the whole thing discourage you.


Sammybaby85 July 1, 2011 at 8:46 pm

Hmm.. I”m trying not to! But there seems to be a theme Lol  I started seeing a new guy about 2 months ago. He’s Korean. Things were going really well. But then he talked to his mom about “hypothetically dating a girl with a kid” and she.. no need to go into details. But she was very against it. And he has been very distant since. So.. I feel like I’m setting myself up for failure. .. are you single? Lol just joking! .. kind’ve


Lee July 5, 2011 at 10:18 am

Coincidentally, I am. I’ve been single for 2 months now. Getting ready to move for pharmacy school at the moment. I’m in central Cali.


Sammybaby85 July 6, 2011 at 5:57 am

<– STL, MO  : (    dang it..   I think I need to move.

Samantha Weisal July 22, 2011 at 1:35 pm

Aw don’t give up! I’m sorry to hear that=[ I understand you situation though, I’m dating an american born chinese man and both his parents want nothing to with me because I’m white. You need to understand something though, if those guys truly and deeply loved you they would have fought for you with their parents. And I’m sorry if it sounds like I’m bashing your old relationships, I’m not, I’m just saying that a lot of asian parents are old fashioned just like white parents don’t want their kids dating black people. But in the end your asian boyfriend and his parents are family and they love and care for each other. You just need to show his family what a respectful girlfriend you are and give it time. If you and your asian man get married they will have no choice but to accept it if they want to have some kind of relationship with their son and grandchildren. I’ve just been really good around my boyfriends family and even though they don’t like me and we are not on speaking terms, they have stopped harassing my boyfriend about dumping me and have accepted that I’m the one he wants to be with. I hope this helps.=]


SammyBaby85 July 25, 2011 at 5:07 am

Thanks for the support!!  The Korean guy I’ve been seeing.. I sat him down and talked to him about it. And he said that he values his mother’s opinion and what she thinks but in the end he makes his own decisions.. so I guess we’ll see. I don’t want to put a rift in their relationship, but I do really like him. Wish me luck!


Bbildsoe July 7, 2011 at 6:40 pm

wow! i dated a vietnamese guy and his mother loved me even though i didnt speak the language. i thought asian mothers would love to see their sons go marry a white girl.


J July 30, 2011 at 7:48 pm

It depends on the girl’s personality. In her case it probably has alot to do with her already having a child. Most traditional Asians will disapprove of that unless the other parent died. 


Seancching June 27, 2011 at 9:06 am

WTF!.?! Stereotypes either way, ying of the yang!


Hapa82 June 28, 2011 at 3:54 pm

Good for you!  I’m an half Asian guy who has pretty much only dated white girls (I dated a Korean girl for a week in 6th grade) and it’s girls like you that allow me to keep up dating the girls I find attractive.  So don’t apologize for anything.  You are right though.  My ex’s always would get hit on and guys would be like “Seriously, an Asian guy?”.  😛


thaidude July 5, 2011 at 4:43 am

I think we need to respect Heather’s opinion whether we agree or not.
I for one like to be open minded about dating, trying not to get sucked into the stereotype thing.
Attraction is a very personal thing and if its there on a two way basis thats great. 
There are alot of people who judge a book by its cover but its their loss. Their losing out on the chance to find a great story inside!


Justecurieuz July 6, 2011 at 5:27 am

So the same way some guys only date blonds, you only date asians, yeah? Easy enough to understand…just a looks preference.


Anon July 9, 2011 at 9:14 pm

Lots asian guys secretly like white females.  They are just too scared ask white females out for a date because the American media protrayed that white females prefer white>black/hispanic>asian males.   If white females are brave enough ignored the American media stereotypes and give Asian men a chance,  they will discover a huge pool of husband materials.


Terry Torres July 12, 2011 at 8:22 pm

I would be interested in an article written by a white man defending his exclusive dating of Asian women.


thaidude July 13, 2011 at 4:15 am

sounds interesting.  Would also be interesting in to read about an in-depth analysis of the experiences of an AM exclusively dating a WF.


Bunny19852 July 30, 2011 at 10:23 pm

I am so glad to see someone else who shares my views completely!!! I grew up in hawaii and Japan so moving to Florida sucks cause there are almost no Asians men here… I hate the belittling that I get and the teasing I get for it such as “liking small Asian penises” and “little boys”… Sorry for liking a guy that will look better for longer naturally and who is naturally able to stay fit and looks hot in anything he wears… Or nothing 🙂 Also I have never been with an Asian who is small down there ever so stereotyping has come to be a huge pet peeve of mine now!!


Lee July 31, 2011 at 10:17 pm

I recently just started dating a wonderful and beautiful Venezuelan woman after years of mainly dating only Asian woman. I must say that it is a very refreshing feeling. She is warm hearted, loving and very open to her feelings to me. I do not mean to generalize (but obviously I am here) but this is so different than most of my experiences when I dated Asian woman. Whether it works out or not, it has opened up my eyes to a whole new dating world. I hope this openess to dating those not of our own cultures increases because it truly is a wonderful experience learning from another culture. Cheers!


Princess_bratz1818 August 5, 2011 at 3:22 am

well i got to say that i have the same point of view as you,I’m dominican and i love asian guys to death even though i havent date anyone because i have bad luck, sense where i lived they’re no asians. To bad but sense i was a little girl i was always attract to asian and i did everything possible to actually meet one. I hope one day i’ll met one and have a asian boyfriend that would be a dream come  true. That’s why im moving to LA when i graduate just cuz the asians.


KoolGuy530 August 8, 2011 at 5:32 am

you should move to redding california instead. over here majority of the Asian guys go for nothing but different races. In my opinion the Asian’s here are not shy at all and i would say a lot more handsome then any other city, if you don’t believe come visit. you always here about asian guys being shy but thats in the bay area and LA but up here its the opposite.


Patrickyuhei October 3, 2011 at 5:55 pm



White blossom October 3, 2011 at 7:26 pm

I am EXACTLY the same as you.. I wish we could swap emails to support each other with this one! It is so tricky and frustrating and lonely too.. That is great that you will move to LA. You must do it. You must follow your heart..:)


FuB August 16, 2011 at 6:51 pm

hey where do i meet girls like you? 🙂

also, is there a specific positive quality that you see in Asian guys that is generally absent in white guys?


Macchan September 9, 2011 at 1:38 am

It’s very hard for me to find a non-Asian guy I’m physically attracted to. :s I tried to figure out what I like and don’t like, so I think it’s something like: I’m not attracted to guys with large jaws/chin, big nose, beard/excessive body hair. I think those are the three main points physically, at least. Especially the beard/body hair… omg. Guys where I live all seem to be obsessed with having these beards. Freaking hipsters. =.=”

Personality-wise… I don’t know, they seem pretty much just like any other guys. So I guess it’s just physical? XD


Bobby September 16, 2011 at 11:55 am

well, okay.. I think I admit it now.

I think I do like you, Heather.
I’m an Asian-guy.. but I think I’m somehow still outside of your standard..for now..
so, I think the only way to be inside the standard to improve my appearance, but..well..umm..
I think I’ll just do that for myself. I don’t think or just not sure that I’m the one for you.
so.. I guess I can only say “good luck” to you for it~
it’s really nice to know you, after all.


Markrazon September 17, 2011 at 4:04 pm

As an asian man who only dates white woman I’m going to have to say I like the article hun (no need to apologize for your good looks).

Here’s a little insight as to what goes through most asian men’s minds when they see a good looking woman like yourself:
– daymn that chick is hot, but she’ll never go for a guy like me
– I wish I could date her
– I’d love to take her out
– I wanna sleep with her, but she’d never bang a guy like me

You know what the problem is? Its all negative.

Correct me if I’m wrong, the average asian man does not exude “masculine” characters that a white or black man would. Typically asian men are short, skinny, and soft spoken and shy. Hardly, masculine characters I’d say. For the asian men, MAN up if you want to be more appealing to women in general. I’ve spent countless hours on my health, my goals, and my aspirations to sit by idly and listen to people hate on others for their physical preferences. Heather, yes you a beautiful white woman and more men need to be like you. Feel free to follow me on twitter @ Beachbodproject.


Bobby September 18, 2011 at 1:18 pm

Well,”Judging the book from its cover” is the best of what most people can do, isn’t it?

I’m just sure and understand that Heather won’t be willing to stay around with my present appearance, no matter how intelligent I am. Appearance is still no.1 in this case.and I’m sure she’s only seeking for “the best”.. which is not me. 🙂


YGURU September 21, 2011 at 8:02 am

Get balls, people. I’m also an asian guy who only hooks white chicks, and one advice for you guys is “be suave and masculine with balls”. Make muscles & groom everyday & get good scents. Don’t overlook these factors, and act and talk like a white guy without denying you’re an asian descendent. Peace.


YGURU September 21, 2011 at 8:06 am

And remember Heather- dont listen to any bullshit, and there are always hot asian guys like me and you just need to understand their way and expressions of love. You know they are effing keepers and romantists, glad to know your Mr.Right is an Asian.


Azrael September 21, 2011 at 1:11 pm

@YGURU:twitter: Now someone just sounds dedicating himself for “sex”.
Romantist my ass.. You’re just showing off your own ass by the way you brag.
You’re the one who’s spitting out Bullshit for your own sake.
I’ve met, seen and know so many asshole like you.
You’re just trying to make the others looked like crap, and that’s all you got.
You’re abusive attitude and words would never be approved.
I know your point and I don’t need to take any shit from you.
so Good Luck with your SHITTY Attitude wherever you’re gonna place it.
and Fuck you too. I’m still richer than you are.


Victoria Elizabeth Patricia Ma September 26, 2011 at 1:26 am

Thank God someone finely had the guts to post this I have been saying the same thing for years. 


rebecca September 27, 2011 at 5:20 am

i totaly agree with her, i too find asian guys attrctive. i have dated different types of guys. from blue eyed blond to hispanic black, but at the end of the day i see a well dress asian guy and in my head am like ” damn i want that.”
i too have been told all type of harsh comments for saying this. its so annoying. i do not care if your closed minded am going to still find asian guys attractive and still date them.


Katrina September 27, 2011 at 11:36 am

Thank you so much for sharing your taste in men especially with the risk of it being construed as racist and doing so in such a way that makes sense. I myself love nordic looking guys – tall, blonde, blue eyed. This makes me sound like one of those pro Aryan race lovers, so I rarely tell people this. I myself am average height, dark haired with brown eyes – a slavic/anglo mix (I’m sometimes asked if I’m half asian or latino). I think I’m looking for someone the opposite of me – or the opposite of my Dad – short and dark.


Willhelm Willhelmsson January 12, 2012 at 7:30 am

try south east asians then!


Jasonasioson78 September 29, 2011 at 1:24 am

I am a white woman who is only attracted to Asian men myself. I feel exactly they way you do & it was so good to hear someone who shares my views.


Grossed Out October 1, 2011 at 11:01 pm

I’m a white girl who is dating an Asian American guy, and this post
disgusts me.  He does not only date white women.  I do not only date Asian men. 
Wtf is with these racial obsessions?  I don’t think fetishizing
people–or letting yourself be fetishized, for that matter–is a good
basis for any relationship.  Ugh.  If anybody seemed to me like they were interested because I was white, I’d have nothing to do with them.  Why?  It suggests that what they’re objectifying and fetishizing me based on class and racial divisions, and that entails a vision of themselves as lower down, needing to catch a white woman as some kind of prize and status symbol–I can’t respect someone who sees himself that way, and I don’t want to be a prize or anything else that prevents me from being ME to people.  It’s also just plain creepy to get off on being seen as more attractive for being white.  And I would hate myself if I fetishized anybody else.  I would be no better than all the skeezy white assholes who think Asian women are hot b/c they’re more feminized and exotic.  You’re in some serious denial about


Anonymous October 17, 2011 at 10:43 am

I think you’re seriously misunderstanding the author’s main points. 

It’s one thing to find an Asian male’s physical features attractive. It’s no different from say, a Latino dude finding a woman’s bosom or butt attractive. But when you start seeing the way the pornography industry casts Asian women as submissive prostitutes who’re eager to physically please their men and nothing more, that’s where it becomes a fetish.


Grossed Out November 11, 2011 at 4:04 pm

No.  I think the definition of a fetish is to be turned on more by one kind of thing (just as long as it’s treated as a ‘thing’ or objectified, because sexual acts are more properly called kinky if deviant) than others which other people find equally hot.  Fetishes can be relatively harmless, or pretty disturbed.  I think having a racial fetish necessarily involves some f-ed up ideas about that race or its relation to your own, because if race really weren’t an issue, it wouldn’t be expressed in your sexual desires.  I don’t think it has to come from pornography, and I don’t think an Asian fetish is limited to an idea of “Asian women as submissive prostitutes.” 

I would say, actually, that pornography is simply reflecting not only preexisting stereotypes but almost unconscious attitudes and ways of seeing, including the fact that it is easier (for someone in the majority) to objectify someone who is a racial minority and make them a ‘China doll’ or whatever.  I mean by that not that they’re consciously buying into the idea that Asian women are submissive, etc., although they might do that too, but simply that if you overly objectify and feminize someone, you see and find attractive those characteristics that most fit that for you–what you’re attracted to becomes a doll-like caricature.  And that’s true whether you’re talking about Asian women, or women in general, or even white women in China…but what it looks like will differ, and how predicated it is on underlying power relations will differ, and thus whether and how it’s wrong will differ. 

Anyway, we use the word ‘objectification’ a lot for women, but a racial fetish is necessarily a form of objectification, whether directed at men or women.  Objectification can be a perfectly healthy part of sexual desire, in which we, for a moment or in part, forget the humanness of the object of our desire.  I’m just saying that doing that based on race is wrong. 

Bosoms and butts aren’t fetishes because they are normal objects of attraction.  And it tends not to be a fetish when you’re attracted to people of your own race (although you might be a bit racist in your exclusion of others). 


Overdrive November 24, 2011 at 4:20 pm

@Grossed Out, do you have a big pussy??


Ya December 18, 2011 at 5:39 pm

A fetish is being attracted to anything that is not part of the sexual reproductive system. So yes, breast and butts are considered fetishes.

The real question is does it matter? Put whatever label you want on something, if a guy/girl likes breasts or butts, or a certain eye/hair color that is not objectifying someone, it is their human nature. Everyone has what they are attracted to or not attracted to.

So don’t make something out of nothing please, instead try to stop the real issues in sexism/racism if you are worked up about it… like you know people using disgusting words like the F word, N word or C word.

Just saying.


Kristen November 26, 2011 at 2:44 pm

I can relate to Grossed Out’s post because I am a white girl dating an Asian guy, but I do not only date Asians.  We were set up and just hit it off.  I think my boyfriend would have ran for the hills if I told him I was attracted to his race or exotic whatever.  For some people, this can feel like a fetish and it will turn them off.  I also would have been reluctant to date my boyfriend if he was exclusively seeking to date a Caucasian girl.


JAY April 23, 2013 at 5:33 pm

Do you date fair skinned brown guys?


TOPkey October 2, 2011 at 7:15 am

Not sure how I ended up on your post, but I must say it’s interesting to see there’s more people with this type of preference out there. I happen to find Asian guys more attractive too (although I don’t exclude any race in my preference). I think it’s partly because I’m European (living in America now though), so I prefer a guy with a good sense of style, but I also hate the typical Euro-trash personality that seems to come along with it. From my experience, Asians are just a great mix of everything-style, looks, personality and common sense (how many nationalities can you think of where there’s still such a thing as common courtesy and bowing? yeah…) Unfortunately, it seems that (at least in the area I’m in), Asians are very exclusively Asian, especially the guys (more so, the Korean ones). I know there’s a strong cultural aspect to it, but it’s quite difficult to approach an attractive guy when he has an “Asian only” vibe to him (even if unintentional) and everyone around you is thinking “what the eff is she doing?” So major props to you Heather, that took some nerve. 


White Blossom October 2, 2011 at 3:23 pm

Yes TOPkey, you describe the difficulties really well. Sometimes getting a feel for how exclusive an Asian guy is can be really difficult.  I only am interested in Asian men, so being able to read where they are at is really important to me. Often I simply can’t tell! It gets frustrating sometimes. I totally agree too with your comment about Asian guys being a great mix of everything.So, so true! So completely true! 🙂


Thumbs up October 9, 2011 at 7:26 am

This is an interesting article. As an Asian male I have mainly only dated Caucasian women. One thing I have to comment on is that growing up in NYC I have experienced a transformation of people’s attitudes towards Asian males shift over the years. What started out as self imposed fears because of so much racism of the 90’s to Asian females breaking into the mainstream media scene, there has never been a time (IMHO) of such a violent change in the view of The Asian male in American society. I have certainly witness my own transformation between rejection of my own race and culture (as a reaction to the racism of the 90’s) and feeling attracted to white women (the prize factor) To a more settled and less reactive psyche. I now realize my formative years taught me lessons on self perception and preference setting. Now a days, I am simply attracted to women with great charm and good looks, and it has so much to do with personality beyond appearance. I do find blond and blue/green eyes to be my main preference, and I’d like to think it’s simply what I’m attracted to also. If I may pass along my thoughts on how to meet more Asians guys specifically, just be yourself and approach them with an open mind. Don’t bring any pre- conceived notions into the mix.. Other than whether you like their appearance.

I think this is the point Heather is making here in a well constructed way. The worlds full of generalities and poorly represented factoids (small penuses, extra smart, too nice, chauvinist).. There are all kinds of types out there. Lucky for you ladies, the Asian population in America is on the uptick, and you can break the geophaphical barriers with Facebook, online dating sites, etc. (be safe of course )

Good hunting
– American dude born in HK, raised in the us


Ruin October 10, 2011 at 7:35 pm

‘Good hunting’… Nice way of putting it, Thumbs Up! ^^

You give some sage advice. Reading about your preferences, I just want to ask: What’s your opinion on dark blonde/brunette hair and green-gray eyes???

Yes, that was my very poor attempt at flirting. Still, you’re right: I’d rather be going out with someone with a good personality and wit than an utter SituAsian with no conversational skills (excusing the term).

Thanks for saying what many people don’t have the courage to say on behalf of Asian males.

Good hunting,

-a WF Brit with Scots heritage, currently in England. ^///^


Yh0016 November 26, 2011 at 5:08 pm

This asian-going-mainstream scenario has a lot to do with China taking over the world economy. The U.S and other western countries are racing to establish better partnership with China. The easiest way to go about is though the media. In the western worlds, the notion money walks bull shiiiit talks is very true.


Blondie October 14, 2011 at 11:06 pm

Im also a blonde white girl and I think we are sooo alike!!! LOL>  Do you know anywhere to meet cute Korean guys in NYC?


K-Dude October 19, 2011 at 10:44 pm

Korean dude.
I’m in Maryland.  I can drive to NYC.


Johnny October 20, 2011 at 4:03 am

Umm right here : )


Aussy chic October 15, 2011 at 2:28 pm

Love the article – can fully relate  😀 


Reigny2002 October 20, 2011 at 8:55 pm

I am an Asian guy and prefer Caucasian woman. Anyone from the NYC area?


Deuzchland October 30, 2011 at 5:41 pm

What is your problem with white men that want to date asian women then?


Hxly2 November 26, 2011 at 1:43 pm

I don’t have any problems with white men who want to date asian women.  What I don’t like are white men who date asian women but get upset with asian men dating white women.  I also don’t like white men who want asian women, but hate asian men.  Once I was walking down the street and an wmaf couple was walking toward me.  I was just minding my own business but as we passed, the wm leaned toward me so that our faces were practically touching and started yelling and making shrill animal-like screeching sounds.  I just ignored him and continued walking, but kept wondering if he thought that acting like a fool would impress the woman he was with.  Then it occurred to me that maybe she didn’t care if he was a weirdo as long as he was white and breathed.  LOL


Yh0016 November 26, 2011 at 4:47 pm

That is the american way. White guys love to bully other races to show their supremacy and to impress girls. There are simply too many idiots out there. I agree with you – “… that maybe she didn’t care if he was a weirdo as long as he was white and breathed” 


Kristen November 26, 2011 at 5:54 pm

They both sound like weirdos.

Ruin March 7, 2012 at 2:23 pm

No, sigh, not from NYC, but still, any East Asians from Great Britain here? There are plenty of Asian men in my hometown, but they tend to be attached to girls of the same ethnicity. Sigh… We have plenty of tips for Asian men to help them approach white women, but are there any for white girls wanting to a approach Asian men? Any tips would be great! XXX


H7zAngel October 23, 2011 at 5:17 am

My African American/Caucasian/Cherokee daughter (who is under 17) is the same way…Her preference is  Korean Guys (she likes them between the ages of 17 and 19).


Silentartist October 23, 2011 at 2:02 pm

I’ve given up on dating all together so this article is quite an interesting read. And by given up I don’t mean I’m a rapist or something. There’s just too much confusion/drama involved with relationships for me. There too much drama for any interaction to be honest. And all this controversy over race preference only furthers my aspiration to wander off into the trees and stay there. It will be a happy ending for me though because even if I could have found the perfect girl, I would have ended up standing over her grave decades later or her over mine. I hope you live a happy life with whichever Asian of your dreams you grow old with.


Deuzchland October 30, 2011 at 5:39 pm

If you date asian men who hate white men than you do hate your own race. Just saying.


Deuzchland October 31, 2011 at 7:53 am

STD ridden slut. These men do exactly what they accuse “asiaphiles” of.


Hxly2 November 27, 2011 at 6:16 pm

If Heather dates only Asian guys her chances of catching STD are MUCH lower that if she dates other races.  The following link from the CDC shows the rates of HIV for 2006-2009 and Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, and Syphillis 2006-2010.  Asian men had by far the lowest rate of STD every year.  It just proves your ignorance.



Milena November 2, 2011 at 3:03 am

You didn’t explain very well why you’re attracted to Asian guys. Traits that an Asian guy has to have for you to be attracted to him, can be found in any man, not only Asians.  As for me, I really find Asian culture interesting, because i’ve gotten a glimpse into especially Korean culture while watching a lot of historical and daily dramas. There is for instance this formal and informal speech they use and the importance their family has to them. There must be a lot more to it but you can’t really know from dramas alone.
In conclusion i don’t realy have a preference for Asian guys who look Asain and don’t know or aren’t interested in their culture and language.
Honestly i’d really like to have an Asian frined who has his culture in his heart but they are probablly in their country of birth :lol, that’s why i’m actually learning languages to go there myself someday in the future.


Deuzchland November 8, 2011 at 3:51 pm

you have some fucking daddy issues.


Mjay November 10, 2011 at 8:14 pm

I’m half white half mexican and my husband is half korean half guamanian. He is so hot!! lol. I love Asian men too, and I too prefer Asian men to any other race. One thing that I am really attracted to are their eyes!!!! I love those chinky -.- eyes!!!! (When I am talking about Asian men,  I am talking about those who are chinky 🙂 and I am not racist 🙂


Yh0016 November 26, 2011 at 7:21 pm

 yea you fcuking racist. you one eye cunt white bitch


Johnsmith November 15, 2011 at 3:25 am

I’m asian and I used to date a white chick. After we call it quits, she started dating a white guy which she ended settling down with. I have no hard feelings about it and never wonder why she’s not with another asian guy? Anyways, I started to try to date asian women and man was she furious. Just seeing an asian chick in the picture made her weird. She was just so irrational about things. I thought we could still be friends but she started making harmless racial comments and started to mess around with my personal life. She started stealing from me. Before that, she was never ever like that towards me. 


Dirk November 24, 2011 at 4:10 pm

I too feel the article doesn’t explain why you like asian dudes except for cute faces but just about everyone would agree cute is cute.  most white women have a notion just about every asian dude is effeminate and knows only thing they know from tv and movies that all east asian men are bottemless nerds or one dimensional martial arts experts or the weak business man or the stereotypical foreign exchange student.  because of this, white/Latin women in general are racist to minorities especially asian guys.  there are quite a few youtube videos of white/latin women and even asian women making fun of asian guys like England and Australia believe it or not.


Leebeedoe November 24, 2011 at 10:48 pm

I disagree. I’m Vietnamese and I’m dating a Venezualan woman and we are quite happy. Her best friend, who is half Mexican, half Brazillian, is together with a Vietnamese man. Another of her close friends, a Brazillian dancer, is also with an Asian Male. I see more & more Asian men with non-Asian women everyday. Particularly Latin Women…


hislop123 November 25, 2011 at 12:38 am

I think a lot of white women feel threatened by asian women: asian women tend to be better groomed and more intelligent, and that scares white females because they’ve been told all their lives that they’re the acme of feminine beauty and excellence in the world (this explains why so many of them are pathologically narcissistic). As a white male, white women dating asian men does not bother me in the least. I feel this way simply because I know that asian men will eventually learn, the hard way, what white men have been forced to learn over time: white women are a bad investment – as a spouse, partner, or as a mother. there is a reason why, save for getting a green card or landed immigrant status, you do not see men from other cultures aggressively pursuing white north american females for marriage or long-term relationships: word gets out eventually, and white women in our society just don’t offer enough of the things – strong personal grooming, strong values, maturity – that men want. With their own numbers in relative eclipse and with all those beautiful women in the world from all over the world, men have options nowadays and men are finally taking advantage of those options.

I wish my asian brothers all the best – but they will learn as we did.


Anonymous February 12, 2012 at 2:52 pm

Well sir, Classifying all white women as awful its just…ignorant.
Its true that everyone stereotypes to an extent. Our brains,as human beings,naturally tend to sort and classify info BUT to believe and practice in such blatant discrimination is just sad.

If a women is awful,she is awful.The color of her skin would not determine her skill set in a relationship nor will it determine who she is as an individual.
I am a white women and I HAVE strong personal grooming,my values are high and so are my morals which sometimes are a lot for a lot men to deal with seeing as I wont sleep with them within a week.I am young and I am more mature then many others.I’m still in high school,I take college courses,hold a steady job, and volunteer on weekends.My bills get paid,I get fed and My school gets taken care of.

So sir,I am don’t believe your statement holds any argument. Stating that White women are lacking (probably based on a few bad relationships on your part) is too broad a classification for such a small thing.
All white women “bad investments” just like all women of other races are not necessarily “good investments” either.

But thank you for you input,however useless it may be.


Yh0016 November 26, 2011 at 4:52 pm

Koreans are not the only Asians. So if you like and only want to date Koreans, do say you like “Koreans”. FYI, there are chinese, japanese, indonesians and many other asian ethnicity.


Willhelm Willhelmsson January 12, 2012 at 7:19 am

i’m agreed with u! Asians r not koreans solely…..but more than that!!!! please check South East Asians out!!! We r thankful if the white people explore us!


Ruin March 7, 2012 at 2:16 pm

Will, if South east Asian are anything like you, then exploring will definitely be a pleasure!!!

Sorry, bad flirting alert, I know. But still, Asian, intelligent AND long hair? You’ve got my number!


Yh0016 November 26, 2011 at 4:59 pm

You like asian (Korean) guys because they will spend money and time on you and then they are easier to dump. We all know you write for AWMM and you like your job.


mtd November 30, 2011 at 8:01 am

I never thought of dating an Asian man until I met my boyfriend. I always dated white Italian type guys. Where I live it’s definitely a more white to Asian ratio, and I’m the only one in this type of relationship where I live. Now I couldn’t imagine being with anyone else. My boyfriend is Korean and I love everything about him. It definitely depends on the personality and such. But thanks for the article it was a good read.


Guest November 30, 2011 at 8:31 am

I believe that you have the right to date who ever you like to date, however, what you are saying here is equally racist to saying I don’t date asian men. To make such blanket statements your are generalizing a group of men for set characteristics based on their race. Truth be told, in either case you are excluding races as dating choices. What is wrong with just liking men in general? When you do put a label on this be conscious of what that is stating and the inherent racism behind that label. This is a major problem seen more popularly with Asian women and how they are fetishized by white men, who sometimes only like them for being Asian rather than being a unique individual. 

My point is that to exclusively date a race is just as bad as to exclusively not date a race. 


Kristen November 30, 2011 at 12:10 pm

I agree with this.


Allissa November 30, 2011 at 6:37 pm

I dated an Asian guy. Worst mistake of my life. 


Ruin March 7, 2012 at 3:00 pm

Funnily enough, but I really doubt that all Asian guys are the same as your horrible (I’m guessing) ex. I bet that if you tried dating Asian guys again, you’ll have a better experience. That may be an assumption in one way or another on my part, but still, I think it makes sense.


Kieran Tsao March 7, 2012 at 5:09 pm

Strange, I don’t know of any case of a girl dating ONE white guy and saying “fuck, I’m never dating one again”. If anything it’s worse with stereotyping asians because there are over a billion of them, under half a billion for whites.

So where do people get off stereotyping them all because of 1, 2 or even 100???


Cat December 3, 2011 at 4:54 pm

I think that even if the first stereotype were true (when pigs fly), it’d work out perfectly since I don’t think that my stick of a body could handle a big one. Everything inside me is small, too. XP


Kieran Tsao March 7, 2012 at 5:11 pm

Well that’s just it. “Even if”… you, white women, white men and it seems asian women have no idea. And if you did, you’d only have an idea with one particular guy. Say if you slept with a black guy and he had a small dick, would you stereotype them all to have small dicks? Indeed, if you slept with an asian guy with a big dick, would you stereotype them all to have big dicks?


Jennyffer December 4, 2011 at 1:06 pm

You go girl, I’m the same way.


Nunyabusiness December 7, 2011 at 9:22 am

Um… yeah, honey. I’m going to have to go ahead and say that people who question your choices aren’t doing it because they’re jealous. Mmmkay?

More power to you though. Asian men are at the bottom of the dating food chain but everybody needs love. I’m think it is very generous that you’re willing to take one for the team.


Markjj355 December 7, 2011 at 8:33 pm

“I’m think it is very generous…”. Wow. Your English is as horrible as your attitude.


Goose December 7, 2011 at 10:07 am

I’m so in.


Adarlin24 December 15, 2011 at 5:23 am

I have to agree, asian men are hot physically and mentally. Although I have only had one asian boyfriend before, I have been looking for another one. I don’t really know what it is, I just see the man and I swoon. 


Adarlin24 December 15, 2011 at 5:26 am

I also would like to post that I am open to all ethnicity, but Asians in particular make me melt. I love all men, all shapes, all sizes, as long as they can make me feel loved and I can love them in return. 🙂 I’d also like to add I love all Asian types, Korean, Japanese, Chinese, I’m not sure if I listed them all, but let me know if I didn’t. 


Face000000 December 15, 2011 at 7:39 pm

You have clear scorn in your writing. Look, maybe the guys who asked you why you liked Asian guys over white guys went about it the wrong way, but there’s a fine line between being politically correct and facts. There have been numerous studies that have shown Asian men, on average, have smaller penises than Caucasian. Caucasians have smaller penises, on average, than African-Americans. Just because you want everything and everyone to be the same and fair doesn’t mean it is.


Hxly2 December 18, 2011 at 1:07 pm

Asian men are more intelligent than white guys, and white guys are more intelligent than African-Americans.


Ruin March 7, 2012 at 2:56 pm

I see what you’re saying, and I say that maybe, just maybe, this tends to be true because of the ethnic stereotyping that everyone puts in place. I mean, if you tell a student that he/she is a failure, and treat them like a failure, they’ll become the failure you made them out to be! It’s the same with calling a student a success.

Sorry, but no matter how much you’re revelling in your right to free speech, that still sounds incredibly ignorant.


guest December 18, 2011 at 1:15 pm

On average, Asian men are better educated than Caucasian men, who on average are better educated than African-American and Hispanic men.  Asian men have lower unemployment rates than Caucasian men, who have lower unemployment rates than African-Americans and Hispanics.  Asian men have lower crime rates and have a much lower rate of incarceration than white men who have lower crime rates than African-Americans and Hispanics.


Dwaeji Tokki December 16, 2011 at 12:22 am

     Wow, I like asians too and I’m not white, in fact I even said to myself I would date an asian guy and marry, one I really feel attached and attracted too. But I haven’t met an asian guy or dated any…I don’t live in the U.S.A and there’s not that much asian people living here as there are in North America. So, even though I have long-term plans of going off to Japan, Korea or Taiwan, I can’t garantee I would find the right couple(asian) there.

      I’ve accepted now that if the person I choose to be with(and if that person also chooses me…) is a caring, respectful, joyful, funny, a bit unusual(kind of like me)… ;3, creative!, attached to his principles, vegetarian/vegan(hehe:)?)…well…enough…Then I wouldn’t care if he is asian, caucasian,hindu, hispanic, african or a combination of any two or three ‘races’. Its not about the ‘race'(don’t like to use that word, for I don’t believe tere should exist such label or term to describe any living being’s physical characteristics…), its about the person with whom you’re with wich you care for and how that person cares for you equally, I’m not saying evething’ll be perfect…lol…ofcourse not ¬¬, still at least you’ll have somenone as such to be there for you and help you when whatever happens in your life. But…everyone has their own personal taste concerning any life matter, including a mate, so if that’s your choice then…woot for you. Just try to meet the right guy.That’s it then…quite a long comment indeed… -_-‘ I’m tired of typed, I’m off to bed…phew


Dwaeji Tokki December 16, 2011 at 1:22 am

We should all accept each other as humans, not as an individual having
these or those physical traits. These type of issues, ancient I shall
add, I believe, are not important at all! Everybody has the right to date/marry who ever they want and so what if you feel attracted to an asian or a caucasian or an  african or a latin  >.<! If you feel happy with them then cross racism issues off the list too!!


Dwaeji Tokki December 16, 2011 at 1:28 am

We should all accept each other as humans, not as an individual having
these or those physical traits. These type of issues, ancient I shall
I believe, are not important at all! Everybody has the right to
date/marry who ever they want and so what if you feel attracted to an
asian or a caucasian or an  african or a latin  >.<! If you enjoy your life with that person then that's the only thing that matters. So, you can cross racism issues off the lis too!!


v. December 21, 2011 at 10:09 am

You should know, i am an Asian man and have a strong preference for American and English women, I don’t know if it is due to their beautiful pearl colored skin, the variety  of colour their hair or the the differences between our cultures, but I find Caucasian women in general to have a greater mystique to me personally. This attraction may be cause of human engineering which science has shown that men and women are attracted to other’s depending on the differences in their genetic makeup, or it could be the fact I tire of the accepted conventions of society these days where men and women of one race or colour should restrict and constrain reproduction to their own, which is quite stupid for it leads to inbreeding causing future generations to have more harmful mutations that cause disease and deformity. Also the rumor about the penis size of Asians that it is supposed to be small is quite whimsical, i don’t know it is fact or fiction but it does not apply to me i may be above or below average but you decide what is your average? What is 7-7.5 in your books? small average large? And I don’t know why some asian men are repulsed by Caucasian
 Women, I know some were because they were never accepted by them and some others due to pure intolerance. I have had many Caucasian
 Female friends that were interested in me due to my character not just the skin I wore, but i was never completley intrested in them, but there was a Caucasian girl named Tricia  I knew that I was head over heels for, more than just her stunning looks her strong female character she radiated just drew me in, I felt like I could spend all eternity with her and in her eyes I saw it too, we were always obnoxious around each other but when we were together it was like there was odd energy between us, wanting each other so desperately.  Sadly due to the fact there was no mixed racial couples in our school at the time, I never really had the courage to tell her how I felt about her and I regretted it, for she left the second year of our primary school (I know it’s a young time to think of such things, but i did-we did) I thought I would never see her face again, luckily fate gave me a chance, at the end of the first year of secondary school during the summer, I was enrolling into biology early on in summer school. It was there I saw her, at the bus stop in the summer heat, she had changed, she had become a more mature woman, and to my surprise a more beautiful one. I recognized her instantly from her crimson auburn hair color and at first I thought she had not recognized me, till she walked by me who had his foot against the glass and she looked me in the eye and unknowingly I let my leg fall as she passed and sat beside me, there was silence in the air between us, there was also that feeling from those years past. The silence was deafening to me, my heart felt like it was beating like the drums of the Congo, ever since she moved I felt like I had a thousand words to say to her, but when the time came the only
Thing that I could say was…silence. I soon found out that she was currently In a relationship, sadly this made me feel petty, due to the anger I felt, if not the reason someone had found a brave enough heart to do what I could not, or that the other boys who I went to school with who never once glanced or mentioned her during the early years gawked at her lime vultures due to her new beauty that was not exclusive as it was in the past. Knowing her current relationship I knew I couldn’t approach her even though I wanted to with every whim, she had chosen this other 
man and I could not force her to love me for it would not be true if I did. By the end of the summer what I felt had changed, there was the odd feeling from the past but with it was a strong antagonism for what I did and what I didn’t do. To this day Still regret those days, I have change from the past as I am sure she has, if fate should bring  us together one last time I would do what I could to be hers and make her mine.

What I really wanted to say is that if anyone who feels the way  I do or the way I did, they shouldn’t let it go, dot care about what others think for it could ruin something great, 
“if only I thought of something charming to say” I wouldn’t be alone…

Ps. Some may think I am a coward in that I could not summon the courage to initially ask her, they wouldn’t know the difficulty, it was more than just simple infatuation.

And i may be a coward to never have taken that chance but I don’t fear women in general and I definitely do not fear men, Especially the mindless brutes of modern day, on my rugby team
I was one of the lightweights only at 140lbs but I hit fast and hard putting Down men from 100-280lbs There Is no need to fear men, were quite predictable and simple where women I fear I will never understand.


Adarlin24 December 22, 2011 at 12:41 am

I enjoyed reading your post and was sad to hear about young love lost. If I had been Tricia I would have most likely said something regardless of school or not. But I only recently opened up as a social butterfly. I think its not about race, but your willingness to open up to each other. That being said, I am still attracted to Asian men as well as other races. 🙂


Katz Azuma January 9, 2012 at 2:38 am

Hello from Japan. 
Why are you and your acquaintances creating so many dramas on something that isn’t very much a big deal if you think about it from a distance? 
You like Asian men. Full stop. If one can’t take it as it is, that’s his/her problem. Just tell those people “if you don’t/aren’t willing to understand or can’t take it as it is, just STFU.” I like any woman and of course Caucasian women as well. To be honest if I had to choose either from Japanese or Caucasian, I would go for the latter. Some dickhe.. *cough*, nice people kindly try to give me an “advice”, but they are not responsible about my life. Hope this slightly lightens your stress. Katsuya (Katz) from Japan


Willhelm Willhelmsson January 11, 2012 at 9:17 am

hi…i’m willy from malaysia,asian of course but I do like white women(westerners)…they seem so attractive,mature,supportive…..no prob dating white girls,asian girls as well…everyone just really draws my attention!!!! how about a skinny-long-haired guy like me?-willhelm willhelmsson


Pinacle January 11, 2012 at 10:57 pm

you are a cutie! you can for sure get white girls! 🙂


Willhelm Willhelmsson January 12, 2012 at 6:57 am

thx pinacle! I wonder what makes whites call Asians cute? does it have to do with our feature? I find white guys/gals r also cute!!!! we r all the same,it’s just our complexion that distinguishes everyone of us as well as culture…nothing more that that!!! in that case, i’ve found many white guys/gals can get along with shy asians without hassle!!! anyone here, please explain to me how can we asian guys approach white girls….i’m a bit confused with the art of approaching……any suggestion would really be appreciated…sorry 4 my bad english


Seminolekitten January 22, 2012 at 4:24 pm

Hey! Well i’m white…and a girl…who likes Asians…soooooo i thought i could try to help. For me i think the facial features are different and appealing. A big thing for me is that they have to be really funny and fun but also smart. Approaching white girls is the same as approaching any girl. Just be yourself, and if they don’t like how you are, well then it’s time to move on to the next girl 🙂


willhelm willhelmsson January 22, 2012 at 5:09 pm

thx seminolekitten….but i’ve found that it is not that easy to approach girls..i mean white girls using our style of approaching. Asians tend 2 be so shy n it’s different with white girls ( sorry boys ), we find that white people are not as friendly as asians. They seem  …mmm…somewhat serious!!!! this makes Asians scared to get along with white people but it depends…..In your case, i think u r  the most okay since u love Asians. good sharing…thx 🙂

Guest January 11, 2012 at 5:46 pm

hey, i’m a white male. i’ll tell you what. you distract the asian males, then i can go after what i truly love, asian females. then everyone is happy lol


Ruin March 7, 2012 at 2:04 pm

Can’t argue with that logic, nosiree.


guest May 9, 2012 at 5:25 am

I read your “i’ll tell you what” line in Hank Hill’s voice.



Lui504 January 12, 2012 at 2:05 am

Yea I don’t like ugly faces either so it’s a good thing there are Asians out there that like us huh


Willhelm Willhelmsson January 12, 2012 at 7:26 am

sure…we like anyone who we feel n see good….peace!


Thegroup88 January 14, 2012 at 12:34 pm

I doubt any adult white male with half an education would care what type of men you like to date, much less stick around to make insulting comments about it. However, given what you’ve said about “white guys”, I suspect that you DO have some kind of issue going on. Either that or you’re just desperate for attention.


Bennettwalker1 January 18, 2012 at 2:50 pm

Small dicks need lovin too. I appaude your charity work.

Here is the racial sexual order:

Women want black dick for good sex, white dick for money and security, Latin dick for romance, and Asian dick for………. They don’t want Asian dick. lol


Guest February 25, 2012 at 6:09 am

and how many asian dicks have you sucked to know they are small???


Judanfang February 29, 2012 at 6:27 pm

 OMG, this is all stereotyping. Do you think the latino gangsters in LA are romantic? geesh!


Judanfang February 29, 2012 at 6:28 pm

 And Asian dick could also provide money BTW


Ruin March 7, 2012 at 2:02 pm

Wonderful, like I haven’t seen this kind of ignorance before… is that a Bennettwalker1 original? Believe it or not, loving Asian men is not ‘charity work’ in the same way loving plus-sized women is not charity. If you honestly love someone for who they are, then size shouldn’t matter. As for you, I don’t need to know your ethnicity to know that, for your ignorance, crude manner and racism, you don’t get many women fall at your feet, huh? AAt least, not many qualities girls.

Well done, it’s because of people like you that racial hatred still exists. I hope that you succeed in earning the white hood you’ve been working so hard for. (Harsh, yes, but if this is the impression you’re giving people, what else are we to think?)


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 8:59 am

white guys have small brains and small coks, they cant even hide insecurity, a race soon to dissapear with all the white women banging big black coks.
since u have small coks but no brains ur race is a dying breed, where us asians welll theres billions of us, a race guranteed to go on.haha recessive hairy snow monkey with iq the equivlent of penguins


Jermainesoto January 19, 2012 at 5:08 pm

does anyone remember the name video and this latina chick with a small tattoo of a heart on the back of her shoulder she was fucking Keni Styles it was a long time ago like 2007 or 2008????


chillindudeword January 20, 2012 at 5:08 pm

Lucky for us white guys…you’re the exception!


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 8:56 am

wtf r u doin here, snow monkey troll, u better be a white women


chinitoboytv January 23, 2012 at 12:47 am

I like white girls too, it is not how they look like but how can be more look mature.. than Asians who always look like a kid. Asian here looking for white girl., I am so attractive to them!


Ruin March 7, 2012 at 1:52 pm

Mature white girls your thing? I was mistaken for a teacher by a fellow student once! The jokes aside, I do like Asian guys myself, even though I know that as a 5’8″ approx white woman with curly hair and curves I’m nothing like the Asian girls I often see Asian guys arm-in-arm with (that’s the case where I’m from at least).

As for you, mister Chinitoboytv, if there aren’t girls queueing up for you, they probably need to go to Specsavers! Yes, sir, if that picture is actually yours, then you ARE quite attractive (would put my own pic up, but the image toggle thing doesn’t like me…)  

If a white girl is what you’re after, you shouldn’t have a problem! XXX


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 8:54 am

another peanut brain asian, looking younger is a way bigger advantage over a 50 year span than a white who looks 40 at 30


Sotheara85 January 23, 2012 at 10:00 am

Hey Huggable heather! Screw the world. I think you’re hot. I’m Cambodian American 5’7″ and I love my asian women, but white girls do it better for me. So let me know what’s up 😀


Nina Cchi January 26, 2012 at 4:02 am

i also loooove asian guys,they’re the hottest.


IamMe January 26, 2012 at 7:01 am

So why do white girls think Asian men are better?…lol
I was reading to see if I can find that out (which is the title), but it ended before it was revealed. LOL
Comon’, it’s important to me LOL


Nina Cchi January 26, 2012 at 1:33 pm

i think this  issue is strongly related to each girls’s prefferences.
so why do white girls like asian guys?
we’re all humans,aren’t we.? things like attraction comes naturally .
idk if they’re better,but all the asian guys i know have the best personalities.
so,i think girls tend to go after those cute cat-like eyes and character.

just my opinion though ^^


Ruin March 7, 2012 at 1:40 pm

As a white female attractted to Asian males, I have to say that, personally, it’s just a preference, you know? Yes, I am majorly interested in Japanese culture, but have been since I was 6 or 7 years old. It’s like how any Asian man on here may say ‘I just like white girls’. You don’t have to read too much into it to understand it. Before I get accused of having Yellow fever, please understand that, yes I would take a second glance at an AM because of his physical appearance, but I would do the same if he was white or black. In reality, most people will take aesthetics into account first before anything else – it doesn’t mean I’m not willing to get to know him! I wouldn’t stick around with a complete jerk just because he was a member of my racial preference, the same as I would expect that a guy may base their first impression of me on appearance but get you know the real me in time (I recommend it, totally).

If you want to know why white girls prefer Asian men, just ask the individual girl! No one girl is the same as the next, so don’t assume one girl’s reason applies to all of us. You’ve got my personal reason, make of it what you will, but it won’t be the same as the next girl’s. Now, isn’t this better advice than a blanket reason? We’ve only got our own experiences to base things on, so don’t be afraid to ask!!!

Hope this helps! XXX


Laurence Hooper January 31, 2012 at 3:28 pm

I hate to break it to you Asian guys, but “Heather” isn’t a “heather” at all. Heather is a man pretending to be a woman. Most likely, “Heather” is an Asian guy sitting behind a computer, very angry.


JT Tran January 31, 2012 at 3:31 pm
Heather Johnson January 31, 2012 at 8:50 pm

Oh no! Someone on the internet took way too much time and over-analyzed my picture to make me feel bad! 🙁

Alright, you got me. I’m not all that fit. Or at least, I wasn’t back when we made these photos/videos in 2010. Now that my braces are off (which, actually, gave the effect of me sucking in my cheeks) and I’ve slimmed down a bit, I’m no longer all that self-conscious about myself.

The girl you think I am is, in fact, a type. You sir, are correct. JT covered it in the article about the evil women that target Asian men. I believe it was the “bargain shopper”. 

You don’t know me so it’s forgivable, but I abhor the use of White privilege. I wouldn’t use my race as something to dangle in front of an Asian guy because that would mean I think Whites are better than Asians. This, of course, is very much untrue. 

I don’t feel rejected by White males, either. Honestly, I wish they would stop asking me out because I feel bad when I have to turn them down.

So…again, another point rendered invalid. In the end, I suppose you can’t make assumptions. First you call me an angry Asian man and when that was proved to be incorrect, you make jabs at my weight and other irrelevant matters. You have taken it upon yourself to put me down, which is fine, because I’ve made myself vulnerable by being on the internet.

So, faceless man, congratulations. You called me fat and a bargain shopper. While you sit there with your smug sense of self-satisfaction, I’m going to resume my life and remember that there are people out there that have this strong desire to feel good about themselves and think the only way to accomplish that is to pick on others. *golf clap*


Angel February 4, 2012 at 6:25 pm

Hi Heather,
All my life i tought i wasn’t attracted ti Asian men. Well life prooved me wrong!!! Haha i spent 3 weeks in Vietnam lately and  OMG! Yes they are attractive… I almost felt in love with a yunger man… well 11 years yunger….
I’m very happy to read your post and i think i was foolish enough to thinnk i was only attracted to `white mens`. I don”’t know for all asian mens but Vietnamese are soooooo romantic! My god !!  was totaly charmed, and the young man i met made me laugh soo much and i felt like young woman again . Please do not misundertand my saying: I did not have sex at all… so there is no fetishism or what so ever. Than Guy was very charming, romantic and mede me laugh so much. On top of that he was absolutely hansdsome (in my eyes).

But unfortunately my vacations got to and end… I will go back next year this is for shure . And we never know… mayby get married and bring back thant hansdome funny men i met on the other side of the world 😉


Jamie February 5, 2012 at 3:49 am

I love Asian guys! White girl here… They are so much more romantic and generous than white men! More fit and health concious as well; something I find sexy. The penis rumor is not really true (I’m an escort) the only time it might be is with the uncircumcised which goes for any race. Hmmmm…There’s a lot of hateration going on here? Wonder if it’s some jealous white guys??? You white boys have been purchasing Asian girls for years!!! Time us white girls Get us an asian… You Asian girls can have our white guys, pleeeease take them! Oh and I have to admit white female/ Asian male is way cooler and more genuine than af/wm… Even historically… Look at Bruce lee


Jvquarck February 2, 2012 at 2:02 pm

That’s profound talking


Marinapepperina February 6, 2012 at 12:28 pm

YOUR SOO VAIN! lol I think in all my days as much as I like a cute face I would rather be with someone I can be myself with and we could be compatible.I like asian guys and irish guys but looks are not everything.stop wasting your life looking in the mirror when you could be like me and feel good about yourself because guys dont like girls that are too up themselves,just be a happy girl…if you can


Katlyn Actis February 12, 2012 at 12:09 pm

Honestly I can say I am the same..ish 🙂 
I don’t exactly KNOW why I’m attracted to Asian guys.
and I kind of have noticed Korean guys in particular…
but maybe thats because I’m majoring in Korean language and culture haha :3
BUT what I do know is there isn’t anything wrong with just dating what you like!
I have dated a few guys of other races ( Im only 18 so i’m not an expert or anything) but I admit my preference IS Asian men.
I have also started to notice that A LOT of Asian guys believe white girls are automatically slutty because they are white.
Which to be honest may be true in some cases.
I guess the most attractive thing I have found about Asian guys are that they are pretty damn funny and a lot that I have met have been family orientated.
I also seem to meet a lot of shy Asian guys as well,Which can be frustrating at times but I find kind of cute 🙂
but what I do have to say is that your preference is your preference.Do what makes you happy and shy Asian dudes,Its okay if you don’t think your gods gift to all women but have a little confidence. Everyone has something great about them so find what it is and get confidence from that. :p


Ruin May 27, 2012 at 6:25 am

I think you’re right here. No matter what the race, confidence does go a long way in terms of sex appeal. It’s why so many actors and actresses are dubbed as the ‘sexiest man’ or the ‘sexiest woman’ – it’s because they are confident, and confidence is sexy.

This is exactly why J.T gets his girl. It’s also exactly why he suggests that all Asian men get a hang of that ‘Walk of Khan’ business – if you want to be seen as attractive to the person of your dreams, start as you mean to go on, and put your best foot forward!!!

You’re right Katlyn. A preference is a preference.


Filthyfumanchu February 16, 2012 at 9:58 pm

White guys don’t like sharing, Asians guys however, dont mind sharing. Thanks for taking one for the team, or ahum 20 or 30, or 40×3. haha
I dont mind what you like, just keep your freak show out of Asia there are plenty of imports in the western world. We arent too keen on the feminist creep toward the east.
True sportsmen (Great White Hunters) hunt their quarry in their own habitat. Asian men do know how hot their women are. You will figure it out sweetheart. I do encourage you to procreate we all like mestizo who knows maybe in 20 years i will be single again. 🙂


Deltajava February 25, 2012 at 6:02 am

I’m guessing black and latino men cramp your style…


Filthyfumanchu March 27, 2012 at 11:07 pm

No they dont cramp my style 🙂 they dont much like black guys here so that is totally non issue. haha.. most of these asian guys are married wanting a better passport.. the white girls here take many to satisfy.. imagine that..its okay as long as you dont take them back to your country and inadvertently become a part of immigration fraud..If you control the gold you control the girl.. better you dont marry though so you can toss to the side.. they simply dont think as western culture nor do their laws really favour the feminist.. they dont want that, and why the hell would they? Better to get a vasectomy and use as a semen dumpster


KatlynAsianlover Roberts March 30, 2012 at 3:01 pm



Lindsay February 21, 2012 at 6:24 pm

All these racist white boys are making me laugh.

Haha anyway, I’m not sure why I prefer Asian guys. Probably a combination of looks, culture and personality or simply I just like what I like. My boyfriend is Laotian and he actually prefers white girls over Asians. Why? He thinks most Asian girls are immature, lack certain body features (T and A), look too young, have strict parents and simply just doesn’t find them all that pretty. Anyway, I know not all of these things are true but this is just how he feels I guess. My friends think I’m weird for dating Asian guys even though he is the first full blooded Asian I’ve dated (my last was 1/4 Korean). The all ask if I like small dicks and the usual stereotypes but I just smile and tell them that my Asian boyfriend is the best person I’ve ever slept with and though he may be smaller than some guys I’ve been with well at least he knows what the fuck he’s doing. What attracted me the most about him was he wasn’t scared to let me know he liked me and in the end I dumped a boyfriend of 3 years for him.

One thing I did wish I could change about him would be his ability to speak Laotian. He can understand it but doesn’t speak it enough to still be fluent as he might have been as a kid. I wish he could because I’d like to learn it and then I would be able to communicate with his mother (and other elders) better because she doesn’t know much if any English.


Deltajava February 25, 2012 at 6:03 am

The small dick stereotypes were always unusual… unless they were suggesting they had personal experience with asian cock (and plenty of it) to get a good sample enough to share their results?


Ruin March 7, 2012 at 2:48 pm

Yes, the stereotypes are always odd, but do bear in mind that every myth was based on a grain of truth. Yes, that sounds bad, but look at my reply to Kaitlyn Gulick to why I think it isn’t…

And you’re right, any guy who has that to say about Asian cock must either be very stupid or VERY well informed!


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 9:11 am

we dont need white women or give a shiet about whites, us asians just want to do our thing, but if whites are guna get in our way, be prepared for a long rivary, most asian men prefer non-whites/blacks


Jojo lee February 23, 2012 at 9:22 am

I’m also attracted 2 Asian guys… I’m not white but I’m Asian but the other part of Asian not Japan or Korea etc etc…. I seriously don’t know why I’m so attracted to Asian guys 2? And I’m not racist but Im seriously attracted to them!…
Alot of ppl told me why ur not attracted to ur own race .. I just told them my eyes follow Asian guys I can’t take my eyes off them I’m attracted to them!..and yes I hate ppl being racist of this issue !..boys r boys but some of them are different and some times your eyes can not let them go….


Ruin March 7, 2012 at 2:45 pm

I get what you mean. Would we complain if a guy said he preferred blondes? No! That’s just their preference. It’s not a question of race, but just preference. You’re right, my eyes seem to follow Asian guys too so I know what you mean. Once again, I’m glad I live in a multicultural place where I can not only find a cute Asian guy easily, but there’s more chance of him having a great personality!

All the best out there, Jojo lee!


Condor February 28, 2012 at 6:33 pm

Hi Heather, I thought your commentary was very cool. I’m an Asian guy (your type lol) and I say more power to you! 🙂


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 8:46 am

people like heather will make the world more peaceful, but what we need is more discrimmation to further the cause


Kaitlyn Gulick February 29, 2012 at 2:44 pm

I would have to say I agree with basically everything you’ve said in this article (my preferences a bit different of course). I’ve also had people ask me “Why do you like them?” or the question I get most often “But are they… y’know… small?” I swear it’s always that wording! And I’ve even had Asian females ask me this one which surprised me. I never quite know how to answer the first question though. I’ve never really thought about it, I just am. (No one ever accepts that answer, however.) I’ve dated every race but in the past so people can’t even call me racist or anything for it. I may have even recognized my preference earlier if it wasn’t for the fact that there were like 3 Asians in my high school, 2 of which were girls and the other of which was my friend’s brother…  The questions get annoying so I wholely agree with your sentiment about why should it be anyone else’s business why I like Asian men.


Ruin March 7, 2012 at 2:38 pm

Funny thing, Kaitlyn Gulick, but I heard an interesting story from a white girl on yahoo answers concerning the penis-size issue. According to her, (and I may be paraphrasing a bit here), but although it has been her experience that Asian males are slightly smaller, the fact is that more or less the same amount of blood goes into the Asian penis on arousal as in the white penis.

But now, heres the rub (and that wasn’t an intended pun), but if you have the same amount of blood going each penis, one of them slighter smaller than the other, what do you think the result is? If you guessed that that the Asian penis is much harder because of it, then you were right!

Yes, a post with some gruesome biology, but I’m just passing on the message here. A pretty good message too. Sorry if it wasn’t exactly on the same topic as your message, but if any white guy question you about whatever penis issue they think there is in relation to race, there is always that piece of knowledge to pass on. Either that or just asking them if they’ve got personal experience of that.


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 8:44 am

ur a fukken a moron, we need this type of discrimationation to
unify us, a unify asia will be the most dangerous political organzaition ever just ike the mongol tribes, ready to wage war with many races in 1 war


Kaitlyn Gulick August 4, 2012 at 3:55 pm

Dude, you don’t need to unify anything. Just go about your usual life and don’t try to start stuff.


Kaitlyn Gulick August 4, 2012 at 3:57 pm

That was actually a kind of interesting read. I don’t agree with the sentiment that it is smaller, like the girl said, but I’ll still keep that biology thing in mind XD


Kanat17th May 31, 2012 at 8:42 am

The small penis shite works into our hands, now us asian men will be more unified than ever, we can only thank the white men for thier peanut size brains


Salvableruin March 1, 2012 at 8:31 pm

You call yourself attractive. I can’t deny that. But like you, I am not interested in white girls. Asian only, and Korean or Japanese especially. Much more attractive. 


nahh March 4, 2012 at 12:25 am

then why are you here?


Salvableruin March 4, 2012 at 12:40 am

I’m not sure how to make sense of your question. It’s the internet. I got here my googling stuff. I read the article with interest. I posted a response. I’ve as much business being here are you. 

Are you here because you are attracted to the author? That’s not why I read her article. 


Dragonballevosucked March 6, 2012 at 10:48 pm

Actually the author is really hot.


Yodakin Bregalad March 9, 2012 at 8:08 pm

Are you asking why people are on the internet?


Lozgcrocks March 2, 2012 at 9:29 am



Salvableruin March 2, 2012 at 12:18 pm

Thanks for that comment. I wasn’t intending to troll, but I can understand your perspective. Of course, the article itself could then be accused of trolling. Anyway, I hope my comment doesn’t upset anyone. It’s just my personal feeling. 


Ruin March 7, 2012 at 2:27 pm

Any Asian (particularly Japanese) guys in England, particularly the North? Yes, a plea from a single white girl, but an honest one. Thank you! XXX


Whitewolf March 11, 2012 at 7:42 pm

If by ‘North’ you mean Cumbria, Durham & Northumberland then you’re probably out of luck. I live in Cumbria and I’ve never seen an Asian in my life.

You’d have to go all the way South to Manchester or Birmingham – plenty of Pakis there. Japanese? I dunno. Go to London maybe?


Ruin March 13, 2012 at 10:20 am

By North, I mean South Yorkshire, and there are plenty of Asians here – I’m just asking if there was anyone who’d be interested in little old me.

Oh, do us all a favour and ustop using offensive laguage like ‘Paki’ to refer to South-East Asians – they aren’t all from Pakistan (other countries of origin include India, Iran, Iraq, Bangladesh and so on and so forth, espcially since you find many South-east Asians were born in Britain and are as British as British-born White people are.

So there. Any East Asians in South Yorkshire, UK interested? Chinese, Korean, Taiwanese, Thai… I’m not that fussy over heritage. Thank you XXX 


Petpalacewally May 5, 2012 at 1:26 am

  please come to Canada and hit me up, Iwill be glade to help you out and I don’t even need to see what you look like.


Ruin May 5, 2012 at 3:51 am

Would actually consider it if I had the money for Canada~ So far away though ):

There’s so much advice on hand to help Asians get a white woman, but not enough for the vice versa. Any advice for me??? Thankyuuu XXX

Yodakin Bregalad March 9, 2012 at 8:06 pm

Sounds like some kind of fetish.
Or maybe you’re a big strong girl who likes puny guys?
Anyway I can relate (somewhat). I’m a scandinavian boy, and from what i hear “our” women are the best looking in the world, but I still like hispanic girls for some reason.
The finest girls i’ve met are from south america.


Maskdazorro April 8, 2012 at 12:52 pm

some of the ugliest pencil dik morons I know are scandinavian


Jennalynn May 25, 2012 at 7:47 pm

you sound jealous! If you didnt care you wouldnt say anything… and thats not true hispanic is NOT  the best looking at all too played out if your good looking your good looking who cares.


Matt_Johnson May 25, 2012 at 8:27 pm

If you look at miss universe beauty pageants, many of them are latin/hispanic and also their culture is better so in a way their beauty is superior compared to whites, blacks, asians etc.


Ruin May 27, 2012 at 6:13 am

Funny thing. Beauty pageants, like the rest of the beauty industry, are run by people who only refer to an implied audience – that is, who they imagine as their target audience – and not the real audience when making and selling their products. They also have decades of shoving what they think we want down our throats as a ready-made advantage over us when they decide who is ‘pretty’ enough or ‘young’ enough to be allowed into such a contest. A Hispanic woman may win because the powers that be have decided that Hispanic is ‘in’ this season, not African Caribbean or White European.

Just because a Hispanic woman wins a beauty pageant does not mean that she is far superior in beauty or culture, necessarily. It just means that she has mastered the ability to make herself come across as beautiful, using tricks of the trade such as self-confidence (confidence is ALWAYS sexy) and a LOT of beauty products, and by playing to the rules of the beauty pageants, whether that be by greasing the hands of the right people or sleeping with the right judge beforehand (and we can’t pretend this doesn’t happen from time to time, be it by a Hispanic woman, a White woman or a Black woman (for example)). Beauty is only in the eye of the beholder, and cannot be properly gauged or quantified. As for culture, every culture is guaranteed to be rich in its own way, but that depends on who is experiencing it and whether or not they can appreciate that richness.

Maybe you find the Hispanic/Latin culture to be far superior, as well as women of the same persuasion. This does not make it a statistical fact.   

Think about it.


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 8:38 am

well said…the small percentage of intelligents whites i fear, the rest are a joke with mental cappacity of a high schooler

Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 8:37 am

wow u know nothing about international politics, aww white men soo naive…soon to be subjects of the celestial empire


Whitewolf March 11, 2012 at 7:36 pm

This sounds like attention seeking. You’re just one girl Heather. Countless millions of others would disagree with you.

In fact you’re the exception that proves the rule.

Whatever turns you on though.


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 9:06 am

who gives a shiet what millions of hairy snow monkeys think, we are a race of 2billion with big brains, who only concern is to topple the white race, have fun when the time comes for us to move a billion ppl out of asian into the west


Doodguy1982 March 21, 2012 at 6:48 am

Heather, dude, thanks for bringing Asian guys some justice. There needs to be more white people like you. It’s so sad for many of us Asian dudes, and nobody including many Asian chicks don’t even look in our direction, which I acknowledge as understandable. Filipino guys and some Vietnamese dudes are different, however, because I observe that a good number of them have no problems getting girls. It must be because they’re like super gay, and girls like that for some reason. JK.
For the rest of you inquiring about sexual mystique, I also acknowledge that many of the rumors about Asian guys are true, hahaha, go to the gym and see for yourself. It’s out now, are you all finally happy, you pervs? My dad, however, is the exception. No seriously man, I recently saw him on accident walking around, and I was like, “Doooood!”
Anyways, many of us might not be well-endowed with physical attractiveness and heft below the waste, but at least we’re good at making money. The lightened load also allows us to be nimble, flexible, and maintain the life-saving ability to run away from bullies. If you’ve never seen an Asian haul ass, then go over to a school bus stop around 3:00PM and wait. And, that, is what I consider to be a fair trade. We might not be virile, but at least we live in great comfort and live a life that’s well lived. 


BARNEY April 14, 2012 at 1:51 pm

 Speak for yourself Doodguy1982, not all ASIANS got their ass bullied around like you.


yeah April 21, 2012 at 9:37 pm

There are a lot of negative stereotypes for asian men…


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 8:35 am

That only shows your insecurity u fkken hairy snow monkey with cocks bigger than brains


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 8:34 am

str8 up brother! here in toronto and vancouver, them whites dunt fuk around, soon we will be able to take back the land they stole from us.
will must destroy their whole economy, ship them more asian sluts then reverse engineer all the weapons they have. South America will be rocovered


Petpalacewally May 5, 2012 at 1:21 am

that’s some funny shit!


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 8:31 am

who cares if a white women is bring justice to us, do we really need justice? NO, what we need is to shut down our factories and turn it into weapons depot, the west must be re-taken and given back to the rightful owners


KatlynAsianlover Roberts March 30, 2012 at 2:58 pm

I love Asian men 🙂


Mike September 26, 2012 at 10:27 pm

You’ve been brainwashed.Go here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QnJpMFenP6A


Anonymous November 2, 2012 at 12:03 am

No offence sweetie, but you not only have issues (Ihave watched this video and after I felt the need to wash my my eyes in bleach) but you need to get off this site, it is for people who actully support the subject


Hawa M. January 13, 2013 at 11:36 pm

You’re an idiot. Everyone was here before you folks.


Mike April 18, 2013 at 6:38 pm

You don’t get it. Listen to Barbara Lerner Spectre,Dr.Pierce and Kevin MacDonald.


Thanh Chau April 3, 2012 at 9:24 am

That’s what my girlfriend says about me 🙂 but I’m not full Asian so Im kinda cheating 😉


Paradiseapplebody April 6, 2012 at 10:34 pm

With high unemployment and low savings among the white American population, Asian men who have good savings habits and higher incomes often make up for a smaller junior which may be less endowed. Economic security is paramount and Asian men often are better able to provide that. You see that most BMWs are owned by Asians and his smaller pecker can be overlooked when he can materially provide.


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 8:29 am

another dick detective, how do you know asians have small coks, u must be a professional cok inspector


Paradiseapplebody April 6, 2012 at 10:35 pm

I see white women dating Asian men as nothing more than a gold digger.


Ruin May 27, 2012 at 5:58 am

Sorry there, but you’re generalising. Just because some white women date Asian men as a way to get into their bank accounts does not mean they all are. There tend to be as many reasons as there are women themselves. I mean, we’re all individuals, right? We all have our own mativations, meaning they can’t all be the same as the others.

A little fact: generalising is what brings about stereotypes, and it’s a stereotype of Asian men that has branded them all as having good jobs and high-end salaries. Fact: Not all Asian men do well. While there is a tendency for Asian men to be pressured into working towards getting that job with the huge salary, this could be for a multitude of reasons, including the culture of their country/culture of heritage, the culture of their country of residence, their parents, or even the sterotype itself (how many Asian men can say that they’ve done nothing but work towards that high-end job because he’s aware that he could ‘break the mould’ of asian men having high-end jobs in terms of pay and status, and thus seem like a big failure if he doesn’t?).

because of this stereotype at work, you’ve got it into your head that if someone dates an Asian man, they can only be after his money because you can’t see any other desirable qualities that he can possess as well or instead of money, such as intelligence, a good sense of humour, good looks, or a caring disposition. Because you probably agree with the idea that an Asian man should only date other Asians, and the idea that White women are the only women assertive enough to reach for the money bags, you see an Asian man/Asian woman combination as status quo, but an Asian man/White women as exploitation on the woman’s part.

Since we’ve already covered the axiom that this is never always the case, your view, therefore, must be wrong.

You need a new way of seeing the world. Hopefully, I’ve helped with that.


Status K June 20, 2012 at 11:09 am

well, she’s going to be in for a surprise when she realizes I’m broke =)


Maskdazorro April 8, 2012 at 1:40 pm

Heather I appreciate your moxy.  I’m an asian american guy from California.  I’m currently dating a blonde (hot!).  My buddies are both white and asian.  Some of my white buddies only date asian women. That’s fine…to each their own. I don’t see the big deal. They want to rendezvous with asian…heck….great…we’ll take your own too!
I see asian guys with caucasian women here all the time. I love it.  Who gives a F*** what others think.  People are going to hate no matter what you do…especially if you’re successful.  Kudos to you Heather.  


Ferret April 10, 2012 at 10:49 am

seriously, get over yourself. You come off as super arrogant and I agree with others that you have something personal against white guys. I am also a white woman who prefers Asian men, but of course that doesn’t mean every other race is totally off limits. You seem to have more of a childish fetish that you want to advertise to the world because it is a less than common one than an actual preference. LOOK AT ME IM A WHITE WOMAN WHO LIKES ASIAN MEN.  
And, amazingly, somehow you give the impression that Asian guys are not as good as white guys, even though you are saying that you Asian men are your type. You have bought into the stereotype and you make it sounds like Asian guys are lucky to have you or something. Which is why I reiterate: get over yourself. 


beastfromtheeast June 8, 2012 at 2:19 pm

 I didn’t get that vibe from her post at all. I think she’s just stating her opinion on how she’s tired of having to answer stupid enquirers from strangers about a subject that has nothing to do with them. I get asked questions from Asian women as to why I prefer White/Latin women, and after the 1000th time I just say…….because I’m attracted to them. They usually get offended by answer but I guess they were expecting me to back down form my stance, but no such luck. AMWF forever!


spartan June 13, 2012 at 11:45 am

Very nice said.  I totally agree and encouraged it.  Once again

AMWF Forever and Ever


Johnny82 June 18, 2012 at 7:02 pm

I agree as well. She doesn’t date men if her own race, what the hell? Sure it might not be daddy issues but there’s definitely something weird going on there. I’m a white woman who’s dating an Asian man but it’s not because he’s Asian! There are more to people than just skin color. This whole article just seemed attention seeking and fettishy. I think both Asian men and white woman should tread with caution when they come accross someone who’s only interested in dating a color that isn’t their own. You will always be questioning does heather actually like me for who I am or am I only on this date with her because I’m asian?


Daniel Kwok April 11, 2012 at 3:06 pm

hello, i have bad experience of trying dating white girl.

i have tried few times but never once succeded.

any advice?

sorry this is maybe out of the topis, but i just need some advice and help.

i love white girl.

Daniel Kwok


JT Tran April 11, 2012 at 4:52 pm

Hey Daniel, have you subscribed to our newsletter where you’ll be given a video on exactly how I approached an attractive blonde?


cool April 13, 2012 at 7:41 pm

Hey Daniel…don’t try.  Women can smell desperation, BE NORMAL and be nice to her (but not overly nice like giving gifts).  Think of Han Solo and Princess leia in Star Wars, you have to be sarcastic and have a don’t care attitude.  Also, if you have any talents, you could impress her but don’t force it, think of Bill Murray’s character from Groundhog Day movie, he impressed the woman he liked when he was playing his keyboard at a party. 


cool April 13, 2012 at 8:01 pm

Also, figure out what she likes and see if you have anything in common with her.  Just about all women assume guys only want them because women have a puss and most women are very cautious…unless of course if you’re a super attractive and famous guy like Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt or if you have the skills to attract women.  Even an ugly looking guy can attract women if he knows the skills. 


Jennalynn May 25, 2012 at 7:43 pm

um thats soooo untrue im a woman and everything ppl have said on here is bullshit! And the part about white women sleeping around? oh its okay for you to do it but when she does it then its not? fuckin hypocrites


RavensRose April 14, 2012 at 12:28 am

Hey, I’ll be the to admit, my attraction to Asian me probably stemmed from  my love of the culture and this may make it  seem like i have “yellow fever”. I must say while i do prefer Asian me it is mainly because the Asian I have met so far hold the most of qualities of what i look for in a man. once again this may seem racist but it is purely preference. I have never actually let race define who i am with, nor will i let it.
XD sorry for my little rant 


that guy April 15, 2012 at 4:43 pm

I’m a white guy who just tends to find Asian women more attractive in general.  They are a little more conservative and usually have a good upbringing. They also make god mothers for the most part.  I find white women to be a little too self-absorbed.  They are usally more likely to sleep around before marriage.  I find that to be a turn off.  Besides, Asian females have sweet voices when they speak English.  At least most of them do.  That, along with their more feminine demeanor is what gets me.  I’m just one guy though, but I think others may feel the same way I do.  I like less drama, I think Asian females, especially well brought up ones, can give you a peacful marriage. 


yeah April 21, 2012 at 9:31 pm

I agree, white women are very self-absorbed and sleep around a lot before marriage.


Chikin June 14, 2012 at 8:41 pm

I disagree. My ex was asian and she wasn’t a virgin when I met her and cheated on me during our relationship, which was also the reason why it ended. The caucasian girl I dated after her was a virgin when I and made me wait about 6 months before our relationship moved beyond just kissing and holding hands. My experience has been completely oppisite…however I think generalisations about any race are stupid. Both asian girls and white girls are capable of that. 


Matt June 26, 2012 at 6:07 pm

White women are privileged compared to other nationality of women in western/american society, and since white people are the majority, they do whatever they want, like even make racist videos making fun of asian dudes.  I’ve seen them they’re all over youtube.  Most of these youtube videos are from America, Australia, and England.  White women also hate asian men (specifically east and southeast asian) the most and racism is taught by females, not the males that most people were to be believe so it makes sense women in general are racist.  Check out this site.  http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/women-are-racist/


Daniel July 19, 2012 at 6:54 pm

Did u also find some racist videos against asian guys from nonenglish speaking western countries such as Sweden, Norway, and the Netherlands?

ctdancer July 3, 2012 at 10:08 pm

 Very good point!  I also read about a lot of cases in which Japanese couples have sex before marriage, and then once they get married, the sex dies.  I am an Asian lady.  I fell for a white man, worked for him (executive secretary to the managing director of the Asia-Pacific Regional Office of one of the Baby Bells that came out of the AT&T Divestiture).  At some point, I was willing to lose my virginity to him.  He, on the other hand, refused.  He loved his wife very much (yes, he was married), and he told me that what I had was not his to take, but something for a man I married.  It was because of this white man that I remained a virgin until I got married to my white Jewish ex-husband (unfortunately, we called the marriage off after 12 years, no fault divorce, joint custody).  I don’t think an Asian man, married or not, would have given me that very special gift that this white man (may he rest in peace, he passed away April of last year) gave me.  He became one of a kind (I doubt that even other white men would have done what he did) and no one has been able to come up to his standard.  And even after all those years (we met in 1987, since that was when I started working for him, then we parted ways when I had to leave for the U.S. in 1991) after he lost his wife to melanoma in 2003, he looked for me in 2007.  As a divorced mother, however, my son was more important (Perhaps, if he had lived longer…).  But I’ll never forget him, since he was one of a kind and a very special person.  And, I’m still more attracted to white men.  Sorry, but appearance comes first, then intelligence, then personality.  That was also how I chose my ex-husband (my ex-husband looked like Al Pacino).  And he still admires and respects me for my independence and intelligence.  And, I’m happy to say that throughout our marriage, he never looked at any other woman because I was the only one who could hold his attention. (And sorry, but I don’t find Asian men to be more loving than white men.)  It’s Caucasian all the way for this Asian lady.


Matt March 22, 2013 at 1:36 am

That’s fine you have a preference, but you shouldn’t limit yourself just because of your choice of preference. People find each other attractive through commonality regardless of each other’s race. Everyones race is probably tainted anyways technically…if you go way back. Even though this site promotes asian guys in a positive way, there is still not enough positive perceptions for asian guys in general in non asian countries. There are more positives for asian women (although it’s different). This is why there are more adversity for asian men when it comes to relationships because of the small demographics in the U.S. and other non asian countries. And many non asians still don’t know or care to know the difference between fob and natural born do to negative perceptions and limited demographics.

Petpalacewally May 5, 2012 at 1:13 am

You are absolutely right in every single word you said. I’m a vietnamese/Canadian so I know. I love white woman myself and love them for the one thing that asian girls lack. white woman are more exciting, they have more spunk to them, they aren’t afraid to get dirty with the boys, there is more action with them in life and especially in bed, they aren’t afraid to speak up and defend themselves when I am wrong. Keep in mind that when I say white woman, I men everything but Asian: Dutch,French,Russain, Norweigen, Canadian,American ECT. This topic sounds so racist but I’m far from it. I have friends of every minority. I love my heritage and who I am. I just find white women more atractive. That just shows you that it’s not all about looks. Every comment I read, it sounds like looks is the last on there list.


Alexalexalexalexalexalexalex June 14, 2012 at 8:31 pm

The worst kind of people who date outside their race are the kind that decide to generalize about their own race after they do it. I’m dating an Asian guy but luckily that hasn’t made me narrow minded enough to say negative things about caucasian men. Your mother is a white woman, do you think shes slutty and self absorbed as well? If you like Asian girls, good for you but that doesn’t mean you have to justify it by hating on your own race. 


Christinea Thacker April 19, 2012 at 12:07 pm

 I too suffer from “yellow fever”. I caught it while I was in High School and dated a Japanese guy. On my fathers side of the family we have Koreans and Japanese. I have dated every other race (Black, White, Spanish, Arab, German, etc…) But I always end things quickly with them, because even if we have a lot in common, I am just not attracted to them. I am really attracted to Asian men. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and he is Thai. We live in the south and I get dirty looks all the time when we go out together. My father absolutely hates him, and the only reason for his hate is because my boyfriend is Asian. I have finally decided that from now on I will only date Asian men. I love their skin color, the shape of their eyes, how they are not very hairy, their lips, etc…(I can name  a hundred different things). Also i find it hilarious that every time you tell a man you date Asian men, they ask, “You like small cock?” I have never met a woman who asked me that. Maybe those guys just feel insignificant. I personally have no experience as I have only slept with Asian men, but i don’t think the size of the guys cock is really important when you like them and you both get along really well.


Graham Kelly416 April 22, 2012 at 11:35 am

I love Asian men. They are truly amazing!


Lester Gene February 13, 2013 at 12:26 am

Where are you from Kelly? I am asian/filipino


Amy Ali April 22, 2012 at 7:24 pm

You know China is a large country.  There are a lot of minority areas in China. I think you guys are talking about the typical Chinese(the main race).  If you have interesting, you can look deep into this point.


Petpalacewally April 23, 2012 at 4:56 pm

 It’s all about preferance and has nothing to do with racist. I am an asian male( vietnamese-Canadian). I was born in Vietnam and came here when I was 4 years old. I speak both language fluently. It’s not because I hate my race, ashame or anything like that.I love my heritage but I just find white women more atractive. I know almost every white male would love to date an asian woman but it doesn;t mean they are ashame of there white partners.It’s an attraction you can’t control like being gay. You would be cheating yourself out of happiness if you listen to others. Love and the feeling of being love is an amazing thing, no matter if it’s with  a white,brown ,black ,blue, green person. I would do anything to find a white girl who will love me un conditionally and stand by my side for life. Off course I would provide her with every man should for there woman! I hope everyone finds that kind of love whatever your race is!


Danceharmony May 2, 2012 at 3:12 pm

where did you get that shirt?? I need that!


Onetrueknucklehead May 4, 2012 at 6:01 pm

I say its all about how you present yourself and being true to your self. You can be turned off or be disappointed when a white chick tells you to beat it or its not going to work and not her type but hey who cares right the world is full of women, its not just white Caucasian, there are Europeans too. But hey point is know how to present yourself and be your self just don’t over do it.


Nx2 May 6, 2012 at 8:24 am

As an Asian American male (yes, there is a difference between Asian American and Asian seeing as how we live on opposite ends of the planet), I’ve dated mainly Caucasian women; never really thought about why. I have noticed, however, that people tend to lump them all into one, when there’s a VERY HUGE difference between the two (it’s easier to believe the worst, eh?). I’m 6’2, 190 lbs. Atypical? Only a little bit. The Asian American guys that I know (yes, the ones who’ve lived here all their lives, adopt the same diets/manners, not the FOBs living in ethnic bubbled communities), average about 5’10/5’11.


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 8:22 am

another white men trapped in yellow skin. Hieght is a white men thing in which he uses to his advantage. real asian men value the power of intecllectual thinking which on the long run will outlast alll…..


Nx2 June 8, 2012 at 5:40 pm

So what do you call someone who uses height, intelligence, ambition … everything they can to their advantage? And because I happen to prefer a certain group of women, and try to have whatever it is that they’re looking for, that makes me white? I’ve read your other posts and you sound like a bitter asian-supremacist with a serious chip on their shoulder, and that attitude doesn’t sound any better coming from you or any other ethnic group. I never understood this “boxed in” mentality of rejecting the fostering of a trait that can be used to our advantage whether it’s height, intelligence, success, shiny teeth, hair, eyes or whatever.


Nx2 May 6, 2012 at 8:32 am

Just to ad to my previous post, I understand Heather’s point of view very well, except on the other side of the mirror. The first and most immediate stare-down I get are from any Asian women who catch wind that I’ve almost exclusively dated Caucasian women (I’m actually very cool with a lot of Caucasian males, strangely; the most biased attitude I get is actually from Asian women). I’ve been accused of everything from “race-traitor” to “redneck” (seriously??). But, like her, you can’t help but like whoever you like. And it’s true, it doesn’t give anyone a free pass, but definitely does get a foot in the door.


matt May 7, 2012 at 8:51 am

Those asian women are jealous and that’s interesting your white male friends are cool with it, maybe your white girlfriend is unattractive to them.  I’ve seen some hot white women with asian guys, but I’ve noticed these white women only care about money and some of them have mental problems lol.


Nx2 May 7, 2012 at 10:32 am

Who knows, hm? My only advice is to never be bitter regardless of the outcome. Because you either come off sounding like you’re pandering for false hope, or looking for special attention as “reparations”. This coming from a guy who should, by all rights, be the most bitter of all, considering I actually had a sister who publicly made it her mission to show how “unAsian” she is by making fun of the men in her own family!


Nx2 May 7, 2012 at 12:54 pm

“maybe your white girlfriend is unattractive to them.  I’ve seen some hot white women with asian guys, but I’ve noticed these white women only care about money and some of them have mental problems lol.”
I don’t think that was the case. She was actually very good looking (one of them was actually an ex of a friend of mine), I was not very rich (still in college) and she was a very stable and mature person; had a great relationship with her parents (her mother actually suggested that I get married to her)


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 8:20 am

it seems like you have a mental problem, this site is for asian men and white women. I guess you must be  white women. Get over it the white men is finish, now that asians are back on they feet we will conquer what u took and give it back to it rightful owners


Chikin June 14, 2012 at 8:57 pm

I like how your opinions are so ridiculous and stupid that no one even bothers to reply to them lolz


Chikin June 14, 2012 at 8:55 pm

um you’ve seen some hot white woman with asian guys and noticed straight away that they had a mental problem or just wanted his money? That’s a lot of information to gather after a quick glance of an AMWF couple. Idiotic thing to say.


ctdancer July 3, 2012 at 9:46 pm

 I don’t think you can generalize, but in all fairness to Matt, the white woman my brother married (my brother is Filipino, an aeronautics engineer) would not even consider marrying him when he was pursuing theater because theater did not make money.  Then, when he fully pursued his engineering career (he was already a professional chemical engineer, then worked in aeronautics when he served in the U.S. Air Force), she considered him for marriage.  In their marriage, he does everything, she does nothing.


Antondlr May 23, 2012 at 2:19 am

Go to Singapore or Philippines. The babies
of Asian men and Caucasian women are the
Cutest kids you’ll ever see. So I guess the
Combination works well


Daniel Soedirga May 24, 2012 at 3:04 pm

Interesting testimony.  My friend showed me this website and I must admit I am one of those Asian males who finds the whole IR dating thing to be a “fetish.”  So the author and many others would be deeply offended by my viewpoints.  I guess if the whole world thought as she did the world would be a much more peaceful and tolerant place.  I grew up in Canada and while there isn’t much open racism here I am like many visible minorities and feel that most white people are racist and cannot be trusted completely.  I get along with most people but I think biases are innate for all people.  Prejudice is a natural thing most people would agree but when I see a person who is solely interested in a particular race I immediately think something is wrong with her/him.


Matt_Johnson May 24, 2012 at 8:10 pm

I know I was wondering the same thing, interracial dating just grosses me out, you should stick to your race. 


Daniel Soedirga May 26, 2012 at 9:49 am

I don’t think interracial dating or marriage is a gross thing.  I just think wanting to date/marry a specific ethnicity is a fetish and often signifies a problem with a person.  Not that anyone, such as Heather, should have to justify themselves to anyone else. 

The problem with saying you only like Asian or Black or whoever is that other people are going to get offended.  People consider that racism or bigotry.  It doesn’t matter how much you claim “mind your own business or what does it concern you want I like?  It’s my life!”  You are always going to offend someone because you are excluding other people.

If the OP was someone who just happen to date and marry an Asian person, then all the more power to her.  But it’s because she specifically dates Asians only, that is considered offensive to some people.  I’ve noticed these people tend be really insecure and often come up with any number of reasons why she is wrong.  Like Asian people are such and such or White people are like this or Black people like that.  It doesn’t matter to them if she is happy, all they care about is justifying why she is wrong.


Matt_johnson May 26, 2012 at 5:26 pm

I agree with you and I’m not disagreeing with what you’re saying, however, god created different races for a reason, and race mixing and multiculturalism stains the human race.  Your race is what makes you special, pretty soon you won’t feel special anymore.  I feel every nationality has a right to defend their race and be proud of it.  I already read an internet news the other day that the minority birth rates are surpassing white birth rates, so this is going to be a problem since america was founded and governed by white people.  It should be for white people not blacks, asians, latins, etc.


Ruin May 27, 2012 at 5:39 am

Just look to the comment to Daniel I’ve written above, because that will nicely sum up exactly why I disagree with your statement that interracial relationships and offspring ‘stain’ the human race.

As for your comment about America being founded and governed by White people, and therefore only being for them, I strongly disagree with that.

Wasn’t the United States of America set up as the ‘country of the Free’, where anyone could live, could speak, and had the right to do as he or she wishes regardless of the colour or creed? Please remember that, in a time when white people could hate each other based on their country of birth (the English hating the French, for example), America was founded by people from all over Europe – from England, from Gemany, from France, from Spain, and from many other countries. Remember that when black people were freed from slavery and later (thanks to Dr Martin Luther King, Jr) given all the rights that were accorded to white people, that it was by the very American government that you say should only stand for Whites. Remember that, when every man, woman and child came to America through Ellis Island, NY and later through other venues all over the country, that they were and are of every colour and creed imaginable, and that they are there because the American government that you say should only be for White people opened their arms and welcomed them in like family, and made them American citizens just like you. It doesn’t matter if you were born on American soil or born in another land. Once you are granted American citizenship, then you are an American citizen by very definition, and as welcome as every other citizen, as the White founders of America laid down in their amendments – the very amendments on which the country was built. 

I may be an English-born Briton, and from the other side of the ‘pond’ entirely, but if I, who has never pledged alliegance to your flag or taken an American History lesson, can remember that important fact, then you, my American brother, have no excuse.

Also, Get Over Yourself You Racist Pig. Thank you.

P.S. Just because the Internet gave you a statistic doesn’t mean that it is a problem. It just means it is a statistic. Over-reacting to a statistic is actually how many problems are caused, so, you know. Grow up.

Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 8:16 am

haha the white men will lose thier homeland that they stole from natives. 2 billion asians will be coming your way. U whites have recessives genes cant compete with us on a 1000 year run

ReiKat June 1, 2012 at 11:47 pm

Your opinions are honestly profoundly disturbing to me. Its easy to say that we should respect other’s views and opinions, but yours are just so uninformed it bothers me. Race is a relative term created by people. Race is a scale, it is not a concrete category. Race is defined by your phenotype (your physical appearance), which expresses your dominant GENES! Meaning, that ‘race’ is just stereotypical characteristics attributed to each racial identity. I look asian, but I am multi-racial and this is not my cultural heritage. I feel proud to be a part of my heritage, but that does not define me entirely. If you are white, stereotypical white genes are usually recessive (blonde hair, red hair, blue eyes, inability to tan etc.) the same genes that define if you have brunette hair of any shade is the same in any ‘race’.  

Race is not what you should feel proud of. You should be proud of your heritage yes, but more proud of your own accomplishments in life because your race does not define who you are. You are horrendously ignorant and it is sad that you’re on this spreading it. You might as well say that since the US was formed by the British then it is not for Americans because they don’t exist. Race does not make you special. 

Jack July 9, 2012 at 10:46 pm

Matt, if you are religious and against interracial dating, you should also be against white men who date asian women. but you are only against AMWF couples, why is that?

I am also religious, and I believe in the law of karma. The reason why AMWF couples increasing nowadays is because there was to many WMAF couples back in the days, and the law of karma always balance things out in the end.

if white men never dated asian women in the beginning, I’m pretty sure that there won’t be so many asian men white women couples nowadays

Ruin May 27, 2012 at 5:14 am

If a particular racial preference is always going to be offensive because it excludes at least one group of people, then, by that logic, we should find straight men offensive because they exclude other men in their preference, or find gay men offensive because they exclude women, or find straight women offesive because they exclude other women, or find lesbians offensive because they exclude men…

I could go on. I could even talk about bisexuals and pansexuals, but as we know, they rarely exclude anyone on the basis of sex or gender, so that’s useless.

However, we generally don’t find sexual preference offensive. I mean, the reporter who tried to kiss Will Smith earlier this month didn’t find Will offensive because he spurned his advances and excluded men as a part of his own sexual preference. He just took it as known that Will does not prefer men in the same way that the reporter did (if the fact that he has a wife and two annoying children didn’t clue him in, then that little tap to the cheek will now).   

If we accept that we’ll find sexuality sexist and offensive in the same way that you’re suggesting that racial preference is racist and offensive, then we just sound incredibly silly.

So, in the end, why should this be offensive? If I say I like the colour Violet, does this mean I am offending the rest of world who hates the colour Violet and prefers either Red, Orange, Yellow, Green, Blue, or Indigo instead? Of course not! We as humanity are inherently different when compared to the people that came before us, who will come after us, and especially the people who run alongside us in the human race. Does this mean we should hate each other because it is so easy to find reasons to based on our differences? NO! We should instead celebrate our differences, and use them as reason to not hate. So what if, when it comes to romance or sex, a woman prefers an asian man or a man prefers a white woman – that is no bad thing. If survival of the human race meant being, biologically, exactly the same as one another and breeding within our own race, then, like plants, we could ALL be killed off with one pathogen and be effectively wiped out in one fell swoop. It’d be the Black Plague or the Spanish Influenza all over again.

We are not plants. We are meant to be different. We are meant to mutate and evolve, because that’s what has kept us alive for all this time. What if a child born to a white mother and an asian father was born with a subtle mutation that allowed him to survive a pathogen that everyone else could fall victim to far easier, or allow him to live longer and thus have a larger window in which to pass on his genes?

This is SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST, my friend. Difference is good, as is EVOLUTION.   

I think this comment is a reply to some other comments, like Matt_Johnson’s, or some of the more bigotted people who think that relationships shouldn’t be interracial or for anyone but White Americans and the like.



Sexytran June 12, 2012 at 8:25 am

What do you think you are? Just a piece of trash!!”Sorry ! White trash!” lol


Alexalexalexalexalexalexalex June 14, 2012 at 7:10 pm

I agree 100% and I am a white woman dating an Asian man. He showed me this website kind of shocked that sites like this were set up for people who actually were purposely trying to get themselves into a white girl/asian guy relationship. If when I met my boyfriend he had of said something like “I’ve always wanted to date a white girl” or “I only date white girls” it would have freaked me the hell out. I like my boyfriend for who he is. When I met him I had no desire to date an Asian man the thought really never even crossed my mind. I fell for him because we just happened to start working in the same place, became friends and found that we just clicked. IR relationships are hard and they require a lot more effort than just dating someone of your own race, so why someone would go chasing this is beyond me. I love my boyfriend but cultural differences that arrise between us do sometimes cause conflict that I never had to worry about when I dated white men. If you fall for someone outside your race then I do think you should go with it, but chasing it is stupid. 


Ruin May 27, 2012 at 5:20 am

I’ve been looking at the vairous comments for a while now, so let me just clear up what seems to be the main issue – that of whether or not it’s okay to proclaim a certain race as ‘your type’ or your preference – by saying that, yes, of course it is!

We are on a
site that actively accepts and even encourages Asian Men and Caucasian Women to
date, a site that is set up for people who are either in this sort of
relationship, or desire one. If there are people who find interracial
relationships are not their thing, then they should probably set up on a
different site, because this one obviously isn’t tailored for them. As for those of
you who are in the target audience (like myself), you are obviously a person
who is either in or desires an AMWW relationship. If you’re a woman, you find
you prefer Asian men, and if you’re a man, you find you prefer White women.

Now we’ve
cleared that up, let me tell you that THIS IS YOUR PREFERENCE, right? It is you
preference in a similar way that gay men prefer other men, or some people find
that brunettes are their ‘type’. This is not necessarily racism because, technically, ‘race’ is a cultural myth, and racism as we understand it is a brand of hatred, and this is not hatred we’re spreading, but LOVE. Therefore, you don’t need to justify yourself.
We are all in the same boat. What Heather has written above is a display of her
own personal justification. She didn’t need to share it, because she is a
member of the crew on this boat of ours, and we all know where she is coming
from, more or less (we’re all friends here (I hope)). However, she is just an individual, as we are all
individuals, so don’t take what she has said as everyone’s take on the

Just because
a White woman prefers the company of Asian men, or an Asian man prefers the
company of White women doesn’t mean that it is sordid or wrong in any way. It
is just a preference and common ground we share in our worldwide community.

Bottom line:
This is just a preference. This is a site that caters to this preference.
Either accept it and get along, or agree to disagree and move on.

Thank you


Sherubii Tran May 27, 2012 at 9:47 am

This is so true.
I been asked the same question all the time.
“Why you like Asian Men?”
My reply is “It’s just my type I like.” 
I am serious once you go Asian you never go back to what you liked before.

I don’t understand why guys me the question all the time maybe because they
wish I’d liked them or something… they will only be jealous because they can never have me.

My boyfriend is Vietnamese, and I am Caucasian we been together almost 11 months now, and I am very happy how far we come to. HE IS THE BEST BOYFRIEND I EVER HAD! He always been there for me, and always cared about me I couldn’t ask better than that. 

Another thing is true Asian men are better boyfriends than any other race to my opinion. But people are just judgmental bastard’s and should die in hole. 


Matt_johnson May 27, 2012 at 11:18 pm

Be honest, does he have a small peepee?


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 8:12 am

the white dick detective. buncha homos who only cares bout cocks of other men.


smallwhitepenis June 8, 2012 at 2:23 pm

 How come every conversation with a white guy always revolve around penis? I swear you guys love to talk about penis, at the same time love calling other people gay.


Sherubii Tran July 2, 2012 at 7:35 pm

Honestly, Why does chu care so much?
Are chu gay?


Lilshorrtee June 1, 2012 at 7:50 am

Ive been dating a Korean American for almost a year now. I still can’t believe all the negative comments we get. Like how I can do better. Usually these are comments coming from the dirty low life white trash type. What they don’t realize is he treats me like a princess. We have never had an argument the whole time we’ve been together, he’s very supportive and just amazing. There are a few downfalls though-he is smart, has a degree, but he does nails. That kind of bothers me. He works with all non english speaking asians and I guess in their culture they work every single day morning til night, so I get pretty lonely. The other downfall is his parents are white and they adopted several asian kids. He is not close to his family, almost as though he doesn’t have one. I guess though, that these things could apply to anyone in any race. Just thought I would share my experience as a white gal with an asian guy!


Matt June 1, 2012 at 8:48 pm

Be honest does he have a small peepee and his he a flaming homosexual?


sexyasian March 17, 2013 at 9:37 am

I feel sorry for you Matt


Thien Tran June 12, 2012 at 12:30 pm

It’s 2012 now, for the past 2 decades. Asians get taller and bigger. I think nothing wrong with seeing a white girl with asian guy. I meant pple just jealous cuz they think your asian bf doesn’t desert you.


Ame June 12, 2012 at 8:02 pm

girl, i go through the EXACT same thing! I’m black though but since I only date asian and have a hat that says ‘i love asian guys’, white guys and black guys start to attack them like that’s going to make it better, smh


Alexalexalexalexalexalexalex June 14, 2012 at 6:57 pm

I think it’s kind of weird that you have completely shut off any chance of being attracted to a white man considering you are white. We are pretty much genetically wired to find own race attractive so perhaps you’ve just somehow convinced yourself that you can MUST ONLY date an Asian guy. I’m a white girl and I’m dating an Asian guy but I had white guy crushes before him and he had asian girl crushes before me. I think that’s perfectly normal and it makes me feel better about our relationship because it just shows we like each other for who we are without creepy Asian/White fetishes getting in the way. 


Ziara June 25, 2012 at 3:19 am

 I see what you’re saying, and yeah “yellow fever” can be distasteful… but it’s entirely natural to be attracted to a specific race. I have never been very attracted to white boys/men throughout my life, although I am a white woman. Even as a child, my first crush was an asian boy then actually also on to native american and islander boys. I am also not attracted to men shorter than me, 10+ yrs older/younger, dwarves, or men who listen mostly to hiphop or country.. I could go on. But keep in mind, there are many people who are *ONLY* into people of their own race as well. It doesn’t mean that she has an Asian fetish/yellow fever though. Could men that she’s more specifically just not attracted to white men. And that includes me.


beeeee June 16, 2012 at 11:36 pm

this post makes me soo really happy to read. i am dating a korean guy right now, before that i only had redheads. as you say – its not a fetish or anything; it is simply what one is attracted to!! I sometimes feel like telling people i am gay when i tell them i like asians. you get that weird look like: soo whats so much better about a small dick? but i can just simply agree with you 100%. its not about a dick only guys!! its the personality, and the culture (more cordiality and all that sort of stuff). plus the dick rumor is absolutely not true 😉 just saying…

happy to know there are people outside there just like me! 🙂 

Once You Go Asian, You Can’t Go Caucasian!!!


Matt June 17, 2012 at 10:26 am

You sound like a dude pretending to be a chick.


Cfntx June 18, 2012 at 9:21 am

This is really kind of strange/disturbing. Why did you feel the need to share this with the whole internets?


fabillous June 26, 2012 at 5:12 pm

Hey girl! Whichever race you like is totally up for you to decide and not anybody else! And it’s not disgusting that white girls likes asian guys! I’m asian and I love white girls and would only date white girls! but, I’m from canada and the white girls down here don’t like asian guys so it’s rare! I wish more white girls would like asian guys down here in canada! But, you continue with the asian guys! 😀


Matt June 26, 2012 at 5:34 pm

This is exactly what I’m talking about.  White women discriminate asian men the most compared to other women of different race.  Check out this article: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sunil-adam/no-eharmony-with-asian-me_b_872507.html


Matt June 26, 2012 at 6:37 pm

According to this article – 

http://tierneylab.blogs.nytimes.com/2007/04/13/single-female-seeking-same-race-male/ asian men are the least desirable and I like the questions at the end of this article, why do women have these discriminating preferences?  And what does it take for these racist women to not care about the man’s race?


Ziara June 27, 2012 at 1:09 am

 Well Matt, it seems that you’re not paying attention. I don’t give a damn about those websites. There are many white women who are into Asian men. I live in Hawaii, a place loaded with Asians, and know many who are attractive, secure and attracted to Asian men. And I am one of them. I am also moving to S.Korea in either Sept or March and I hear that most Korean men there think white women are unattractive. But so what.. People are attracted to all different types. What I am not attracted to is most white men, I don’t care how much money they have. I have my own.
So, I’m wondering what your angle is here? Did an Asian man steal your girlfriend?


Matt June 27, 2012 at 8:06 am

Well, Hawaii could almost be a separate country sort of like Texas.  They both have influences culturally to the neighboring regions.  What I’m saying is how come it’s acceptable for a white/anglo man to be with asian woman but not the reverse?  I hear reports asian man with white woman getting attacked all the time like in England, Australia, and some parts of the U.S. like the south and sometimes even up north but has anyone heard of a white man with asian woman being harassed and attacked like asian man with white woman??  


Brian June 26, 2012 at 7:37 pm

It’s personally up to you what race you feel attracted to, if it’s not a fetish. Yet there is absolutely nothing desirable about Asian men, and never will be. That is a fact. Even most Asian American girls in the U.S. prefer Caucasian, Black or Hispanic men. Women want a proper strong, tall, good looking man, and not a weak Asian man who is physically inept on all levels and unable to protect and provide for her.

BTW The apparel with those “I love Asian men” slogans are quite ridiculous, and they will only make you look the same to the public eye. You should all be ashamed.


Matt June 26, 2012 at 8:10 pm

Finally someone is saying what I’ve been saying.  White culture is the least to accept someone from another race and even though blacks are discriminated the most, when it relationships and dating, asian men don’t even exist to white women.  And the white women that are with asian men are insecure and pathetic and they want a sugar daddy to care of their shopping needs.  White women with asian men only care about money rather than love just like white women who are with black men, instead of money like asian men, it’s about sexual lust because black men are perceived to have a big one (if you know what I mean) and it’s never about love.


RavensRose June 29, 2012 at 5:11 am

I’m in a relationship with an Asian man, an i neither want or care for money, I find it almost funny that you hold these views, i love my boyfriend and I find the idea of a ‘sugar daddy’ repulsive and offensive. Just because you’re not in a relationships and most likely feel inferior to Asian men, does not mean you can spread the hate. and yes i love my boyfriend, I don’t care for money and I suport myself, so honey when you wonder why you haven’t got a girlfriend, the answer is simple, girls want to date a mna, not a little boy who tries to cover his own faults with hate and racism. Oh and while i am insecure, it is only cause my boyfriend is amazing and i often have to wonder why his with me, so in conclusion, i understand you’re view, it worries and disturbs me that someone in this day and age still think this, but i accept you’re views. so why don’t you do the same honey and GTFO 🙂


Xzazirx July 30, 2012 at 12:09 pm

What is wrong with you? From what i get your an self racist asian who is also racist toward white women. Whats wrong you fell for a white girl who completely blew you off cause your asian so now you hate all white women and yourself? Geez get over your self, what a loser.


Status K June 28, 2012 at 12:23 am

Ha. Nothing desirable about an Asian man? Wanna bet? Why are you even on this site if you don’t believe this? Only a few answers quantify this:
a) you’re an asian man who is self-hating
b) you’re an ignorant caucasian that had a loved one or some personal relationship “robbed” from you by an Asian male.
It is hilarious this is a site you ended up with…since you have to activity seek it out. What does that say about you, and your boyfriend Matt?


Xzazirx July 30, 2012 at 12:06 pm

Sounds to me like Brian has a inferiority complex to asian men, otherwise he wouldn’t be here ranting about how much every other race is so much better then asian men. Whats wrong brian? some asian guy stole your girl, your job, kicked your ass and made you realize your just a pathetic racist? How about you get over it cause asian men won’t be the only race of guys who are gonna make someone like you look bad. Wait a while, soon a black and hispanic guy are gonna one up you in everything you love.


Matt June 26, 2012 at 11:27 pm

I found another site, bad news for asian men.  

White women really aren’t worth the time, they’re too shallow and prudish to asian guys.  Also, many young people live by pop culture and there’s still no leading asian man in the english speaking countries and there won’t be because asian men aren’t cool enough (Check out Kev Jumba’s “Asian guys just aren’t cool enough” on youtube).  And since one becomes a sex symbol because one has a huge fan base from the opposite sex, asian guys living in the western society (no matter how much talent, skill, money, accomplishments asian man has), the asian man will never be cool enough for women (particularly white women) as long as white man is in power.  Last thing I want to add, I realize there is all this hate coming at me but I’m being realistic and honest, why would anyone be hurt by the truth?  The truth of the matter is, websites like this is helpful if you can read, but majority of asian men (the ones that are attracted to white/anglo women) overseas like China and India live in poverty and many just are not educated enough to even read.  As long as there’s mass amounts of poverty in the most populated asian countries like China and India, asian men will never be cool enough for white/anglo women.  China’s space program is years behind Russia and the U.S.  India doesn’t seem to be controlling it’s population at all and seem to not care even though most of the people live in poverty.


Status K June 28, 2012 at 12:31 am

With every bad news you have for asian males, I could lead you to studies about how the extinction of white males are inevitable. What’s even more interesting is how ALL (not some)…ALL erectile dysfunction medication is targeted at caucasian males. YES, that means you…are impotent. That being the truth, I can see why you are angry.


Cdme77 June 27, 2012 at 8:16 pm

date whom ever you like!!!
I am white and married to a Vietnamese man, I did not marry him for money or because I can’t get a white man. I married him because we love each other and we respect each other and we match well together. 


Matt June 27, 2012 at 8:50 pm

@694e5164e762ed469762668e65d77fa5:disqus Now don’t take this the wrong way but are you a man?  Is this a homo relationship?  Anyways, modern technology from western society has been influenced by the Germans when the nazis were in power.  Nazi Germany were helped by aliens (believe it or not a ufo was discovered in the black forest of Germany) and this technology was available to the U.S. after the war.  We are all using nazi technology if you think about it.  This proves what I’ve been complaining about that white/anglo societies feel like they’re superior to everyone else and racism and hate is taught by white women.  And most white/anglo women are pretty discriminating I’m afraid.


Jonnguyen June 27, 2012 at 9:11 pm

I don’t know about you guys, but my girl makes more money than me, and is the hottest girl here and is with ME. White boys try to hate all they want on us but in the end, she comes home to me. EVERY SINGLE NIGHT. You should see all the white boys who hate when we’re walking down the street holding hands. White boys try to break us up and say shit but she keeps coming home to me. I’m an Asian bro with a sexy ass woman & we’re happy on all fronts. There will always be haters like these trolls Matt & Brian who talk their shit and quote whatever it is to make them feel better to put others down and call it “its just facts”. Let them say whatever they want… What’s great is I see a bunch of other Asian brothers with white girls here. These guys can keep spitting out old BS… Screw them and just look around and see for yourself: more & more white girls, black girls, Hispanic girls with Asian guys everyday. You see it more & more on TV too like on the Walking Dead or movies like Harold & Kumar. Just a matter of time where it becomes more accepted and becomes the norm.


Matt June 27, 2012 at 9:16 pm

You’re right there are more asian programs…but they’re not where it should be.


Mike April 18, 2013 at 6:41 pm

Your woman was brainwashed. Tell her to listen to Barbara Lerner Spectre,Dr.Pierce and Kevin Macdonald.


Worthingtonnellie June 27, 2012 at 9:25 pm

Haha There is soooooo much hatred on this web site it’s ridiculous… I live in Los Angeles and see all types of interracial relationships. Black men with white woman. Hispanic men with white woman. White men with black woman. White men with Asian woman. But now we see so much more Asian men with White woman here it’s really not that strange. I’m happy that you found what it is you like Heather. This subject is so controversial but I ask myself why that is? I’m with Chinese man and happy… I make more money than he does, and to tell you the truth, he speaks better english than I do. Go figure. At the end of the day, all that matters is him & I & how we feel about each other: LOVE.


Matt June 27, 2012 at 9:51 pm

Of course you automatically assume your little yellow man can’t speaka english (you probably assumed he has a little eggroll too).  See folks, this exactly what I’m talking about.  White/anglo people hate minorities and they try to justify it by pretending to be nice by making light hearted jokes but I doubt their sincerity.  I’ve never heard of a white/anglo woman risking her life and limb for a east asian dude, has anyone?  Are you really a female or just pretending to be?


Status K June 28, 2012 at 12:37 am

People of color are the dominant race. You will be wiped out Matt. You are already the minority. Bet you a gazillion dollars, you are a spineless mousy loser who is alone living in their parent’s basement who, b/c you’ve been rendered impotent due to others succeeding past you, need to vent in this disgusting way. You think about interracial relationships too much. You’re scared, I’m sorry for you. Seriously. I’m really sorry.Mix race is the future. You are already extinct. LOOK IT UP.


Matt June 28, 2012 at 8:16 am

I find it very ironic you’re hurt by the truth.  Most white/anglo women are racist to asian men especially in english speaking countries.


khmergurl July 1, 2012 at 10:46 pm

Matt? Not again! didn’t we have this race discussion on another post? Small peepee talk again? I just do not understand all this hatred. I know you say that you are east asian and have had a pickle of a time with white chick, but come on! 

I think that what is one man’s pleasure is another’s pain. Do not hate just because you cannot get. All of you maybe should just say, “good for you in finding your soul mate!” instead of of race bashing.  The interracial world is growing exponentially so get used to it.  Nazism? Really? UFO’s? Holy cow! Get some help and some really good meds! Racial cleansing really? That is a joke since most asians are mixed between Korean/Mongolian/Chinese etc. ESPECIALLY EAST ASIANS! 

MATT!  I just gotta shake my head again! Tisk Tisk! 


Matt July 1, 2012 at 11:12 pm

The comment was made just before my apology.  It isn’t a new comment.


khmergurl July 4, 2012 at 11:24 pm

Matt, are you on facebook! You and I need to chat! I won’t bite. I promise! Go on J.t. page and just look for me, the white chick! I just gotta see the picture of the guy that is fusing. I bet you are a really REALLY nice guy that got burned. I am white and No I do not understand racism to the point that Asians, especially men suffer. So I will see you on facebook big guy!


Jonnguyen314 July 7, 2012 at 6:49 pm

WTF? Matt is an Asian guy? That shit just plain pisses me off. We get enough hate from everyone else and then this f*cker comes across hating cuz he can’t get none? You’re a big reason why Asian bros have a hard time bro cuz you do nothing but hate. Get a grip and learn how to help an Asian brother. Punk ass.

杰丁 July 3, 2012 at 10:22 pm

Wow I’ve seen a lot shorter than I am a white American I have a brother 198CM     Photos who want to see? 198CM Chinese guy …….. YES … my high school when the school is the highest 208CM     .. Laugh whites can be really cute ………..The white of many European countries than the city of my short more   


NV July 14, 2012 at 4:53 pm

wow. like people before me have mentioned, this site is for AMWF so why so much fucking hate to this regard? preferences are preferences. they are not meant to ALL BE THE SAME. why is that so hard for people to come to terms with??? I am Ukranian and my fiance is an asian mix of Cambodian, Viet, and Chinese. I also, only prefer asian men. Thats not saying I’ve never found white males attractive, but I look for what I am most attracted to, which for most people is a pattern. Whoever makes you happy makes you happy and thats it. People have personality preferences when it comes to the opposite sex so why should looks and race be any different??? RESPECT peoples DIFFERENCES AND PREFERENCES even if you dont understand them.   


bloum August 24, 2016 at 4:12 pm

yes, we need more tolerance


Fabiano_Asiano July 14, 2012 at 8:25 pm

Not all asian men have small penis, maybe in some countries here in Asia. I have a huge and long penis and I’m a Filipino. 🙂 


charlotte September 16, 2012 at 5:38 am

It does not matter! The best sex I have ever had (and I have been in 3 long term relationships with scandinavian guys), was with an asian man. He is also the one who had the smallest penis, but it really did not matter at all. So please stop comparing having a big dick with giving good sex.


bloum August 24, 2016 at 4:11 pm

Preach. Only women know the truth, men are so ignorant in these matters..


roger July 17, 2012 at 2:32 pm

Heather – So you like OESTROGEN filled FEMINE featured men with SMALL dicks, eh ? ! You proved your point……you’re either Bisexual, or Near-Bi. i.e, attracted to femine featured men with small dicks ! Don’t worry, you are NOT a real woman !


Righteous July 22, 2012 at 12:07 am

Roger, why are you so threatened by asian men that you feel need put the “yellow man” down.  Obviously a you person doing bad with the ladies.  A true ladies man as too much going on to troll others


Xzazirx July 30, 2012 at 11:53 am

Roger, thats sad man. You really feel that inferior to asian men that you gotta be an ignorant racist to a white girl who has a preference to asians? Listen here, I’m actually not attracted to black women and even i have dated some which they tell me that asians are better then the white guys she dated. So small dicks? bisexual? Get over it, be a real man and not some hating sissy racist.


Heather Johnson August 2, 2012 at 12:25 am

I’m sorry, the dick you’re obsessing over isn’t my boyfriend’s…it’s not small. As a matter of fact, that rumor is “largely” unfounded, if you catch my drift 😉 But don’t worry, I’ll let him know you’re concerned…he would be flattered if he was gay, but he doesn’t think about another man’s dick all day…

…who looks gay or “Near-Bi” now?

You have a nice day, you pathetic, sexually frustrated little man who takes his anger out on a twentysomething year old girl.


Fabiano_Asiano August 2, 2012 at 1:18 am

Yeah right, not all Asians got small dick, maybe Roger’s a White but does have small penis. LOL. I’m an Asian but I have a dick that’s above the standards. 🙂


roger August 4, 2012 at 11:03 pm

fEMININE This is Roger, hi DENIAL Heather !
You and your white and other non white bi or Near bi sisters can go to your grave in Denial, but here are the facts:
1) why do Asian men have Feminine Features extremely high amounts of Oestrogen,(check it out) Have you ever heard of black, white, latino, indian ,arab men being called FEMININE Featured ? ! That’s the biggest reson you come close to being either Bi or Near bi ! (I don’t know whether you have been with women but if not you are near bi !
2) Non Asian gay males favourite choice of men are ASIAN ! (feminine features !)
3) You sau your BFs penis is not small…..Have you been with Black men ? ! or even, arab, latino, indian and most white men ? !

4) Most Asian men use Penile Enlargement to grow theor penises 2-4 inches…..so minus these inches and you’ll come across your BFs REAL 3-4 inches !

listen Heather, i have done a fair amount of reasearch in this area and find ALL non Asian women who are attracted to Asian men either Bi or near Bi. But, mostly, it is white women…I would say a good 80 % of white including yourself are either bi or near bi. The COMBINED total of non Asian, non white women who seem to be attracted to Asian men is very low. Lower than white women alone.
I know this is a sudden shock to you and all your white sisters who have been/ are/ and will be attracted to the Most IMMASCULINE Men of all the 6 major races in the world. WHAT YOU HAVE IS YELLOW FEVER. ‘IF’ you want to compare Natural masculinty (no pumping iron etc) of Asian males, penis size etc, compare them with the most masculine men, Black men and then Latino, Arab, Indian and White. You will want to kill yourself when you find that your Asian lover boys are the least Masculine and with the smallest penises. ! for ex., one of your Asian lover boys, Philipino men, put some kind of seed under their forskin to make the head of the penis look big ! Insecurity !!!!!!

My deepest sympathies to you and your about 80 % of white sisters who are attracted to Oestrogen filled, feminine featured males with small penises…..making white women of the past/ present/ and future
OVERWHELLMINGLY the most NON Straight women in this world. The roughly 20 % of white women who are striaght, have a #1 preference – Black men !
Sorry once again MASCULINE Heather ! (if you were not masculine in your ways, you would NEVER have been attracted to Asian she boys !)
what can I say !


Dinhpham19 August 5, 2012 at 12:57 am

Damn Roger, you’re really into penis aren’t you? Maybe you want some penis into you too? Haha get a grip dood. You seem to talk waaaay too much about all types of penis. You sound a lot like a penis encyclopedia.


giginoona August 5, 2012 at 2:07 am

Well then, if you’re telling me I’m bi……………….well then I guess I’m proud of it!!!

but for realsies you cray but God bless you.


N. August 5, 2012 at 2:18 am

You’re hate is not even entertaining, it’s irritating, why even bother?


Xzazirx August 5, 2012 at 2:26 am

hahaha, roger man you got some problems. Just cause asians look better then you and are overly attractive, you and your tiny penis get butt hurt and go make hugely unfounded racist remarks about us. I feel very sorry for you, pulling these off the top of your head statistics just so you look like you have a point when you don’t even have a clue, just so you can feel better about your micro penis and make the one race of women that don’t want anything to do with you feel bad. My sympathies to you.


Nat Boo July 22, 2012 at 1:34 pm

the hate on this post is disgusting. respect preferences. wow. like people before me have mentioned, this site is for AMWF so why
so much fucking hate in this regard? preferences are preferences. they
are not meant to ALL BE THE SAME. why is that so hard for people to come
to terms with??? I also, only prefer asian men. Thats not
saying I’ve never found white males attractive, but I look for what I am
most attracted to. Whoever makes
you happy makes you happy. People have personality
preferences when it comes to the opposite sex so why should looks and
race be any different??? RESPECT peoples DIFFERENCES AND PREFERENCES
even if you dont understand them.

and for all the white guys hating behind their screen… pure jealousy and a lack of understanding why “their breed” of white/euro/whatever women can be open to and even prefer asians… and that eats em up inside. keep on hatin. not gonna change anyones preferences by u hating… infact… confirm that asian guys are better cause they have more manners and intelligence… bahahaha.  


Denise July 23, 2012 at 11:35 am

I have to agree with this site.  Who would have thought that after watching all those K dramas that I would no longer find caucasian men attractive & long to go to Korea one day.  


MEK July 30, 2012 at 7:05 am

I think the reason it’d irritate white guys, is that it’s so damning.  I don’t want to hook up with every friend I have, but when someone, a girl that I would find attractive especially, tells me that I am in no way attractive — yeah, it’s at the very least a slap in the face.  Even my lesbian buddies will compliment my rare moments of fashion sense.  Coming at it from the exclusionary side just feels negative, and like a bit of an attack.  Take it as, from your perspective, it’s hard to imagine what someone else could see in me.  That might not be what you’re saying, but it’s easily inferred.  I doubt you’re too young to know what you’re into, but your list of traits outside of being Asian reads something like — I want a perfect guy who’s Asian.  Beyond the guy being Asian, it doesn’t seem like you really know what you’re into…besides those things, I imagine, pretty much anyone would list if they got a build-a-bear partner.  I’m a little curious why at the end you draw the distinction at Asian and American.  Race and nationality aren’t really the same thing.  Saying you prefer one race to another isn’t so off-putting, but desiring one nationality over another starts to enter eerie territory to me; though, perhaps — I’m going to assume — you live in America, so most of the Asians around are Asian/Asian-American, in which case, that makes sense. 


MEK July 30, 2012 at 7:15 am

 I don’t mean to imply you said anything terribly creepy about race v. nationality, just that it feels like a different conversation.  Kind of an addendum: I think this discussion has two sides that are arguing too differently to be effective.  People want to support you in the open and loving way of saying you have a right to have a type and like what you like.  But the people who take issue with this kind of exclusivity aren’t really arguing against the right to like what you like, but saying that it seems somewhat contradictory to couple that with only liking Asians and telling White guys that they have “ugly faces.”  I assume people can have race-based types, but never having had that myself, I can tell you, it is a little hard to get your head around from the other side — this comes up amongst my own little group of friends, foreigners living abroad in Asia plus are friends who’re locals, every now and then.


Amanda August 4, 2012 at 12:18 am

I am very much a pretty white girl who is incredibly attracted to Asian men 🙂

I have yet to date one, because although I am easy going and perky around most people I find myself overcome with shyness around Asian men. I enjoyed your article, it gives me hope!


Xzazirx August 4, 2012 at 2:02 am

Some insite that might help amanda, I can only speak from my point of view. Asian men would sky dive, scuba dive, and can be very outgoing but, when it comes to women you need to be a lil aggressive. Do this and you should be able to land your asian man because you gotta remember. There is no such thing as an asian living in a large white population that would not be attracted to a pretty white girl. Some will say that they prefer so and so but in no way will they say they dislike a pretty white girl.


N. August 4, 2012 at 4:15 am

I don’t think she needs to be aggressive, she just needs to be herself.  Although, there are asian men that are cautious and won’t initiate because they feel white women won’t like them and most white women are not really attracted to asian guys, mostly the liberal or educated ones that have high knowledge to asian or other cultures like asian guys. 


N. August 4, 2012 at 4:22 am

I’m curious what you look like, do you have a photo of yourself like on photobucket website?


giginoona August 5, 2012 at 2:00 am

I completely feel ya Amanda. I literally like get clumsier…and like trip and stuff.


fredrick August 22, 2012 at 6:43 pm

amanda i like your courge and your articulate, keep it up wish i can know you more,my e-mail is agbatorsund@yahoo.com tanx.


roger August 4, 2012 at 10:13 pm

it’s not the Liberal educated reason why some white women like Asian men, but because these white women are either bisexual or Near bisexual. See the other 5 races of males are masculine, and have big to good sized penises. But Asian men have Oestrogen filled, feminine features, and overwhelmingly small penises. So, while some REAL/ Straight white women are attracted to Black men and other races of masculine men, including white men, these Bi or Near Bi white women are attracted to feminine featured Asian males. That was/is/ and will be the story not just with some white women but also Black, Latina, Indian Bi or Near Bi women ! This wiriter has seen countless of these Bi or Near Bi white women with Asian she boys, but even Indian & black women with them as well !


N. August 5, 2012 at 12:29 am

You’re wrong and a liar.  Women in general likes to be desired and women do have preferences but not every females are the same.  You’re generalizing without any evidence.  Just because there are negative stereotypes doesn’t necessarily have to mean a person is undesirable based on race.  Race doesn’t even matter.  A good looking person is a good looking person.  Also, attraction is not always about a certain body part.  For example, for men who are average to unattractive looks, rather than approaching the female directly to ask out, the guy has to make the female chase after him for the attraction to happen.  Everything you said is naive and low intelligence…I pity you. 


giginoona August 5, 2012 at 1:57 am

Uuuuuummmmmmmmmmmmmm……………….. WTF???? I’m 105% sure I’m not bi……….and I like Asian guys. God bless ya bro is all I can say.


Xzazirx August 5, 2012 at 2:32 am

Don’t bother trying to talk to this guy, he’s been trolling every white girl comment cause he’s a racist and has to do put asian men down to make himself feel beyyer about his sad appearance compared to asians, his micro penis, and the fact that his favorite type of women enjoy asians more then him. You’ll see him all over making butt hurt comments and off the wall statistics to try and look like he has a clue. He has all our sympathies.


N. August 5, 2012 at 3:41 am

By the way, we all have have both testosterone and oestrogen for hormonal reasons and brain development genius!


Rainer August 12, 2012 at 1:18 pm

Female sex
tourism in Thailand: My girlfriend had paid sex with a thai boy

ago I went public with a rather unusual and humiliating experience in Thailand
in regard to female sex tourism. During our Thailand holidays my farang
girlfriend actively looked for thai guys and was finally bedded by a young thai

initially intended to find out, to how many other farang males something
similar happened, either if their girlfriends went alone to Thailand or they
even travelled even together with their farang boyfriends, like in my case.
From the partially very abusive and insulting reactions I understood, that I
probably touched a total taboo subject. Others readers doubted my experience at
all. It is a “tables are turned” situation in a country, which is by some
considered as a sex paradise for male westeners only. Today, I can only
conclude that my case is a real rare one, or it happens much more often but the
humiliated farang males felt so demeaned, that none ever talks openly about it.

Nevertheless, I still believe that I am
probably not they only farang, who had to accept to share his girl with a thai
competitor, or otherwise lose her. Therefore I try again to start a discussion
on this taboo subject and hope for some more serious and honest replies:

As a
student from Germany I visited Thailand together with my girlfriend some years
ago for the first time. Claudia and I were together for three years and she
never cheated on me nor did I on her. She is a good looking girl and rather
conservative minded. But already during our initial visit I recognized how much
she was fascinated by young athletic Thai guys. On the other hand she became
extremely jealous when I dared to have a quick look at Thai girls or any other

probably women’s sexuality must be stronger than a conservative mind set:
During our second visit she admitted having sexual fantasies about Thai guys,
which I had already suspected for some time! Once having ousted her fantasies
and when she realized that she rather provoked a depressed reaction on my side
than an outrage, I was totally surprised how she kept pushing on with her
”ideas” with great stubbornness…to let them finally become reality! Only
later Claudia admitted that she would not have had dared to ever tell me again
her fantasies, would I have reacted outraged. But my reaction obviously boosted
her self-confidence to try to let her fantasies come somehow true and not to
bury them under feelings of shame and guilt. From this point onwards something
changed between us: From day to day she showed more and more openly her
interest in Thai men …obviously interpreting my embarrassing helplessness to
cope with the situation as silent consent (…which is was not !). There was
less and less hiding of her sexual desires and no more false excuses for me…!

I do not
like to reveal all the details, they are embarrassing and I know, a lot of
farang and Thai guys will laugh at me, when reading this report. Anyway, after
a week or so she was mentally ready to make an approach. Claudia persuaded me
to join her out to some boys bars, ..driven by her desire, but still
hesitating. After long lasting and luring eye-contact with young Thai guys, it
seemed to me that they quicky understood, what the young farang lady was after but
were irritated by my presence. I hated it to see all this youngster queing for
Claudia and asked myself, if they are more greedy for her body or our holiday
bugdet. It took two or three nights more and instinctively we both new that my
“escorting her” had became obsolete. She finally became confident enough to
roam alone, but always came back early. 

It was
some days later, when she got a call on her mobile while we were spending the
afternoon at our hotel pool at the Golden Palace Hotel, off Sukhumvit Road in
Bangkok. She became very exited…and after a while asked me  into my face, if I can live with the fact
that she intends to date a Thai boy that night, whom she met a night before. I
was very jealous but I saw in her eyes how extremely exited she was to date the
guy and we both knew well …tonight it will be for paid sex. I asked her
’Claudia, are you really sure…?!’ She swallowed and nodded silently and said
‘Rainer….it has nothing to do with you….it is simply…’.

intended to take the Thai boy out for some romantic dinner and then come back
to the Golden Palace Hotel. She as well as I felt more secure to let it happen
in our place, rather then in some unknown seedy place. At the Golden Palace
Hotel we were sure that outward guests are all registered, when staying in a
guest’s room. On the one hand Claudia wanted to have her first experience with
a young Thai stranger in secure, comfortable and familiar surroundings, but on
the other hand, she wanted me to be safely excluded and not to spoil in any way
what was meant to be her perfect sex. (Later she admitted that she was at this
time very insecure, if I, in the end, would not lose my temper and do something
stupid, respectively totally freak out in the hotel floors once after I have
realised that she is naked on the sheets with the Thai guy!). Strange enough,
instead of my burning jealousy, I simply assured her that I will respect her
privacy…probably instinctively sensing that my girlfriend was expecting me to
no longer be an obstacle to her very special sexual desire. I surrendered to
the inevitable situation and hoped all will be fast forgotten after a one night
stand, what will hopefully satisfy her desire for good.

Before she
went out that evening Claudia rented a second room on another floor for the
remaining time in Bangkok without revealing the room number to me.

Later that
night we left together the Golden Palace Hotel, turned from Soi 1 on to the
Sukhumvit Road. In a pharmacy near Siam Square Claudia bought the obligatory
condoms. A guy at the counter gave us a dirty smile and said in bad English:
“You have fun…!” I thought desperately jealous ‘….for some lucky Thai penis!’
We stepped out into the warm air of a busy Bangkok night. She checked again
nervously her own room key, and the condoms in her handbag. There was something
like a ‘oohh, please understand!’ in her eyes when she hugged me and gave me a
hasty kiss. Then we separated. ‘There goes my girl, ‘… to meet her date…,’
I thought.

I sat
frustrated in one of the cinema complexes at Siam Square and then spent a poor
night in an empty double-bed, not daring to imagine what was happening behind
one of the doors on an upper floor. I never asked my girlfriend what she paid
for the ‘service’ she received. (Claudia remained silent on those nights and I
finally respected her privacy). 

After a
sleepless night, I went down to the breakfast room and passed by a the
reception. The two chinese guys of the night shift saw me approaching stopped
immediately talking and were extremly polite to me, but when I just left the
reception on to the yard they started giggling and I had the suspicion they
were amusing themselves on my expense.

I entered
the breakfast room and saw Claudia with her new lover at a table. I will never
forget how pleased and satisfied she looked, when our eyes first met
incidently. The very attentive thai guy next to her was relatively tall. I
remember how his black hair fall over his forehead and covered one of his eyes.
The other one was aggressively watching me.

They let
me approach, looked at each other, then Claudia and the Thai gave me a
humiliating smile and invited me to join breakfast at their table. The young
thai was clever enough to immediately exploit my insecurity and weakness, when
he touched my girlfriend openly in front of me and watched her enjoying his
hand on her naked leg. He managed to shattered the rest of my self-confidence
and within hours he suffocated my last resistance. What I hoped to be a
forgetable one night stand turned out to become a take over of my girl for the
remaining holidays. He made it absolutely clear that he would stay in the
‘driver’s seat’ for the rest of our holidays, having good sex and being paid
for it by a farang girl! On the other hand I understood from Claudia that she somehow
enjoyed the macho-behaviour of her non-western exotic lover and that the Thai
showed no whatsoever respect for the fact that I had been her boyfriend for so
many years. Claudia spoke to be for a long time and tried to convince me that
it is really only a sex affair with the Thai. She tried to confort me but was
also clear that he will bed her exclusively. 
Eventually I retreated fearing to lose my girl and his aggressivness
towards me decreased. The winner takes it all!

Later I
assisted Claudia to move her remaining cloth from our room to her new room. The
Thai was in the bathroom showering.  I
saw his and her cloth scattered all over the carpet, the toilette paper on the
side table and the bed sheets in total disorder. I remember how I swallowed and
until today I  imagine how they
undressed, how he got on top of her and started thrusting my moaning girl. 

happened all so fast that after the holiday I was emotionally struggling for a
long time. After our return Claudia did not cheat on me and proved that she
was, after all, only interested in hot sex with a young asian. Occassionally
she still sends him some money, but I can live with this.

Today I am
still together with Claudia and we have engaged. We are honest enough to each
other to accept that she will go out again to look for a suitable partner, if
we ever go to Thailand again.

Apart from
trying to start a discussion on the subject of female sex tourism in Thailand
it is for me important to send this report to all those, who still believe

 asian guys are unable to satisfy farang ladies because of their again and
again repeated “myth of smaller penis size” ,

2.  who still
believe that women sexuality is restricted to certain pattern / types. Claudia
overcame her shyness…and finally did only that openly, what many girls,
housewives, etc. might secretly think: To enjoy a tropical night with a perfect
lover with no regrets


kins August 21, 2012 at 3:41 am

well I suggest that search


Juan Pablo Mantoya August 23, 2012 at 6:51 am

no, you cant get one.. basically we attracted much to white girl for some reason.. however, to be our girlfriend/wife, i agreed to some comments that you must be a lil aggressive i.e. in religion issues.. you might get asian with christians / athiest.. its very easy to handle and have a go with these guy.. but not with real muslim and buddhist.. some asian just think that they are a lil slow compare to white girls.. it depends to what you can offer to them.. but being a wife of asian men is really3x.. you cant do that.. i used to try having a go to white girls..then ended up married to asian in 2001. love to see you white girls getting along with asian men..


ak August 26, 2012 at 9:08 pm

I wasn’t sure if there was such a thing as white women liking Asians. This is hilarious!! I am Asians and have always dated white girls. Probably because they are not a lot of Asians around me. I am in Canada and I don’t see a problem finding white women to date. So I am not sure what some people are talking about. Most of my girl friends are very good looking. Yes I do get people staring at me and my girlfriend. I am a tall asian and big enough to defend myself. I also could be Hawaiian, South Americain, Spanish etc..they can’t figure out if I am your typical Asian. Plus I have not had any complaint about the size of my jewel…in fact it is bigger than most white dude according to most of my g/f..and I am not Filipino…I think Filipino always think they have a good size…who knows. I am just attracted to fair skin..that is all..and because my parents always want me to date Asians…they gave up!


Matt August 29, 2012 at 12:58 am

If you like Asians it’s fine i love asians too.
have u tryed to like other races like Hispanics blacks or Europe ppl I like white girls and others.and Matt we didn’t get nazi tech we have out own tech USA tech yea we get some from others make me into USA made


James August 30, 2012 at 6:05 pm

So Heather likes small cocks and ugly faces with FAT HEADS THAT ARE FLAT IN THE BACK AND ALSO GUYS THAT YOU CAN BARELY SEE THEIR EYES. I don’t get, I don’t want to get it. Because she is weird and probably the fabrication of this JT Tran guy who is looking for plugs and to sell a book, in the end it is her choice and I respect that. By the way I am not a white male or female and I am definitely NOT ASIAN so I don’t think it would work out between you and I.


Anonymous August 30, 2012 at 6:26 pm

“Once You Go Asian, You Can’t Go Caucasian!”
truer words never said in my case!. BTW love your shirt , Heather. Would like one myself


Pan September 3, 2012 at 4:16 pm

Saying out what you love loudly is good


Allie September 3, 2012 at 7:51 pm

seriously, i don’t understand how it began (when i first found asians attractive…i think it was when i saw a picture of lee minho) but since then i have gotten to the point where I can ONLY find Asian men attractive. i know it’s weird. i used to like white guys but then…what this girl said is so true “once you go asian you can’t go caucasian!” i literally have not been able to find white boys attractive since that time. i wish i could make it stop or something but i can’t help who i like.

what about asian girls who like white guys? if nothing is wrong with that what about this? it’s not a denial of race or culture it’s simply the fact that Asian men above all else are attractive to me. I can’t help it.

and yes the guy i like is Korean-American but doesn’t speak Korean but that’s ok. I will teach him lol/i don’t really care. he’s shorter than me too. BUT HE IS DANG ATTRACTIVE INSIDE AND OUT!


In The Know September 6, 2012 at 6:31 pm

It’s a totally understandable thing. It’s exactly the same reason I, a white man, find many Asian women’s looks greatly surpass the woman in that picture (Heather) in this post. And not just Asian women either, many races look dramatically better and much more sexy than the white girl in this picture.

They seem exotic and alluring and this woman just seems plain. Which is definitely understandable.


yeah September 7, 2012 at 6:45 pm

I know what you mean, but remember that women in general don’t know what they want, and even though they don’t know what that they want, a guy (regardless of his race) will mate if he can regardless what she looks like. Unfortunately, most women are not into asian guys (even though they don’t know what they want).


Charlie September 8, 2012 at 9:13 pm

My name is Charlie tang, I’m the tumblr guy, took a picture of me sitting on my ex now, playing Xbox. Find me on fb.


Charlotte September 16, 2012 at 5:30 am

I traveled through south east asia this summer, and found my self (surprisingly) drawn to asian guys, and this continued when I got home. I live in scandinavia, so asian guys are a rare commodity, unfortunately 🙁

Don’t get me wrong; it is the person that matters, not hes race, but in general, asian people are more respectful to others, and especially family. That is a big deal for me. Seeing how fathers are affectionate towards both sons and daughters warms my heart. There is just a lot of respect in the asian culture. I like, no, I love, that.

+ the best sex I ever had was with an asian guy, be far. So all the idiots who put a crooked smile on and laugh because of the average penis size should pipe down and take notes!


Kieran Tsao September 16, 2012 at 7:26 am

I really dont get the small penis stereotype and why it’s so popular… it seems everyone must have slept with quite a few asian men in order to form such an opinion… another bizarre thing is that there are other races in the world who are known (as in, the editor of FHM for that country was admitting it) to have a small penis yet they get nowhere near the amount of ridicule.


momo September 25, 2012 at 9:45 am

People also completely forget that Asian women are also very petite…. Speaking of “size” in terms of evolution, it’d be pretty stupid to make the men of that particular ethnicity with penises sitting at 10″ when that’d probably end up lessening his chances of reproducing because sex would be too awkward and painful for his female counterpart. People just make assumptions based on physical size – a man’s height must of course be proportionate to his sexual endowment. Pure logic, right? It’s how those stupid trends started in highschool too re: measuring your index to your thumb is the size of your penis blah blah blah. Science at its best. Obviously.


john September 16, 2012 at 1:05 pm

Add me on fb /fauboca


Rainer September 17, 2012 at 5:47 pm

Charlotte,…..”the best sex I ever had was with an asian guy…”. That is exactly what my German girlfriend thought after our Thailand holidays. Like you she was instantly attracted to asian guys in Bangkok,….she could not resist and finally had sex with a young thai guy in the same hotel we stayed,….make me a extremly jealous white male, as I never could imagine that a thai guy would challenge me for my white girlfriend,…with sucess!


Rainer September 17, 2012 at 6:16 pm

Hi Charlotte, I think this may be of interest to you. I read your comment again and I think to let you know ….
After my German girlfriend had sex with a thai guy in Thailand I founded a yhaoo group to find out how often similar happens, …means asian guys successfully compete for a white girls guy and successfully attract her. I meanwhile believe that western media is possibly deliberately ridiculing asian males (i.e in movies) and deliberately keeping the “small asian penis myth” to create an atmosphere to discourage asian males from challenging white males for their white girls. Of course the other way around is totally accepted and even very old white guys have young thai girls…(which is disgusting!) . Here is the link to my group and introduction from the main page
PS: I am now happily married to my Claudia, although she keeps contact with Khun in Thailand
It is a fact that Thailand is a
paradise for western males. It is less known that also white girls pay for fun
with thai gigolos. In 2007 my German girlfriend (now wife) was bedded by a thai
guy during our holidays in Bangkok. The young resolut thai sensed my
helpnessness in the foreign environment and when he quickly suffocated my weak
resistance in front of my girl, he impressed her very much. He became her
holiday lover and forced me to retreat. I wonder, how many westeners must go to
a similar humiliating situation and have to accept to share their white girl
with a young self-confident asian, who enjoys the rare opportunity to have
intercourse with a white girl and does not hesitate to live on the western
couples holiday budget.

I am aware that this is an absolut taboo subject
for white guys and believe a rather rare situation. I went already public on the
net with my experience, but harvested only abusive replies, mainly from other
white guys or. However, I believe that I am not the only white guy who had to
accept his girl going astray with an exotic stranger, this being aware, that
there are thousands of thai gigolos targeting white girls on holiday for quick
fun and money.

Therefore I try to find via this group white males how are
open enough to admit that it happened in their relationship as well. It is for
me important to find out, how they coped emotionally with the situation, if
their relationship did not break down anyway. Comments from thai men, as well as
white females are encouraged, but please refrain from insulting me and use of
abusive language. I went already public with my experience in the past (please
google: my girlfriend had paid se* with a thai boy) but instead of starting a
serious discussion on female love tourism I harvested only angry reactions
mainly from white males, which made clear to me how much taboo this experience
is for most white guys….


g g September 17, 2012 at 7:47 pm

I agree about the media…I have a feeling the American entertainment industry will have to change with the growing asian demographics in the U.S. Also, many asians in the U.S. are highly educated and work very hard and I find it ironic that the media (even the asian owned media like Sony Pictures) asians sometimes don’t get the credit that they deserve.


Guy3434343434 September 27, 2012 at 6:17 pm

It seems to me that anyone could of fucked your girlfriend silly and you wouldn’t of done anything about it. I mean, maybe I’m stuck in the old ways, but if my girlfriend cheated on me I would dump her and I probably would’ve done by best to beat the guy up.

But, hey, what the fuck, why not let your girlfriend and her rampant sexual partners walk all over you?


Rainer November 1, 2012 at 2:49 pm

….she has not “cheated” on me. She told me that she was sexually irresistably attracted to asian guys when we were in Bangkok. Yes, it is true, maybe I should have done something to avoid it,….but in the end this would not have stopped her fantasies…it hurts but I rather can cope with it when I know that it happens instead of living in an atmosphere of lies and exuses….yes she had her fun when she had sex with Khun,….this was her sexual urge,….but it does not end our feelings for each other….


bloum August 24, 2016 at 2:44 am

good for you that you accept her sexuality but one thing i don’t get: why on earth did you take pictures of them having sex?? lol

Mike September 26, 2012 at 10:22 pm

You’ve been brainwashed.Go here:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QnJpMFenP6A


Jim September 27, 2012 at 2:26 am


you need to get laid dude.


Northern Light August 20, 2013 at 11:24 am

I understand what you are saying Scandinavian sister. I also think many East-Asian cultures have extremely healthy culture and cultural values. Your thinking is healthy. You see person before “race” or “ethnic group”. You are not race-obsessed like this American chick. I as a Finnish man prefer East-Asian women for the same reason as you prefer EA -men.

Of course we Finns are in fact 15% Asian (Mongoloid) anyway and some Finns look a little bit Asian. So I dont find Asian people that different looking. I see them simply as people.


Kieran Tsao August 20, 2013 at 1:01 pm

I also think many East-Asian cultures have extremely healthy culture and cultural values.


You’re in for a shock then. one of the main reasons why East asian women choose white men is because they want to get away with “traditional family values” – they want to be rebellious and break from the norm. If you’re looking for that “old fashioned” cultural stuff – look towards muslim and other religious women, they like to conform.


Kristine September 16, 2012 at 5:43 am

Hello from europe 🙂

I love asian guys. One thing that kind of bothers me though, is how they seem to wanna be extremely pale (if they are living in asia anyway).

I saw a lot of really tanned (beautyfull) asian men this summer when I was traveling. So I guess what I’m saying is, please don’t be afraid of the sun 🙂 It’s good for you, and you still look nice.


Kieran Tsao September 16, 2012 at 7:23 am

What do you mean “want to be”? I’m pale for an asian, but that’s genetic… my mum has extremely white skin (whiter than many white women) even though she is chinese. So don’t mistake “want to be” with “naturally”


Patricia September 16, 2012 at 7:54 am

I think she means how you saw a lot of people in asia avoiding the sun like it was the plague, and how you see cremes in stores with some sort of bleaching in it. I assume it’s because a the people who use it wants to be pale, even more than natural.


Kieran Tsao September 16, 2012 at 11:05 am

ah right. one of the most saddest things about asian culture, the need to be “whiter” to be seen as respected.


Rainer September 17, 2012 at 7:21 pm

young asian male attracts my girlfriend


Mike September 26, 2012 at 10:20 pm

Every woman that dates outside their race has been brainwashed by the Zionist Jews that divide and conquer and use the media to promote race mixing.People like David Duke and Dr.Pierce explain this on youtube.


Saad October 8, 2012 at 10:22 pm

Hi there guys! well, I think being colourless or coloured doesn’t really matter! It’s not the body of the cell but the goodies inside which matter! Character matters most! If a person has a good character, thumbs up then! That person’ll end up good! Now here’s my example. I live in a place where it’s real hot. When I was a kid I was quite pale. Then I stayed in the Sun, got wheaty but now I’m brown. Skin colour really doesn’t in any sense matter! I’m now a brown guy! maybe dark brown! But I believe it really doesn’t matter. I’m a proud Asian. I respect and love all humans! I’ve never dated anyone. Any white girl or any coloured girl can be my friend on Facebook! Who knows we might just turn up as good friends and even strike a relation! Amanda you are

welcome and also others who aren’t racists. My I’d is: msaadabidq@hotmail.com. please don’t give any racist comments! Anyone can find me there! I’m not a
racist. Just wanna say that. Take care every1. Bye. 🙂


Alex October 20, 2012 at 5:40 pm

This girl is amazing


Sam October 25, 2012 at 11:14 pm

This made me smile 😉


Narfed November 1, 2012 at 12:38 am

Asian men have lots of great qualities in general these are some of the physical ones I would say most people can observe just by being in a society with exposure to Asian men.

– less to no foul body odor from sweating/working out

– less likely to go bald
– longevity of youthful appearance
– on average low body fat = slim or ripped
– NO HAIRY BACKS.. or chest i.e. hair sweaters.


Rainer November 1, 2012 at 2:24 pm

…yes, and this attracted my German girlfriend (now wife) so much, that she had sex with a thai guy who was hardly 20 years old….


Rainer November 1, 2012 at 2:34 pm

….and what used to be only her fantasy,….became suddendly a humiliating reality, which continues to influence our relationship,…even years after a asian teenager challenged me successfully for my wife. I had to learn it the hard way to take asian males serious. How you think I feel today if I still must read all about that stupid “small asian penis myth” bla bla….


Anonymous November 1, 2012 at 11:58 pm

I love to see the change in light, I am a 18 year od who olny dates Asian men, to tell you the truth for a while I hated it simply for the fact that I have many other race men attracted to me and I hate to hurt people ( I am not being arogant, I am not pretty and the attention I get baffles me) but I have come to terms and I am now in a happy relationship, but I often get insulted, degraded or people asume I have ‘yellow’ fever, which is not the case, my biggest hope it to see the social stigma for white women dating out of their race to fade.


Autumn November 4, 2012 at 4:34 pm

Im gonna have to agree with u cause asian guys are defiently way better than most =)


sateelitem November 5, 2012 at 3:57 am

This next century belongs to the Asians , You can hate us call us chinks,(we will call you krackers, or niggers too ) it doesn’t matter . We will not cry and beg for your sympathy to love us . We will just work harder and own everything you got . Once we own you and everything you got , your women will follow automatically.

America has reached its saturation point the next century belongs to the Asians, So all you redneck , hillbillies , white supremacist and other rag tag ideological racist the faster you learn to accept it the better you will stay informed.

Regarding Heather’s choice; if being with an Asian makes you happy be with him , if being with a monkey or a lion or zebra makes you happy be with them . People will always judge you whether you like it or not , you just got one life to live and you need to follow your own dreams that makes you happy.


Matt November 5, 2012 at 10:56 am

No, you don’t want to fight hate with hate, it just creates more hate, like trying to fight fire with fire.


Guy November 5, 2012 at 1:27 pm

When White women stop bitching and moaning about White guys with Asian women I’ll stop caring, oh wait, I don’t care as is. Typical white girl trying to get a reaction from white guys… I know the routine, I’ve seen it more times than I care to count.


Tim November 11, 2012 at 12:19 am

You sound like one strange girl. Imagine if you were born before mass immigration, If your not attracted to your own type at all then I’m sorry there is something wrong with you.Good luck.


Jeff November 12, 2012 at 5:44 am

Bet you wouldn’t say that of asian women. There are lots of white men out there who would denigrate and abuse their own women for dating outside their race – or negatively stereotyping other races men in the hopes their women wouldn’t be with them – but would happily be with women of other races, or use positive stereotypes about them to help them do so.


Gayle November 19, 2012 at 7:49 am

I am starting to feel that way too. I have dated both all races but recently have been attracted to Asian men. You like what you like & who cares what other think.


Derp December 15, 2012 at 8:57 pm

wow, you seem awfully confident…


me December 18, 2012 at 6:52 pm

I enjoyed reading your article. Few people today are willing to come out and admit this kind of stuff. I can like pretty much any race, depending on the individual. But hey, it’s nice you prefer them, despite the face we are still often looked down upon/overly stereotyped with racist jokes. And just as you said, there is nothing relative to ‘hating oneself’ just because someone likes another race. That actually pisses me off.


Dick December 28, 2012 at 1:56 pm

That’s cute that you think any guy would want your ugly face. All they want is to use that pussy for a night and throw you away.


Kieran Tsao December 28, 2012 at 4:06 pm

What an apt name.

Ironically, I’ve heard this comment a lot from white men regarding white women who like asian men…. whilst have yellow fever themselves…


Footballer January 1, 2013 at 1:38 pm

I think this article is more about your personal preference and standard rather than about why Asian guys are better. Although I respect your preference, what I really wanted to know was what makes while girls think Asian guys are attractive. It was interesting though. Thank you for sharing your view. I am a Korean guy. For me, I prefer while girls because they are less attached to materials and more independent. And honestly, physical attraction is another big reason. I like tall girls with more curves as well as a bit of small muscles which many White girls have and not many Asian girls have. I also found some while girls’ eyes are really fascinating. (Eye color doesnt matter to me.) Not all Asian guys have the same preference as me though, just as not all White girls have the same preference as you, Heather.


Marie-Pier Kim April 23, 2013 at 6:18 pm

i agree ^^ it was more about her personal preference than why asian guys are better.
you’re very mature c:


moot January 5, 2013 at 11:08 pm

youre fucking crazy


Hawa M. January 13, 2013 at 11:22 pm

Well they don’t like you, 😛


Lily February 3, 2013 at 2:57 am

Fully understand, I’m white 20yo girl, I moved from my country recently to Vancouver, luckily for me a lot of asian men out here seem to like white girls- not many did where I came from (-.-;) sad times… It’s sometimes still hard, I prefer when men approach me, but a lot of the time I do the approaching which does work, but it’s tiresome and painful when you get rejected (especially because there is a high asian population here, and many Asians stick with asian friends and don’t interstate much *sigh*…) but I’m currently seeing a wonderful guy who’s from China, reallyyyy like him, hopefully things work out! (^.^’)!!!!! Good luck Heather, really put confidence in me reading your article! Nice to know others feel this way too! I don’t have any white gfs who like Asians particularly (they don’t know what they’re missing Hahaha) – everyone to their own I guess! Xx


M February 9, 2013 at 4:24 pm

Hi, sorry to hear you had some problems finding asian guys that like you but you never mentioned how attractive you are. I doubt any guy (regardless of his race) would reject a attractive woman (regardless of her race) especially a hot white lady…and if the dudes did they’re total morons. lol. White women are said to be the forbidden fruit.


Jeff February 9, 2013 at 10:21 pm

ugh, “forbidden fruit”. That makes them sound like some sort of trophy. They’re not, they’re just women, like every other women of other races out there. Fetisizing white women is the same as white men doing it to asian women


M February 9, 2013 at 11:48 pm

I mean’t extremely attractive women that no average guy can get.


M February 10, 2013 at 12:03 am

Also, technically what I said wasn’t wrong. There is a sense in English speaking countries that White and Latin women to be the most attractive females. There are exceptions of course like Beyonce and Kelly Hu but those are ver very few and Kelly Hu is not really that recognizable. Lucy Liu is more recognizable but I just find her average looks.


Jeff February 10, 2013 at 6:27 pm

What you said wasn’t wrong if you are prescribing to the “white is best” mentality that asian women so often show to asian men on countless occasions. Most races have a, quite rightly, ethnocentric point of view about things – asians however, seem to have a racial social hierarchy – with whites on top and putting themselves happily in 2nd or 3rd (like you said, behind latinos) in 3rd place.

Your (and to be fair, most asians I come across) way of thinking is very whitewashed.

Lester Gene February 13, 2013 at 12:34 am

I am asian/filipino and its hard to find a white women to be attracted to an asian men in Cali. I have been on dates with caucasian women all my life and I just can not find an honest, loyal and fun individual. It is sad sometimes we get discriminated most of them time. I am telling you guys right now… Most caucasian women PRE-Judge you from your looks before they even get to know you. Once they find out who I know or what I can offer. They all of sudden the attitude changes. So SAD!!


M February 13, 2013 at 8:47 pm

I’ve had the same problem, it helps if there are some commonality but you’re right most of them don’t even bother. But if you’re good at something, and show it off, that’s one way to get a lot of attraction, your looks wouldn’t matter at all. Rock stars attract women all the time.


Jeff February 15, 2013 at 3:52 pm

Yeah I get this too. It is not just white women, but asian women… just listen to all the stories of asian women who won’t date asian men – then go on to list stereotypes – of her own race – that just don’t apply to most of us….

It’s like black women saying they won’t go with black men because they are in jail all the time. Instead, with them what you have is the reverse – they are holding out for a black man who is loyal and educated and successful


Jennifer February 20, 2013 at 6:23 am

I am a mixed black woman who finds asian, black and latino men attractive, basically different types of ethnic men. I have a soft spot for handsome asian men like Godfrey Gao and black men like Tyson Beckford, obviously I don’t go by penis size stereotypes and just go by what i am attracted to.
I am less attracted to white men, which is probably a suprise to them since them media and everyone constantly talks about how they are the most handsome and all women should desire white men. The likes of Ryan Reynolds and Brad Pitt are always overhyped, well they can have Ryan Reynolds whilst I can’t get over the beauty of Godfrey Gao.

models of color is a great blog for women who prefer ethnic men.


Kieran Tsao March 18, 2013 at 6:16 pm

Hmm, why is it that you are less attracted to white men I wonder? When women of other races are sucked in by – like you said – media portrayal of white men as the best in society, it is interesting to hear women who do not see it that way, despite living in a country that completely promotes that.


David Hsu February 20, 2013 at 9:49 pm

Heather, where were you when I was young?? You’re g


David Hsu February 20, 2013 at 9:53 pm

(oops) You’re great.

For me, I had much better luck with Canadian and European women than American. Maybe American women in this generation are different. But I’m happily married now, to a Belgian.


Ryan Malcolm Jonny February 26, 2013 at 10:41 pm

I really don’t understand how anyone can date another race and call their own men/women unattractive.

If white men are so unattractive compared to Asian men, then why the hell would you consider yourself attractive enough to get one as a white girl? You were born to a white man and woman just like white men were, so you have the same lighter skin, narrow nose, smaller lips etc that white men have.

If white people are so inferior to Asians, then why wouldn’t a Asian man just get a Asian girl and leave you to get white men anyway?


Maria Tolentino February 27, 2013 at 7:50 pm

While some comments have good points, you have a good point as well. I don’t think the author has really met the good white men. Although I am divorced (my ex-husband divorced me for religious reasons. I refused to convert to Orthodox Judaism. It looks like he regrets it now, though. And my son keeps telling me, “Mom, you know he still likes you…” especially since he has been calling me at times just to talk) my ex-husband has two masters degrees (Masters in Music and an MBA. Education and ambition?), is three pay grades above me, possibly the highest pay grade in state government (ambition, career?), is very intelligent and can easily carry a conversation (I fell for that intelligence), is good-looking (an Al Pacino lookalike), and even at fifty-four years of age, still has a hot bod (very lean and athletic). As to the Asian men’s preference,, I believe that a lot of Asian men actually tend to prefer Asian women. Some Asian women prefer white men. And believe me, the Asian men also resent when Asian women go for white men.

And if we get to the women, I am Asian. In fact, the only Asian in the office, and I make the white women insecure, especially because of the way I age (You see the numbers on the photos? My age! Yes, I am 52 years old (and there are photos of me at 50 and 51 as well), and I have not had any procedures, whatsoever (Botox has never touched my face, I have had no facelifts, laser procedures, or any other age-defying clinical procedure)! I am frequently mistaken for my seventeen year old son’s sister, and he has to smile and tell people that I am his mother!). While I am 52 years old, I still dance with a lot of skin showing (I am a bellydancer),and I’m a 34-23-34.5 hourglass and, as my son tells me, “You don’t have the face of an old person, you don’t have the body of an old person and you don’t move like an old person.” (He glares at any man who objectifies me. When I went abroad, he posted my photo on his facebook because he was missing me, and all these young guys were liking my photo and saying that ‘gorgeous’ runs in the family [my son is very good looking, so that’s very flattering^^]) THIS makes white women insecure (along with my brains, which I am known for at work [I work in the legal field]), so it can go both ways as well. .

Let’s just say it’s a preference. The author has good points. It’s a good read. You have good points as well. I guess we should just look at such things as preferences and not generalize the way some comments here are doing (that white men are ugly. Well, if the white men are ugly, then the white women must be ugly as well, since they’re white. I think it’s a ridiculous conclusion. There are good-looking and ugly ones in each race. There are brainy and dumb ones as well. There are those of quality and there are worthless ones.) Let’s just not generalize a certain race as being attractive or unattractive. Peace.^^


Kieran Tsao March 18, 2013 at 3:11 pm

you don’t look very asian at all…


Maria Tolentino March 18, 2013 at 3:21 pm

I am Southeast Asian. I’m Filipino with some Spanish blood. I don’t have to look Chinese/Japanese/Korean to be Asian.


Kieran Tsao March 18, 2013 at 6:11 pm

Just some you say?The fact is, anyone – asian or not – will consider you more white than asian.

Also, your previous post was a huge rant on how white men are wonderful even when they aren’t – and how he has two mickey mouse degrees and how he is 3 pay grades (wow, THREE) above you in a government job etc…. I mean seriously, who does that? It sounds like an extremely shallow relationship for you to consider such things in detail. I suppose that part is the asian female part… and the “you only like asians because you haven’t met good white men yet” part – that is why asian men resent asian women, not because they happen to be in a relationship with someone who isn’t asian – but because they do so by subconciously avoiding asian men whilst automatically seeing white men as the default partner in any relationship she may have.

This is compounded by the fact that when asian women do consider asian men, they have higher standards for them. For this reason, I seriously doubt your theory of asian men prefer asian women. In fact, I would say asian women have the agenda of wanting white men whilst ALSO not wanting asian men of being with who they want – I have seen this countless times in public with past girlfriends who were not asian (and now wife) – they look at us with disgust. It is sheer hypocrisy, as if they are “saving” us asian men as backup in case they can’t bag a white man.

SayingItHowItIs March 1, 2013 at 6:39 pm

I think you have issues, why would you make a website about it? Cashing in? I notice women of any race who say they would only date men of another race are almost always looking for a reaction from men of their race. If you dated men of another race and not stated so obviously than people would just see it as a relationship, but when you want the world to know than you clearly are craving a reaction from white men. If you look at stats, white women divorce white men 50%, asian men 77% and black men around 90% of the time. Meanwhile white men with non white females has a success rate of over 85%. When a white man dates non white women, the white man is not insecure enough to date only because of race. I believe you have insecurities because you stated you ‘only date Asians’. Who in this world of 7 billion people would state that. I’m thinking maybe your ex or a white male you fancied is hooked up with an Asian female? Maybe I’m wrong but you sound pathetic.


Matt March 2, 2013 at 12:08 am


Reading stats is one thing but following in it isn’t necessary. Haven’t you wondered maybe the reason white men’s success rate is higher is because there are more white men with non white women? Heather even said she doesn’t date just any asian guy even though she prefers asian men, that’s not being pathetic, it’s just preference. Everybody has preference, there’s nothing wrong with that. Also, there are very few attractive caucasian women like her in the U.S. would even be or say they’re even attracted to asian men, so it’s not about insecurity but rather a awareness for equality…otherwise there wouldn’t be sites like this.


Matt March 2, 2013 at 12:14 am


Also, Asians only make 5% in the U.S. after all. So the desirability is very limited.


sexyasian March 17, 2013 at 9:37 am

nice to see so many jealous white guys here,hehehe


Kieran Tsao March 18, 2013 at 3:13 pm

it’s the (english speaking) internet, thus dominated by white men. Just read youtube comments….

Re: women (of all races), they say – “I want to bang you” etc.
Re: men that are not white – “(insert negative racial stereotypes here)”

also i find it interesting that the white men who are so against this (and any other nonwhite man-white woman pairing) are the same types who actively support white men-nonwhte women pairings. Hypocrites.


Matt March 20, 2013 at 7:58 pm

I’m not white, I even said I’m asian…don’t blame it on white guys. I made an apology about it. I was angry at myself and white women for my negative experiences. I guess my bitterness started when I was growing up. Growing up in the Unite States, I grew up in a predominately white, liberal and conservative, neighborhood, and I was a good looking east asian kid. And there were a lot of jealousy because of it from white male students (some of them were even my classmates that I knew). I always got teased and bullied (even hostile), sometimes everyday of the week. And I’ve been very angry and didn’t do anything growing up. I became anti-social and I kept to myself (just like that Virginia Tech shooter, though I’m not that mental lol). I regret not doing anything and socializing with girls (because that’s supposed to be your best time of your life), and I still have problems trusting white people these days and I understand I’m being very selfish but still…

I feel the United States is still very racist towards east and southeast asians (sometimes even by their own fellow asians…just read Brandon’s idiotic comments on here lol). I don’t know if it’s because of the negative images from the media or because of the small demographics of the asian population in the U.S. or both, but it hasn’t progressed much in a positive way. There are racist people everywhere and they come out real easily especially if they’re jealous. Heather even made a blog about Jeremy Lin receiving racist taunts because of Lin’s ethnicity being east asian in the NBA. Although I understand there are hate towards other groups because you hear about gay teens committing suicides (I even thought about this myself) and racism towards blacks and Latins for economic reasons, middle eastern for religious reasons, and yet asians are hardworking and helping to build this country. Bigotry towards east/southeast asians seem “no big deal” (I mean compared to other ethnic groups). Social networks like Facebook, Twitter, and even online multiplayer games…there are so many using racial slurs. I guess you can be racist/discriminating in the U.S. is because you’re allowed to be.


Tyler Thang March 21, 2013 at 10:25 am

You are amazing, wish there were more girls like yourself


Asianfart March 27, 2013 at 10:39 am

White chicks are smart. They are going after the race that will most likely dominate the world economy in the future. Sneaky white girls. I know what y’all are about. Thinking of the future, nice.


Anonymous November 23, 2013 at 7:14 pm

wtf are u talking about, ur embarrassing, im embarrassed for u lol seriously


Meme999 March 30, 2013 at 5:11 am

I’m Asian, I don’t find White women attractive. Maybe it’s genetics or something I dunno.


Anonymous November 23, 2013 at 7:14 pm

same, im an Asian female and I don’t find white guys attractive. they disgust me to be honest. since I love my heritage and my family and culture, I only date Asian men from my own heritage! I cant wait to teach them my language and cultural things haha :]


Carl April 1, 2013 at 12:42 pm

Why are the white girls who like Asian guys either ugly trannys or not real?


Anonymous November 23, 2013 at 7:12 pm

well, white women in general are rly big, with manly features and age really quickly when they’re like 30 lol which is why they’re rejected by their own white men. sad.


allie chou April 3, 2013 at 7:05 pm

this heather girl is delusional. i’m an asian girl and i find nothing appealing about asian men. white men are by far the more attractive race of man.
more confident
better looking
better social skills
they have better personalities and actually act like men.


mach April 4, 2013 at 6:11 am

totally agree with you Bob, I mean Allie.


Fred August 1, 2013 at 5:33 pm

What a great response to a troll.


Matt April 9, 2013 at 9:35 pm

@allie chou

I know plenty of white men (some are attractive even) who are outgoing and very confident which I admit but they’re douche bags that are flakes and use people (even their girlfriends) because they’re so lazy and don’t want to do anything to help themselves or anyone else. Plus they’re sexist and some are bigoted, you call that being a man…NO!! Any guy regardless of his race can be alpha, but seriously though if you only believe what you just said…I pity you.

You want to put down asian men by believing negative stereotypes, which is ironic because that means the negative stereotypes about asian women are true, that they’re self hating of their own race, selfish just to be with a white man to reach the corporate ladder, etc etc. Heather is not delusional at all, she’s helping to break negative stereotypes…you allie chou are not helping yourself or other asian women by being negative…you’re making things worse…it’s selfish.


Bruce April 9, 2013 at 9:43 pm

@allie chou

I know plenty of white men (some are attractive even) who are outgoing and very confident which I admit but they’re douche bags that are flakes and use people (even their girlfriends) because they’re so lazy and don’t want to do anything to help themselves or anyone else. Plus they’re sexist and some are bigoted, you call that being a man…NO!! Any guy regardless of his race can be alpha, but seriously though if you only believe what you just said…I pity you.

You want to put down asian men by believing negative stereotypes, which is ironic because that means the negative stereotypes about asian women are true, that they’re self hating of their own race, selfish just to be with a white man to reach the corporate ladder, etc etc. Heather is not delusional at all, she’s helping to break negative stereotypes…you allie chou are not helping yourself or other asian women by being negative…you’re making things worse…it’s selfish.


Guest July 8, 2013 at 10:47 pm

Aliie Chou is just being real, Heather is just jealous that all the Caucasian guy’s are going for more submisive, attractive and fun Asian woman. From my experience most of the Asian men I have met have been either homosexual or borderline homosexual and submissive. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but that’s typically what woman do not prefer.


Anonymous November 23, 2013 at 7:11 pm

lmao Sorry white dude but as an Asian female, I know white guys pretty well and let me say you guys aren’t all that LOL it’s pretty disgusting and sad how you drool over Asian women. I guess white women disgust you guys? I understand they remind you of your mom and if you look closely they have their fathers faces and adam’s apples, but seriously that’s not Asian women’s problem, get away lol


Anonymous November 23, 2013 at 7:09 pm

Asians need to stop looking to white people for validation and look within their community, open dialogue , critique stereotypes and media representations together.


To Allie Chou April 9, 2013 at 10:20 pm

@allie chou

Also, usually…men in general want other men to fail (cock block), and women usually do not want men to fail. I find women like yourself being all negative about asian men on a site that’s anti-racist irritating.


Marie-Pier Kim April 23, 2013 at 6:13 pm

that’s called having an opinion.
here you could be the one delusional.
prefering asian or white men is a PURE preference.
i prefer asian-canadian guys c;


Anonymous November 23, 2013 at 7:08 pm

actually, i’m an Asian female and i’ll tell you it’s not PURE preference. Desire, what we desire can be a colonized space, especially with western media and Asian stereotypes. if you date outside your heritage over and over, that’s says something about the persons mentality. They need to de-colonize.


Kieran Tsao November 24, 2013 at 9:34 am

exactly, asians (women especially) subconciously don’t see from birth that they are being brainwashed – or worse, they WANT it to happen. And I thought we were clever!


Bob May 6, 2013 at 3:24 am

A woman like you do not know how to appreciate the Asian guys and your culture. you should be better with white guys, because I think you don’t have Asian morals.


k8 July 2, 2013 at 8:18 pm

I will rarely find an Asian guy attractive (like Wang leehom), but there’s far too much competition for a guy of that caliber. It’s far easier to find a white guy who’s equally hot.


hunter July 4, 2013 at 3:04 pm

What? I’m a short asian guy but I get noticed all the time from all ethnicities of women (particularity white women), what are you talking about?? A good looking person is a good looking person, regardless of race.


k8 July 5, 2013 at 4:06 pm

There are a lot fewer attractive Asian guys than there are attractive white guys, and a lot of Asian girls who only date attractive Asian guys.


hunter July 5, 2013 at 5:07 pm

Women are more likely to date their own race than men are. Attractiveness isn’t just physical quality, it helps but majority of women aren’t looking for that high of an expectation because majority of women are not themselves. Most men and women are average looks. People have said I’m good looking for an asian man even though I’m only 5′ 8″, but I get noticed all the time.

Anonymous November 23, 2013 at 7:04 pm

really? because I’m an Asian girl and theres plenty of hot Asian guys. Funny because whenever I see idiotic internally colonized, mentally colonized, internalized racism chicks they’re with the FUGLIEST WHITE GUY LOLOL whats up with that??

jojo November 26, 2014 at 1:03 am

the stupid thing is that asian girls can’t tell the difference and they’ll settle for any plain white guy, just for looks, they will stick with the white guy even if he cheats on the asian girl many times. thats how stupid shallow asian girls are. they just dont know better and dont know white guys.


Peter August 1, 2013 at 5:34 pm

I understand you are ugly, but you must deal with it.


Anonymous November 23, 2013 at 7:03 pm

lmao you’re probably some white dude.


Brian McInnis April 11, 2013 at 9:41 am

If you went Asian, you wouldn’t have any problem going Caucasian, since Caucasia is an Asian region.


Natalia April 17, 2013 at 5:14 pm

I love Chinese guys and I am white. There is something about them that white/black guys don’t have. They are just sexy the way they are. I am happy to date an Asian man . 🙂


Anonymous November 23, 2013 at 7:02 pm

wrong, they are human beings just like other men. there is not something mystical or magical about Asian men. Stop fetishizing, its disgusting and wrong. you are not seeing people for people first. You are seeing their race/ethnicity first. this is wrong.


rob May 11, 2013 at 7:30 am

you’re awesome.


Carlo May 11, 2013 at 10:06 pm

I am very happy to see inter-racial mixing. Good for our species ;). I am a Mediterranean Caucasian guy (just think Roman, Greek, Persian lol) with some 1/3rd Russian+Caucasian Turk Roots but am born and bred American for 3 generations. I find it quite unfortunate that Asian girls have pretty poor instincts for Caucasian men. They cannot distinguish the better choice by looks and/or character than the lesser one too keenly. It’s sad cause Asians are mostly in general, good people and deserve good things. If you are an above average looking Caucasian guy, the far east will bore you out in that department(even tho you still might and probably most likely will get some action) since all the ugly white guys (rejects back in the US or even in Europe) have taken away all the oriental girls. The Asian girls are pretty much foreigner illiterate to find out that they can do better.


The Last Airbender film sucked May 11, 2013 at 11:38 pm

Interesting. I think a lot of inter-racial mixing seems more and more acceptable as the years go by but I do feel it’s going to take a while for for all inter-racial mixing couples to be equal…currently it’s not equal yet for some reason, I’m not sure why.


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Lam Ho July 2, 2013 at 1:49 am

I just dated a Scottish woman who likes me for me. I’m 28 and full Vietnamese-American with a career in massage therapy, which she also has a background in. It’s nothing more than just common interest when it comes down to it. We’re both from Washington State in Seattle and we love comedy movies and that sort. In the past, I dated all types of women even black. I once dated a black/vietnamese once. I break stereotypes when i date and never second guess about race or age. Another thing I want to comment on is the inner mechanics of being Asian. Majority of Asian men or women have discipline, a work ethic, and great beings that parallels to the work place, at home life, and love relationships. I am not saying this to generalize over other races or comparing to. I am just saying when you date Asian men or women you also carry their values and etc. It’s often easy to see my physical features of my 5 foot 4 inches in height and tell how easily short I am. But look deep and you’ll see why I am just as good as any great guy out there or better.


Anonymous November 23, 2013 at 7:00 pm

I guess, if you don’t mind having your culture slowly erased and you don’t care if your kids don’t think of themselves as Asian and think of themselves as white. go ahead lol


QuidPro_NO July 18, 2013 at 9:00 pm

I prefer Asians as well. No rhyme or particular reason, I just do. It’s rough though, constantly being questioned and rebuffed over a preference. If I said something innocuous like “I only like blonds”, most would have a much milder reaction, but throw Asian in there, and it’s a big thing suddenly.
I completely agree on what you said about Asian guys thinking just because they’re Asian, that means they have a chance.
Other reaction is “you know most Asians don’t look like celebrities, right?” uh… no duh? Just like how most white people don’t look like celebrities? Why even mention this?
This whole thing is starting to make me feel unconfident and unhappy, even though I can’t change what I like, nor do I want to either.


@QuidPro_NO July 18, 2013 at 10:22 pm



Anonymous November 23, 2013 at 6:59 pm

yes because one’s heritage is not the same as a hair color lmao wow basic thinking here. Stop fetishizing Asians, its disgusting and wrong. What’s wrong, are your own heritage women thaaat disgusting?


QuidPro_NO November 24, 2013 at 1:39 am

Well, for one, I’m a woman, so I don’t care about other women.

Learn to reading comprehension much?


Chad November 24, 2013 at 11:23 am

I’ve learned that one of the biggest obstacles to happiness is not knowing when to stop listening to others rants and opinions. People will put down views that are different from there own. You have an opinion of who is beautiful to you, and that should only be important to you. Shouldn’t matter to everyone else. Stay unique, confidant and most of all stick to what makes you happy. Screw everyone else that doesn’t help you to achieve that or puts you down for being a strong enough person to voice your opinion that is contrary to so many others. Just my 2 cents.


Curtiss Lemay August 4, 2013 at 6:09 am

Do you need a committee to date…you know….like you drive?


Hellokittygrrl August 18, 2013 at 4:13 pm

I prefer asian males but I don’t wanna say I would only date asians because I don’t wanna discourage an amazing guy who’s not asian. Honestly I would date any race because I’m more interested in personality and character but I simply just prefer asians, looks and culture wise, and definatly would like to marry an asian and have gorgeous mixed kids. But if I met the perfect guy for me and he wasn’t asian that’d be fine, I wouldn’t be upset because he’d be amazing none the less 🙂


Northern Light August 20, 2013 at 11:04 am

Anyone who says “I only date race X” is a total idiot. Fortunately outside US people usually dont say stupid stuff like this. Sick race obsessed society creates sick minds.

Im Finnish guy myself and I would never say stupid stuff like this. I would never publicly diss Finnish women. I think it is ok to say you want to date your own ethnic group, but to say that about some other group. To disrespect your own heritage. Well that just means you hate yourself and/or you had problems with your parent of opposite sex.


at Northern Light August 27, 2013 at 10:27 pm



ueuwuioweu December 15, 2013 at 6:57 pm

You guys are wrong. Who someone prefers it’s there choice.
Do you really want to force someone like her to like you? It would probably be the total opposite.
– Best wishes, asian american dude.


Anonymous November 23, 2013 at 6:58 pm

thank god its a normal person for once. you are right. to say I only date a certain race is fetishizing and wrong. Seriously, what’s wrong with these people that say negative things about their own race.


ME August 28, 2013 at 12:13 am

All this thought on preference and what race a person is doesn’t matter much once you’re married and you settle down. Who you marry, for what reason and why only seems to matter to the young. Once you have kids, and you’ve been with a person for awhile, their background won’t make much difference. You’ll just be two people trying to raise your kids and living your lives like everyone else. That being said, I’m in a mixed marriage. I’m white and my wife is Asian. There are things you’ll have to get used to based on whether the person is first, second or a later generation. Marrying an immigrant is not the same. How open your families are about your cross cultural dating can have a slight impact on you. What style you want to raise your kids will be a factor. First generation Asian parents usually want their kids to work hard in school, that’s why they immigrated in the first place, to have better opportunities for themselves and their kids. If they have an accent, that can be a factor depending on where you live. You’ll want to settle down in an area that will be friendly to your spouse. Your spouse might want your kids to learn their mother tongue. They might not, it just depends. The kids will have to be taught what the grandparents expect from them if they are from another culture. You don’t want to offend the in-laws. You may have to learn to love food you weren’t used to growing up. That is often fun though. You’ll probably find that you’re drawn to other couples that are in the same boat as you. Where one spouse is Asian and the other isn’t. Most times your kids will be cute, but not always. If you’re a guy, you might find that you’re more comfortable around Asian women in general vs white women. Vice versa if you’re a female. If your a guy, don’t be surprised if your wife chooses not to take your last name once you get married. Many Asian cultures don’t follow that custom. You should be willing to learn a little bit more about their background. Even if they’re Asian American, you should be willing to learn about their background. But do what they’re comfortable with. Most Asian Americans aren’t experts on the place that their parents or grandparents came from. Their Americans. With immigrants, it’s different. They will know more and will be able to teach you more. Most of all, you might get some funny looks while you’re young and still dating. Even in the 21st century. It happens mainly to young people, older couple don’t experience that as much. You might get more looks if it’s a white female with an Asian male combo. People are stupid, so just let it roll of your back. Some people who have chosen not to date or marry interracially might feel threatened to some degree. It’s human nature to feel that way unless you’ve been brought up around other couples that look similar. I agree that a white female is likely to get more jazz while she’s young about her preference for Asian guys, but it will pass as you get older. Sorry for the soapbox. I’ve been married to my wife for 13 years with 4 years of dating. I jumped through a lot of hoops already. She is a first generation immigrant. =)


Anonymous November 23, 2013 at 6:56 pm

“Most times your kids will be cute, but not always.” ????
what a racist piece of sh1t. you belong on creepywhiteguys.tumblr.com
let me guess, your disgusting kids ACT WHITE, THINK WHITE AND CANT SPEAK THEIR ASIAN LANGUAGE OF THEIR MOM RIGHT? fking colonized and assimilated. disgusting and no thanks.”


uiweouw December 15, 2013 at 6:54 pm

Relax dude. Life is about changing, it’s okay if everybody wants to adapt to the African, Asian, European, or Hispanic cultures. But mixing them all into a rich culture is best.
– Best luck, asian american bro.


John Weatherall August 28, 2013 at 10:29 pm

Her preferences work for me, as I only have interest in asian women. So everybody is happy 🙂


Anonymous November 23, 2013 at 6:54 pm

fk off you belong in creepywhiteguys.tumblr.com I should cut and paste and add you there. 🙂


Henry November 9, 2013 at 6:37 am

I have just read a lot of comments and I just want to say its up to her whoever she wants to date, she can’t help who she’s attracted to, it’s so simple, like a lot of people are attracted to attractive people, so because you don’t want to date an unattractive person don’t make you any less of person, it’s just your personal preference.

I would like to talk more about this subject cause I can go on all night.

Email me on henrytrinh@hotmail.co.uk

Good day


anonymous November 9, 2013 at 7:38 pm

Probably, although social media and liberals can make people aware, there would be more of a equal demographics once the baby boom generation is gone…the world we’re living now really sucks.


Anonymous December 15, 2013 at 6:51 pm

So true bro. I really have something against older people and I’m asian american.


Anonymous November 23, 2013 at 6:53 pm

it’s not preference when you date someone first and foremost because of their race/ethnicity. It is a FETISH. Please research and read more about it in detail. Why do you thirst for white women validation? I’m an Asian woman and I date guys only from my own heritage. Why?
BECAUSE I LOVE MY HERITAGE AND CULTURE AND WANT THAT TO CONTINUE. Desire is a colonized space, its just just simply oh! im just attracted to them just because! common think a little.


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ANYASIANMAN December 30, 2013 at 4:57 pm

Why can’t more white women be like her? I am an Asian Man and I completely disagree with her comment on how an asian man would be disgusted that a white women likes the asian men. I am ALL for it. according to the 2010 census, 47% of Asian women date out of race while a meager 17% of Asian Men (Mostly in Hawaii) date out of race. I feel we need to even the playing field a little.


MikeTO July 14, 2017 at 2:25 am

That’s dumb, a lot of white women don’t bring anything to the table.


Chrysalline January 15, 2014 at 2:49 am

I’m an ‘attractive’ caucasian girl, and I always dated whomever I liked, regardless of their race, because it’s not important! Who a person is and what they stand for, their morals, the way they treat you, and your feelings for one another are all that matter in life and love. My boyfriend is half-asian, and I love him because he is respectful, kind, intelligent and a lovely, beautiful person – not because he’s ‘asian’ – that is irrelevant. People seriously need to stop it with this racist nonsense…there is no room in the modern world for such outdated views. If you love and want to preserve your culture, then find a partner who shares your views and stop hating other people based purely on who they fall in love with.


anonymous February 24, 2014 at 9:35 pm

Agreed, except there is a sense in america interracial couples are not allowed in certain parts of the u.s and asian man with non asian woman is rare so they’re an easy target.


Stew January 21, 2014 at 10:57 pm

I was in Santa Monica at the 3rd Street Promenade over MLK weekend and what I saw was eye opening: many young Asian Men with white woman and they were all happy. Many of them with children. It’s good to see that people are opening up their dating options. You never know, good things may come out of it!


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Pimpdaddy March 16, 2014 at 12:48 pm

Its easy to figure out…little asian guys are big spenders and easy to dominate.If this scank is happy then more power to her.


Anonymous March 22, 2014 at 10:03 am

racist prick.


ginger88 April 21, 2014 at 12:30 am

Asian from America and Asian from Asia those are soooooo different people.
I was attracted to Asian Asians ( as I’m now Caucasian girl in China), sincerely attracted and then Latino guy happened in my life and now I can only treat Chinese guys as children. It’s a matter of a size too AND other abilities, also cultural and historical background which are unmatching.


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a April 22, 2014 at 7:25 pm

uh huh….


alan wang August 8, 2014 at 6:31 am

ginger88, if you actually live in china (which i don’t believe), then i suggest you get out as soon as possible. if you found the guy of your dreams and he happened to be latino, and then you stopped being attracted to asian guys, then fine. i don’t really give a damn. but DON’T go around slandering the name of us asian men simply because YOU don’t find us attractive. as proven here, plenty of women of all races find asian men desirable and attractive. treating us like children? if you treated me that way i would roundhouse kick you in the FACE. little asian guys being easy to dominate? huh. i have asian friends that would bench press you like you were a twig. they are also most aggressive in their pursuits of women, and are the type of asian men labeled as controlling, chauvinist, and sexist. these type of men are even more common in china than in the states. and do you know why everyone is so quick to believe that all asian men have small penises? it is thanks largely in part to the mainstream american media’s efforts to emasculate, desexualize, and dehumanize the asian male. i have fought tooth and nail against these horrendous stereotypes against asian men all my life.


will November 26, 2014 at 12:56 am

alan wang, stfu dude, ur so old with your theories, the media isnt the reason at all, many asian guys really do act that way, stop blaming the media, im an asian guy myself, there is no external force that is making asians look bad except ourselves. maybe she only met with pussy asian guys, or ones with anger issues who lack self esteem like yourself?


clarissa gafoor July 3, 2014 at 9:44 pm

married a Chinese Indian man because we loved each other – not because he’s Asian and I`m not – there are issues if you are a white girl and don’t live in Asia (I live in Hong Kong) if you have an Asian Mum-in-law, she will be your ‘boss’ – she’ll also be your best friend if she loves you. And if anyone thinks that Asian men are easy to dominate then they are nuts and have no idea what they’re talking about – men from Asia can be very dominant. and is ginger88 really living in China? guys from the north are as tall as men from the west – much taller than a lot of ‘Latinos’! (lol)


Ly August 18, 2014 at 11:17 am

Went to the Nightlife at the Academy of Sciences event in San Francisco this past Thursday and saw many Asian men with Caucasian girlfriends. They all seemed genuinely in love and it seemed like this type of interracial relationship is trending up! great to see the options opening up for us. Cheers!


Dieselboy September 14, 2014 at 12:30 pm

Wow it’s sad there are so many trolls on this thread.

I’ll weigh in since I’m conventionally considered an attractive guy and I just happen to be Asian American, Vietnamese American to be specific.

I’ve been dating mostly Latin and White girls since I’ve been out of college, close to 10 years. I used to be heavily involved in athletics including martials arts like boxing and Judo, but now have a career that puts me in situations with lots of people of all backgrounds – from the ultra wealthy WASPY blue blood types to the average schmoe off the street. I get along with all of them.

In a way because I’m just naturally a someone who can relate to people, I come across as affable and people are genuinely friendly to me. I am always clear about my boundaries and having seen most types, I handle the jackasses who challenge me with sharp wit and dominance.

That’s the thing people, whether you are white, brown or yellow, people who sense weakness will try and exploit that. That’s not because you’re Asian, it’s because you exhibit some sort of weakness. Maybe it’s because I work and exist in a pretty competitive city, it’s nothing I haven’t seen before and I get respect with ease. It’s about social conscientiousness – which admittedly most Asian American families don’t do a good job of instilling in their young men.

I believe this translates almost one for one in dating. I grew up in the east coast where there are much fewer Asians than say in the west coast. I’ve found myself only attracted to women of a certain level of class, grace, and look. They just happen to be mostly white or latin of a certain career trajectory.

At the end of the day, if you’re comfortable in your own skin and you live your life in a care free naturally confident way, there’s no barrier to what you want. And believe me boys, you CAN get what you want. You just need to work on eliminating limiting beliefs.

And btw, about the weird looks from jealous white boys and asian women, that’s the most satisfying part about it. Let them look as I slowly run my hands down my date’s lower back and firmly grab her ass as she laughs teasingly. It may infuriate them, but there’s nothing more sexy than showing your girl that she’s yours and no one else’s, and you don’t care who knows that.

Happy hunting!

P.S. – No complaints on penis size, in fact a few girls have exclaimed “wow no wonder you’re so confident!”. I consider myself average to above average. Put your insecurities on that front out of your mind. If you don’t care about it, she won’t care about it. Just be a good lover, touch her like there’s no one else but her, and own your woman (philosophically, not physically). At the end of the day, a woman just wants to know that her man wants her to be his and no one elses.


Dragon September 14, 2014 at 9:31 pm

You’re right, there’s a lot of trolls on here…probably taking it out from their miserable lives (whether they’re being honest or not). Race wouldn’t come up if everyone was the same (we’re probably not going to see it in our lifetime).


MikeTO July 14, 2017 at 2:24 am

Don’t be a dumb ass. White women has the 2nd highest divorce rate in North America. Unless she can bring something to the table other than good looks is meaningless. How many of these women can cook and and not fuck around on you?


Scooter July 21, 2017 at 9:08 pm

MikeTO, I doubt it, also this is an very old blog, I don’t think people are active on this page.


johar January 4, 2015 at 3:11 am
Bella August 25, 2015 at 10:31 pm

I’m attracted to both Asian and White guys solely because I was raised in a predominantly Asian community of California. Growing up, my classes were always over 90% Asian. My first crush was a cute, skinny, dark-haired, dark-eyed boy who was too focused on his grades to notice that I liked him. As I grew up, I learned to get used to and even like some of the Asian stereotypes. Even now, I find it cute when a man (No matter what race) is very focused on his work. It just grew on me. So those who say women marry Asian men for the money… not me.


j5 August 25, 2015 at 10:49 pm

You didn’t say what nationality you are, I’m guessing white american? I think most non asian girls and asian girls are more comfortable with what they’re used to as how you described your experiences growing up. Unfortunately, most non asian and some asian girls still have problems with asian men due to stereotypes. Black women are not having much success either. I’m guessing in the future, eventually black women and asian men probably will become more common since they both share the same struggle and since they both pretty much are excluded in the dating scene. There is a saying, if man can breed (regardless of his race), he will.


vErYwIzEaZiAn June 4, 2016 at 3:53 am

who cares? human beings are so limited on each other and not the big picture. As a whole were still a young and primitive species who havent even reached the first class of civilization. eventually everyone WILL look like tiger woods’s hookers kids. And yet everyone tries to argue their opinion thinking they actually have an upper hand on morality and human ethics, when reality is that all we are is ultimately a race of people who will all blend together eventually. reading these quotes and even the article for that matter is a interesting character study on selective evolution, and how each preference and philosophy in the end only serves one ultimate purpose; to reproduce and pass it on. I think its funny how people inconspicuously hint at how they consider themselves attractive and try so hard taking many many pictures of themselves to get that perfect, ill give all you asians a boner face, when almost everyone feels the same way about themselves. Not to mention beauty is in the eye of the beholder, which makes the so called attractive, jut not attractive to another… By the way im an asian guy who looks normal, acts normal, has normal intelligence, feels normal about any race- even If its a hot alien from outer space, id prolly atleast try to get it in, an maybe try to start a family with, um.. it.. AND not to mention have a normal size penis. OK OK fine, maybe a bit small… like japanese porno dude small. Seriously tho, its crazy how small some of those guys get, its like theyre breeding small men to accentuate the ball sack size. Take that white guys!!!


Rain October 20, 2011 at 4:14 am

No way, MO…really.


JT Tran January 22, 2012 at 5:53 pm

Having taught hundreds of students, I can safely say that Asian men have a distinct advantage when it comes to approaching white women. Willhelm, have you subscribed to the newsletter to get the ebook and 60 minute audio that describes how Asian men can succeed at dating?


willhelm willhelsson January 25, 2012 at 12:56 am

thx anyway JTT, I haven’t subscribed the stuff u’ve just said…before I frgt,what do u mean by “distinct advntg”? does it only valid in white people countries? how about in Asian countries? If I don’t bother you, I really need a precise answer for that.:)…..


JT Tran January 25, 2012 at 5:15 am

Well, it’s explained more indepth in the audio you get as a subscriber, but basically as an Asian man you will always be more successful with a direct style of approaching, see 


willhelm willhelmsson January 26, 2012 at 12:09 pm

thx a lot JTT n co….I appreciate your help….God bless everybody


willhelm willhelmsson January 26, 2012 at 12:28 pm

thx a lot JTT n co….I appreciate your help….God bless everybody


Indianbro May 7, 2012 at 4:53 pm

Thailand is in South-East Asia. The other countries you mentioned are in South and West Asia.


Ruin May 27, 2012 at 6:18 am

Thank you. I know what I meant, but I’m not a big Geography-Buff, so I can make mistakes from time to time. 😀

 But yeah, everyone else – if you need to know where all the lovely Asian countries are, Indianbro will get you in the right direction!!!



Matt_johnson May 27, 2012 at 11:16 pm

Ruin, do you still believe in the tooth fairy?  I am just stating the facts, why are you hurt by the truth?…and they’re just my opinions ok?…you have to live with critics, this is normal.


Ruin May 30, 2012 at 8:42 am

You are both right and wrong here, I must admit. First of all, I do not believe in the tooth fairy, nor do I believe in White Supremacy as you obviously do- the idea that one race stands above all others in terms of ranking is childish, not to mention offensive to myself and many others. I also find complete bull that white people are automatically and naturally better since, by that logic, the Chinese should be at the top (about one fifth of the world’s population is Chinese, after all). I also find your undermining of the US’s civil Americanism to a fanciful myth in line with the tooth fairy pretty base. While I do know that America falls short on many things, especially its promise of the American Dream, that doesn’t mean that I cannot acknowledge that it was not set up as a right for white people only. It’s actually right there in the amendments that all American citizens have the same rights, including every ethnic minority holding the same citizenship.

Now, what you said next is the most troubling: ‘I am just stating the facts, why are you hurt by the truth?… and they’re just my opinions, ok?’
‘Facts’ and ‘Opinions’ are two completely different things. You cannot present your opinion as both and hope to be taken seriously. That should be obvious. While it is a fact that white people tend to have it easier in America than ethnic minorities do, and that you do have opinions to express, it does not automatically mean that it is for white people – only that it is white people who have held the ethnic minorities down whether it was intentional or not.

And I am not hurt by the truth at all, Mr Johnson. I’m actually just resigned to the fact that racists do exist, and am glad that it’s nowhere near as bad now as it used to be. Thanks for asking.


Matt_johnson May 30, 2012 at 6:40 pm

I was talking about the point of view.  You can believe whatever you want, and I know people are probably saying he’s just being misguided with his views which are just his opinions.