13 Evil Women Who Exploit Asian Men (Part 1)

by JT Tran · 65 comments

[DISCLAIMER: I know some people will be offended by this article because it hits so close to home. However, there are a lot of good women with Asian men so I don’t mean you girls specifically. But I’m sure you know of someone, maybe you’re even friends with her, that fits the bill. You probably even know some poor Asian guy who’s dating one of these women. Show him this article so he knows he can do better and share this article with her so she knows how selfish she’s being. Anyways, take this article with the humorous and educational intent that it was meant and enjoy!]

There are tons of good women out there for Asian men... These aren't them!

There are tons of good women out there for Asian men... These aren't them!

An unavoidable question I’m constantly being asked by readers is “How can I tell if a girl is attracted to Asian guys?” Another unavoidable question I get is “What KINDS of women like Asian men?”

I find it unavoidable because, well, I am the world’s preeminent Asian Dating Coach after all and I’m supposed to know that right? I’m supposed to be encouraging Asian men to specifically search out women who specifically look for only Asian men! RIGHT???

Unfortunately, I don’t think it’s a good mentality to have, first of all. Instead of CREATING attraction by being confident, you’re hoping that she’s giving you indications of interest so you’ll then BE confident. Which is the exact reverse of how you actually go about getting a girlfriend. You have to be confident first before she’ll be interested in you.

Anyways, I digress. I don’t like answering either question because, yes, there are plenty of women out there that genuinely like Asian men, but for every one of her there’s ten (10) other types that have ulterior motives for their preference. That’s right – there are women out there that wish to take advantage of you, my Asian male readers.

This is where our reputation for being a “Model Minority” comes back to bite us in the ass. Many of the things these women are looking to exploit and use are in fact the Asian man’s most positive attributes like:

  • Being hard working
  • Successful
  • Educated
  • Intelligent
  • Family Oriented
  • Loyal
  • Etc

But how can this be a problem? These are good things to look for in a man, right? Yes and no. Let me explain, the problem with women who have an Asian male fetish (Yellow Fever or otherwise), is that they’re looking for someone to fulfill their own needs.

While everyone has needs in a relationship (and I don’t just mean the ones you find under the covers), these kinds of girls are only in it for themselves and find that the positive attributes of Asian men can fill that hole in them, whether it’s good or bad for the Asian male is entirely a moot point to her. This isn’t to say that these women are malevolent predators, they may not even be aware that they’re treating their partner as a stepping stool, but the lop-sided nature of the relationship is obvious to everyone to else.

These exploitative, “evil” women use Asian men for their own purposes that don’t always benefit us Asian men. This is why I personally think it’s more beneficial to meet women in real life who don’t have a particular preference either way. I want her to like ME for ME and who I truly am as person, not what she expects me to be or have her pre-judge me, even if it is in a positive stereotype.

Thus, I present to you the 13 types of women that exploit Asian men for their personal gain and pleasure. Due to the length of the list, there will be a Part 2 to the list and it is placed in reverse descending order of least physically attractive to the hottest and most exploitative. Lest you accuse me of being unobjective, being a male and all, I also enlisted the help of Huggable Heather to see who goes where.

13 Evil Women Who Exploit Asian Men (Part 1)

And so, without further ado…

#13: Anime Angels or a Weeaboo:

Bad Anime Angel! Bad!

Bad Anime Angel! Bad!

You know those cartoons we used to watch when we were little? Those bright and happy cartoons with giant robots, spacemen, fuzzy animals or some other wacky misadventures dubbed from Japan?

That’s called anime, and there is a rather large community of people, young and old, that still partake in it. There’s all types, too – the occasional reader for nostalgia purposes to the overly obsessed otaku and everything in between, these people have an altered misconception about Asians due to this form of media.

The girls I have come into contact with that absolutely love anime firmly believe that Asian men can do no wrong – to them, they are charming, witty, breathtakingly handsome young men that want to see past a girl’s exterior and look to her delicate heart for inspiration and love. While a Weeaboo is someone who is obsessed with Japanese culture, language, and fashion, but will have nothing to do with actual Asian people (unless they’re J-Pop stars).

Unfortunately, the real world does not work that way, so they just ultimately come off as crazed, forward, sometimes socially inept women.

HOW TO AVOID HER: This one is actually pretty easy – ask how much anime she watches.

If you watch absolutely none, you’re not going to be able to handle a girl that watches it every day for several hours. If you watch an episode of your favorite anime every night before you go to bed, the girl that catches up on a similar anime a few times a week suddenly isn’t as unappealing.This is really one that each individual Asian guy has to handle for himself.

Personally, I don’t watch anime except for the ones I saw as a kid (ROBOTECH, ya’ll!) so this kind of girl is really off-putting to me, but to each his own!

#12: Bargain Shoppers:

Caveat Emptor: “Buyer Beware” the Bargain Shopper!

Caveat Emptor: “Buyer Beware” the Bargain Shopper!

She doesn’t have the best fashion sense. She doesn’t have a bangin’ bod. She isn’t the prettiest girl at the club and she can’t carry a conversation in a bucket with a lid on it. In other words, she refuses to wear makeup, shave her legs, and generally take care of herself mentally, emotionally or physically.

As such, she hasn’t been pursued by her race’s male counterparts and doesn’t think they find her attractive due to all her shortcomings. Instead of working out and learning how to apply makeup, however, she gets more for her money – she’ll date a guy out of her league, but she lets her Whiteness bring her up a few notches and thus be “on par” with the Asian guy.

These couples exist everywhere – the overweight, homely White girl hanging out with an Asian guy who can clearly do better. She used her coupon and brought home a great deal – something she wouldn’t be able to do within her race.

So caveat emptor, my Asian brother, means “Buyer Beware!”

HOW TO AVOID HER: This is interesting, to say the least. You’re never going to have a perfectly matched couple – sometimes, the guy will be better looking that then girl and vice versa. But when you are clearly out of the girl’s league, it’s time to re-evaluate:

  • Why are you with her?
  • Do you really have that little self-worth?
  • You can do better, my Asian brutha.

Weigh in the pros and cons and see if she needs to take her offer elsewhere – you’re priceless

#11: Gold Diggers:

Gold Diggers LOOOOVE Asian Men with Their BMW Rice Rockets!

Gold Diggers LOOOOVE Asian Men with Their BMW Rice Rockets!

Never seen without her Gucci handbag and Burberry scarf, this woman is all about the money.

She exists for designer brands and will do whatever it takes to get them. This kind of woman isn’t looking for a man to date…she’s looking for his paycheck – the yellow pay dirt, saffron gold!

Asian men fit into this because they generally do make a comfortable living and then some. Let’s face it – that higher education our parents and culture made us get wasn’t for nothing – we may have slaved away in finance and engineering, but that certainly paid off ten times over.

In light of all the publicity Asian men have been receiving lately, these women are taking notice as they review their shopping wishlists.

NOTE: A lot of Asian women will fall into this category. They’ll spend the prime of their lives and years hooking up with and sleeping with non-Asian men, but when they start approaching their expiration date and time to settle down, they’ll be looking for the Asian man with the biggest money clip, luxury car, house, and high status job to put a ring on their finger. These are the kind of hot Asian girls that would have never looked at you before you had a high paying career and now throwing themselves all over you as the biological clock of doom counts down.

HOW TO AVOID HER: Go on free or cheap dates. Even better, take her on creative, non-expensive, activity dates sure to blow her mind! Take her for a picnic in the park, a stroll on the beach, make dinner for her at home. Don’t indulge her – she’s used to men handing her whatever she wants.

If you’re walking along the pier and she’s leading you into the more expensive boutiques with puppy dog eyes and outstretched hands, it’s time to let this gold digger mine somewhere else.

#10: Cougars:

Dodge a bullet by dodging this Carrie Cougar!

Dodge a bullet by dodging this Carrie Cougar!

Past their prime with a newfound libido, these women are enjoying the sexual life they denied themselves in their early years, living vicariously through reruns of “Sex in the City.”

That’s right, they’re the Carrie Bradshaws and Samanthas of the world. You’ll find them at the bar with their newly divorced BFF, commiserating about how they have men all figured out.

They spot you from across the room and begin to prowl. They use their many years of experience to find that unwitting Asian boy who may not know the ways of the world for their own sexual pleasures.

After she’s done with him, she’ll move onto the next one – poised and perfectly content with never thinking about him again.

HOW TO AVOID HER: Keep this finicky feline hanging.

If you swap numbers, kiss, and ultimately come to the point where she tries to take you home or get into your car, tell her you have work the next morning.

Eject yourself from the interaction altogether. If she still wants you, she’ll let you know, but it’s up to you to decide if you want to take it further.

Remember, don’t let this leading lady take charge – she assumes that her age gives her that advantage over you, but YOU are the man so YOU take control.

#9: Yellow Fever:

Burning with Yellow Fever, they're starving for Yellowtail!

Burning with Yellow Fever, they're starving for Yellowtail!

While this is definitely more pronounced in men, women are often guilty of sexual stereotyping.

Even though Asian men aren’t commonly considered sexually desirable, there are plenty of women that want them for the skin they’re in…and that’s it. She’s the bag em and tag em type and she’s after YOUR yellow pelt. While this may sound awesome to a guy who isn’t getting any, it gets very old, very quickly especially since there’s no long term potential with her and she doesn’t want any.

She’s the Samantha from “Sex in the City” and Buddha forbid any form of foreplay, cuddling, or public displays of affection.

A girl with an Asian fetish will go through Asian men like tissues and think nothing of it when her current one isn’t performing to her standards – she’ll just toss him aside and get another.

HOW TO AVOID HER: Feed a cold; starve a fever…or yellow fever, in her case. Don’t give into her lustful desires. She may be attracted to your physical characteristics – and that’s great, but let her see the other sides to you as well before jumping into bed with her.

Introduce her to your friends, take her to the museum, show her your marble collection, or whatever. Let her see who you are and that you’re more than just yellow man meat.

#8: Social Rejects:

Social Rejects look outside their culture for connection

Social Rejects look outside their culture for connection

These are the girls completely outcast from their own society.

For whatever reason, they simply do not fit in. Maybe they were a fat kid in high school and lost the weight in college but still retained that social ineptitude. Maybe they grew up in a rigid, religious society and couldn’t adjust to the extreme demands placed upon them.

They’ll be in the artsy crowd: emo, hipster, goth, scene, and whathaveyou.

Either way, they are not accepted by their “own kind” and thus racially profile against themselves. They turn to another culture and have an idealistic view – one where all Asian men love them and they can do no wrong.

They are fixated upon finding an Asian man to accept them so they can show the White men who rejected them that one of their women switch sides and became a race traitor…an “in your face” scenario.

HOW TO AVOID HER: Sometimes social rejects find each other.

That’s cool, it’s up to each consenting adult. However, if she’s in the mindset of using YOU to get back at Chad Smith for not asking her to senior prom or shoving a “yellow man” in all the “white man’s faces,” she’s really not a keeper. Ask her how she feels about her own race.

If she gives you a long winded speech about why she hates White people, cheerfully remind her about the White babies she’ll genetically produce and move on.


Remember, in Part 2 of the “13 Evil Women Who Exploit Asian Men” I’ll detail the rest of these wily women including the most beautiful and most dangerous of them all!

Are you an Asian man who is having trouble meeting high quality women: women with their own values and motivations and whose touch on your chest makes you feel more like a man than any insipid conversation with a club girl you’ve made out with?

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{ 63 comments… read them below or add one }

Kelvin Han Yee July 21, 2011 at 7:36 pm

Bwahahahaha!   Great read JT.  Very funny. But, I disagree slightly.  These women.  These “types”.  They aren’t “evil”.  They need love too.  Why not Asian love?  Not all of us Asian men are 10’s.  (like you and me)   Let these women get a little Asian “Take Out” if they want to.   Why shouldn’t some yearning Asian brotha score some funky Anime-Cougar Yellow Feverish gold diggin’ social reject?  That’s some of the best sex ever son!  Don’t hate!  


P KAI July 21, 2011 at 7:39 pm

“Even though Asian men aren’t commonly considered sexually desirable”   JT  I HAVE TO STRONLY DISGAREE WITH YOU RIGHT THERE BRO!!!!!!!    WE ARE SEXUALLY DESIREABLE!!!  


jaker July 21, 2011 at 10:46 pm

WE ARE SEXUALLY DESIREABLE!?? or Sexual Transmitted Disease SUSCEPTIBLE !!


JL July 21, 2011 at 10:04 pm

White guys use their “whiteness” to get women in Asia. I don’t see why it’s wrong for Asian guys to use their “Asian-ness” to get women who have yellow fetish. Lol!


jaker July 21, 2011 at 10:17 pm

Does your workshop involves how to prevent us Asian guys acquiring “STDs”?


J.t. Tran July 21, 2011 at 10:23 pm

Wear a condom.

Some basic sex ed is taught in class, although that role should primarily lie with school education and one’s parents to teach the “birds and the bees.”


jaker July 21, 2011 at 10:38 pm

Herpes can penetrate either latex or rubber condoms (in short – skin pores are susceptible with this viral infection)


J.t. Tran July 21, 2011 at 11:24 pm

Then it’s abstinence.

Pamela N Red July 21, 2011 at 10:08 pm

This is a great article and I see it quite a bit, unfortunately.

Don’t forget the white girl looking for a slave she can boss around.

On a different note, you might be surprised at the young Asian guys that look for older women. I’m married and not looking but get offers all the time. So not all those cougars are prowling for the youngin’s sometimes the cubs are on the hunt.


Joellen August 31, 2011 at 5:35 am

Hmmm. the slave thing didn’t work out for me, darn it! My Japanese husband doesn’t fall into line like I expected…and he talks back too much…

where do I find one of those “young asian guys that look for older women”?


jaker July 21, 2011 at 10:11 pm

What I see that were not mentioned here were the caucasian female who got severe past damages ( Raped, Physically Abused, Sexually Transmitted Disease, Pregnancy, Criminal Record, Incestual Things, Drugs, Alcoholism )  to their lives and see Asian men as an escape goat of being the model knight which they will not suffer the same fate they experience before. 


J.t. Tran July 21, 2011 at 10:22 pm

Maybe in Part 2…


jaker July 21, 2011 at 11:02 pm

By the way, Samantha from Sex In the City did not even hit a single Asian Man along the long list of Sex In The City TV Series and Movies. I find it odd for her to be the center image of your article?


Shiloh Heckman July 22, 2011 at 12:49 am

I think this is interesting.. However, what about the reverse?  I want to see an article for white ladies about what kind of Asian man to avoid.  While there might be less of this, I have seen comments on different websites before by Asian men saying white women were their toys.  They were perfectly content with using white ladies for sex (even if they wanted more) but moving onto Asian girls only when they wanted a serious relationship.  

I use QQ all the time to find people who want free English tutoring as I want to teach English in China and it is great practice.  I cannot tell you the number of times, I get stereotyped and branded as a harlot or it is assumed I am open enough to talk about my sex life with them.  I have had guys talk to me for 30 minutes before I realized they were also pant-less.  (many men are shirtless due to the heat and while awkward I let it go).  I have been asked to remove clothing and told by someone in broken English that he would “make love to me”.  Many will say something along the lines of, “American women are open right?”  And it gets more frustrating every time.

Some are gentlemen but not all are!  And I guess sometimes all the categorizing of white women comes off to me as a little.. unfair.  I do not date for fun, just like a lot of asian people do not.  I do not just want someone for a good time!   Lucky for me I have my George. 😀


J.t. Tran July 22, 2011 at 10:20 am

Sounds like the Chinese version of Chat Roulette…


anya July 23, 2011 at 2:41 am

omg yes! i had only dated one asian man before sam and he turned out to be this overly cocky asshole lying player!!!!!!! he acts all cockyand confident and acts like he only wants me for my WHITE HIDE. like another notch on his white lady belt. wtf. i figured it happened but where is the one for ladies to avoid fail asian boys. shyness isnt an issue, its the overly cocky assholes. just like any other race.


Shiloh Heckman July 22, 2011 at 12:54 am

Also.. I wonder if any woman can say they are not “yellow-fevered” if they will ONLY date Asian men.  That’s so bullshit its not even funny.. Talk about denial!!  You can find Asian men basically more attractive but isn’t attraction more about WHO they are not WHAT they are?  If George had done everything he did for me the same way, but had been of another race, I would love him anyway because he basically saved my life.  But.. he happens to be Chinese.. and I do think Chinese men are very pretty.   But I’ve had plenty of white guys and a black dude before in my past, colors are only initial attraction but its the personality I stay for.

Any woman who says she exclusively dates Asian dudes can’t possibly say she isn’t “yellow-fevered” with a straight face.  If it was a white dude saying he only dated Asian women, everyone would be very quick to yell “YELLOW FEVAAAA!!!”.  Why not the other way around?  Food for though. 😀


mike smith February 16, 2012 at 4:27 pm

shaddup you dumb slut


Shelli Trung July 22, 2011 at 3:49 am

ahhhh…the plight of the Asian male…I never considered these but think they apply to anyone who lacks confidence, regardless of gender or race. 🙂

And yes, I sure did get a kick out of this JT!


Leidy Sanchez July 22, 2011 at 8:15 am

Question is how can us non-asian girls know if the guy is taking us seriously and doesn’t just want to get in our pants? 🙁 and lol the caption to the anime angel was hilarious!


J.t. Tran July 22, 2011 at 10:20 am

Well, that’s just a general GUY issue to begin with. Girls, I’m sure, have their wily ways to pre-screen short term vs long term guys out.

Generally speaking though, Asian men tend to err on the relationship side, although obviously not all.


kstyle July 22, 2011 at 11:52 am

ahaha, YES, thanks man! im not the only asian guy that thinks these crazies exists. unfortunately, some people dont realize this and end up thinking that im crazy when in fact these girls are unbelievably crazy (N). 


Ryuen8541 July 23, 2011 at 1:47 am

i don’t agree with this.  What if she had Epilepsy?


Anya July 23, 2011 at 2:38 am

i know one of all these girls so far, and ya its terrible. what happened to women just loving a man for a man, if he has confidence and hes attractive, if hes romantic and is respectful and if hes a good cuddler and kisser, that should be that. apparentaly not. (one of my boyfriends friends is a very asian girl, she knows we are engaged and going to be married very soon, but sammy just bought a new car a toyota might i add. she sais “oh.. thats like a 30 000 dollar car… so megan told me you and anya fight alot.” bitch. >,<


Dude Lee July 24, 2011 at 7:59 am

I think point 11 about Asian girls are so true. When they’re younger many will sleep around with anything but asian and then use us for a security blanket because they know we’ll take care of them. That’s why I don;t trust them. We should kick them to the curb and take care of white, black and latina women.


Chibi Sayuri January 3, 2012 at 1:23 pm

wow i read that part..it just blew my mind…i had no idea Asian women did that..i’m black and my husband is Asian..and he use to tell me thats how some of them are…..that’s just wrong


Freedom Mushaw July 24, 2011 at 4:46 pm

On another note, I LOVE JT’s definition of a cougar. I think he hit it on the nail for the most part. The thing is, that cougars are not just after asian men, they are after anything that will restore their youth. With that note, an older woman who happens to fall in love with a younger man (more than half her age) should not be categorized in this. ITs an insult. She did not seek him out for his age or niaveness she prob did not even mean to like him! Some men actually prefer older women. None the less a cougar is more vindictive, and cunning, so before you call a woman a cougar, why dont we all think about the adjectives that come along with that! A lady does not deserve this title all the time simply because of her age.


Freedom Mushaw July 24, 2011 at 4:47 pm

How is this the Females problem:

“As such, she hasn’t been pursued by her race’s male counterparts and doesn’t think they find her attractive due to all her shortcomings. Instead of working out and learning how to apply makeup, however, she gets more for her money – she’ll date a guy out of her league, but she lets her Whiteness bring her up a few notches and thus be “on par” with the Asian guy.
These couples exist everywhere – the overweight, homely White girl hanging out with an Asian guy who can clearly do better. She used her coupon and brought home a great deal – something she wouldn’t be able to do within her race.”

The way i see this, any Asian dude who does this, is simply a user too. Own the fuck up. You want her for her race, and she wants you for the self esteem. How is this a the “white” girls fault. if you (AM) are so focused on showing the world that you can get a “white” girl because you are so obsessed about your “Vanilla” fever (which is the reverse of JT Trans clause in the first paragraph).. how is this her fault. I say good riddens. Any Asian Man that damn obsessed deserves what he gets and can complain to no one. Matter fact… “here budy, let me get you a bigger shovel. Hopefully it will get you to reality a lot faster!!” Idiots like this are not worth a good womans time. Not gonna give the asian dude any slack, cus i would give no ethnicity slack on race focused obsessions. If it were a preference or just features, those things can be found in other people of that ethnicity with PATIENCE or in other ethnicities all together. Let him ride that old mare as long as he wants, then when he starts screaming all white women are evil, or goes back to dating Asian women only, the world of women miss out on nothing important.

one looser down. I may sound bitter, but let me assure you this has nothing to do with me. It has to do with accountability. I am tired of people not owning up to their share in why shit doesnt work out. Maybe i am bitter about that. There needs to be acceptance that we contribute to part of our own missery. No awesomely written post is going to help that. No good B!tch slap will help either!!
Sorry hun, i feel that if we keep pointing to others instead of working on internal issues… we are going to continue to repeat the bs.Love you JT


Roast February 25, 2013 at 9:52 pm

I love it. Amen to that! 🙂


Lil Jay Chou July 25, 2011 at 10:59 pm

I can avoid the gold-diggers by having a shit job =)


Aurora July 26, 2011 at 5:49 am

Out of curiosity, I don’t wear makeup, I often feel awkward around people and don’t care much for clothes or anything of that kind, yet why is it a problem? I also have tried relating and befriending guys of my race but I have had no success with that. I really can’t understand this: if a guy says he prefers blondes only or only christians, then no one has a problem with that. But if a girl says she only dates Asians and doesn’t want to date anyone else then everyone has a big problem with that. I see both of these as preferences, yet the race part always come with a flame. Could someone explain it to me? 


Sarah Bailiff July 31, 2011 at 2:19 am

explination : they’re hypocrites. 


Anonymous August 1, 2011 at 7:49 am

Aurora – that’s been the case with me. Not the makeup thing but the “I prefer Asians so why are you in my face about it, it’s just a freakin’ preference.”

And I explain it the exact same way you do – If a guy prefers a girl with big boobs and blonde hair, why can’t I prefer an Asian man?

It is pretty hypocritical.

What JT meant is there are girls out there (and I have met one that actually told me she did this KNOWINGLY) that purposefully use their whiteness to have a “one-up” on non-White men. Whiteness is coveted in some parts of the country (in areas where not a lot of Whites are, per se) and you get a leg up for it. I know that being a blonde haired, blue-eyed girl has helped me out in plenty of ways, dating arena included. But this girl I knew was fat but told me she dated black guys so that she didn’t have to lose weight since they “liked bigger girls”. She didn’t care for Black guys any more than she cared for White guys. She had no preference one way or another. She just didn’t want to get her ass on the treadmill.
It’s racist, it’s lazy, it’s not right.

But the guys she knew ate up the whole “I’m dating a White girl” thing and didn’t care that she was obese. Hey, if they love her then that’s one thing, but she was doing it not because she really loved them, but because she was being lazy.


Alston Ke August 1, 2011 at 9:22 am

I see some good points in this article JT. Nothing beats happiness and enjoyment. What if the asian men that are involved in those senarios are really i do mean happy about their ‘choice of white’ counterparts. From our perspective, they might be bad, but for some of those that are involved, it could be the happiest moment of their lives.


dark August 2, 2011 at 1:10 am

some of this is bullocks, i see alot of genuinely happy anime couples, yellow fever couples, social outcast couples. what if they really have deep connection because they like the same things. but yh i get it this just entertainment values, so carry on!


Silver Apparition August 5, 2011 at 9:27 am

Oh so just because someone’s had a rough past and doesn’t fit into your view of “normal” they’re a social reject? Fuck. YOU. I am SO done here after what I just read. Chauvinistic bullshit!!! You’re basically saying avoid anyone who isn’t a blonde bimbo.


philosoraptor February 14, 2012 at 4:34 am

I think what JT’s trying to caution against with “social rejects” are girls who aren’t dating an asian guy really for the guy themself but more out of some sort of need to get back at white guys.

As an asian guy myself, I have to confess that part of what made me rekindle an interest in white girls during my college years was out of frustration with the overwhelming rejection by asian girls I was interested in.  And that was just the wrong reason for me to be interested in white girls, for the very same reasons JT described above.  The real reasons _should_ have been: because I find blondes/redheads/brunettes pretty attractive, because, being US-born myself, I find American girls can actually relate to me much more in ways immigrant girls have can have trouble with, and because honestly, regardless of whether you’re Asian/White/Black/Latina or mainstream/hipster/goth, if you’re a beautiful girl, your beauty is worth being seen and appreciated by any guy who will look.

What I got from JT was that girls to watch out for will be hiding in those subcultures, not that asian guys can’t connect with people who are goth or hipster (emo?  hey, that’s actually pretty common among asian guys, lol).  In fact, both Japan and Korea at least have goth or similar subcultures that I’m aware of.


Ton August 9, 2011 at 9:40 pm

Like JT said in part 2 – He will post an article about Asian guys 
women should avoid as well. 


YourMOM:D December 13, 2011 at 5:11 pm

I think that in most parts you are just describing your taste in women xD and have the impression that every other asian dude thinks like you. Even your society has social rejects, and need I remind you that most of your women are plastic faces, aiming for a man’s support? also about the anime girls, I think any hobby is fine as long as it has a limit. You can’t push people away because of their likes and dislikes. Of course, I’ve met completely irrational teenagers on hormones who think they’re sailor moon, but that’s not the case for everyone. Also… just for the record, you’re not as hot as you think you are. For example your chinese flirt scenario you posted in signs article… i would totally ignore you.. or more like..freak out. it’s so gross. Makes me puke x.x


JT Tran December 13, 2011 at 5:16 pm

My students have used it dozens of times and introduced girls who have never spoken an Asian language to the joys of speaking Chinese, Vietnamese or whathaveyou.

There’s a difference between theory and field-tested. Mine’s been field tested dozens to hundreds of time. Because it’s not WHAT you say that matters, it’s HOW you say it.


Hendersont2003 January 9, 2012 at 7:56 am

This is so true but the same can also be said for black women.


Chaybond007 April 4, 2012 at 1:18 am

I agree but their are some good ones when i went to yale to be correct. Smart, light skin black are sexy but Dark, fat, ghetto, and big mouth ones are not 


Oegukeen April 12, 2012 at 2:48 am

I understand this article could not be written without generalizing.
– you refer to Asian men as minority. Neither the name of the site nor in the article is it ever mentioned you are talking about Asian Americans. I am a WW in a relationship with AM, and he is certainly not a minority where he lives – Korea.
– I dislike the idea that you insinuate AM would go blindly for any woman simply because she is white. Being white is not such a big deal to them! And Asian men are still men – They know how to chose a woman for themselves
If you have any questions http://lovingkorean.wordpress.com/


Gerald Leung April 12, 2012 at 8:53 am

“And Asian men are still men – They know how to chose a woman for themselves”As an Asian(-American) man who’s made my large share of such mistakes over my life, I’m not so sure about this.  (Or perhaps we are/were Asian boys that had failed to become Asian men..)


Loving Korean April 12, 2012 at 4:40 pm

Humans make mistakes when choosing their significant other. If we didn’t, the divorce rates wouldn’t be so high.
But my point was that Asian men aren’t just blindly going to fall for every white woman just because she is white. And this post made it seem so.

Are you trying to tell me you would go for a woman which “can’t carry a conversation in a bucket with a lid on it. In other words, she refuses to wear makeup, shave her legs, and generally take care of herself mentally, emotionally or physically.” if this article didn’t tell you not to do it?
– Oegukeen


Freedom Mushaw April 9, 2013 at 7:20 am

Beautiful reply


rachel June 6, 2012 at 2:46 pm

wow. I cannot believe the ignorance captured in both part one and part two of this ‘dating advice’ 

I’d just like to know what categories the girl mod’s of this site fall into. 


Louise July 17, 2012 at 11:01 am

What a load of crap. I came on this site thinking there might be something interesting about Asian men and Caucasian females….and I’m reading this?? Who the heck is JT Tran hanging out with cause there’s nobody like this in my neighbourhood? Or maybe I just didn’t see them…..


Whatever July 25, 2012 at 10:50 am

Dude, I agree with the ones about yellow fever, but um, a girl had low standards if she doesn’t shave? Did you grandmom ever shave?  Shaving leads to ingrown hair, and that is disgusting.  I much rather spend my time working out than shaving or putting on make-up, there is nothing wrong with people who do, these things are called Personal Preferences. A majorly of your article is an inability to recognize that some people aren’t right for you, instead of just Evil.

I’m so glad I decided to never marry, odds are, even if I marry, I would still died alone as many women will, due to our tendency to marry older and men to die first, so why bother when we have our own income and sex is free?


Fumairaku August 12, 2012 at 1:16 pm

How about the other way around for example, way older married caucasian man being sought by younger single nubile 30’s something Japanese woman?


Daclaud September 25, 2012 at 9:30 pm

There’s really nothing wrong with dating any of these girls as long as all you want to is get laid. Believe me, I’ve dated each and every one of them and if all you want to do is add one more notch to your pole, then go for it Asian Barney Stinson!


TheObserver October 28, 2012 at 2:48 am

the author has some sliver of trith and good points, but beware he or she seems to have many issues also.


Anonamoss November 26, 2012 at 1:40 am

Hit it right on the head. I’m a white woman and I have yellow fever through the roof. But I’m not going to use a man for his egg roll without him knowing it.


Leila February 21, 2013 at 1:27 am

Is someone really “evil” and to be avoided if she is older, heavier, unpopular with people her own race? Sometimes people with differences (age, race, etc) connect with someone who is equally unusual in their own ethnic/age group. Why should someone be considered a user because they are seeking love with someone different? A better guideline would be to examine how this woman treats the man. If he feels used, he can step away; but if he feels accepted and appreciated by the woman, why reject her just because she fits into one of these stereotypes? There would be a lot more lonely people if we were only allowed to hook up with people who fit a certain profile.


Ranzou March 10, 2013 at 8:29 pm

After watching criminal documentaries of bad marriages gone wrong because the women have used men for divorce or life insurance policies, I’ve gone more paranoid about the gold digger. So undeserved to the Asian males too, I guess Asian females got a few problems, but non-Asians? Hm, not really. We didn’t plan a collective international effort of imperialism.


Jack W April 16, 2013 at 12:28 pm

JT this is definitely a worthwhile topic that has been ignored for years. I agree to some, dis agree with a few but yeah definitely applies to me in a huge way.


Kelly D May 4, 2013 at 5:06 am

I’m a 43 year old white woman who finds Asian men really attractive. I have lots of white friends and a lot of men of my race seem to like me and want to date me. But I find Asian men think a woman over 28 is an abomination and must have some major problem or she would be married.
I admit 43 is a little old to still be single, even in America. But I was building a career and dating and having fun and never really wanted kids. Now I’d love to adopt and marry a man, especially an Asian man. I’m not a gold digger. I’m really pretty and I’m funny and fun. I’m kind and generous.
The world is changing. American women are changing. Don’t be so quick to think we think of Asian men as substandard. That’s on you.


Sofia O March 4, 2015 at 12:01 pm

I am a white female (not
American though)
I have always been physically attracted to east
asian men. I don’t fully know why, but I guess it is just about
preference. With that said I don’t date just because of looks. I will
only date someone that I get along with. I only consider someone with
a personality that matches mine and with generaly the same values.
However I cannot date someone that i am not at all attrated to
however. So even if I met many nonasian nice guys from my country, i
can’t see them in that way. Just because I go for only asian guys
doesn’t make me a bad person. I am not using the people I date for
any selfish puposes, like listed above. Just because someone prefers to date asian men it doesn’t mean they are a bad person. Just wanted to point that


STANDMYGROUND June 2, 2016 at 8:43 pm

Go back to Stormfront, “BRO”. Stop frontin’, or KYS!


pat May 23, 2015 at 9:12 pm

“Avoid the women that want you while making yourself into something you are not to get the women that don’t want you.”


Stephie July 13, 2015 at 11:51 pm

I had all these statements I wanted to make about these types of woman…but in the end I only feel more discouraged then I was before and all I had considered was teaching overseas in one of the countries I loved since a child. (I liked Asian cultures BEFORE I knew that anime came from japan, and that wasn’t even the country on the top of my list to teach in).


Maria Deligiannis April 12, 2016 at 10:58 am

pointing something out to you readers….the article did start for not to be offended.Either than that i got interested in the opinions and some have good point of opinion. I enjoyed reading you all 🙂


jaker July 21, 2011 at 11:42 pm

Does it mean – that one would go date a Caucasian Nun?


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