Why I Have Been Made to Feel Ashamed of Liking Asian Men

by Hadassa Noble · 212 comments

Hadassa Noble: Wing Girl for Kezia Noble

Hadassa Noble: Wing Girl for Kezia Noble

My name is Hadassa Noble and I work as a wing girl for Kezia Noble, the world’s leading female pick-up coach, here in the United Kingdom. In my line of work, I often have to ask my students what their type of woman is (in order to point out possible girls for them to approach).

Everybody has ‘their type’ by which I mean, the features and traits they admire in the opposite sex. Some may look for blondes, others brunettes, some like tanned skin, others like pale skin. Many guys I teach and speak to broadly claim that they are attracted to Scandinavians – “tall blondes from Sweden!”

Similarly, many women I speak to go ga-ga over Latino men – “their accents and dark features are so sexy!” This is nothing strange, in fact it is very ordinary, nobody complains and everyone either agrees or disagrees politely.

However, when I am asked my type, I get a very different reaction.

“I like Asian guys,” I say.

The most common reaction I see are:

  • People gasp.
  • People take a double take.
  • People laugh.
  • Even many of the Asians I tell react this way!

Just as some men like tall Swedish blondes, I like Asian men – I have a preference for the facial features, less body hair, slighter build etc. However, I am not rewarded for this like of Asian men, if anything I am scorned for it by both Asians and other races.

Of course the initial reaction from Asian guys, when not shock, is “Awesome! High Five!” or “Wow great! A white girl who likes Asian guys! This makes me so happy!” which is a rather sad reaction as it indicates a lack of self-esteem in many successful, good looking Asian men, who believe they are less appealing due to their race.

However, when looking in further into the opinions of Asian men on women of other races favouring them I have found a less than appreciative reaction and in some circumstances I feel I have been personally attacked and accused of ethnic stereotyping and only liking Asian men because they fulfil a part of my so-called obsessions and lifestyle.

Let me first elaborate on my situation. As well as working as a wing girl I am a full time university student, who is devoting three years of her life (and £16,000 GBP approx. ) on a Japanese Language degree at SOAS (School of Oriental and African Studies, University of London) a leading British University specialising in Asian and African studies. I have, therefore, a great interest in Japanese culture, as well as a whole interest in the East Asian region.

I always explain to people that I fell in love with the East when I read a book about China at eight years old. I enjoy Asian cooking, Chinese movies, Japanese dramas, K-POP and J-POP, J-Rock, a select few anime, Japanese literature and language.

Yes, there is no denying it, I have a wide and very strong interest in Asian culture, I make no attempts to deny this fact. However, because I like Asian men, myself (and other girls like me) have been generally accused of only liking Asian men as part of our obsession and are more attracted to a racial stereotype than to real Asian men.

Strangely enough, people who know me will also know that I am obsessed with Vintage Hollywood (Golden Era circ. 1920-50s) does that mean every American guy I might be attracted to fits into that obsession? I find it funny that no one has ever accused me of that.

If I become detailed about what Asian guys I like I dig myself an even deeper grave.

“Which famous Asian guys do you like?” someone asks.

I reply “Oh my favourite is Arashi’s Matsumoto Jun, X Japan’s YOSHIKI and I also love JYJ’s Kim ‘Hero’ Jaejoong too.”

“So only East Asian? Only Korean and Japanese?” they continue.

“No….I only really follow Korean and Japanese celebrities, that’s why I picked those three.”

“Most Asian guys don’t look like those pretty boys, they don’t represent Asian guys!” comes the mocking retort.

“No I know….my ex-boyfriend was Chinese and he never looked like that. And my first (and longest) crush is David Bowie in ‘Labyrinth’, he was very pretty but I don’t think he represents Caucasian men either. I think I just like pretty and very effeminate looking men. Some happen to be Asian too.”

But the accusatory tone is there, and I immediately have to defend myself. If a guy said he liked tall blonde Swedes I wouldn’t immediately ask why Swedes and not Norwegians or Danes. Nor would I accuse any female celebrities of those countries of not being a fair representation of the race.

Celebrity crushes, have always been, the ultimate, the number 10 of ideal looks in the opposite sex – one who dwells on these celebrities live in a dream-like haze of prolonged adolescence.

Perhaps I do like Asian guys who dress a certain way, I like crazy dyed hair and flash clothes, and guys who wear make-up too (I like that on white men too, surprise surprise). I also like men who wear vintage 1930s/40s style clothes, but as that doesn’t fit into my so called stereotype of an Asian male it is ALWAYS ignored.

Women who like Asian men are also accused of racial stereotyping personalities. The most common being; Asians are hardworking.

My ex-boyfriend used to mention this one a lot. “Asians are hard-working? All except me, I’m lazy.” He’d laugh and we both agreed it wasn’t the worst prejudice to have.

It is no worse than meeting any guy and saying “he looks like a nice guy, he dresses well and always says hello to everyone.” But after a few dates turns out to be a bully and a cheat.

Positive discrimination will always be altered on getting to know someone, and unlike with negative discrimination you are more likely to take the opportunity to get to know that person. As a Jewish girl I’m always told that Jews are hardworking and good with money, rather than being offended by it, I laugh and wish it were true for me.

It is even worse for men. White men I know who proclaim to like Asian girls admit this with a lot of wariness, they are often accused of liking so-called subservient, “geisha-girl”, china-doll like girls, and are recommended to get a mail-order Thai bride. Who is the one doing the racial stereotyping here, I’d like to know.

So although, Asian men often praise me and smile when I proclaim to be attracted to them I have come to find that there are underlying accusation and a fear of me simply because I am very interested in Asia, and my celebrity crushes are of representations a certain (perhaps disliked) Asian minority.

Because of this, I have now become less vocal about my affection for Asian men, and I’m sad that I am accused of racial stereotyping of a region I have taken the effort to study and learn about in detail at university.

I am sure some of these accusations are real for certain women and one should be justly wary of anyone who seems a little too keen but please do not direct at every woman who suffers from a strong case of “Yellow Fever” – surely this is just another stereotype too?

Hadassa Noble

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Asdf34 December 14, 2011 at 2:38 pm

hate white girls with those fetishes. btw i am an asian guy that has been dating white women for a long time, so i know these types all too well. that bitch totally deserves to get scorned. fucking wine connoisseurs of asian men. snobs.


H.L. January 7, 2012 at 5:31 am

I don’t know why you’re being so upset but you shouldn’t judge all white girls like that. Maybe some of them just have fetishes but there are girls out there who are interested in Asian men for the right reasons. You would do yourself *and* girls a favor if you stop looking at things from that cynical point of view. And I’m telling you this as an Asian guy.


roger August 12, 2012 at 12:36 pm


Whose Foolin’ whom ? !


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 2:07 am

Roger you ain’t fooling no one with your pathetic vitriolic comments. Anyway, I think Roger is here because deep down he needs all the lessons he can get! But with your ugly attitude the only thing you’d be wedded to is your right hand that wanks on your 1 inch micropenis! Hahahaha!


Asdf34 December 14, 2011 at 2:54 pm

fucking flashing around their asian man preference like we’re their new trendy chanel purse or some shit. stupid fucking cunts.

you wouldnt believe, but they are about the most racist type of white people you will ever meet. “oh i like this because its japanese and its so kawaii, fucking dumbass weaboo cunt. oh i like thai because its becoming trendy these days. oh koreans are better than the dirty chinese cuz my stupid ass worthless south korean bf said so” fuck u stupid annoying cunt, go back to america and never go to asia ever again lol



Hayri2011 December 14, 2011 at 7:49 pm

Wow, someone’s butthurt. What’s wrong, a cute white girl turn you down?


roger August 12, 2012 at 12:50 pm

HE’S RIGHT ! RACIST white women date & marry asian men to ‘put them dow’ ! IT’S CALLED ‘REVERSE’ RACISM !
You don’t see white women doing that to Black, Latino, Indian & Arab men, do you ? ! FIRSTLY, THEY CAN’T EVEN IF THEY WANTED TO, BEC. THESE RACES OF MEN ARE ‘REAL’ MEN ! NOT PRETTY BOYS WHO NEED COACHING !
Now, whose the Racist ? !  


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 2:21 am

Dream on Roger! You are the one who wishes he was a real man. The way you troll this site shows some serious signs of psychological transference at work here, and also a sign you want to get help! Hahahaha! Lol you are funny!


AsianPride April 17, 2016 at 4:12 am

Mate you do realise when you say ‘Asian’ you have just generalised more than 5 billion people in the world. The population of more than halfs the world population. Who looks like an idiot now?
Lastly, I just feel sad that people like you have this hatred and the fact you have received 6 LIKES AND NO DISLIKE! :0


Paulograd December 14, 2011 at 3:04 pm

really cool post, thanks for sharing


Anonymous December 14, 2011 at 3:16 pm

I remember high school time when I said my favorite celebrities were white then every class mate hate me.I was popular before this comment.When I dated white girl in collage, friends also made fun of me.Asian friends keep telling me ” you have bad taste etc.”

Stereo typing is interesting.I can tell how other group of race look at me.Let’s see,bad driver.You must good with Math.You have small nose.You have no body hair.You must be good at drawing pictures.You must be good cook.Sushi boy.You are Asian you need a date coach.You guys are like a robot.

Oh,the last one was I heard a lot.Last one I hear from black guys a lot.They have confidence with ladies.

I know Asian has nerd image in this country.But once you get to know those person,you can break stereo type image.I take advantage of stereo type image like’ ok,you drive for me.’

I know many Jewish people and they are funny though.I love their humor.Maybe this is another stereo type,though.

In dating advice industry so many gurus are from this group.Am I stereo typing?


will the bear December 14, 2011 at 3:36 pm

hadassa, im an asian man, please don’t get ashamed from those people who make you feel that way, whether they are asian people or not, the asians who make you feel that way are sometimes just at a surprise because they don’t see it so often in their normal lives so when they do hear of something like that its always kind of cute, but at the same time they hardly approach white girls, yet also takes some a learning curve combined with persistence. never feel that way and always keep to what you like and speak your mind and opinion don’t let others change your mind about anything. don’t be less vocal about it!


will thebear December 14, 2011 at 3:41 pm

there will always be nay sayers and people who bring you down or haters or negative or insecure people, in every forum, on every topic, across all borders, those are the people to avoid and ignore because they don’t get you anywhere.


Asdf34 December 14, 2011 at 3:47 pm

yeah lets just encourage these white girls to promote more intra-asian racism within our communities. nice job asians.


Asdf34 December 14, 2011 at 3:55 pm

what i notice is that the asian guys who support these racist white women attention whores, are chumps that never even dated a white girl yet. just a bunch of AFC orbiters that are so fobby that they rely on their asianness to get a white girl. hanging around the am/xf online communties, where they mock successful asian guys because they can’t get laid. BECAUSE THEY ARE AFRAID TO MEET REAL WHITE WOMEN


Guest December 14, 2011 at 4:40 pm

That is unfortunate to hear that you had that experience although it’s not unheard of. It’s more common to see the opposite of white men being into asian women. A white guy friend of mine is very vocal about liking asian women although he prefers them to be very quiet and submissive. His younger brother’s previous asian girlfriend was nice but apparently he broke up and went for a different asian girl because the earlier one wasn’t submissive enough.

From my experience, most asian guys are not interested in white women. Those who are, including myself, have a tough time believing white women would be into asian men. It seems from my experience that white women are more likely to say no to my asking them out than an asian girl would.  Some female friends of mine, asian and white, have shared that a lot of the issues go on even among the girls with pressure on white women to not date asian guys, with asian women saying a lot of bad things about us. I am not a girl so I wouldn’t know what goes on in those conversations.  I choose a person based on their personality rather than their appearance though.

Oh well the way I see it. It’s best to go for the person you’re interested in no matter what other people think. If a person meets enough people, I think stereotypes will breakdown as you can see enough differences out there. This coming from a guy living on the westcoast of Canada.


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 10:54 pm

white men are control freaks, soon to dissapear as a pure race, except for europeans


Itssagurllie December 14, 2011 at 5:35 pm

I’ve been dating a non-Asian girl for the past 6 months and I feel like the luckiest guy on earth. However, I always get these quizzical looks from both Asian men and caucasian men, some bordering on anger and hatred. I even had people say hateful and insulting things to us. In the beginning, it really affected me. However, after awhile I stopped worrying about what others said or how they reacted toward us. We all deserve happiness, and I won’t let others dictate what will make me  and my partner happy…


roger August 12, 2012 at 1:08 pm

So your a ‘small’ dick with a white girl ! you guys have oestrogen filled feminine featured looks and small dicks ! that’s why people give you looks, even your own, bec. it’s ABNORMAL, and people are ‘used’ to seeing a man and a woman ! Not, too women until you come close !!!!!!!!!!!!!


Rogers_a_phag August 14, 2012 at 9:38 pm

Roger, you are not a real man. It’s pretty clear you are the one that is ESTROGEN filled. Learn to spell. It makes you appear galactically retarded and discounted if you don’t.

Let me give you a history lesson of what a real man is suppose to be…a real man takes care of their children. Statistically, Asian culture supports this. He takes care of his business. Again, when was the last time you saw an Asian homeless beggar. And he takes care of his woman. Divorce rate in Asian culture between men and women of any race is far less than the Latin/Caucasian and definitely light years beyond Blacks.

What does that tell you, Rog?…that your racist remarks are idiotic and false. Here’s the truth: you hate yourself. And spend more time on this site than any non-Asian I’ve seen trying to spread this moronic theory that women have to be bi or a lesbian to find an Asian male attractive. Look at the repetitive crap you keep cutting/pasting/typing. In that amount of time, you’ve already been rejected repeatedly by Caucasian women. Which is what you really prize. So here’s what’s what…you say you are waiting for a “real strong woman”. Guess what, they don’t want you. Why? Because you’re a closeted homosexual. They smell that. And most likely tag you as such. Want to know the real truth, women know gay before anyone else…that’s why you’ve been discounted.


roger_is_abnormal_homo August 14, 2012 at 9:51 pm

I pretty sure I made a point here Rog-ey boy…I can blow you up anytime I want with the same stupid cut and paste you do. So give it up, man. Or I’ll be back.


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 2:31 am

Only retards and Butthurt faggots don’t think lesbos and bi girls don’t rock!


Sympathetic Observer September 13, 2012 at 11:05 pm

I think you meant to say “only retards and butthurt faggots don’t think lesbos and bi girls rock…”. Just helping you out so your sentences can make more sense. Thanks.


AsianPride April 17, 2016 at 4:00 am

Oestrogen? hormones and testosterone has nothing to do with this. Lol. I have seen plenty of east Asian, south-Asian men who have fully grown beard and are hairy lol. Remember we are all humans; we are same.


Hayri2011 December 14, 2011 at 7:47 pm

We must’ve been separated at birth…almost everything you like/said I like or has happened to me too!  And I LOVED Gareth, I was just too young at the time to realize it! Even down to the schooling, though unfortunately I never finished. >_<


roger August 12, 2012 at 1:11 pm

Uh, you agian the Bi or Near bi woman ! you know why you loved Gareth…bec. you were Bi/ Near Bi. ! many white women are, you’re not alone, that’s why all date asian men, while ‘ONLY’ REAL white women date real masculine men, whether they are white or black or latino, indian or arab !


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 1:54 am

Didn’t you get the memo that bi women are the hottest and the best!? Go ahead and keep your so called real women. They ain’t shit and they boring as fuck!


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 1:56 am

Hell I even doubt Roger has a woman to begin with so keep standing outside looking in and wanking your 1 inch dick!


Mmpaste December 15, 2011 at 9:08 am

I know exactly how this feels! Even my friends tease me about it. One of them is a female korean and she always teases even though SHE ONLY LIKES WHITE MEN. Yet I get teased for only liking asian men? My friends say the reason I like asian men is because im a lesbian and haven’t woken up to it yet, just because asian men are apparently very feminine…. That make me sad. So because I like asian MEN im a lesbian? That doesn’t make sense.
My friends whenever we are at a store and they see an asian guy they are like “OH! Look go talk to him! He’s your type.” They specially do it when they are Koreans. They think I only like Koreans just because most of the asian guys I’ve dated so happened to be Korean. That doesn’t mean I ONLY like koreans….


JJ December 20, 2011 at 11:02 pm

Just telling you, those people who tease you about you being a lesbian….they’re not your friends.


roger August 12, 2012 at 1:18 pm

‘BUT’, they are telling her the Truth ! CAN’T HANDLE THE TRUTH, EH ? ! are you a man or a mouse JJ, like ALL ‘she boy’ asians !


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 2:23 am

I smell psychological transference from Roger here! Hahahaha!


nomad December 22, 2011 at 10:17 am

Asian women teasing because you are dating asian men…typical of asian women.  Nothing new.


roger August 12, 2012 at 1:26 pm


Out of the 6 Major male races of the world (Black, white, latino, indian, arab, sian) , five are naturally masculine ! geuss which race is not ? !
So, not just white women , but black, indian, latino women who have/are/ will like you are Bi or Les !


rogerIsGay August 14, 2012 at 9:41 pm

you aren’t maculine, Roger. Guess right.


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 2:24 am

Absolutely spot on man! Besides the bi and lesbo chicks are actually the best of the best and Roger’s mad he can’t get none! Hahaha!

AsianPride April 17, 2016 at 4:03 am

I know right. Not all but small minority. Remember who has the biggest population. ahaha we do, when people say Asia, I don’t think they realise how big we are and how different: there are south, east, south-east, arab all this falls into Asian category. Remember, within the groups there are lot of varities such as we might be ‘yellow’, white, brown or even black. Yes, I have seen this so yeah.


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 10:52 pm

the south korean slaves, wait till wec rush ur jap/usa master too, bunch slaves on the frontline,,hhahahah a 2-korea is what we need, we can never allow the unification peacefully


roger August 12, 2012 at 1:17 pm

TOO BAD, SO SAD ! NOT just Koreans men, ANY NON Asian woman who is sexually attracted to ‘ALL’ asian males are Lesbians ! Sorry, but it’s true !


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 2:22 am

You just hating the bi and lesbians because these real high quality chicks turned your pathetic ass down! Hahahaha!


AsianPride April 17, 2016 at 4:05 am

Roger mate calm down. We are humans therefore every race has their own beauty. I find all women attractive but my preference lies in south and east Asian women. This doesn’t make me gay because I find white women attractive though.


AsianPride April 17, 2016 at 4:01 am

Asian women like this are racist. how can you not find your own race attractive? in fact, how can you not find any human beings attractive of opposite race? I do, but I just prefer south and east Asian women, that’s all mainly because of cultural differences. Asian woman like her have been white-washed and frankly, I feel sad for her and women like her. :/


ChellG December 16, 2011 at 10:37 am

One would like to think that values attract people. But, no it has to be color of the skin, race or something else. If values attracted people to each other, more Poles will marry Italians and Portuguese and all of them will marry Filipinos. It all comes down to race in America and may be in the UK. When Mark Dacascos married his white Texas wife, all the idiots could say on the blog was that it was a Christian-Filipino wedding and as the Filipino was of a different religion they should not get married. Did not occur to the clowns that Dacascos was a Christian Filipino, same religion as his wife. As the skin color was different his religion had to be different. Pretty sad!


My Kafkaesque Life December 17, 2011 at 10:11 pm

Nothing wrong with your preference. It’s obvious, that interracial dating is still a big problem for many people, my advice to you: Don’t let it get into you. Keep pursuing what makes you happy. 

Greetings from Taiwan.


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 10:49 pm

the taiwanese separatists, u too will be crushed when we crush ur jap/usa master


Aurora85 December 18, 2011 at 2:25 am

I don’t know if I had similar experiences or not, but I think I take Asian interest to a different level; I listen to music that not many people would know;(at least the ones that are shallowly interested in Asian culture,) just for fun and to understand the culture somewhat, I’m reading Dream of Red Chambers and Tale of Genji (English translations.) I’m also Jewish as well, and yes, a girl. I once had a bad experience when I told someone that I’m into Asian men. Years ago, a complete stranger, accused me of being racist because I don’t want to date anyone but Asian. Umm, if the person wanted to be friends with me, I wouldn’t have a problem, but I simply don’t want to date non-Asian men. My Korean friend (a male) once accused me of liking every single Asian guy I saw. (Not really true…) I think due to those experiences, my mind tends to see it as something shameful.  Of course, as you mentioned earlier, when I try to point out the similarity between the preference of a blond man and an Asian man most say its not like that at all. 



AsianPride April 17, 2016 at 4:09 am

See in terms of dating, I would advise you not to express your feeling on dating Asian men only and exclusively. This is because they think you are being racist to yourself. Trust me, I am an Asian man and I feel like this when Asian women do this. Yes it is preference but to not find attractive of other race? that’s absurd. I mean I find all women of all races attractive but I PREFER south and east Asian women and want to marry an Asian woman. This doesn’t mean I am not going to date or find white woman attractive lol. but kudos to you…


Artelement December 25, 2011 at 7:09 pm

You took many of these words right out of my mouth. Thank you for bring up this particular topic.

Yyyeeeaaahhh…. any other guy on here that claims that this article was explaining a “fetish” or “preference” and actually got pissed off at it alone needs to seriously get laid and rinse out your damn eye balls because look at what kind of website you’re on. Fucking morons.

And yes, I have seen all kinds of men who support certain types of women. I’ve seen asian men supporting white women and have never even touched one before, white men who support asian women (and have been accused of being “control freaks”) and have also never touched them before, and ALL men who support metallic silver/gold colored female robots with lesbian attitudes who just happen to be mud wrestling for no apparent reasoning other than pure entertainment. Where does it end? It doesn’t. It won’t. And as far as I am concerned, it never will.Regardless of who this author is physically attracted to or what she’s learning in her life, she brings up an interesting topic. I agree with the detailed behavior she describled from the public a lot. Something about all this is a very sensitive issue indeed… especially to other men of all mixed cultures and values.This issue obviously it wasn’t hinted anywhere to me in my schools and neighborhoods, or else we would have all gotten the picture by now… but seriously… what the hell? Never would I judge a man based on his ancestral background alone. Who cares? As long as he does’t blow up my car or house and/or set my bed on fire then he can do whatever he wants! But no… there are society’s invisible standards that must be forced into your face… or else it’s discrimination for you.I don’t think I’ve noticed this issue as well as my friends have…. that is, until that faithful morning…Ah yes… a cup of hot tea, a book, a small couch to sit on, a soft rainy morning… a beautiful day indeed… But what’s this?… Uh oh.. it’s that man I’ve been seeing around the neighborhood…and he’s sitting against the wall and facing strait at me! GAH! Is my hair brushed? Do I look ok? I’ve never spoken more than a few casual sentences to him before, but I like his presence a lot and even enjoy his behavior well. Very well tempered too, but not a push over. I wonder what kinds of stories he has… What are his activities? His views on education?………and my friend comes over and says to me “What’s that look for?” with a wide smile. Apparently I was in awe at this man, and I looked away from him and said without thinking, “Oh nothing, I just thought that man looked quite handsome today.”… and that was it…… Ever since that day, the harassing has never left me…My family, friends, and close acquaintances all somehow got the words out about me before I even knew what hit me. Ever since then, I’ve been labeled as a “gold digger”, “lazy white woman”, “betrayer”, etc. etc. etc…. and for what? Acknowledging someone’s glowing health and behavior? They’ve seen me do this before, hell, they’ve PUSHED me to do this before for fun!… but when it came to this one particular man, I couldn’t even figure out what appalled them so much until someone brought it up because my “clulessness was annoying them too much”. Wow, great way to start living in the new neighborhood, hu? Sure, many men automatically get a free ticket towards ANY kind of woman… but it’s as if little old me broke the basic rules of attraction and must be punished for this act of defiance against peer pressure and belief.Yes, I am a caucasian woman myself and I find many kinds of different men, especially men of asian decent, to be attractive. In fact, I have been trying to ask this man out for a while, but ever time I get close to the topic he briskly walks away. At first I thought he wasn’t interested, but he keeps trying to open his mouth and say something to me and there’s always am awkward silence between us. If I were to guess, he’s more afraid than any other man I’ve seen when talking to me… but he’s not the type of guy to be afraid of these kinds of things. I found out later (through some accidental eves dropping, shhh ;)…..) that he was afraid to be near me because because of what others would think of seeing “us”……..Others?……Others?!?!?!…….What others?! When has this ever been an issue before???Did I miss something? o_0I’m just telling this story from my dumb-white ass point of view I guess, but I’d give a gold star to any person who could just jump out of the bushes and give me a strait honest answer as to what the HELL is going on with pale-skinned females and asian-decendent males.From what I can gather, is that pale skin is usually referred to “more intelligent, beautiful, luckier” in many parts of ancient asia because people who never tanned were indoors most of their lives and more likely to study rather than working on the farms. More studying=richer, healthier, wiser people. Ok. Fine. I get that. Yeah, it somewhat works….  a few hundred years ago. I mean, seriously? We STILL have to go on about this?There are so many types of people in the world: tall short, delicate, built, dark, cream, brown, golden, pale, etc…. and even though my interests are wide spread, just SAYING out loud. “That man is very handsome” and he happens to be of asian decent will suddenly earn me ‘death-to you!’ glares from my family, close friends, and even silent strangers. Pray for me, I may be in society-jail by tomorrow… At least I do my best to research and LEARN what these kinds of behaviors mean rather than suddenly thrash as many insults at others as I can without any logical or rational meaning behind it. Dumb fucks. 


Anonymous December 26, 2011 at 2:14 am

I felt bad when I date a girl who study Asian study.I felt like I was guinea pig or rat or something.

I do not mind the girls who speak my language but if their interests are some study or something,I do not feel good.I hate to hear “Oh,you are Japanese so you think this way,blah,blah,blah.I used to date those type of girls but I try to avoid those categories of girls.

In general,guys shows interests to same ethnic group of girls.white guys love white women and black guys love black women for first choice.Those appearance comes first impressions but when it comes to real date I do not care about facade,I care content more now.I know if you say preference your choice is limited.I mean,my buddy just look for Asian women but it made him harder to find girlfriend.In the US or English speaking countries,Asian are minority,if you did not open to any kind of race,you will have handy cap.I do not think one specific race is beautiful.Beautiful women are beautiful no matter what color of skin she has.But you are not choosing idol or favorite actress,I seek the girl who match to core value and time value ( means how much you need to put energy).High core value,low time value are ideal one.

She is honest.still Asian male is favorable male among western society in general.If you live in big city or west coast or upper east coast.It does not much affect you finding a girl but I am sure it is harder in mid-west and south.I do not know about situation in the UK.I just know I was super popular among South American women when I was there.


roger August 12, 2012 at 1:34 pm

U.K. women like Real dick, Real men, hairy etc. ! You won’t stand a chance Oestrogen filled feminine featured small dick ! neither the 99.99 of asian males ! On the other hand here are Lesbian british women who’ll love you guys !


roger_blows_goats August 14, 2012 at 9:44 pm

roger likes blowing goats. Guess he’s the 99.99% of goatblowers.


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 2:08 am

Hell yeah Roger Blows Goats! You damn right!


Roger is a Butthurt Faggot! September 11, 2012 at 2:11 am

Many British girls sleep with local guys in the Philippines (more so than other Western nationalities) so I guess that negates your notion that Asia lacks real men! Anyway keep hating on your so-called bi and lesbian girls cause you know they the best and you got no chance in hell to score with one! Suck on those 7 inch nuts of truth you flaccid 1 inch when erect Butthurt faggot!


NeiLoMei January 1, 2012 at 12:08 am

To the author and all those long rants below, do you really care what other people think? Have people even seen how dense most people with opinions are? Just learn to not care and live your life however you bloody wish! Good luck


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roger August 12, 2012 at 1:36 pm

So, what you’re saying is that you like Lesbian/ Bi. women ? ha ha ah haaa !


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 1:57 am

Bi women rock! And REAL men love lesbos too so suck on the 7 inches of truth faggot!


Shahidmiu January 2, 2012 at 11:33 pm

My name is shimul….I am interested in your boy friend ….my skype ID: shimul.ahmed69


Brandon January 16, 2012 at 10:26 pm

This was a confusing article for me. maybe I shouldn’t have drank three beers and a small thingy of sake as I read it.

As for her taste in asian boys (not men because she describes boys…effeminate ones at that), good for her. I am glad she likes what she likes and doesn’t let others dictate what she likes.

I don’t know if writing about it is a good thing because it makes You look defensive. But what the heck, be with who you want to be with. And your asian studies coupled with your attraction to asian men makes you look like you have yellow fever. My girlfriend is swedish and I have never cracked open a book about sweden. Heck, for the longest time, I thought she was talking about switzerland. Didn’t even know the difference. I was interested because I like chocolate and watches. No kidding!

Asian men (not boys) dating white women is the biggest no big deal I can think of. I have no idea. Zero. What the hoopla is all about? He is a guy. She is a girl. They are attracted to each other and like each other? What is the big deal? I just don’t get it.

Btw Hadassa, I know you wouldn’t like me at all. I am 6’2″, broad shouldered with a big chest asian guy who has modeled and far being from effeminate.


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 10:47 pm

fukken bannana, efffeminate is a western sterotype, asians in general do thinhs smoother in large groups, so they hate on us. fukken loser


roger August 12, 2012 at 1:37 pm

NOT with Lesbians ! You guys are # 1 with these abnormal chicks !


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 2:26 am

Abnormal? Nah! They, together with their bi counterparts, are actually the best! 😛


AsianPride April 17, 2016 at 4:15 am

Roger mate, just stop- its getting sadder while reading all your comments.


AsianPride April 17, 2016 at 4:15 am

YES MY ASIAN BROTHER! ahah tbh, I don’t get this stereotypes. I have seen plenty of East and South Asian men like the way you have described yourself…like wtf?


Guest January 20, 2012 at 3:16 pm

It’s funny how different the scene is in Asia, where Asian men rule supreme. Much of the issues described here are self-inflicted and fabricated in this country out of decades of pure ignorance. Some of the most laughable attributes of Asian men include how faithful and family oriented they are. Asian women have been dealing with the exact opposite problem in Asia for ages.

I’ll leave you guys with this super hot video. Watch it til the end, and you won’t be disappointed:



classicwinters January 21, 2012 at 9:06 pm

Good job in your career goals and love life. It’s really hard working a job and studying at the same so I hope learning Japanese will lead to a great future career and personal life.

When I was younger(17-19) wanted to be that type of guy,”East Hollywood Asian,” so I worked out a lot, learned to dance, tried to sing, tried to learn korean, japanese, grew out my hair a bit etc. fun times.But its great you love the 50s era. I think the clothing style during that period was spectacular (especially for ladies). Anyway good luck on in ur endeavors. 


IamMe January 26, 2012 at 8:20 am

Wow, I really can’t tell if shes into asians..and I thought I was good at reading faces lol

Just wanted to say this: Who gives a rats arse about people and their different opinions? We all talk about what we love and this and that,  and there are always gonna be haters out there.

A good friend of mine once said: “behind every successful man are a pack of haters”.
Which is totally true. (Trust me, there are Plenty of haters in the automotive culture, you get used to it soon) I’ve actually done a little research about this and it was to my surprise, had to do with brain chemistry. LOL I know right? weird -.-;

Anyways, I found that some people lack some chemicals in the brain which makes them less compassionate and lack understanding other people. Apparantly its something like acute psychosis/depression or something like that, which they say a lot of people have due to some rough childhood or whatever.

Some people just want to harm others and be mean to others, some people don’t actually mean it but they say offensive things due to their insecurities etc.

Just categorise those harmful people as: ‘Not normal’ or insane. Or just ‘those stupid haters’ as I would like to put them as.

I’ve actually learnt to look past them now and somehow not even notice them in my brain lol

Hope this helps but if it doesn’t then oh fucking well..lol


Jessebrenele February 5, 2012 at 2:23 am


She is trying to point out that she’s ashamed of speaking out how she likes Asian men

There’s nothing wrong, I see nothing wrong with that – coming from an undeserved minority in the western world

Nowadays I think it wouldn’t be strikingly odd for a white female in all the white country up in the white European country land to say that she digs dark tall bald African men – why? Because they are almost as familiar within media

Now. I think when diversity creeps in a little more and a sparkle within the western media and culture (there isn’t even a number of pro Asian futballers compared to non-whites, basically African American, or native brown without mestizo blood) But hopefully there will be and I know it will

In all cases it is really really hard being a minority in the middle of it all but I guess you can put it this way. Being Asian male, can have it’s ups too: you don’t have to worry about anything but yourself but please do enjoy life and people are people, I’ve been put down because of my race and because I am a minority, I envy black men who look funny and gifted to be born almost with 80% genetic of physique attribute, why am I envious? Because they are a minority too but they are definitely not white as white people have almost been 98% western media, that is why people will always see them as a plus

Get it now? I think I just solved it myself. It’s just diversification and we are people. For God I love white women and I would treat them as angels if one ever catches my heart, the pretty colored eyed ones and I think the author shouldn’t be ashamed of saying it out loud

Become an activist and spread it – Like I said, after all we are all people! On my side, I’ve yet to solve my own things. Being Asian male eh? I want to see how different it really is



Brandon February 7, 2012 at 1:30 am


Wow! Talk about stereotyping asians in a negative light. 

Asians are an undeserved minority? From who’s opinion? I am so tired of insecure asians making sad pathetic statements that is as far from the truth as possible about their loser existence.

Asians in the United States make up about 5% of the population. Some idiot actually was complaining that asians were under represented in executive positions of Fortune 500 corps at only 15%. Umm, that is a 300% over representation of the asian population. 

Ever go to a elite status university? Yeah, full of asians. 

What is the asian stereotype? Intelligence and motivation. That is a negative stereotype?
F the Jet Li/Bruce Lee kung fu dude. No one has ever asked me if I know Kung Fu. In fact, when I tell people that I am going to train as a MMA (mixed martial artist) , I get more laughs as I am as far from being any kind of kung fu dude.

How feeble and weak of a person one must be to take cues from media’s representation of asians. Really? Asians, especially asian males, have a hard time dating women because of negative asian images presented in the media? Again, another excuse.

Women are naturally attracted to me. If one is taking race into consideration, I have been with more ‘white’ women than asians. 

So, it puzzles me why You would treat a woman like an angel because she is ‘white’? Does that even make sense? That sounds almost like asian loathing. You mean you would treat an asian woman like dirt but if the woman is ‘white’, you will worship her? All I can say to that is Wow. That is messed up.

I won’t even get into your observations about blacks. That is extremely twisted as well.


Jums69 February 7, 2012 at 10:26 am

jt tran is just an insecure nerd!
he’s making us asians look bad because theres a whole community of us where he can’t fit in!
i’ve never even thought for one second in my life that being asian is some sort of a curse let alone anything negative!
theres a new saying that goes around that goes like: “difficulty level: Asian”.
asians are being more and more considered awesome.
take some music vids for instance: black eyed peas’ vids got some jap and korean characters, they sing about harajuku girls blah blah all the time.
tokyo is the fashion capital of the southern hemisphere!! everyone knows that and what, being asian is something to be thought about as bad??

this fools got everyone tricked on this website!

instead of attacking the mind of the weak by pretending to be on their side to get their attention, he should promote that being asian IS COOL!!!

seriously, you can’t argue with the depth of the asian history when thinkin’ who’s been around for how long when comparing with any european/american/african history.

not one race is better than the other.

anyways, this jt guy’s got some deep psychological issue with his childhood.


Anonymous February 13, 2012 at 6:10 pm

Well I think he helps them break through cultural boundaries to become a bad ass as finding love on there own.
But promoting Asians as “being cool” would be the same as saying being white is cool and implies that there is a possibility to be thought of as better than a certain race or person.
Nobody  wants their kids to be like “I wish I was Asian” just like no one wants their kids to say “I wish I was white” saying they are cool is an underhanded way of implying that they are better.
AND as of them becoming more popular,it is slightly true.
But what are the becoming popular for? exactly. The stereotypes that are presented to people TROUGH the media
I have a keen interest in Korean culture since I was young but doe that mean I expect all Korean men to be EXACTLY like their culture implies they are? No.
Not every Asian is what the public thinks they are.Just because they are Japanese doesn’t mean they dress nice or like anime.
Just because a guy is Korean doesn’t mean he eats dog or looks like the guys from SHINee.
and just because they are from Singapore or Vietnam or Malaysia does NOT mean they are poor or ugly ( I have no idea what idiot thought this stereotype up but,sadly, I see it frequently)
I think JT is just trying to help them look past the expectations Asian men seem to think they have in America and help other people see past the stereotypes Americans put on Asians as well.
I for one have learned from this site a lot. I used to think no Asian guy would like me either because I’m not super skinny or short and I don’t dress up most of the time and I’m pretty stubborn,I thought that since that was what everyone else said Asian men were into (dainty, stick skinny,dressy,obedient women) that an Asian guy would never go for me,and because MY insecurities, caused by believing in such stereotypes,I missed out on a lot of opportunities to be with some really cool guys because of my fear of not fitting that ideal. I know now that its not true and that Asian men DO like women with a nice chest and butt and tall frame and not are all only interested in small dainty women 🙂 
This is one of the sites that made me realize that,in any case, think what he does is amazing.

I don’t think he is fooling anyone 🙂
Just like Miss Heather,Miss Sarah and Miss Brooks’

they are Just helping Asian and other men of different races get started in the right direction <3
                                                                                                   ~ Katlyn


roger August 12, 2012 at 2:01 pm

But, UNFORTUNATELY Katlyn, you have to be either Les. or Bisexual to be attracted to the ‘ONLY’ male race of the six major races, that are Oestrogen filled, feminine featured men with small dicks !

what you said about being cool is correct, trying to be better, But ONLY Les. or Bi non Asian women HAVE/ ARE/ WILL Look at these Oestrogen freaks with small dicks !


Rogers_a_Phag August 14, 2012 at 9:37 pm

Roger, you are not a real man. It’s pretty clear you are the one that is ESTROGEN filled. Learn to spell. It makes you appear galactically retarded and discounted if you don’t.

Let me give you a history lesson of what a real man is suppose to be…a real man takes care of their children. Statistically, Asian culture supports this. He takes care of his business. Again, when was the last time you saw an Asian homeless beggar. And he takes care of his woman. Divorce rate in Asian culture between men and women of any race is far less than the Latin/Caucasian and definitely light years beyond Blacks.

What does that tell you, Rog?…that your racist remarks are idiotic and false. Here’s the truth: you hate yourself. And spend more time on this site than any non-Asian I’ve seen trying to spread this moronic theory that women have to be bi or a lesbian to find an Asian male attractive. Look at the repetitive crap you keep cutting/pasting/typing. In that amount of time, you’ve already been rejected repeatedly by Caucasian women. Which is what you really prize. So here’s what’s what…you say you are waiting for a “real strong woman”. Guess what, they don’t want you. Why? Because you’re a closeted homosexual. They smell that. And most likely tag you as such. Want to know the real truth, women know gay before anyone else…that’s why you’ve been discounted. That’s a fact.


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 2:27 am

Dude you forgot to mention that lesbo and bi women rock!

C.A.T February 21, 2012 at 3:30 pm

I don’t think JT Tran is a “insecure nerd” but maybe he is missing a few pints like this author and this site. I feel the underline motivation of this site is to recruit white women into understanding the Asian male seen as a suitable partner. This is no different from other interracial sites regardless if its AM/XF WM/XF BF/XM WF/XM.

The problem with most of these sites is the generalization of minorities, an unwilling to open discuss racial identity issues (without being heated) and commentary that doesn’t turn into superficial need to be ‘desire’, ‘validaited’ and understood by the opposite race and gender.

I have research among both AM/WF and AM/BF communities and distinguish both similarities and the indifference.

AM/WF blogs focus more on the ability to find someone, hook up and pretty much be happy. But its not always like that and when more serious issue began to sprout things get lost in superficiality of wanting to be loved verse respected or understood.The only issue with racial identity of the Asian male and his position in western culture is often times generalized. This may piss off many Asian men and believe these white women suffer ‘fetish’ not a true cultural understanding of who they are as an individual person. Just because you study Asian culture doesn’t mean you understand it. When I read blog entrees of white women explaining why they date men outside their race. Struggle to incorporate their racial identifies because unfortunately white do not have one without it being ripe with negativity. Hint: WHITE GUILT You shouldn’t feel this way. Embrace what has happen in the past and learn to move on. Once you have over come that you’ll be able to date without the guilt. I do feel many AM/WF site fail to accomplish that and it also shows in the Asian men. Who seem borderline desperate to seek out approval from a white female affection vice versa. This is quite pathetic.

AM/BF that is an interesting spectrum of different cultural ideas being shared without guilt. BUT there is to much heated debate about racial identifies among the two. Some Asian  men have much in common of the social stigma of being a minority, in western society and being gravely misunderstood in the media. This breathes in racial entitlement when it isn’t utilized properly. Thus not making a romantic connection but very political. Black women feel the pressure and need to assimilate into western ideal of beauty and success. Do I dare say it be a “super nigger’ to derail stereotypes of auntie, whore welfare mother with X-amount of fatherless children. While Asian men are pressure to be ‘super chinks’ to make a social,political and economic importance that is equal to whites to specified white men. IT’S A PAIN TO BE A MINORITY. Both need to not to push this as an excuse to hook up nor be the only thing in common. Its nice that AM/BF forums  and the openness to race, political issue and other things are discuss but don’t push it to obscurity.

I think what the author was to wrap up in justifying her linking for Asian men and often miss building a deeper thought. Its not matter of defining whether or not you feel wrong or right about your choice. Its matter are you capable of seeing beyond that Asian males race identity and building a relationship base on emotional,political and spiritual connection and not just straight admiration or fight. 

This is a problem for ALL interracial daters (regardless of the combo) but also for those who don’t. We live in a society were ‘getting what we want out of people’ is becoming more acceptable. Making lousy assumption than throwing in the “she or he change’ to give excuse to our own shallow stupidity. Just like you’re an individual in society also in a relationship. You should be finding a person who  brings out best not just the admiration. 

I like Asian men and I’mma Puerto Rican, black, white mix. I like a man who has self respect not just within his race but also in his whole being. I feel self respect is always the key to finding happiness in relationship but also in life. I could careless for social need to explain myself. I spent 24 and half years explaining myself, race etc.. to people. I’m through with it and ready to move on. I want Asian men, black and white women to feel same. MOVE ON find the right man and women to build you and not define or justify your existence in society.

cattestman87@gmail:disqus .com


Lindsay February 21, 2012 at 5:48 pm

I’m glad I read this. My friends constantly make me feel like I’m strange for liking Asian guys. In fact not too long ago I went to a bar my friend works at and she introduced me to her friend and says, “So-and-So this is my friend Lindsay, she only dates Asians.”. Really? What kind of introduction is that in the first place? I know she was just trying to be funny or “break the ice” but I could have done that myself. I’m not necessarily embarrassed about liking Asian men but she made me feel like it was stupid/weird. Whatever, if she wants to hate I’m just going to assume she’s too chickenshit to date outside her race.


Deltajava February 25, 2012 at 5:57 am

Besides negative portrayals in media, that’s another key reason for lack of AMWF couples compared to others. White women are discouraging other white women from dating a particular type i.e. asians – you’d expect this from white men, not of the same gender. Reverse this for a moment – asian women discouraging asian women from dating white men – it never happens! That’s a key difference, our social circles are resisting people from going off with who they want.


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 2:01 am

I think the day an a-list white female Hollywood actress would shack up openly with an Asian man is nearer than we think! May Roger and the haterz live long enough to see that day while we laugh at their pathetic small mindedness… Welcome to the Asian Century so get used to it! Your hater tribe is going nowhere but down to extinction from hereon out!


roger August 12, 2012 at 2:04 pm

that intro. by your friend was an INDIRECT way of saying that your either Les. or Bi. ! she did the right thing ! Do you know why Linsay, bec. of ALL the six major male races in the wolrd, ONLY asian males have lots of Oestrogen packed feminine features, and overwhelmingly small dicks !
So, since that’s the kind of men you are into, she’s indirectly telling the guys ‘ small dick lover’ ! YOU CAN’T HELP IT, LIKE BEING BORN GAY !


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 1:59 am

Bi women are the best yo!


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 1:58 am

Ditch that friend of yours Lindsay! She ain’t worth shit with that small minded mess of hers!


Anonymous February 24, 2012 at 5:55 am

I enjoyed reading this article as it touches upon a few issues concerned with dating Asian men. I can readily agree with you on the prevailing attitudes and reactions of Asian men when women shows interest in them on their culture. AM tend to overreact to these situations in a cynical manner or brush it off in a frivolious manner without any justification. Perhaps it is a defense mechanism or insecurities due to past indignities. It is however hard to keep justifying the “Asian men are screwed over” mentality in the present time. National media in the West are now showing Asian men, in what I percieve, a more fair and dynamic portrayal. Shows like The Walking Dead, Lost, Hawaii Five-O, have shown male Asian characters in a more positive light. More people than ever are growing up watching Korean dramas, J-Pop, and anime as a form of entainment and are appreciating that cultural aspect. So if woman start to find Asian men more attractive due to a better understanding, then let it be.
When a white woman or any woman shows interest and puts in the effort to learn about Asian culture I can only see that as good thing. To try to switch this around and portray it as a fetish is quite insulting. AM need to wake up a stop criticizing everything.


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 2:29 am

And don’t forget the day when an a-list white female Hollywood actress dating an Asian is nearer than we think it is! Boy I can’t wait to see the look of disgust on the faggot haters faces!


Mango Lee February 27, 2012 at 4:30 pm

Girl, you are going to feel ashamed of liking Asian Men.  Let me tell you by experience why.  Some people are certainly jealous of others in certain ways.
If you were  rich, do you think people aren’t going to get jealousy?
Look at it this way.  I know why you like Asian Men/guys, I just can’t blame you and I really can tell you much more if I knew you why the best couple is Asian Men White Women.  People are going to disagree with me.  You have something in you, please don’t let someone else burn it away.


roger August 12, 2012 at 2:11 pm

Leave the Real(HETEROSEXUAL), but few and far between white women to real white men, and real men of other races !


roger_sucks_cock August 14, 2012 at 9:42 pm

you don’t have a penis roger. Must suck.


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 2:12 am

Or if he did, only 1 pathetic inch when erect! Hahahaha, keep wanking Roger cuz that’s the closest you’ll ever get to a girl!


Please don't February 27, 2012 at 9:41 pm

Miss Noble, Please stop writing.  it is not helping asian men and it promotes the wrong view to women everywhere.  The articles is more about how your feelings was hurt and less about the topic which the title suggests. Your delicate feelings are one of your traits and I can’t fault you for having sensitive feelings. However, your analysis and reasoning need lots of work. The topic is not about you or your feelings. I wish you will stop working as a wing woman because you lack basic understanding of asian mind sets.  Mentioning Asian celebrities are okay. The feedback you’re getting is not a backlash of your interest.  it’s as if saying you like cowboys and mentioning John Wayne. Real cowboys hate that but will force half-a-smile to be polite.  It’s like asian girls saying they like James Bond.  James Bond isn’t real, so it sounds pretty lame.
Please stop writing. you are not ready to do so.


Kaitlyn Gulick February 29, 2012 at 4:08 pm

It’s not the same as saying that at all because she mentioned it to prove her point that she likes them not because of her hobby but for who they are.


007 April 4, 2012 at 4:51 pm

How is that lame? James Bond is awesome, of course an Asian girl might say she likes him. That does NOT in any way mean that she thinks all Caucasian guys are like James Bond.

Of course girls like the author are attracted to Matsumoto Jun or TOP. This should not shock anyone, it’s pretty much their job to be attractive and they’re very famous. The point is, just because she’s attracted to those celebrities, does NOT mean she thinks that all Asians are like that, nor does it mean that she’s ONLY attracted to ones that look like that.


roger August 12, 2012 at 2:13 pm

WHY ? SHE’S EXPOSING YOU ‘SMALL DICLS’ ! your race will ALWAYS BE IMASCULATE ! Only Les. & Bi. non asian women will like you guys !


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 2:02 am

You just hating on the bi girls cuz you know they are the shit and you can’t get with them!


robs January 6, 2016 at 4:52 pm

say that to a Gurkha. he will fuck you up.


Just one of those things March 6, 2012 at 3:41 am

This article was a great read, most probably since I relate to it a lot.
I live in South Africa and around here interracial relationships are often frowned upon by the older generation people, for example older family members. This being said, even just saying that you find someone attractive from another race is looked down on. 
These days I brush the comments of since I feel that people fail to notice when I like a white guy, but when I mention an attractive Asian guy, the mocking starts.
And yes I like Anime as KPop AND Jpop. But I also like Spanish music and French Films! I didn’t start liking Asian culture because it was some kind of trend or because of a hot guy. I find it fascinating, just as I find African cultures in my own country interesting.  When did having our own preferences or tastes become such a big problem?
 My point is that people will see what they want to see. It’s easier to judge someone based on ignorant perceptions than it is to see a bigger picture.


roger August 12, 2012 at 2:16 pm

bec. when your with a white guy, people think you’re straight, but with an asian guy, people read you as either Les. or Bi. ! which is the truth, bec. ‘IF’ you were not with Oestrogen filled feminine featured small dicks, YOU WOULD BE STRAIGHT !


roger_is_gay August 14, 2012 at 9:42 pm

You’re gay Roger. Guess you like big cocks.


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 2:16 am

Yup Roger is a faggot! Run along now Roger, Big Bubba is waiting for you in jail! Hahahaha! Have fun there man! While we take all the high quality bi and lesbo chicks to ourselves!


ynot? March 12, 2012 at 9:57 pm

I think it’s the media’s fault that many women especially white women do not find asian guys attractive. When is the last time you saw an Asian male starring in a Hollywood movie as an archetypal hero, and not some funny/comedic or martial arts guy? To make matters even worse, Asian men got this negative sterotype of having small genitals. Now this makes alot of asian men’s self-esteem fall apart, because a man’s penis is perhaps one of the biggest things he cares about… I mean NEVER EVER make fun of a man’s penis. It defines a man’s pride to be a man, and most importantly, confidence. The media put Asian men under this shadow to make them feel like sh*t, AND at the same time make Asian men the least preferred type of men in the heads of average American girls. The small asian dude Mr.Chow from the Hangover movie is a perfect example of how the North American media portrays Asian men.


Kanata17th May 31, 2012 at 10:40 pm

we must support the muslims in the holy war on the jews, make thier mothers eat thier fore-skins


Louise July 17, 2012 at 9:37 am

Funny you mention ‘The Hangover’ movie because in ‘The Hangover 2’ there was an Asian actor (I think Thai) who played the brother of the bride and, oh my goodness, was he handsome!! (I’m a white girl)

I agree there are not many Asians well portrayed in the media but maybe that’s changing now, little by little. I would be very happy to see more hot Asians guys in movies, haha! :o)


roger August 12, 2012 at 2:18 pm



Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 2:18 am

Bi and les girls rock and they are far more abundant than you’re afraid to admit! Probably you won’t because they all turned you down as they can see through your bullshit! Hahahaha!


robs January 6, 2016 at 4:51 pm



AsianPride April 17, 2016 at 4:07 am

You are so right but have a look at a guy called ‘Sessue hayakawa’. Remember we have not been portrayed fairly.
I just feel sorry for self-hating Asian women ahahaha. I am a proud Asian man and I cannot understand what they have to these women. White-washed I guess. Each Asian parents have the responsibility but they are failing this especially the ones who have migrated to another country a long time ago…


Comix_c April 9, 2012 at 6:08 am

I live in London. I’m Korean and Im only attracted to non Asian girls and all my Korean friends give me the same reaction : WTF?
I dunno it’s just my personal preference.
Now u mention Soas tho I used to go to Soas s.u. a lot cause my a lot of my closest mates went there but a lot f the girls there seems to be interested n Asians


roger August 12, 2012 at 2:22 pm

London, England ? there aren’t too many asians, and Enlglish women unlike their N. American counterparts love real men, masculine, hairy, good sized to big penises ! DON’T LIE ABOUT ENGLISH GIRLS BEC. I NO ASIAN MEN A RE A NO NO THERE, UNLESS YOU’RE ARE TALKING OF LES. OR BI WOMEN ! MOST ENGLISH WOMEN GO FOR BLACK GUYS, THEN WHITE, INDIAN AND ARAB (NOW LESS BEC. OF THE MID E. CRISESE)

asian men in England, don’t fool yourself ‘small dick’ !
and Koreans men = Les. women !


J.t. Tran August 12, 2012 at 2:28 pm

And yet somehow we be landing the UK models. Balling in London – https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.430158656804.229280.120144066804&type=3

Considering the search term that you landed you here on our lovely magazine “White woman with young Asian man” I can only assume that you’re anger-spamming because your wifey got swooped by an AM and feeling cuckolded and ashamed. Sorry buddy, but we’re here to take all your women. And we’re doing it because we *can*.


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 2:04 am

In my part of Asia (the Philippines), I can tell you with great authority that the group of white women hooking up with the local guys the most are the Brits so suck on that faggot! Hell I even know some who have!


robs January 6, 2016 at 4:51 pm

someone is hurt lol..there are plenty of Asians in England. lol.
why such hatred roger? smh…unbelievable.
we are taking the world anyway.


robs January 6, 2016 at 4:50 pm

dude wtf!?
every race of girls are attractive.


AsianPride April 17, 2016 at 4:14 am

Asian brother, don’t say this. of course we find other women attractive. we are all humans aren’t we? for instance, as an Asian dude I find all women of all races attractive but I PREFER my south and Asian women…
every race has their own beauty, just don’t be racist in saying you don’t find Asian women attractive because I know you are lying. I have seen plenty of Asian man with white women and vice versa. we don’t need to prove anything. Our history and civilisation is there to speak…


Heartlovelight June 21, 2012 at 6:06 am

I am more Asian-American than African-American, and I like Asian guys best. (I love Jaejoong too^^). I can’t seem to get really attracted to white or hispanic people. Sometimes, its just because of looks, and other times, its just because of feeling. For example, I liked this one hispanic guy for three years, until I realized that I only liked him because he looked Asian. And at that time, I didn’t even know that I preferred Asian men. I was, like, eight. He also absolutely hated guys acting cute, so now I hate him. Hehe… But anyway….. I guess people just like different things. I like guys with a cute smile and an addicting laugh.


robs January 6, 2016 at 4:49 pm

I am flattered. 🙂


Richard June 27, 2012 at 5:15 pm

The questions or “funny looks” probably has nothing to do with the fact that you said a particular race: in your case, Asian. If you had said black or brown, you would have gotten the same responses.

“Tall blondes” from Scandinavia is considered a type. If you offered a guy a tall blonde from Australia, they wouldn’t say “No” either. I doubt, they would say, “Sorry, hot Australian, I only date Scandinavians.”

Same with females preference of Latino men: their dark features. If you offered them a dark featured guy from Holland, they probably wouldn’t say “No” either.

Subtle differences.


Sana Souratha July 1, 2012 at 6:01 am

It’s just your environment girl. Your region is way different from mine.
I live in California and I’m a Lao boy. The majority of people who live here are Mexian, and because of media, they are way into black and white people.
I get picked on for being skinny and asian and having glasses, and yet I am somehow very social and fairly handsome and I have an extremely nerdy side. My fairly ghetto environment and logic have adapted my personality to become a favorable/cool person.
Nowadays I am able to date any type of girl of any race. Even if they are not attracted to me at first, they eventually find my personality.


robs January 6, 2016 at 4:49 pm

get out there dude cmon!


Leotrize August 7, 2012 at 5:32 pm

This summer I started becoming interested in Korean culture because I got into watching Korean movies which led to liking Korean dramas and then to Korean pop music. For a while I tried to hide the fact that I liked Korean films because I knew people would judge me. Eventually, I gave up on trying to hide it because I craved Korean plots that were different from tired out Western plots and didn’t half as much sex. To this day, I’m still resistant to learn anything about anime and manga because of the assumptions that go along with it. Where I live, girls who are into a lot of Japanese stuff are kind of weird white girls with an obsession so big they hardly talk about anything else. Whereas most of the people I know who like Korean stuff happen to be Asian and became exposed to it from a mutual Korean friend and are more like me in that they enjoy it but don’t go over board. And as much as I’m may be going through Asian guy phase, its not like I’d say they’re my type. Before Asian guys, I payed more attention to Indian/Middle Eastern guys… I don’t think there’s a particular race I’m attracted to… I like guys who wouldn’t wear make up but care about how they dress in order to look nice (not sagging their jeans) but maybe wearing a polo. I don’t want a guy who puts more effort into fashion and looking unique than I do. I like guys with strong jaws who are masculine and I don’t want to date guys who are, in my opinion, too thin. I like guys with broad backs and chests rather than someone who is lean and muscular. I feel like the stereotypical girl who’s attracted to Asian guys looks for the opposite of all that yet I know plenty of Asian guys who fit that description and plenty of other guys of other races that fit that as well. 


robs January 6, 2016 at 4:48 pm

Be above the hate and media indoctrination.
I am sure there is someone out there for you….
and you are right, you cannot generalise


B-Man August 11, 2012 at 10:40 pm

You’d be getting even more scorned if you admitted you like Black Men.


robs January 6, 2016 at 4:48 pm

ain’t this a sad world!?


roger August 12, 2012 at 12:33 pm

The Reason is, unlike thee other 5 male racses, Asian males have Oestrogen filled, Feminine features and small penises ! No one likes to see a man with a woman but the man ‘Also’ looking like a woman, and to add insult to injury, with small penises !


J.t. Tran August 12, 2012 at 2:35 pm

And yet somehow we be landing the UK models. Pictures of us Asian men balling in London including one international glamour model (see if you can find her 😉 – https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.430158656804.229280.120144066804&type=3

Considering the search term that you landed you here on our lovely magazine “White woman with young Asian man” I can only assume that you’re anger-spamming because your wifey got swooped by an AM and feeling cuckolded and ashamed. Sorry buddy, but we’re here to take all your women. And we’re doing it because we *can*.


roger August 12, 2012 at 7:54 pm

with what ? your 3 FULL inches ? ha ha haaa !


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 1:50 am

Roger only got a 1 inch micropenis. No wonder he lost his girl to an Asian! Anyone with a brain will recognise this to be true so suck on the 7 inch nuts I got faggot!


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 1:51 am

Besides only a faggot guy will obsess over cock size! How else would he know about the “3 inch Asian cock”? Hahahaha!


Kieran Tsao October 24, 2012 at 1:34 pm

Roger, you seem to assume we have 3 FULL inches. How do you know so much intimate detail about the men you ridicule?


robs January 6, 2016 at 4:47 pm

lol good question my Asian brother.

Ken October 14, 2013 at 6:55 am

For the record most Asian American gays are packing closer to 6 inches per a recent study. This guy roger must be a little peeved and bitter all black men are stealing and balls deep in his girlfriends. Latent anger methinks?


robs January 6, 2016 at 4:47 pm

hear! hear!

roger August 12, 2012 at 7:58 pm

these are ‘your ‘own boot camps you small dick, how come not real women ! Your small dick race is the only one that has to train asian guys to be men ! YOU & YOUR OESTROGEN FILLED, FEMININE FEATURED SMALL DICKS ARE ‘PATHETIC’ !

Were/ Are/ Will be !


J.t. Tran August 12, 2012 at 8:06 pm

Oh, now you’re just being SILLY. The pickup and dating bootcamps not to mention all the TV shows were pioneered by Caucasians.
And lest we forget, African American Will Smith was the dating coach “Hitch.”

Listen man, I’m sorry you had to find out that your girl was cheating on you with a more virile Asian man and in your Googling you came across this site. Put your mind and energy into something more constructive and this too shall pass.


roger August 13, 2012 at 7:43 am

It’s called M.P.H.O.T. ! Monkey Praising His Own Tail ! when others don’t flatter you, you pathetic asians have to flatter yourself, by “PAYING” white women to have sex with you !
The most inferior of ‘any’ grp. will try anything to look better ! BUT OUTSIDERS CAN SEE RIGHT THRU’ YOU !

Bye, ‘NATURALLY’ Pathetic race of asian she boys !!!!!!!!

roger August 12, 2012 at 8:07 pm


I was so amused I kept on watching !
and you personally, even some of your small dick asians have called you Pathetic   


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 3:10 am

Actually, your the even more hopeless case – with your 1 inch micropenis and an ego the size of Jupiter! Keep fappin cuz that’s the only ejaculation your gonna do for your whole life! Hahahahaha!


roger August 13, 2012 at 8:19 am

CUCKOLDING ? ! now that’s a laugh tj ! to do that a man has to have a ‘real’ cock, not 3 inches like 99.99 % of you asian she boys have ! YOU’LL JUST HAVE TO CUCKOLD CHICKENS IN THIS LIFE !

next time around ‘copy’ a black man’s BIG dick (LIKE YOUR RACE IS FAMOUS FOR COPYING AND PRODUCING ANYTHING), paint it yellow and stick it between your legs ! then atleast you’ll feel like your cuckolding a white woman, only thing she’ll be screaming out Tyronne, not chang or ching or something ! 


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 3:09 am

Lol coming from a guy with a 1 inch when erect micropenis! If you need a small dick, just go look in your mirror, hahahaha! Talk about irony!


tina March 26, 2014 at 9:44 pm

sorry but you and your buddies are typically ugly chinks. many english white women will spread their legs for other low scummy races of cretins. unlike chinese women. thats london for you. oh and the women in your pics are nothing to brag home about. get over yourself.


Bluetooth March 26, 2014 at 11:25 pm

one has to ask why a white man is posing as “tina” on here…


robs January 6, 2016 at 4:46 pm

Come off loser!…


robs January 6, 2016 at 4:46 pm

well, us Asian men are handsome..lol east or south 😉


Johnny August 24, 2012 at 8:55 am

Really? No way, I’m an asian guy and i find you crazy attractive


Christian September 10, 2012 at 7:41 am

I like otherwise and I don’t know what makes me attracted to white women…but sadly I can’t get one…


Go Hadassa! September 11, 2012 at 2:33 am

Ignore the haters Hadassa Noble! Go out loud and proud! If they can’t accept it, ditch them for they are obviously not your real friends!


momo September 25, 2012 at 9:35 am

This is going to go slightly off topic….

Asians stereotype and discriminate amongst themselves more so than anybody else. Growing up amongst Asians in highschool, they all wanted a “Jap girlfriend/boyfriend” or these days, a Korean one. They wanted to look more Japanese, picked Japanese names for themselves, taught themselves bits and pieces of a particular language. Actively sought the company of that particular race. Being of Chinese background, I desperately wanted to be one of those “elite” Asian races. I was made to feel ashamed of my natural heritage. I do believe that people can appreciate a person for who they are, rather than just like them for a racial stereotype, but at the same time, I’ve met so many “positive racists” (a friend whose dream was to marry a Japanese man – only Japanese, and even if she saw a hot guy, and found out he wasn’t Japanese, would immediately lose interest).

Change has to start with Asians themselves – I have never known more discrimination or preferential racism than being amongst other Asians (Taiwanese people who grimace in disgust for being mistaken as Chinese, despite their living grandparents having migrated from China, preferring to dress as Japanese, learn Japanese, speak Japanese and mimic the culture). Racism is more of a problem than people will care to admit. It is frightening and sad. Once Asians process this internal racism, they then project that insecurity back out there and find it everywhere else around them, thinking that nobody could be attracted to them… or perhaps only attracted to them if they look like a particular stereotype.
I have dated people of many races, and I am attracted to most (from the Aryan-esque Alexander Skarsgaard, to T.I.P, to Enrique Iglesias, to Yoshiki and Gackt). I am therefore often asked the question, “How come you only date Asians now?” followed by the ever annoying, “Don’t you know Asian guys have small dicks?”

It is because of the ridiculously large amount of negative stereotyping that Asian men receive – in opposition to their female counterparts which are often stereotyped to “positive” attributes. This negativity comes from years of “macho man” nonsense where brawn>brain and the ‘size’ question comes in. Because Asian men are perceived to be slimmer. Perceived to be more effeminate (and therefore less manly/less of a man). Perceived therefore to be inferior to other men in all manners – whether it is in defending, being the ‘man of the house’, or satisfying his partner sexually. Therefore, why would anybody love a man who is “less of a man”? You must be into small dick. You must want a girly almost-gay play thing. You must want a little bitch of a thing to boss around.

99% of it is bullshit, and I always take great delight in debunking the penis myth in particular (my occupation has me seeing a great deal of them – I am not a hooker). The fact that Asian men themselves are surprised that you’d be attracted to them is indicative of their own self views. Sad.


Kieran Tsao October 24, 2012 at 12:51 pm

Wow, I have never met such asians. The Chinese I know and see are proud to be Chinese. Obviously they don’t make a fuss of it, they’re not like white supremacists, but they do stand up for themselves if others are derorgatory to them and their race.

I’m surprised the penis size thing has gained so much traction… if you think about the logic, you would need to have seen at least 50% of asian men – and then at least 50% of every other race – to get an accurate comparison. And if you have, and are indeed one of those white men mouthing off small penis assumptions, well….that says a lot about you.

But like I said, it’s a stereotype created by the white man. Scared of losing their women to black men (just listen to how they ironically debunk the black men have big cocks compared to theirs myth…. saying its a stereotype)… then go on to stereotype us.


robs January 6, 2016 at 4:54 pm

same here


zesty October 5, 2012 at 10:09 am

I agree with you !!! I am Irish and I am attracted to east asian men, I generally keep my preference hidden except for my friends !!


Kieran Tsao October 24, 2012 at 12:45 pm

Isn’t that the problem though? I was in a course with a girl who fancied me for THREE years. She didn’t flirt, when she went past me with her friends she ignored me…. yet recently we both went to a postgrad thing and, when we on our own together, she told me how she felt. I suggested that now her friends have moved on we should see each other more, but she said that it won’t “look” good… i.e. it’s not socially acceptable.

It’s like we’re taboo. I’m sure there’s more white(and other) women who like us, but are hindered by society and social norms. Though a black man in the same scenario, apparently that’s broken the taboo barrier.


tina March 26, 2014 at 9:18 pm

asian men are fucking ugly. don’t mix with those ugly mongoloids. the kids come out ugly, as if they suffered alcohol fetal syndrome. repulsive.


robs January 5, 2016 at 3:39 pm

Fuck off!


robs January 5, 2016 at 3:40 pm

You are awesome but DON’T hide it. yes, your parents may be exposed but it is your preferance.
I like whatever… so you know.
it doesn’t matter.
ITS 2016 NOW. 🙂


Reality October 10, 2012 at 11:47 pm

Jewish Hollywood started all the negative sterotypes of Asians and other minorities in America and continue to do so. Look how influential Hollywood movies are all over the world. Afterall, Hollywood studios were founded by Eastern European Jews. You would think of all the people Jews would be most sympathetic with their long history of persecution. I guess not. Nothing against ordinary Jewish people though.
That’s why the internet is so great. Another point of views.


Xd September 5, 2013 at 3:03 pm

Sorry, us Asians do not buy into anti-semitic bullsh*ts like yours.


AsianPride April 17, 2016 at 4:17 am



tina March 26, 2014 at 9:25 pm

Jewish zionist controlled media are the most racist in a different way, they’re clever in how they market their crap. but i won’t buy into their propaganda. they want other races to mix badly. they like to shove their rubbish agenda in other peoples faces, but the smart people knows it’s all a lie.


Ranzo October 24, 2012 at 1:22 am

Shut up ugly bitch. Your tiny articles don’t mean shit to the multitude of white women that force asian men to be alone in the world, but mostly in western countries. If I had the free will, I’d fucking make your people face the consequences and extinguish your useless dna along with any other white washed token who’s been infected by western barbarianism of false competition. It’s about time whites stop thinking they face the worst racism when they sustain unattractive stereotypes of asian men in the media.


High FIVES! July 28, 2014 at 9:04 pm

Right on, brother!


Heather October 13, 2015 at 2:15 pm

I don’t ascribe to shitty stereotypes of anybody in the media. It’s ALL bullshit.


Ranzo is a butthurt white Boy November 9, 2016 at 7:05 pm

LOL crazy ass, white KKK boy detected!
Hot white girls are humping blacks, latinos and now asians!


Death From Above and Below June 18, 2017 at 7:07 pm

Calm down junior, because you couldn’t take care of business We , Asian males had to. Asian males Protected White Women for 200 yrs from Muslim Slave raiders that were raiding as far into as Denmark. I protected YOU as well, then I civilized you . best regards, the GoldenHorde.


rayd October 27, 2012 at 10:36 pm

Interesting read. I’ve had stereotypes but I think it has been fun, or at least i do not think of it as derogatory. Once when I was in Mälmo (Sweden) a Swedish girl approached me and said ‘koniichiwa’. Though it is nowhere close to the other five languages that I speak, I think it’s funny and cute. I don’t blame anyone for not knowing much. Many probably have not met a real Asian person in person before. It probably took her a whole world of courage to say that to me, not knowing how I would respond.

To be honest, i think you should just keep proclaiming your love for Asian guys as you see fit. No one should make you feel ashamed of it. Last but not least, I heard of this phrase before and it shouldn’t be offensive since i’m 2/3 chinese it goes something like …”The Jewish & Chinese have one thing in common – they love money…”


Kieran Tsao October 28, 2012 at 5:38 pm

You need to read between the lines, it really means “they only think about money”… which of course has negative connotations, that we put humanity behind money. Of course as with all stereotypes, they are unfounded and in this case – should more likely be applied to whites, since they are the richest demographic in the world, not Chinese.


Anonymous January 31, 2013 at 7:17 pm

When I was studying in Italy, an Italian girl also approached me with “koniichiwa.” It wasn’t a romantic overture, though. She was signing people up for something or other and was looking to enlist me. Still, in retrospect, I see that she was trying to make a connection by using what she thought was my language. However, I reacted very differently than you did.

I was deeply offended that she just assumed I was Japanese, rather than a Chinese man who grew up in the US. Why didn’t she try to speak English to me? Because that’s the language I speak best. Why did it not occur to her that I could speak Italian? (To be fair, I was traversing the most touristed part of town in the most touristed city in Italy.) But what makes her think I speak a word of Japanese? That’s like if I saw her white skin in China and just started speaking English to her, assuming she is from the US and could speak English. (Incidentally, nothing offends a Canadian more than being mistaken for an American.) I walked away without saying a word, barely able to contain my anger.

Like you, I also speak (to varying degrees) five languages. I made so much effort to learn all these languages and the differences among the various European cultures and histories, and yet I am reduced to being another Japanese tourist because I happen to be walking by while being yellow. (I don’t dress anything like the Japanese, who have a very distinct style among Asians just as Europeans dress distinctly from Americans.) I guess it was a slap in the face, reminding me that no matter what I did, no matter how I perceived myself, the rest of the world will always see me first by the color of my skin and the features of my face. (And even then they can’t get it right. I am Chinese, Goddammit!)

I wish I could have reacted the way you had instead and saw the courage it took to try to connect with someone foreign, not knowing how they would react and if they might storm off in anger, wholly missing your intentions. I think I have met one too many small-minded, bigoted person who calls you “chino” and genuinely doesn’t care if you are Chinese or Cambodian. It has made me cynical, and for that I am truly sad.


DefEnder November 2, 2012 at 8:36 pm

Asian men have always been discriminated against. At childhood start to their current age. Every asian guy will know their stereotypes and find them all out very early. Some act this way because some has gotten attacked more by these abusive moments all around their life. But with rising confidence along with few youtube celebrities that are revered in U.S along, our status should get better. But then again, we are going against everyone. This world is an asian vs everyone world. No doubt about it. Also to add in with how you are always accused as being in yellow fever. It is completely taken more seriously when women want to date asian men, while when men date asian women is only “thought” to be yellow fever apparently. Doesn’t that say something about racial and gender discrimination put together? This world obviously doesn’t want asian men around. Asian men attracts jealousy, and denial. It’s gone so deep, it has some how even convinced the women to believe every negative stereotype about asian men as well. Do not feel ashamed to like asian men. Many of us have had enough of the bullshit we receive everyday. We’re only unconvinced that if you truely like us or not.


tina March 26, 2014 at 9:12 pm

Right, i agree, but just to let you know, Asian women dating white men have always been bashed by other Asian males online and offline. don’t know where you live but right now in new york city, you see lots of Asian women with white men. and most of the time the lash back is from other Asian males and occasionally from black males. I hardly see Asian women with black males, it’s rare. i’ve seen a handful asian girls with black males. a friend of mine who is korean is obsessed with dating white men. i asked her if she would date a black guy, she said no, most of them look like apes, are ugly. it’s not the first time i heard this similar feedback from asian men and women.


Bluetooth March 26, 2014 at 11:28 pm

Speak for yourself. White men tend to glorify themselves pairing up with a nonwhite girl, and seemingly bitch about it when their male counterparts “bash” back – but when they see a nonwhite male with a white girl, they go loco.

A good example is of an asian girlfriend who dated a white guy. In the restaurant together they saw a black man-white woman couple. He commented on how this was disgusting. She asked if her being together with him was disgusting… “that’s different”. Such hypocrites.


Heather October 13, 2015 at 2:14 pm

I would have dumped him for a lack of critical thinking skills.


Death From Above and Below June 18, 2017 at 7:26 pm

Because its usually White males raping, drugging Asian females, degrading them. Then they come crying home to their Fathers and brothers, AFTER they’ve bashed Asian males for being too selective, demanding.
Because they want their Freedom to do what they want. BUT, they brag, Boast how Asian females are better than OTHER Races females due to the CULTURE they were raised in.
See the Psychotic nature of the Asian female? I dont care what a “asian” female does, but dont call yourself “Asian” while doing it.


Swede December 11, 2012 at 2:18 am

It is just your racist English environment which is making you feel ashamed.
English speaking countries are very racist.
In most non-English speaking countries, such as in Sweden, you would be made to feel proud to like Asian men.


tina March 26, 2014 at 8:52 pm

hey swede, no not true. many swedish girls stick with men of their own race, just like people in other countries, it’s common and natural. the numbers of people who date different races of people is actually small compared to the majority in many countries. english speaking countries? racism exist globally, always has, always will. do you really think or believe every Chinese person want to date or marry a black person? or white person? No. do you really believe every European person want to date or breed with a Chinese? or Korean? or black African? No. you don’t speak for every individual in Sweden, let alone other parts of the world. most people stick with their own. that’s reality.


AsianPride April 17, 2016 at 4:17 am



candel December 26, 2012 at 11:38 am

A girl reads a book about China at eight and ends up with yellow fever…you sound like you are still a little girl….there are fetishes…but I suspect you are just caught in a dream world. Asian guys can be attractive and girls do not date merely on looks anyway…but there is in my view something wrong with a person who thinks they are only attracted to one race…there are individual differences within any race, often greater than those between races.

There are such handsome men from Middle east and Africa and India and everywhere…if it wasn’t for the book at eight I might take you seriously…


Kieran Tsao December 27, 2012 at 1:36 am

Ha, you could do better to hide your closet racism

“Asian guys CAN be attractive”


“There are such handsome men from Middle east, etc.”

But still, as you say… “girls do not date merely on looks”

Though I’m sure they DON’T date two faced folk like you 🙂


Heather October 13, 2015 at 2:14 pm

Well you must think there’s a lot wrong with men for dating ONLY Asian women, or black men only dating white women. And I’ve met plenty of men in each category. You like what you like and seeing as men make no apologies, I’ve decided not to either.


Vyaraa January 3, 2013 at 12:53 pm

Bravo!!!!!!!!! Bravo!!!!!!! Compliments on this excellent post!!!!! I’m in London too would have loved to study at SOAS if I had discovered my love for Asian culture sooner! Keep it up girl!


Heather October 13, 2015 at 2:13 pm

SOAS is a fab school. Second only to SSEES, lol.


Me too January 21, 2013 at 3:01 am

When I was in China, people always asked me (white and female) if I liked Chinese guys. Not just girls my own age, people you wouldn’t expect: my host family, my teachers, friends I met. I do like Chinese guys, but the question always caught me off gaurd–like they expected me to say “No. I’m white. I won’t date a Chinese guy ever.” Their reaction when I said that yes, I did like Chinese boys was usually suprise and “Aww, that’s cute”.

(I did end up falling for a guy in the two months I was there–not really on purpose, we met, became friends, and mutual interest just happened.)

In the US, when I tell people I like Asian guys, I get made fun of just like you. The ridicule can actually be pretty mean–and it makes no sense to me. I’ve never gotten as much negativity from people about being Bisexual (and LGBT issues are pretty divisive for a lot of people) as I have gotten for thinking Asian guys are attractive. People act like it must just be because I’ve been learning Chinese language, and it’s part of that. Sometimes accused of being racist or shallow. Often by the same people who will say “Damn, Latina chicks are HOTT!” or “Once you go black, you don’t ever go back.”

It’s as if nobody believes it is even conceivable for anyone to have a preference for Asian guys.

However, whenever I’m around older Chinese people (the generation that would be parents of people my age) and my interest in Chinese language and culture, my attitudes toward school, whatever, I always get Chinese mothers trying to set me up with their sons.


robs January 5, 2016 at 3:39 pm

well us Asian men are very handsome LOL. 🙂
Be above media and stereotypes. I wish many more girls were like you.


lizzardfratz February 15, 2013 at 11:48 pm

They say those things because they are trying to passively control your sexuality. They think it’s exceptable to judge you. Nevermind them. You keep eating whatever flavor ice cream you want.


bahh May 6, 2013 at 10:49 am

So true that most asian guys only like tall blondes…but you shouldn’t feel ashamed of liking asian guys. 😐 I find the comments shocking…I’ve gone on dates with at least 50 guys…almost all asian. All boyfriends asian…nobody cared.


nukehand101 . December 14, 2015 at 10:18 pm

Lot of Korean guys I know have blonde fetish, not me. I have always been attracted to brunettes ever since my first crush in high school. From my personal experience it was always blonde girls who made fun of Asian guys, saying stuff like we are all small and look like little boys, I hate them so much.


QuidPro_NO July 18, 2013 at 8:51 pm

Are you me? This pretty much describes my life.
My white and asian friends often make fun of me for liking asians. They tell me to “give up” on them. “You’re too tall. Asians don’t like white girls. Koreans/Japanese only date other Koreans/Japanese” I have heard it all…
I’ve also had people get offended when I say I like asians… It’s so bizarre. If I was asian and only liked asian guys, no one would say anything…

Right now I work with all Koreans, and although they tell me a lot of Korean guys want to date white girls, I notice them often trying to steer me away from Koreans. “They’re no good. They cheat. They don’t care about their girlfriends”.
I really don’t get it… but thanks for the article! Good to know I’m not alone…


Lee July 19, 2013 at 3:28 pm

Don’t worry about what others think. You’ll be much happier when you do. In addition, like anything else in life you can’t lump everything together… Asian guys come in all flavors: Good guys, bad guys, those who like white girls, those who don’t. I for one like ALL types of girls and hope you find what you’re looking for. Screw everybody else…


QuidPro_NO July 20, 2013 at 4:51 am

You are so right =] The best thing is to ignore other people, because who cares. My happiness is my own, and it is up to me to make it.
To some I’ll be a 0, but to others I’ll be a 10, so whatever,


robs January 5, 2016 at 3:38 pm

YOU ARE awesome! 🙂


Kieran Tsao July 19, 2013 at 9:11 pm

Ha! Thought it was obvious… asian women want asian men keen (and single), so that they have a fallback option if they fail to bag themselves a white guy. It’s like asking white men why you should date asian men and they say all kinds of rubbish. Of course they will try to put you off.

Never let 2nd hand opinions affect you. Want someone, ask them direct.


QuidPro_NO July 20, 2013 at 4:52 am

yeah. I try not to let it bother me, but sometimes it gets annoying.
Whatever, I am educated, attractive, and nice, so I will find someone.
You’re absolutely right though, asking upfront is the easiest way, (albeit the scariest, rejection does suck pretty bad!) when you want direct answers!


NO PEDESTAL 4 U July 28, 2014 at 9:01 pm

Stick to your own race, you SUCCUBUS. Not all Asian Men are gullible fools. You b*tches think we are synonymous with money, well F YOU.


robs January 5, 2016 at 3:38 pm

ignore them. I am flattered. 🙂


AsianPride April 17, 2016 at 4:16 am

Your life, your choice. remember we are humans and we find anyone attractive but some may preferance to date your own race because of cultural differences. For instance, me.


johar January 4, 2015 at 3:01 am

hi hadessa,

I feel ashaned if I see the people said the negers and the white guys are the better men than any other races. Those men are becomin jelaous, hopeless and pathetic because they just cant stand to see their white sisters are fucked up by the smarter asian men. they should go seek a psychiatrist to get a real life. need I say more? https://www.facebook.com/groups/703031989765832/


Lisa February 25, 2015 at 6:01 am

I sat on a bus and said to myself who I find attractive on this bus? It was the Asian looking guy because I found him more handsome then anyone else on there. But it not all Asian I’m find attractive so there!!


robs January 5, 2016 at 3:45 pm

what a fantastic comment!
I wish more girls were like you.
Like I said repeated, in every ‘race’ if you can call that, there is tall, short, good looking, not so goodlooking men etc….


Tanh April 6, 2015 at 1:27 pm

Hadassa is Jewish? That’s an interesting tidbit. I have to admit that I would be a little surprised by hearing that she likes asian men. If only for the reason that it’s not commonly heard. There is nothing wrong with your preferences or people making judgements on it (as everybody does) but it is wrong to voice such prejudice and make other feel less of themselves for it.

I watched an interview Hadassa participated in with the ABCs of attraction and felt she was quite uncomfortable answering questions about her own preferences. And when the interviewer remarked about her “yellow fever”, it set me off. He may have taken a joking tone but I’m sure it didn’t help her insecurities about the issue.

From what I’ve seen of her, she’s quite a beautiful woman on the inside and any man of any race would be quite happy dating her. Including me, an asian male.


Big Asian Package Blog August 1, 2015 at 10:48 pm

I hate to take this down a potentially diverting path, but I didn’t know that Jewish women and Asian men were a noticeable phenomenon until more recently… http://www.speakingofchina.com/china-articles/jewish-women-chinese-men-article-asian-jewish-life/


Heather October 13, 2015 at 2:11 pm

Hey it works for Asian women and Jewish guys, why can’t it work the other way round?


robs January 5, 2016 at 3:44 pm

Because we are seen as less admirable sexually.
look around you, media is influencing therefore controlling you.
Look up a man called Sessue Hayakawa.
ps: I think we Asian men are hot. Just like any other race we have good looking, not so good looking, tall, short guys….


Big Asian Package Blog August 1, 2015 at 10:56 pm

I have a similar experience and internal struggle. This is my post on someone elses blog…



Heather October 13, 2015 at 2:10 pm

Hah. MEN NEVER APOLOGIZE for their physical preferences. You are supposed to swallow the entire laundry list of model/neurosurgeon/sexworker/supermodel characteristics, including an exact weight and how many times a week you should work out. Tons of Jewish guys and Asian women won’t date anything else. Why should white women EVER have to apologize or even for a nanosecond feel weird about an attraction to Asian men????? NO. No apologies. If men can do it, so can we, and we can probably do it better and with better results.


Big Asian Package Blog October 21, 2015 at 4:56 pm

(Nodding…) Field research… Exposure therapy… Yes…


Heather October 23, 2015 at 9:38 pm

All excellent ideas!!!!!


robs January 5, 2016 at 3:42 pm

our physique?
It’s awesome. 🙂


Big Asian Package Blog January 6, 2016 at 5:06 pm

Although Marvel has announced that in 2016, the bad as Sorceror “Ancient One” who is I think Nepalese or Tibetan will be played by an androgynous white woman. W. T. F.



robs January 7, 2016 at 9:51 am

so you are taking it out on Asian men lol!??


Thatguyoverthere October 19, 2015 at 4:34 am

I treat illogical (includes bad logic) and irrational people like children. You can’t get mad at children for being so dumb… Hehehe


Big Asian Package Blog October 25, 2015 at 4:43 pm

Politically correct raceplay erotica… mostly…

” …
Whenever I find myself in a position where social grace isn’t well defined, I tend to be direct – then I gauge a reaction. I looked toward Della who was watching the pavement.

“Because you have a thing for wanting to have a sexual experience with an Asian-American guy,” I said. She smiled and suppressed a laugh by tightening her lips. She wouldn’t look up.

“I’m right, aren’t I?” I ask pressing on. “What else do you like?”

She can feel my eyes and gives me a smile to let me know she does like the attention but has become shy again. I slow our pace and then I stand in front of her and hold both her hands in mine. Her hands are cold but still soft – always soft.

“Two and a half weeks,” I say, “that’s the time we have left before we both have to go.”

Della looks up at me, as she stands a half foot shorter than me, and says nothing for five seconds

“Lincoln… I feel embarrassed now. I don’t like this,” she said. Her brow was furrowed.

“I asked you straight up because I figure if we have chemistry, then we should take advantage of the time we have. I wasn’t trying to embarrass you,” I said.

“I feel like you think I’m racist,” she said plainly.

“No… I… I was drawing it out because it turns me on too… in that same way,” I said.

“Like you love white pussy?” Della asked. It was her turn to be direct.

“Yes, I said,” turning bright red, “I do love white pussy.”

“Why would you be emb…”

“It’s complicated,” I interject. “It might be better if we talk about it another time.”

“Oh okay, right” said Della.

So there we were, both of our social racial faux pas hanging out. We had begun walking in silence and neared my apartment. I broke the ice again,

“Look Della, we’re into each other, we both have this… compatibility, let’s play this thing honest and see where it goes. What do you think? I mean, we can ask each other for anything – no judgment – whatever turns us on for two and a half weeks. We can look into deep racist meanings later because I don’t think that drives either of us.”


Ken Morgan December 9, 2015 at 4:00 pm

Don’t worry, in 100 years Han Chinese like myself will put you all in extermination camps and erase white people from the planet. Then we won’t have to care about your racist friends.


robs January 5, 2016 at 3:37 pm

I am an Asian dude and really proud of it because of our maintenance of our
history and culture. Honest to God, I can say I have been noticing patterns of
emerging of various different girls liking us Asian men. AND seriously whats
not to like? all the stupid stereotypes….you are ABOVE THAT and I am so proud
and happy that not all girls are the typical obnoxious and even some Asian men
self-hating their own race lol. More girls should e like you. can you believe
that lol?

There should be more girls like you…:) Having said this, I have had many
interest from notably Latinas and Black women lately. NO lie…this is honest. I
guess for times they are changing.

And of course lol, Asian women as well. Just because the media portrays us in
bad way and what I find hysterical is that do you know who was the FIRST
Hollywood male sex symbol?

He was actually an Asian dude, don’t believe me? look him up, Sessue Hayakawa.

Now, I am going to say something here that will stir argument up but I think
the reason for Asian women going with other white even older men is either they
are looking for better quality of life hence after money or the Asian culture
does not value women highly. Every culture is different. But as a Nepali, my
mother tells me that they would be MORE reluctant in allowing a marriage to
occur between a Asian man and another racial woman.

Yes, I know but I’m being honest an truthful. THIS IS ONLY IN MY CASE BTW.
Every Asian culture is different. Whether you like it or not, this could be the
reason why Asian girls are going with other racial men and even hating
themselves. LOL. I just laugh at those Asian women. It all comes down to values
and each PARENTS’ responsibility. smh.

That’s all from me. I am not a racist man as I find all girls of ALL races very
attractive. I like everything and I have no preference although I will probably
marry an Asian women just because of our tradition.


By the way, all the stereotypes are false as I will say it again that IN ALL
races, there are good looking, bad looking, tall, short, liar, coward, honest,
smart people. LOL, you cannot just generalise.

Peace out…


Big Asian Package Blog January 6, 2016 at 5:01 pm

This is why you have Asian men flipping the narrative. Small Asian penis? It’s well understood to be fiction. Porn companies won’t hire? We’ll start our own. Look at these dudes at http://asianschlong.com …I interviewed Alvin Tan who does AMWF porn now too, started in 2015. I am trying to expose the lies and crimes of omission of the Western press. https://bigasianpackage.wordpress.com


Will December 20, 2017 at 8:29 am

Thanks for sharing! If you prefer Asian men, by all means proclaim it. There’s always gonna be haters, racist bigots, and people who will always never see past the stereotypes that society and culture have put in place. However, times are changing and in today’s society, a progressive and opened mind is how we keep moving forward.

A lot of the shaming of the preference of White women liking Asian men, or White men liking Asian women comes from deep rooted cultural differences. Let’s grow up, become adults, and become comfortable with liking whomever we want to like. Life is short: don’t spend your time listening to haters that can’t see past their own shortcomings.


Ranzo October 24, 2012 at 1:30 am

Don’t forget that whites are stupid to think that blacks have an oval face when they’re blood is more likely not pure african, and that africa itslef has had mixes even when the slave traders came to subsaharan africa, africa being a heterogenous country. So what does that mean? Real blacks tend to have more baby faces, while in Asians thre is a variation of oval long faces and well as baby faces, but lots of whites deny this, as see them as estrogen filled. The only other argument they have is that we have less of a beard than them, and even that is still arguable.


Roger is a Butthurt Homo! September 11, 2012 at 1:52 am

No woman would date a negative immature hater like you so suck on that 7 inches of truth! And choke on it!


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